NAGDEFI wrote: » So i suppose it's cool to go wander into a house party when you know no one? Iwouldn't head to a party of girls i didn't know. I wouldn't feel comfortable.
Silentcorner wrote: » I think Not Proven option could be an improvement..
Silentcorner wrote: » And those are reported figures...we have no idea how many woman (in particular) choose not to go to the authorities.... How can we not look at ourselves...
Bob_Marley wrote: » Yes, the root cause of this particular sorry sad mess of a case, where all the lives have been ruined by the unsocial media reporting of the case, is excessive consumption of alcohol, but you were instead endorsing the view of the troll that people can't get raped if they don't get drunk or go to celeb house parties, which is half witted rubbish.
Worried Father wrote: » I should be able to walk through the park at 3am on my own and not expect to be beaten and robbed. I never take that chance though, even when piss drunk, because it would be stupid and dangerous!
irishrebe wrote: » It was a rough area. Not at all uncommon to see people fighting, shouting, messing, whatever. At no point did I say it was adjacent to my school. I said it was near my house.
Omackeral wrote: » There’s a middle ground. Works for some, doesn’t for others. At that rate, nobody would go traveling alone. There’s still adventures to be had and spontaneity.
NAGDEFI wrote: » I believe alcohol consumption is something to be aware of. Also i wouldn't like my daughter going to parties with drunk men she didn't know. It's not saying all men are rapists but common sense.
Worried Father wrote: » irishrebe wrote: » I've often ended up in the houses of men, while drunk. Often drinking there. I loved video games as a teenager and a college student and would play for hours and hours while drinking beer or stronger stuff, or having a jam session or sometimes just sitting around talking sh1te like friends do. I lived at home for most of college, so it was fun to go back to people's student houses or halls and do the proper student thing. Quite often I would be the only woman there, or one of two, maybe. Let me get this straight. Are you telling me my behaviour was shameful and I deserved to be raped? I had no legitimate business getting drunk around men? If you get drunk around strange men and go back their houses on your own, your chances of being raped go up. It's not rocket science.
irishrebe wrote: » I've often ended up in the houses of men, while drunk. Often drinking there. I loved video games as a teenager and a college student and would play for hours and hours while drinking beer or stronger stuff, or having a jam session or sometimes just sitting around talking sh1te like friends do. I lived at home for most of college, so it was fun to go back to people's student houses or halls and do the proper student thing. Quite often I would be the only woman there, or one of two, maybe. Let me get this straight. Are you telling me my behaviour was shameful and I deserved to be raped? I had no legitimate business getting drunk around men?
Bob_Marley wrote: » It's shocking, it just proves there is no real law and order or any real deterrent to crime in this country, north or south.
NAGDEFI wrote: » True enough about travelling. Just i still feel a female heading into an all male party, guys she didn't know.. If the unfortunate girl had the choice again??
Silentcorner wrote: » I've already suggested a major one...allow a victim legal representation... Allowing an independent expert in Sexual Assault to explain how victims can react to assaults... Banning the parading of womens underwear in court...no reason not to allow the jury request if they feel it is neccessary.... How about you, any other suggestions to improve the deplorable conviction rate other than sticking our heads in the sand????
Fann Linn wrote: » irishrebe wrote: » It was a rough area. Not at all uncommon to see people fighting, shouting, messing, whatever. At no point did I say it was adjacent to my school. I said it was near my house. Im not going dragging thru your posts but you said it happened to you and others on a regular basis. All I asked was what did you or others do or say as it was such a frequent event. Forget it rebe, i'll put your post down to the realm of hearsay.
Worried Father wrote: » irishrebe wrote: » Right. So what you're saying is, men have so little self control that I can expect them to gang rape me when we have a few drinks on us. You don't see how truly f*cked up that is? Yeah there are men out there who will do that. Same as there are men out there who would beat me into a coma for a perceived insult. Most people are decent but there is still scum out there. Hence why I lecture my boys to be safe and sensible.
irishrebe wrote: » Right. So what you're saying is, men have so little self control that I can expect them to gang rape me when we have a few drinks on us. You don't see how truly f*cked up that is?
Worried Father wrote: » Yeah it's like Somalia out there People have to get a fair trial. Since I support the death penalty I firmly believe even the worst scumbag must have a fair trial.
Bob_Marley wrote: » If she was raped at a house party after getting drunk, would you be telling her she was partially responsible for her own rape ?
optogirl wrote: » It wasn't an all male party?
Silentcorner wrote: » I think Not Proven option could be an improvement... I don't have all the answers...all I know is that the conviction rate needs to be increased...for everyone's sake... What improvements do you think we should make?
Bob_Marley wrote: » Do you believe 99.8% of officially rape accusations in NI are false ? Do you really think this is an acceptable prosecution rate ? You're family is also at risk. What amazes me is how people are happy with such a sub standard policing and justice system for their society.
suicide_circus wrote: » You cannot be serious
NAGDEFI wrote: » Ok not all male but she wasn't friends with the girls either. Dara Florence was some friend if so.
The Talking Bread wrote: » I am merely asking you what do you suggest can be done to "increase rape convictions"? Surely the "not proven" bar will reduce it more? I am not the one suggesting there can be improvements. Given that a jury is comprised of a a group of anonymous "everyday" individuals, they can only digest the information given to them and the bar of BRD is an adequate bar, however potentially unfortunate it may prove to the outcome of any given trial. The trial is as much about punishing an accused than it is about giving a sense of justice to rape victims. You have to also balance her suffering with the potential of unjust suffering for potentially innocent accused if the bar is lowered to accomodate a lower level of proof required.
irishrebe wrote: » Nice twisting of my comparison there. No, it tells us all we need to know that girls can be molested for years in the presence of their parents with nobody noticing
irishrebe wrote: » but apparently, men beeping, whistling and shouting sexual harassment at minors walking home alone for years is so far fetched that you don't believe it. A couple of other women have confirmed similar harassment. Are they liars too?