what do weddings cost the couple overall??

My first wedding, paid for by parents, cost just over £2,000 for 100 guests in late ‘70s. Second one in late ‘80s, including ring, clothes and meal (for 4) cost £500. First one was very stressful and I had very little say in anything. Second one was happiest day of my life. I was doing it my way with no fuss, no stress, with a wonderful man and our 2 best friends.

lalababa

I think it is the norm to give 50+ per guest. With the closer you are the more you give- you know as a kind of help out- like furniture for abode etc. But now seems like just paying for the wedding and seemingly falling short at that. So should the new norm be ( if you're not short yourself) 300+ ? Or should couples be more frugal with weddings? That person that spent 27k was it seems a bit high alright for the one day.

Graces7

Met a young mother years ago . The couple really financially had to choose between a house, or, with large families who would pressurise them, a wedding .

She really wanted to be married.

As I was working alongside a local Franciscan Friary at that time, I asked there,,, and we arranged a small secret wedding . It was a lovely occasion, her closest friends and the toddler racing around. A meal after,, I made the cake and did he flowers

Later they had a big housewarming party

i know of others who have done similarly.

Conservatory

I nearly got John Leslie to pay for mine but the feckin cctv caught me out.

Graces7 wrote: »

. It was a lovely occasion, her closest friends and the toddler racing around. f

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Don’t know how people tolerate this at their weddings, no kids allowed at ours.

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Phoenix Stale Viking wrote: »

Don’t know how people tolerate this at their weddings, no kids allowed at ours.

I've been invited to quite a few weddings that have stated no children....not gone to one...a wedding is all about families...and if someone doesn't want children there...well...sod them imo

andekwarhola

Think just over 10k, including honeymoon. Only about 80 at it though. Couldn't get my head around paying more (although each to their own, obv) as we'd just bought a house and were about to start a family.

umop episdn wrote: »

I've been invited to quite a few weddings that have stated no children....not gone to one...a wedding is all about families...and if someone doesn't want children there...well...sod them imo

Children are annoying, running around making noise during speeches, during the mass and in general getting in the way of people enjoying themselves and drinking etc.

No need for them at weddings at all. You are obviously one of them annoying parents who care about nothing but your “little darlings”. Most parents I know are just glad to be away form their kids for a day or two and have a proper night on the beer etc.

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Shenshen

I think we spent around €3k on ours.
We invited our closest friends and close family we like, 20 people in total. As we're both from abroad, we invited everyone to a small hotel in Kerry, where we had the wedding and celebrations. As people had to pay for their travel, we paid for their rooms at the hotel, it seemed only fair.
Other than that, we had little expenses. Neither of us wear rings, I'm not a fan of flowers, I didn't want a big dress so got a lovely purple dress from ebay instead. I designed the invitations, himself found nice paper to print them out on. No speeches were allowed, it was just a lovely, relaxed, get-together in a beautiful location. Couldn't have been better.

Love kids at weddings, I see them as family events and not just booze ups.

If people want to spend a fortune on a day and it's what they both want, let them at it. It's their business and maybe they think it's worth it. If people have to borrow or basically charge admission, it's probably a bad decision but it's still their business.

Not for me, but to each their own.

Phoenix Stale Viking wrote: »

Children are annoying, running around making noise during speeches, during the mass and in general getting in the way of people enjoying themselves and drinking etc.

No need for them at weddings at all. You are obviously one of them annoying parents who care about nothing but your “little darlings”. Most parents I know are just glad to be away form their kids for a day or two and have a proper night on the beer etc.

You strike me as one of the people most of us want to avoid at a wedding...

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Patww79 wrote: »

Because they would rather not have brats running riot? It's right what they say, nobody has a bigger sense of self importance than a parent.

Parenthood didn't change me, I was always a self important snob....and drunken twats falling over themselves, groping waitresses and puking I the corner just aren't my type of people... but you go right ahead and enjoy yourself

Blaas4life

umop episdn wrote: »

You strike me as one of the people most of us want to avoid at a wedding...

Seems kinda harsh??

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iamwhoiam

Do people understand to each his own ? Some like it one way another likes it a different way . No one suit fits us all . Let others enjoy their day as they prefer it

iamwhoiam

umop episdn wrote: »

Parenthood didn't change me, I was always a self important snob....and drunken twats falling over themselves, groping waitresses and puking I the corner just aren't my type of people... but you go right ahead and enjoy yourself

What kind of weddings to you frequent ?

Patww79 wrote: »

I'm not the only one making generalisations anyway. What an unhealthy attitude towards drinking, you're more dangerous than anyone that's having a few.

Ah, when all else fails reach for the hyperbole....maybe someone threw up in it already, so be careful

c.p.w.g.w

The amount some people spend is shocking, that could be money to pay off the mortgage early, cover kids uniforms and books for their entire school live. A few foreign holidays

Graces7

Patww79 wrote: »

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Well they are doing the most important job in the world..

As it was my mention of the little one running round, let me assure you that she added to the sheer joy and solemnity of the occasion.

The Friar who officiated included her in the proceedings. It was a wonderful small, intimate occasion. Deeply meaningful.

Graces7

Phoenix Stale Viking wrote: »

Children are annoying, running around making noise during speeches, during the mass and in general getting in the way of people enjoying themselves and drinking etc.

No need for them at weddings at all. You are obviously one of them annoying parents who care about nothing but your “little darlings”. Most parents I know are just glad to be away form their kids for a day or two and have a proper night on the beer etc.

:rolleyes:

iamwhoiam wrote: »

What kind of weddings to you frequent ?

Ones where the band promises, in writing, not to play "Wagon Wheel"....

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andekwarhola

iamwhoiam wrote: »

What kind of weddings to you frequent ?

Irish ones by the sound of it.

facehugger99

Most recent weddings I've been to, the wedding couple already have children and obviously their kids are involved in the day as they should be.

I think it's quite nice to see children at a wedding. I guess it depends how you see a wedding. For me they are family celebrations but some people seem to view them as a multi-day piss-up - wouldn't be my scene.

Eggs For Dinner

umop episdn wrote: »

Parenthood didn't change me, I was always a self important snob....and drunken twats falling over themselves, groping waitresses and puking I the corner just aren't my type of people... but you go right ahead and enjoy yourself

Seriously, you've seen that sort of behaviour at a wedding?

andekwarhola

Patww79 wrote: »

I'm not the only one making generalisations anyway.

Patww79 wrote: »

Because they would rather not have brats running riots

Patww79 wrote: »

It's right what they say, nobody has a bigger sense of self importance than a parent.

*Cough*