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Super-Rush

I started a job 2 years ago. I manage the office, take in bookings, route drivers for deliveries, organise events, make sure vehicles are being looked after and a ton more things that would take too long to put in a post.

For the most part i enjoy the work even though it can get very intense at times as we deal with some very big clients who are very demanding.

I very rarely finish when i am supposed to finish and sometimes i end up working until 8 or 9 especially Thursdays and Fridays. I don't get paid for this extra work btw.

As we are running and planning events in the entertainment sector, most of the bookings take place from Thursday to Sunday. This means that complaints due to staff incompentency will come in over this period when i am off work. Being a small business, the owner would field these calls and any other calls that will come in on Saturday and Sunday. I will get some calls myself from the staff and more often than not the boss will call me as well moaning and giving out about the staff.

Now i know people will say why doesn't he hire new staff, and i have said this myself countless times. 99% of the issues that arise are due to staff not following instructions given to them by myself and i have took calls on my stag weekend, at cocm crow in the mornings and one guy attempeted to call me on my wedding day.

This has begun to seriously drag me down to a point where i don't want to go tonwork anymore.

Today has been a real eye opener as there were more issues over the weekend due to the staff and my boss had to take calls over the weekend. So he comes in this morning and says that even though it wasn't my fault, I'm probably going to have to work Saturdays.

I took on this job as a Monday to Friday 9-6 job and not to be working Saturdays. My wife works full time so we would only get to see eache other on Sundays. I feel like just getting in the car and heading home this morning and telling him to stick his job. I work very very hard and i am extremely(imo) goood at what i do.

I signed no contract when i started and i even feel that i would be letting everyone down even though i am being treated like sh1t working for minimum wage.

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southernsmile

It sounds like there is very little employee buy-in, meaning that they either do not fully understand or do not care about the services you are providing. When this happens, it is very difficult to run a successful company. Do you or your supervisors hold training sessions and/or informative meetings? Staff education and communication is crucial and if they do not know the purpose of their tasks then they start to devalue it. This is clearly not your fault and it sounds like you are doing everything right but that the staff is really dropping the ball. Your boss needs to step it up create a work environment and has effective communication and education of the company purpose. It sounds like he is pushing everything off on you because you are good at your job. This happens often in the workplace and this is where you need to be assertive. Instead of using the same ineffective method to correct the problem (working more in the exact same way), the boss needs to find the root of the problem (e.g. ineffective communication, lack of employee buy-in) and address that. Good luck!

Damien360

You are leaving "soon", not getting extra pay, so leave work at your expected time, find something, anything to do in the evenings that you must get to. Even a walk from your house at an alloted time every evening regardless of weather. You owe them nothing and will get no thanks running yourself into the ground. What's the worst that can happen ? Fire you ? Don't worry about reference nonsense.

BorneTobyWilde

Should have a business phone and a personal phone, leave the business phone on the desk on Friday when you leave.
Give no one your personal number.

backspacer

Good on you, frankly the notice is more than generous. Was in a similar situation, reached a breaking point and went and found another job. Am on better money now and less stupid demands on my time.

Your mental health comes first, you cant function without it. Good luck with the new job hunt as well.

L.Jenkins

It's not always an easy decision to make, but well done Super. Your health is the most important thing you have.

I remember a previous position that had such a negative effect on my mental health, I had no choice but to return to the care of a Psychiatrist and seek treatment for Bipolar 2 disorder and severe anxiety. I became so jumpy and anxious, the stress would make me physically throw up. It came to ahead when I began coughing up blood.

Needless to say, (despite my personally strong work ethic, if I love my job and as long as I'm not being taken advantage of I will bend over backwards, also having put in extra hours as I take pride in my work) my performance slipped significantly and I was let go. To air one grievence, I was put on a performance improvement plan without being informed verbally or in writing. It was only brought to my attention in a 2nd meeting with my manager, as he needed a second manager with him.

So I'll stop ranting, but your mental health is something that can take quite a long time to recover if it has been significantly effected by stress.

[Deleted User]

You did the right thing. No job is worth that stress.

Best of luck looking for a new job.

Silverfish

Super-Rush wrote: »

Done.

He heard me out and apologised.

I've been fair to him by not finishing until the end of May so he can get someone trained and I can look for somewhere in the mean time but as of May 26th I am out.

Jesus the relief.

I've been following this thread as I had a similar job, and was in a similar position, and I left. I didn't even make it to the end of the notice period, as I was about to keel over from stress. I heard everyone out with the 'but you'll find it easier to get a job if you have a job' and 'It'll look bad on your cv!' but once I was out, it was a LOT easier to search for something else, no worrying over time off for interviews, just nice and relaxed job search. I got another job and loved it, stayed there 7 years.

Better things around the corner, awful as the job might have been, you've picked up a wealth of experience which will benefit you anywhere else but there. Just don't be swayed by any promises of pay increases or assistance.

Super-Rush

gerrybbadd wrote: »

Hey bro.

I think you're doing the right thing too. Your mental health is worth a hell of a lot more than that job. I know the effect that place has had on you, its definitely not worth it.

Hand in your notice, be as civil as you can. If he runs you, can it be considered you being fired? Constructive dismissal? If things end on a bad note, keep in mind he legally can't withold your P45 from you for longer than a month. You'll need this for a new job, claiming benefits from Social Welfare etc. If he tries to withold it, call Revenue and let them know. They'll come down on him about it.

You know where I am if you want to talk - anytime

Cheers for that. I know I could have called you any time about this but I just got so bogged down with it all.

Super-Rush

The reason I said the end of May is that it gives me time to look for something new and I can save a hit of money as well. I'll also have help in the office until then so it will reduce the workload for that period.

Come hell or high water I'll be gone then and can hold my head high.

Gavin "shels"

Sinister Kid wrote: »

That's a lot of notice. More that he deserves really...

For the next two months I'd advise you to walk out each evening at 6pm & leave your phone on the office drawer, even if it means getting a second phone or sim card. Just keep reminding yourself it's not your problem anymore.

Easier option - block the numbers on your personal mobile number.

Rory28

Fair play OP. It was big of you to give him until the end of May. More than he deserved.

Sinister Kid

Super-Rush wrote: »

Done.

He heard me out and apologised.

I've been fair to him by not finishing until the end of May so he can get someone trained and I can look for somewhere in the mean time but as of May 26th I am out.

Jesus the relief.

That's a lot of notice. More that he deserves really...

For the next two months I'd advise you to walk out each evening at 6pm & leave your phone on the office drawer, even if it means getting a second phone or sim card. Just keep reminding yourself it's not your problem anymore.

Gavin "shels"

Super-Rush wrote: »

To be honest I think he's going to flip out and tell me to get out because he will be stuck.

That's the small business mentality kicking in - you owe him nor his company a thing going by your posts. You've given 110% and it's time to move on - I'd gather he'll expect your notice tbh.

Look at the advantage to not working while job searching. Full time being able to job search and will be able to start at a day or twos notice rather than 4 weeks. Win win.

Super-Rush

Done.

He heard me out and apologised.

I've been fair to him by not finishing until the end of May so he can get someone trained and I can look for somewhere in the mean time but as of May 26th I am out.

Jesus the relief.

Sinister Kid

It sounds like you have been through the mill in this job.
Usually if you quit your job you cant claim any social welfare for 13 weeks (IRRC) Get yourself to the dole office straight away & tell them your reasons for leaving your job, explain that it is causing you mental health issues. Depending on who you are dealing with they may just decide to pay you effective immediately or they may ask can you get your doctor to sign off on it, then back date payment to your leaving date.
By the sounds of things you shouldn't have a problem doing this.
Getting a welfare payment will help take some of the stress off job hunting.

Good luck.

jimmycrackcorm

Super-Rush wrote:

I know I'm an idiot for quitting without having something lined up but I'm really in a bad place mentally due to this and I can't take it anymore.

Super-Rush wrote:

It feels wrong to do this without a job line up and I'm even secknd guessing myself.

These aren't true. It's as if people say you'll never get another job in your life after.

Super-Rush wrote:

My wife is behind me 100% and has told me numerous times to leave in the past but I know other people won't think the same.

I quit a job with nothing lined up. Because I had the support of my wife, it wasn't a problem and I had a nice relaxing time off followed by a new job with a large pay increase and better working conditions.

LegacyUser

Hi Super-Rush
I don't normally post here but I just read the thread and I think you've done the right thing too. Reason I'm replying is that I know of a position that might suit you. I don't know how to PM you so if you can PM me, I can send details.

kittyclaws

I've been thru this - the best advise i can give (and have done so myself) is to not hand in your notice today - instead go to the doctor to get signed off for stress leave. This way you will still get paid and you will have the time to search for a job while you're out.
Best of luck x

Dial Hard

Super-Rush wrote: »

It feels wrong to do this without a job line up and I'm even secknd guessing myself.

I quit a job I loathed with nothing else lined up a few years ago (in the middle of the recession, in fact) and the only regret I ever had about it was that I didn't do it two years sooner.

You've done the right thing, believe me. Well done.

gerrybbadd

Hey bro.

I think you're doing the right thing too. Your mental health is worth a hell of a lot more than that job. I know the effect that place has had on you, its definitely not worth it.

Hand in your notice, be as civil as you can. If he runs you, can it be considered you being fired? Constructive dismissal? If things end on a bad note, keep in mind he legally can't withold your P45 from you for longer than a month. You'll need this for a new job, claiming benefits from Social Welfare etc. If he tries to withold it, call Revenue and let them know. They'll come down on him about it.

You know where I am if you want to talk - anytime

Dixie Chick

Good for you. You will get a job. It is great your wife is supportive. If he tells you to get out then he would be an awful fool but some people simply cannot run a business properly.

Squatman

Super-Rush wrote: »

To be honest I think he's going to flip out and tell me to get out because he will be stuck.

It feels wrong to do this without a job line up and I'm even secknd guessing myself.

My wife is behind me 100% and has told me numerous times to leave in the past but I know other people won't think the same.

structure your conversation in a way that will prompt him to sack you so. theres more money in that :eek:

Squatman

Super-Rush wrote: »

Sorry for resurrecting an old thread but things changed for about ten minutes and went back to the same crap.

One person was phoned for an interview to help me in the office and she had found a job, so no other calls were made.

I still the same unmanageable workload and unless I stay in all night, I never get to complete everything in a working day. This has led to me being told off for missing out on stuff simply because I had mountains of work to do.

So I'm waiting on my boss to arrive in this morning and I'm handing in my notice. I haven't had the time to apply for other jobs and at the weekends I am just to tired to even search for one.

I know I'm an idiot for quitting without having something lined up but I'm really in a bad place mentally due to this and I can't take it anymore.

well done. this is a ballsy decision, but ultimately the right one. I've never heard of someone leaving a ****ty job and regretting it

miamee

Given that you've been at this for over a year now, I'd take a week or two off completely (if you can afford it) and then get stuck into job searching. We all have it drilled into us not to leave one job unless you've another one lined up and generally I'd agree with that but you are exhausted and have no time to job search with this current job - so you're either stuck there or you leave and look for something else.

If he talks you into staying a while, book a week off and plan to job search then.

stargazer 68

Super-Rush wrote: »

To be honest I think he's going to flip out and tell me to get out because he will be stuck.

It feels wrong to do this without a job line up and I'm even secknd guessing myself.

My wife is behind me 100% and has told me numerous times to leave in the past but I know other people won't think the same.

Doesn't matter what other people think - you are the one in the situation. No job is worth the stress!

Super-Rush

miamee wrote: »

Sorry to hear it has come to that Super-Rush but your mental and physical health is more important than a job. From the sounds of things you'll have gained lots of experience in this role that will help you find another (less hectic) job.
Be prepared for your boss to offer all sorts for you to stay and to make some promises about things changing...you are doing the work of several people by the sounds of things so he's going to be up the creek without a paddle if you leave. He'll possibly say or do whatever he has to to change your mind.

To be honest I think he's going to flip out and tell me to get out because he will be stuck.

It feels wrong to do this without a job line up and I'm even secknd guessing myself.

My wife is behind me 100% and has told me numerous times to leave in the past but I know other people won't think the same.

miamee

Sorry to hear it has come to that Super-Rush but your mental and physical health is more important than a job. From the sounds of things you'll have gained lots of experience in this role that will help you find another (less hectic) job.
Be prepared for your boss to offer all sorts for you to stay and to make some promises about things changing...you are doing the work of several people by the sounds of things so he's going to be up the creek without a paddle if you leave. He'll possibly say or do whatever he has to to change your mind.

Super-Rush

Sorry for resurrecting an old thread but things changed for about ten minutes and went back to the same crap.

One person was phoned for an interview to help me in the office and she had found a job, so no other calls were made.

I still the same unmanageable workload and unless I stay in all night, I never get to complete everything in a working day. This has led to me being told off for missing out on stuff simply because I had mountains of work to do.

So I'm waiting on my boss to arrive in this morning and I'm handing in my notice. I haven't had the time to apply for other jobs and at the weekends I am just to tired to even search for one.

I know I'm an idiot for quitting without having something lined up but I'm really in a bad place mentally due to this and I can't take it anymore.

Super-Rush

So yesterday i finally managed to speak to my boss about how i was feeling and what needed to change,and yes it took three months to actually get the time to do this.

After a 2 hour meeting yesterday and a further 3 hours this morning, we have come to the following arrangements.

No more out of hours calls, period.

Part time assistance for myself.

A structured workload all round.

4 days extra paid holidays.

€100 a week pay rise.

I suppose only time will tell as to whether he will implement these changes. The pay rise was immediate, but thats not going to be of any help to me if all the promises he has made won't be kept.

The business is getting busier and busier all the time and i don't see this slowing down any time soon, so he needs to stop talking and sort it. He knows i will walk if these promises are broken, so I've done all i feel that i can.

I'm a lot clearer in my head now and am looking forward to next week off to recharge because physically and mentally burnt out.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

Avatar MIA

Where some people fall down is, while being excellent at their job to the point of being indispensable, being incompetent at promoting/advancing themselves.

From what you wrote you're working silly hours at minimum wage at best. If you are the go-to person and solving problems for the owner he'll be willing to compensate you.

Some people think you should be paying them for allowing you to work in the ENTERTAINMENT industry. Bollix to that.