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Who's single?

ginandtonicsky

I don't live in Ireland anymore, but returned recently for a spate of weddings, one friend got engaged while I was there, and I noticed that I got asked approximately 531 times why I was single, or if I had a fella yet, or if "I'd be next" *wink wink*

I don't think I've ever had that many questions or that much curiosity about my love life in such a short time period, I live abroad and while a lot of people are married or coupled up, there's a strong percentage of single/divorced/not arsed dating folks in pretty much all walks of life over here too.

I'm 33, female and a total ride, obviously. I broke up with a long-term ex about a year ago and am far too fragile to consider new relationships just yet...but all the same, harbour notions about returning home in a year or two and finding some miraculously gorgeous Irish man who was equally unlucky in the love stakes (until I walk in, obv)

So general essay about my life story aside - are you single? And what age are you? And if so, why?

ETA: how does one add a poll around here?

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eviltwin

In a relationship 23 years, married a while back. Drives me mad at times but I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't think I'm cut out for the single life.

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nthclare wrote: »

Totally single, silver fox with a beard and tattoos...

Used to be clean cut and last year I went rugged...

Pm sent! :pac:

JohnnyFlash

Just over a year single after an unhappy 20 year marriage to a complete demon of a woman. Not looking for anything serious at the moment, but sure you never know what might happen.

Love going out now for a few pints, and to chat up women in the smoking area of whatever pub I’m in. Getting the ride a fair bit as a result, so that’s keeping that box ticked. Hope to meet some gamey bird with a naughty glint in her eye later tonight. Back to her place so she can have a good ride on the auld baloney pony.

lonewolf1961

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Just over a year single after an unhappy 20 year marriage to a complete demon of a woman. Not looking for anything serious at the moment, but sure you never know what might happen.

Love going out now for a few pints, and to chat up women in the smoking area of whatever pub I’m in. Getting the ride a fair bit as a result, so that’s keeping that box ticked. Hope to meet some gamey bird with a naughty glint in her eye later tonight. Back to her place so she can have a good ride on the auld baloney pony.

LOL ......

lonewolf1961

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Just over a year single after an unhappy 20 year marriage to a complete demon of a woman. Not looking for anything serious at the moment, but sure you never know what might happen. Love going out now for a few pints, and to chat up women in the smoking area of whatever pub I’m in. Getting the ride a fair bit as a result, so that’s keeping that box ticked. Hope to meet some gamey bird with a naughty glint in her eye later tonight. Back to her place so she can have a good ride on the auld baloney pony.

LOL ......

Eircom_Sucks

37 single 4 years after a bad 7 year thing , only positive was 2 gorgeous kids

Women seem put off that i have 2 kids

Id rather be single and have my 2 kids that with some insufferable bint who causes nothing but drama

mvl

QuintusFabius wrote: »

I understood this as FaceBook account :D

think FWB was supposed to be used ...

Jack Moore

suicide_circus wrote: »

dear men,

stop taking the most fertile years of a woman's life and then dumping them in their mid thirties.

regards
the future

Dear generalisation
Men or women or black or white or whatever grouping or generalisation you define people is not ok

Ok ?

notsoyoungwan

notsoyoungwan wrote: »

I’m a 39 year old woman, happily single. Have an FB meaning I get my (ahem) needs met but don’t have any hassle. I have no interest in a committed relationship.

QuintusFabius wrote: »

I understood this as FaceBook account :D

mvl wrote: »

think FWB was supposed to be used ...

Nope, I intended to post ‘FB’, as in fcuk buddy. There’s a difference between FBs and FWBs, and I very deliberately chose FB in my post.

posturingpat

Single for about 8 years and intend keeping it that way for the foreseeable.
Relationships are a serious bit of effort that I just don't want to give.
Only pain in the arse is like the op family and friends at weddings asking when I'm going to settle down. Hard not to say piss off.

mvl

notsoyoungwan wrote: »

Nope, I intended to post ‘FB’, as in fcuk buddy. There’s a difference between FBs and FWBs, and I very deliberately chose FB in my post.

eh - for me FB would remain Facebook too

notsoyoungwan

mvl wrote: »

eh - for me FB would remain Facebook too

Maybe you need to expand your horizon a bit...! :pac:

Cutie 3.14

Micky 32 wrote: »

You ever stare at another mans arse or whatever during a relationship, not even once??

Arse, no. Arms, yes.

I don't mind men looking but you haven't met my ex....

Edit: I don't stare. He took staring to a whole other level

micar

39 and single 10 years. Hitting 40 next month.

Previously in a 3.5 year relationship. No way was I ever going to marry her.

Would love to find someone and have a few kids.

On tinder and pof.....not really working out.

Eircom_Sucks

micar wrote: »

39 and single 10 years. Hitting 40 next month.

Previously in a 3.5 year relationship. No way was I ever going to marry her.

Would love to find someone and have a few kids.

On tinder and pof.....not really working out.

Nothing but **** on them sites

100 % about looks not actually wether you are a decent person or genuine etc

Should try speeddating , least you get to see em face to face and see what happens

mvl

notsoyoungwan wrote: »

Maybe you need to expand your horizon a bit...! :pac:

- it's cause my wiring would accept FWB, and wouldn't go near a FB in your meaning.
but each with own needs

Wibbs

Cutie 3.14 wrote: »

Yeah I think this is the way I'm going to go, just out of a relationship that put me through the ringer.

Just to get some dick every now and again and not have to listen to some fella nagging at me , wanting to know where I am and who I'm with, yet cant return the courtesy to let me know what hes up to, commenting on my weight and clothes, staring at every single womans arse that comes within a mile radius of him. Fook off.

Kinda the same from the other direction C. My short term relationships were for the most part grand, even good. My long termers on the other hand... It's not a gender thing as I have and have had women friends who were and are bloody brilliant. Really add to my life and I hope I add to theirs. But long term romantic entanglements... Whole different ball game. Some different switch is thrown*. Hell, I've seen it with the same women mates. As friends you truly couldn't ask for better, but Jesus how they were with partners was something else. Not always extreme, but pretty much all on a sliding scale of this is shite I don't need in my life. That low level vying for control thing going on for a start. No doubt men do this too, I dunno, I don't shag blokes. Though bi women I know and have known have told me that generally speaking men are easier on a day to day basis. Less dramatics in general, though apparently much more likely to go silent. And if they are controlling again generally way worse on that score.

eviltwin wrote: »

I don't think I'm cut out for the single life.

I reckon that's it ET. Most people to some capacity or other are more suited to being in a couple, others, a minority, just aren't. At least not for long. I've long come to terms with the fact I'm in the latter group. I would reckon men need to be "domesticated" early on in life. Old dog, new tricks, not, in my case. Or I have really bad judgement when it comes to who I'm attracted to. That and love turns me into a thundering moron. Well more thundering than usual anyway. To be avoided.

*a woman mate of mine reckons it's because if you're shagging the stakes are much higher. You could end up with a kid and that makes couples more on edge and more edgy in their dealings.

La.de.da

micar wrote: »

39 and single 10 years. Hitting 40 next month.

Previously in a 3.5 year relationship. No way was I ever going to marry her.

Would love to find someone and have a few kids.

On tinder and pof.....not really working out.

I've had nothing but heart and headaches from those sites.
They seem to be a lot of people looking to fill their ego.

Eircom_Sucks

La.de.da wrote: »

I've had nothing but heart and headaches from those sites.
They seem to be a lot of people looking to fill their ego.

Exactly

anewme

Single woman ,late 40's, happy out!

Eircom_Sucks

La.de.da wrote: »

I've had nothing but heart and headaches from those sites.
They seem to be a lot of people looking to fill their ego.

Exactly

Eircom_Sucks

anewme wrote: »

Single woman ,late 40's, happy out!

Grrrrrrr

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Signore Fancy Pants

Cutie 3.14 wrote: »

Arse, no. Arms, yes.

I don't mind men looking but you haven't met my ex....

Edit: I don't stare. He took staring to a whole other level

Like, eye level?

La.de.da

34 and single 4years after 8 year relationship. Had a couple of flings since.

If I meet a nice man and something happens it happens. But not actively looking for love..... I like being able to do what I want to do without answering to anyone.
If an opportunity for a bit of fun and happiness comes along, I'll not pass it up.

Wibbs

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La.de.da wrote: »

They seem to be a lot of people looking to fill their ego boots.

gifted

La.de.da wrote: »

34 and single 4years after 8 year relationship. Had a couple of flings since.

If I meet a nice man and something happens it happens. But not actively looking for love..... I like being able to do what I want to do without answering to anyone.
If an opportunity for a bit of fun and happiness comes along, I'll not pass it up.

I'll make cakes for you....How's that???

* I may also be attached and have 3 chicks as well ...lol lol

ginandtonicsky

Wibbs wrote: »

I reckon that's it ET. Most people to some capacity or other are more suited to being in a couple, others, a minority, just aren't. [/SIZE]

I think a lot of it is your formative experience with relationships and committing to one person etc. The longer term you are single, the more used to it you become and the idea of *shock horror* being tied down to one woman / man becomes intolerable. You can get too set in your ways and less willing to compromise, which is what relationships are all about.

I've been single more than coupled up so far in my life, but I'd have no shame in saying I'm far happier in a relationship than on my own. The right relationship, that is - which can be bloody hard to find. Love is a game-changer as far as I'm concerned, but it doesn't always look like what you expect it to look like.

Cutie 3.14

Karina Brief Rosewood wrote: »

If he can't even look at an arse without you jumping on him no wonder he got rid.

I knew id get that reaction , and that wasn't the case atall.

Eircom_Sucks

Cutie 3.14 wrote: »

I knew id get that reaction , and that wasn't the case atall.

Yes it was lol