erica74 wrote: » But in that scenario there was no mention that either hypothetical person didn't want to attend. If you're friends with someone and want to go to their wedding, then go
Meadow Freezing Newsman wrote: » I know people involved in the Church and believe me, they would far prefer if couples to whom the sacrament is meaningless didn't partake in it, just using the Church as a pretty and traditional back drop for their 'big day'. The donation goes towards the upkeep of the church, cleaning it, maintaining the organ and the red carpet, heating the church if it's Winter and so on. It's not a profit making exercise.
Meadow Freezing Newsman wrote: » You make it sound so simple, but it's not always that easy. Sometimes you don't want to go, but it's simpler to just swallow and get it over with than put up with hurt feelings or awkwardness or whatever.
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Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich wrote: » Kiwi, Aussie, British, American... they're pretty much all binge drinking events in the English speaking world. You have to binge drink to get through it ffs.
erica74 wrote: » You don't "have to" though.
beertons wrote: » I much prefer funerals to weddings.
_Dara_ wrote: » You kinda do in some cases. If you didn't go to a close friend's wedding, she'd be cool with that? Or your godchild's? Or your favourite sibling's kid's wedding? People who say "You don't have to go" are technically right, but these kinds of things in reality can cause hurt feelings. When people say "Don't go" for any case, I wonder have they participated in the human race at all. We all know there are cases where you simply can't decline. And there is no point in pretending otherwise. It's a pat forum answer to say "Don't go". It's not rooted in reality.
qwerty ui op wrote: » You'd be surprised how little be people give a toss about what you find important. I know people who took a few hours of work and went for a stroll in the park afterwards. I know a guy who went in his work clothes. I even know a couple who completely forgot about the appointment and had to rearrange. For the usual big weddings i'd say the exact opposite is true. They ain't free you know. Yeah, even those pesky weddings abroad I'm pointing out a usual scenario how people come under pressure to go. This happens for both male and female. So a friend spends tens of thousands of euro and 8months to organize their big day and it fine to say, " Nah! I'll give it a miss, something new out on netflix next weekend".
mcgiggles wrote: » I think the issue lies in people's unwillingness to realise that *god forbid* some people don't like weddings! Each to their own! But people throwing strops over people not attending their weddings is the height of selfishness. People have their own lives, things going on etc.. Noone will ever give as much of a f*ck about your wedding as you do! People need to be okay with this!! My friend got married about 6 months before me and every decline she got she was raging about! She was also one to say "well they better send a card anyways" and literally count every card and hold it against people if they didn't send a gift! *sigh* Personally I love weddings! Yes they are an expensive weekend but I am an old fashioned romantic. But in saying that I got married a few months ago, and didn't get all ratty because people declined! No matter what relation/ relationship they have to me/my oh! Life goes on!
JohnnyFlash wrote: » Opened the letter box this morning, and discovered an invite to the wedding of my nephew and his girlfriend. Has put me in bad mood as a result. I’ll have to go, but I’d rather get a 5-fingered prostate exam than attend to be honest. Does anyone actually enjoy Irish weddings? They take all day. They cost a fortune. The food is nearly always shîte, you end up talking to cousins and other relations you hate, the speeches are always the same, you can’t get too drunk or the extended family will be gossiping about you, you don’t know who you’ll be sitting beside, the music is terrible. Just a really bad day out. The only positive is that there’s a decent chance you’ll get the ride at the end of the night. When will start having w mature conversation about this? No one wants to go to these dreadful affairs only Bridezilla and her bridesmaids. Fiasco.
erica74 wrote: » It is that simple. There's a whole thread here of people pissed off at having to attend weddings that they didn't want to go to in the first place, just don't go and save yourselves and the couple the money and time and move on. If you have ever not attended a wedding for any reason, if a friendship or relationship has fallen apart because of it, you're better off without those people in your life anyway.
theyoungchap wrote: » I've never heard anybody get ratty over people not attending a wedding. Most people couldn't give a toss who attends and who doesn't.
Graces7 wrote: » Thank you for this truth. Also if you get married in Church you need to attend instruction.
Meadow Freezing Newsman wrote: » I have!
murpho999 wrote: » you sound very miserable. Been to foreign weddings and I think Ireland does weddings very well , a real sense of occasion, people dress up well etc. Also, some great venues out there with some very good food offerings.
