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Are Irish people hard to make friends with?

JackieChang

A French lady told me today that Irish people are very "closed".

We are one of the "most friendly people in the world" on a Saturday night (drink obviously), but we'll never be seen again. Come Monday we don't want to hear about them.

She works in a big multinational corporation and is finding it hard to make friends with Irish colleagues.

I'm posting this as it's actually the millionth time I've heard this from a foreigner.

What do you think?

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blazard

hahahahaha

[Deleted User]

No, sure didn't we fix all those cars at the Euros in France and sing lullabies to babies on the train and free those kidnapped girls from Boko Haram.

somefeen

JackieChang wrote: »

A French lady told me today that Irish people are very "closed".

We are one of the "most friendly people in the world" on a Saturday night (drink obviously), but we'll never be seen again. Come Monday we don't want to hear about them.

She works in a big multinational corporation and is finding it hard to make friends with Irish colleagues.

I'm posting this as it's actually the millionth time I've heard this from a foreigner.

What do you think?

Ya so what? Wanna fight about it??

JackieChang

I'd say ye're all steamed out of yer heads.

blazard

burp

flookdgates

The Ireland sub on Reddit literally had this discussion two days ago.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ireland/comments/931ugp/is_it_just_an_irish_thing_to_stay_friends_with/

It used to be Reddit stealing thread ideas from Boards. Now the tables have turned. It goes to show how badly Boards.ie has fallen.

punisher5112

French are extremely arrogant or so I've heard.

I've come across a few and they don't play ball the way one should..... Hand ball that is.

blazard

controversial

The Backwards Man

I'm your bread when you're hungry, I'm your shelter from troubled winds, I'm your anchor in life's ocean, but most of all, I'm Irish and I'm your best friend.

[Deleted User]

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I'm your bread when you're hungry, I'm your shelter from troubled winds, I'm your anchor in life's ocean, but most of all, I'm Irish and I'm your best friend.

Translation : Im locked like a Finglas door.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Well, how long do you tkae before you decide someone is your friend?

My experience with going out back home is that people were freidly and chatty for the most part, but it was all mostly small talk. It took a bit of time to get to the point where people would actually talk about something deep or personal.

Not sure if that's the same as "making friends" though as.

blazard

indeed

The Backwards Man

Omackeral wrote: »

Translation : Im locked like a Finglas door.

Close your eyes I'll be here in the morning, close your eyes I'll be here for a while

pleas advice

They could settle wars with this, if only they will, imagine the worlds leaders on pills...
Then imagine the morning after, wars causing disaster, don't talk to me I don't know ya, but this ain't tomorrow, for now I still love ya.

blazard

ships in the night,

Hitman3000

JackieChang wrote:

I'm posting this as it's actually the millionth time I've heard this from a foreigner.

You've actually talked to a million people?

Cina

The problem is that Ireland is so small that many people are still really good friends with their classmates and friends from their youth well into their 30's here due to how easy it is to keep close with them. It's not like vast/densely populated countries like the US where friends in your 20's are completely different to friends in your teens.

As such I think a lot of us have a tendency to stick to that group as opposed to actively seeking to make new friends. It doesn't mean we don't WANT to make new friends, it just means we won't make nearly as much of an effort as someone who.. say.. came over from a different country by themselves.

So yeah, I think unless you know the standard Irish person from childhood or through work, we can be difficult to make friends with, in our own country at least.

Stovepipe

snoop_catt wrote: »

we are the friendliest people on earth in a shallow superficial manner but twenty years later , you might not know us any better than that

in rural ireland its especially hard to make friends if your a blow in , locals dont even like folk from the next parish over , never mind if someone moved from louth to kerry , clannishness is incredible

Well, that's not confined to Ireland or the Irish. I've travelled widely and it varies hugely, from genuine openness in Texas and Melbourne, Australia to sullen faces in Belgium and France.

Donald Trump

Pixie heads

Graces7

You get a great effusive welcome, then that is it. Unless you stay close, even after great friendship, they literally forget you.

Wonderful for B and B and hotel contact. But for longer stays. :eek:

Hitman3000

snoop_catt wrote:

rural people have no interest in people who are from outside their locality , they dont judge people on who they are but who their people are

Utter nonsense. My family and I moved from a large town to a rural environment have made great friends here in a very short time.

Star Bingo

Donald Trump wrote: »

Pixie heads

Speak for your elf

Taytoland

Depends on what type of Irish people.

Mackmatic

Maybe this french bird is just a drip

Sal Butamol

Hitman3000 wrote: »

Utter nonsense. My family and I moved from a large town to a rural environment have made great friends here in a very short time.

A large town IS rural. Who are you kidding?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

snoop_catt wrote: »

we are the friendliest people on earth in a shallow superficial manner but twenty years later , you might not know us any better than that

in rural ireland its especially hard to make friends if your a blow in , locals dont even like folk from the next parish over , never mind if someone moved from louth to kerry , clannishness is incredible

Not at all. I live in a rural area and new people to the area are always very welcome and most become part of the community very quickly.

super_furry

Compared to some we are definitely. If you meet an American out randomly and have the craic with them over the course of a night, they’d think nothing of asking for your number to hang out again or even invite you to a social event like a barbecue they’re having.

We’d think that’s weird.

Hitman3000

Sal Butamol wrote:

A large town IS rural. Who are you kidding?

Rural= characteristic of the countryside.
Now go out and play with your friends.

Shenshen

I'd say it mirrors my own experiences.

Irish people are very, very easy to talk to, have a bit of banter with, etc. But very, very hard to actually get to know. I sometimes think all the talk is just to hide the fact that really, they're about the most intensely private people I've ever come across.

Apiarist

Shenshen wrote: »

Irish people are very, very easy to talk to, have a bit of banter with, etc. But very, very hard to actually get to know. I sometimes think all the talk is just to hide the fact that really, they're about the most intensely private people I've ever come across.

+1. Also I think the French lady in the OP may have a problem with making new friends because people in general make less friends after 30+. Friends are easy to make in school/college, but when you are short on time because of work and kids you do not want to invite random people to your place for a chat over a couple of beers.