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Weddings - a terrible day out.

JohnnyFlash

Opened the letter box this morning, and discovered an invite to the wedding of my nephew and his girlfriend. Has put me in bad mood as a result. I’ll have to go, but I’d rather get a 5-fingered prostate exam than attend to be honest. Does anyone actually enjoy Irish weddings?

They take all day. They cost a fortune. The food is nearly always shîte, you end up talking to cousins and other relations you hate, the speeches are always the same, you can’t get too drunk or the extended family will be gossiping about you, you don’t know who you’ll be sitting beside, the music is terrible. Just a really bad day out. The only positive is that there’s a decent chance you’ll get the ride at the end of the night.

When will start having w mature conversation about this? No one wants to go to these dreadful affairs only Bridezilla and her bridesmaids. Fiasco.

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qwerty ui op

Most people when asked to go for a pint or coffee would give an excuse if they didn't want to, True or false they'd give a reason. People on here, are off their heads if they think you can just say "NO" to a wedding invite.

You can accuse those who "GO" out of obligation of all kinds of things but to say, "simply don't go" is just daft.

About the speeches being boring, if that was the only problem it wouldn't be that bad but you'll always get some old codger standing up blowing **** about how mighty his own daughter is. Talk about crass.

You force almost everyone you know to spend a fortune on your "big day" and then you force them to listen to your father and partner boosting about you.

theyoungchap

I think this might be an Irish thing - for our wedding, people flew from Australia, USA, and Canada and various parts of Europe! In total, almost 50 people flew in.

I think Irish people just love to complain, even about a happy occasion for people they (presumably) at least think something of. Couples go to enormous effort and expense for years for 1 day in their lives and all people can do is whinge about having to go? I know I'd rather people didn't bother coming!!

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VinLieger

Love me a good irish wedding, you're all a bunch of whingers who arent able to make your own fun.

theyoungchap

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

I've often wondered what input grooms have into all the trappings of a BIG wedding?

I suppose they just go along with it and leave the Bride and entourage to it. Easier for the Groom I think!

Am I wrong?

For me you are, every decision we made was made equally, there were things I wanted and things she wanted. If a man lets a woman order him around with a wedding, he can get ready for a life of being ordered around!

theyoungchap

Meadow Freezing Newsman wrote: »

Yay! I'd love to see smaller 1950s style weddings come back into fashion. Even in the 80s and 90s brides still changed into 'Going away' clothes and were seen off by the guests, all standing on the steps of the hotel as the B&G drove away with cans and horseshoes trailing behind them.
It was a lovely end to the wedding. Nowadays the bedraggled bride and stocious groom are usually the last to leave the resident's lounge, still in their wedding gear. It's just not the same.

The only reason people rushed off back then was because Mr Groom wanted to get balls deep for the first time.......

qwerty ui op

Busy catching up on much needed R and R!

Teyla Emmagan

My uncle says "I'm busy that day".

This could be a year and a half out, before he has even been invited!!

qwerty ui op

splinter65 wrote: »

My brother in law just refuses to go too. Especially family occasions. No excuses and no apologies. Just “thanks for asking but no, I don’t go to any of these things”. End of story now change the subject.

That's the best way to do it, if you do it across the board.
But at lot of people like to go to them at the start in their early twenties, after 2 or 3 the novelty wears off, by then your already caught up in them.

OldMrBrennan83

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foxy farmer

Was at 1 black tie wedding back in 2010. Christ what a load of pretentious bollox. A small orchestra and opera singer in the church . Bride left us sitting in church for well over an hour. Hotel had marquee outside but weather was sh1te. Wasn't able to cope with demand for drinks when we arrived.
The meal was another disaster. Some getting starter while more were on main course. Portions were miniscule with no seconds. Turned into a generic event with same music and disco as you'd hear at most weddings. Struck off for a take away around 10 that night as i was starved. Worst wedding i was at by a country mile. Went on till Sunday with a BBQ at the bride's parents house. Thankfully I didn't qualify for that.

AlphabetCards

splinter65 wrote: »

The brides “going away outfit” was nearly as important as the wedding dress.
They’d disappear up to the room and reappear then hand in hand all dressed up. Then all the guests would link arms around them and the DJ would strike up with Congratulations! By Cliff Richard and everyone would be dancing around them in a ring singing along.
And all the male guests would be slagging the groom about his wedding night even though everyone knew that they were at it like rabbits since they met.
And the bride would be blushing while her mother dabbed at her eyes with a tissue.
Off they’d head then in his car to Dublin Airport being chased down the hotel avenue, to get a flight to Santa Ponsa at some god awful hour.
All the guests went back in the hotel to resume getting pissed.

That sounds ideal. I'm gonna suggest that to the girlfriend. If she likes it, she'll make it to Fiancé.

EPAndlee

splinter65 wrote: »

My brother in law just refuses to go too. Especially family occasions. No excuses and no apologies. Just “thanks for asking but no, I don’t go to any of these things”. End of story now change the subject.

Better to be honest about it and not constantly just making up excuses not to go. I can't just away and leave my dog alone at home

bodhrandude

Most weddings I've been to have been really dull with terrible discos and awful country western music at the end of the night. There is a few out there I enjoyed though, my mates wedding, a trad musician, so a crazy session was had. My sisters wedding was great craic, she made me musical director, so I hired all my mates as the trad act along with myself, another mate from Scotland who played the fine bagpipes to pipe in the dinner guests and another friend to do a set dancing class with said trad band creating the sound

And my cousins last year, also a trad musician with mighty sessions on the go, she's a dancer too so she had friends from Riverdance do a show with live trad music and Smash Hits to close the night. Sorry for going against the rant, lost the run of myself.

Nettle Soup

Weddings are a real chore. People only pretend to like them. They are pretentious, expensive and a bloody waste of time.
I can never remember a particular wedding, they all just merge into one bad night out in my memory.

"Yes of course, your wedding was so different and one of the best I was ever at....and no the food for 200 people didn't taste like carvery at all.
You were right to make it a 3 day extravaganza and I thought your friends and family were amazing people"

Hannibal_Smith

I love a wedding! I just love them. I love selecting a fancy rigout, getting my hair and make up done. Everyone is in good form. Lovely food, a bit of a dance. Probably all very selfish...but I love a good wedding!

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I don't mind the middle bit at all. After the church a big gang of us will always pull into a local pub either near the church or between the church and the hotel and have 2 or 3 pints. Then onto the hotel check in, drop bags in the room and then tuck into finger food, have a few more pints while chatting away/listening to what ever entertainment was put on. To be honest I usually find we are being rounded up for the meal and hunted in as the time flies between the end of the church and the start of the meal.

Meadow Freezing Newsman wrote: »

Yay! I'd love to see smaller 1950s style weddings come back into fashion. Even in the 80s and 90s brides still changed into 'Going away' clothes and were seen off by the guests, all standing on the steps of the hotel as the B&G drove away with cans and horseshoes trailing behind them.
It was a lovely end to the wedding. Nowadays the bedraggled bride and stocious groom are usually the last to leave the resident's lounge, still in their wedding gear. It's just not the same.

The bride and groom leaving during the reception was the most ridiculous concept ever. Leaving your own party just when it was getting started and miss all the craic that went on. How it ever started I'll never know. I still hear my parents and people of their generation mention how looking back thet really felt they missed out on half their own party with leaving.

Don't get this desire for an early finish to a wedding, some of the bet craic is at 4am in the residents bar.

splinter65

EPAndlee wrote: »

I just refuse to attend social events and the last invite I got to a wedding, I told them straight out I'm not going because I don't want to. I haven't been invited to anything since

My brother in law just refuses to go too. Especially family occasions. No excuses and no apologies. Just “thanks for asking but no, I don’t go to any of these things”. End of story now change the subject.

weldoninhio

Meadow Freezing Newsman wrote: »

It's not that simple.

Also, just because a lot of people don't enjoy something you happen to enjoy doesn't make them 'miserable'. Thinking so does make you rather arrogant though.

But they are miserable. And they seem to want praise for going to a ceremony that’ll make them miserable, just so that they can whinge about how awful it was.

TheRiverman

I'm not good at the old dancing,so I hate being looked upon as some sort of invalid if I am not on the floor moving like a professional."A come on,out on the floor"Bollocks, I just want to sit here and enjoy my pint.

Heres Johnny

EPAndlee wrote: »

I just refuse to attend social events and the last invite I got to a wedding, I told them straight out I'm not going because I don't want to. I haven't been invited to anything since

Result!

EPAndlee

I just refuse to attend social events and the last invite I got to a wedding, I told them straight out I'm not going because I don't want to. I haven't been invited to anything since

indioblack

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

This is a "marmite" issue, you either love or hate weddings.

But even if you hate them, there are some of close family that it is very difficult to get out of, particularly with the "save the date" things, meaning you cannot inadvertently oooops, have booked a holiday for the same time" Trapped we are !

Anyway, I'm not a great lover of weddings myself have to say, but will go to immediate family ones no problem. I know everyone and get sitting beside like minded people. Usually good fun.

Younger folk love them for the all day event, the drinking and dancing, and sing song into the small hours. I was one of them once!

But now I'm getting older the only part of weddings I don't like is the dancing part. So now, we go to all the ceremonies, hang around, have a drink, eat the meal, chat to everyone, and then feck off about an hour into the dancing. We are NOT missed at all!

I think the Queen has the right idea. At all the recent weddings she attended, she just toasted the B+G at the after ceremony drinks reception and fecked off home to her corgis!

A Marmite issue. Must remember that one!
"This is a Marmite situation, men". Love it.

Heres Johnny

Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: »

Heres Johnny wrote: »

I'm not attending a work wedding this summer. Said I've a weekend away booked. She got pissed off with me without saying so but I really don't care.
Others moaning about 'having to go'.

Ok. The phrase “have to go” doesn’t mean people have to go by law, or are forced to go.

It means you can’t not go without repercussions.

Don't agree with that. I've not gone to a load of cousins weddings, extended circle of friends weddings. I haven't had any repercussions of which you speak. I'm getting married next year and I don't care who goes to be honest.
I've about 60 cousins, played on loads of sports teams, big work network, school friends, college friends, then just my normal circle of friends.
I'll do a list of about 20 I want there. She can invite the other 180 if she wants.

Franz Von Peppercorn

Heres Johnny wrote: »

I'm not attending a work wedding this summer. Said I've a weekend away booked. She got pissed off with me without saying so but I really don't care.
Others moaning about 'having to go'.

Ok. The phrase “have to go” doesn’t mean people have to go by law, or are forced to go.

It means you can’t not go without repercussions.

Heres Johnny

Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: »

I don’t get the “you don’t have to go” philosophy either. You may chose to not go to the marriage of family or close friends but you will lose contact with them - it’s a big snub. Workmates you have to meet in work after the wedding - so you can’t refuse in that situation without a good reason.

In small towns or some city suburbs even acquaintances can’t be avoided, so it’s awkward if you snub them.

I'm not attending a work wedding this summer. Said I've a weekend away booked. She got pissed off with me without saying so but I really don't care.
Others moaning about 'having to go'.

Dakota Dan

paw patrol wrote: »

ah jaysis are you for real?

thankfully i'm old enough where those who are gonna married have done so and young enough that the next gen of kids are too young.

Very real, going to one on December and it's her second time getting married in 6 years. It's enough going to their wedding but when they decide to have multiple weddings it's a pure pain.

paw patrol

Dakota Dan wrote: »

What's worse is this new gimmick of 3 day weddings.

ah jaysis are you for real?

thankfully i'm old enough where those who are gonna married have done so and young enough that the next gen of kids are too young.

qwerty ui op

theyoungchap wrote: »

Well go home then misery guts the wedding will probably be better craic without you!!!

A wedding would be nothing without me, I throw back as much free drink as I can before leaning up against the bar, when there I start giving out about everything, I cut cut cut, nobody or no thing is safe. The food the music the people the dresses. I'll always manage to bring a good crowd under my blanket of misery.

Franz Von Peppercorn

Patww79 wrote: »

Just have a good excuse and give them a present. Once they get the money they won't really care anyway.

My dad did that for my sisters wedding but it didn’t work.

(No he didn’t but it underlies the stupidity of the “you don’t have to go” philosophy. For close friends and family you do).