seamus wrote: » After all, if I invited you to a party at my house and you took €50 that was sitting on a windowsill, the only thing I would really have to prove is that you took the money.
georgina toadbum wrote: » Anything for the clothing?
RoboRat wrote: » If the passenger knowingly got into a car with a drunk driver, I wouldn't blame them for an accident but I would say they put themselves at a huge risk by doing so. In the same way as if a person went for a swim in a river with crocodiles, it would be a tragic accident, but one that could have been avoided if they made the sensible decision and erred on the side of caution. Everyone has an obligation to themselves to not put themselves in danger. Life is full of percentages, always take the choice with the least possible negative outcome. Will it stop bad things from happening? No, but it will decrease the likelihood.
seamus wrote: » I'm not going to give you numbers, that's ridiculous. But going by this thread, it seems pretty clear that there is significant confusion and/or disagreement about what constitutes consent. And since the very definition of rape is that consent has not been provided, logically it follows that there is disagreement about what constitutes rape. Which also logically follows that there are likely some individuals on this thread alone, never mind in general, who have committed rape but are unaware of it. Your comparison with "no murdering" classes is nonsense, since we're not discussing "no raping" classes.
Outlaw Pete wrote: » @seamus: Your €50 theft analogy actually supports the view you appear to be trying to argue against. For instance, you say: The operative word here being took of course. Well, isn't that all that's being said, that the prosecution should have to prove that a man took sex as opposed to was given it?
ShowMeTheCash wrote: » Consent can be explicit or implicit. Explicit usually means verbal but implicit can be interpreted by ones actions.
FrancieBrady wrote: » The passenger is STILL dead. And they might not be had they taken precautions. The drink driver is responsible and to blame but the passenger is DEAD. How can you miss the point so wonderfully here?
retro:electro wrote: » I think it matters not what clothes you’ve on you whether you’re going to be a victim of an attack or not. If a rapist is gonna rape I doubt he’d care what you had on. You’ll probably get torn to shreds for the revealing clothes comment, but I’d agree that you’re probably more likely to be a victim of a casual sexual assault like a boob grab or an arse pinch or an inappropriate fondle if you have it all out on display- but that’s still not the fault of the woman. It’s always the fault of the dirt who can’t keep his hands to himself. If a man sees a woman in revealing clothes and can’t help himself from hopping on her then that’s on him.
seamus wrote: But going by this thread, it seems pretty clear that there is significant confusion and/or disagreement about what constitutes consent.
erica74 wrote: Can posters not see, just by reading this thread, how there is a problem in society with consent? And how differently consent is viewed by everyone? That in itself suggests that there is a problem in society in relation to what constitutes consent and what constitutes the removal of consent and why people need to be taught about consent.
Neyite wrote: » Using your analogy then a dead passenger = manslaughter. One that's alive but injured after the crash suits a rape analogy better? Ok I accept that if a passenger unwisely gets into a car with someone who is pissed then it's potentially risky but using the analogy, does that mean they deserve to be injured? I don't think so. Then there's the variables. The passenger might have thought the driver was on 7up all night. Might have thought that the driver had only the one alcoholic drink at 7pm and was safe to drive. The driver might have looked entirely sober. Through no fault of his own, the passenger now has life changing injuries and socially there's no lifelong stigma or blame the way a rape victim may experience in their locality.
ShowMeTheCash wrote: » No one is making the argument that they shouldn't. The argument is when in this situation they are now in a vulnerable situation. World if full of "bad" people!
Neyite wrote: » Using your analogy then a dead passenger = manslaughter. One that's alive but injured after the crash suits a rape analogy better? Ok I accept that if a passenger unwisely gets into a car with someone who is pissed then it's potentially risky but using the analogy, does that mean they deserve to be injured? I don't think so.
Neyite wrote: » Then there's the variables. The passenger might have thought the driver was on 7up all night. Might have thought that the driver had only the one alcoholic drink at 7pm and was safe to drive. The driver might have looked entirely sober. Through no fault of his own, the passenger now has life changing injuries and socially there's no lifelong stigma or blame the way a rape victim may experience in their locality.
joe40 wrote: » I would have missed out on some great nights, and some great relationships if girls hadn't took a chance and put themselves in "vulnerable" situations. You're right the world is full of bad people. So when bad people do bad things, lets blame the "bad people"
[Deleted User] wrote: » Nope. I see people who still think that men who have been fount not guilty of rape are still being branded as unwitting rapists.I think we all know and agree that consent can be removed. It just so happens that it wasn't in this case according to the 11 people who were privy to all the available evidence. It's that simple.
seamus wrote: » Sure. But legally everyone enjoys the presumption that by default, they have not consented. So rape cases are a matter of somehow fitting the two of these things together. The victim's assertion will be that consent was never given or was later withdrawn. Which is very difficult to prove - but should they have to? After all, if I invited you to a party at my house and you took €50 that was sitting on a windowsill, the only thing I would really have to prove is that you took the money. You could certainly make an argument in your defence that I told you to take it. Then the horse-trading can begin around who said what. But from the off it wouldn't be assumed by default that I said you could take it, or that by inviting you into my home that I should expect it would be taken or that I have implied it could be taken. And if you think that creates a dangerous precedent in the case of rape, then you must be of the opinion that there are hoardes of people out there just champing at the bit to get a ride and then get their day in court.
joe40 wrote: » So how should people behave to be "safe"
Mr.H wrote: » Yes there is confusion surround consent because people want to define an expression to the word. I had sex with my better half last night. I didn't ask her. Hell we probably didn't say many words to be honest. She didn't say she wanted to have sex but she definitely gave me signals or expressions that made me think consent was granted. I initiated. Sometimes she does and again no words of consent. In fact sometimes we are playful and not even showing we want to when in reality we do. In a court of law it could be misunderstood to think rape has taken place. Consent is a buzz word used to define rape. Right and wrong is what people need to learn. Not the definition of a ridiculous word. If a person doesn't want to have sex with you and you proceed. That is rape. It doesn't matter if someone said yes against their will, or were too drunk or asleep to be "into it". You know if someone wants to have sex with you because they are excitedly participating. We don't need consent classes. We need to just teach our kids responsibility and the difference between right and wrong. In all life. not just sex. Too many lazy parents who's sons and daughters go on to be criminals.
joe40 wrote: » Personal responsibility is one thing but a young woman should still be to go to house with someone, engage in "sexual behaviour" but still have the right to stop at any stage or not go further than they are happy with. I was young many years ago and it was common enough to go back to a house even to a bed with someone but full sexual intercourse was never expected as a right in those circumstances.
GreeBo wrote: » I'm not asking you for definitive numbers, just an idea.
Everyone knows that murder is wrong and illegal and yet it still happens. I'd wager most rapists know they are committing rape, hence my belief that consent classes wont do much.
martingriff wrote: » Legally person is innocent until proven guilty. If legally the presumption is consent is not given then you want to turn that around to there guilty until proven innocent