bluewolf wrote: » I don't think anyone is getting the ride
Liquidity Metrics wrote: » Wow, such wishful delusion. Attraction is not a choice. A man doesn't choose what makes him hard and a woman doesn't choose what makes her wet regardless of the judgemental attitudes some may have.
CPTM wrote: » There are scales of attractiveness though, right? For example, for those of you who talked about how they don't like to accept that people are on a scale or not. Do you date mean people? Or do you try to find a guy/girl who is kind? That's a spectrum right? What about being funny or having a sense of humour, do you date brick wall personalities? Or do you try to find someone who you can laugh along with the most? That's a scale? Some people are born with great abilities to talk to guys and girls, and make them feel like their thoughts are the most important in the world. Some guys and girls are born hilarious and have the best banter ever. Some are born gorgeous and eat like pigs but won the genetic lottery and have all the Instagram fame. If it's kindness or looks or humour or music taste, or whatever is important to you, you'll find you have a scale in your head. I feel the big problem is when you try to force someone else to use your parameters of attractiveness instead of letting them have their own.
Adam Massive Druggist wrote: » Nobody's saying there aren't scales of attraction, they just dislike the dehumanising, nuance-disregarding out of ten thing - whether in relation to women or men. But it is used more in relation to women than to men.
CPTM wrote: » Fair enough, and the fact it is used more often with regards to physical beauty as if it's the only important thing in life.
Adam Massive Druggist wrote: » Why not just "hot", "good looking", "all right looking", "not attractive"? That "out of ten" stuff appears invented by a Sheldon Cooper type.
completedit wrote: » It's so weird because most people I know don't look that good in photos. There's a girl I know who in person is really really attractive but in pictures she has bug eyes, a long face and lacks her natural faint tan. Honestly, as you can tell I scrutinise appearance a lot and this girl is honestly like night and day. If I saw her photos on Tinder, I would never ever ever ever ever swipe to her whereas in real life, however she is thin so none of this frauding going on. I think guys just get lured in to quick. They get carried away, if you actually look at these pictures a bit more closely the truth would be revealed. So many girls are so utterly hopeless at taking pictures btw, they are so obsessed with looking thin that they end up having long horse faces in their selfies.
Bitches Be Trypsin wrote: » Does obesity suddenly mean that somebody doesn't deserve love?
completedit wrote: » It's nearly 2019 mate. Get with the times. There's is a huge inflation going on atm, tbh an obese man will probably end up dating sooner than a fit average guy imo. The fit average guy will think because he went to the gym that he is suddenly a stud because that's what the fitness industry want you to believe. However, not much has really changed from an attraction point of view assuming he wasn't coming from an overweight, slovenly state beforehand. Ultimately, he won't get the attention he assumed he would and thus will be waiting until he gets lucky. The obese guy(and it depends by what you mean by obese) won't be as picky and will find a partner sooner.
completedit wrote: » The 10 scale is fairly conventional yet completely inaccurate most of the time, especially for women. Any decently looking, thin women is, by most guys, considered an 8. An anyway good looking girl is considered a 10. TBH, we completely overrate women/girls in society especially in the younger years The guy is always 'playing out of his league' even if objectively he's equally attractive as his gf/wife. However, on the flip side, society(men) are far less forgiving to women who fall below the average standard. There seems to be a hailo effect when it comes to average(and thin) and good looking girls and a complete failo when it comes to girls who don't match that criteria. That's really bad imo.
armaghlad wrote: » I met two girls from tinder last weekend. To say I’m getting complacent is an understatement. Long story short, both were partial to Snapchat filters, both did not look the same in person and both are now perilously close to being blocked on all platforms if they don’t take the subtle hint.
