silverharp wrote: » when you think about it most men that do manual jobs are treated like robots , and your average office based air conditioned feminist doesn't give the foggiest about who keeps cities and technology humming
Koala Sunshine wrote: » What does it mean to treat someone like an object?
optogirl wrote: » air conditioned feminist! Think I'll get that on a t-shirt :P
Deleted User wrote: » From my understanding of it: I recently saw a very attractive woman in the street. I didn't know her personality, background, emotional state, but because I found her attractive based on her physical appearance, I objectified her. Doesn't matter that my attraction and thoughts were internalised. I was still doing it, and that somehow removes her humanity, making her into an object of desire.
professore wrote: » I haven't heard anyone catcall anyone else in the street for years.
_Dara_ wrote: » That's nice. I, on the other hand, have.
Grayson wrote: » Everyone objectifies. The problem is when it's the only thing that they do or they're vocal about it in such a way that if creates an uncomfortable environment. So for example a boss who sees his female employees as just eye candy but not as people.
cantdecide wrote: » Not being flippant but what is the literal harm. Explain it. Explore it. How would you convince someone that harm has occurred apart from a moment of discomfort at the hands of a cretin and I don't see damage occur (unless she biffs him, of course).
_Dara_ wrote: » Of course I know people who base their self worth too much on their appearance. Are they... the same people who have a problem with objectification? I’d imagine it’s a Venn diagram. People who rely too much on their appearance for self worth and people who object to objectification. Two separate things where coincidentally I’m sure there’s some overlap because people can care about more than one thing. But I don’t see an obvious link between the two. Certainly not everyone I know who has a problem with objectification is very into their looks or insecure. It’s a facile argument. And, what? It’s seen as terrible when men talk about attractive women? GTFO. The thread has jumped the shark.
cantdecide wrote: » I was at a party once and as I walked away from a conversation I heard someone say "what an ass". It was kind of a compliment I know but I felt deeply objectified
Koala Sunshine wrote: » Dara, you complain that people should think of other people's feelings when making comments to them. Did you think of the user's feelings when you told them to "GTFO". Is that not objectification right there?
_Dara_ wrote: » :D:D:D In short, no. But you know that.
Koala Sunshine wrote: » Ok so is objectification only wrong when people do it to you, its fine when you do it to other people?
_Dara_ wrote: » The example you gave wasn't objectification. You have looked into what it is, right? Can you explain how telling someone to GTFO on a message board is treating them as an object? Please elaborate.
Koala Sunshine wrote: » Why is wolf whistling objectification but saying GTFO is not, in both cases the recipient's feelings are not being considered?
_Dara_ wrote: » Again, you don't know what objectification is, do you? It's not about hurt feelings. Any number of different things can cause hurt feelings. Are they all objectification? Please look up what objectification is. You don't seem to really get it. I probably shouldn't really be bothered responding to you, but since your replies aren't really doing you any favours, it's fine.
Oaklyn Careful Ginkgo wrote: » Jesus, is Wikipedia down or something? Google it for Christ's same.
Koala Sunshine wrote: » That's why I'm asking what objectification is?
objectification ɒbdʒɛktɪfɪˈkeɪʃ(ə)n/noun noun: objectification; plural noun: objectificationsthe action of degrading someone to the status of a mere object."the objectification of women as sexual possessions" the expression of something abstract in a concrete form."the objectification of images may be astonishingly vivid in dreams"
Koala Sunshine wrote: » I want to hear what the posters on the thread believe to be objectification, I want to engage in discussion about it. I'm not interested in a google definition as that may differ from posters on this thread.
_Dara_ wrote: » OK... you need to be spoonfed. You say you don't want a Google definition but you're getting one.
Koala Sunshine wrote: » So can women only be objectified? It seems that way from the definition.
cantdecide wrote: » Not being flippant but what is the literal harm. Explain it. Explore it. How would you convince someone that harm has occurred apart from a moment of discomfort at the hands of a cretin and I don't see damage occur (unless she biffs him, of course). Here's a similar example... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRsPheErBj8 Clearly, Homer causes an uncomfortable atmosphere by dehumunising a stranger on the street based on judgments about their characteristics. It's incredibly rude and obnoxious but what is the literal harm?
kylith wrote: » Imagine if you were that nerd. Imagine if, starting from the time you were 12, every day at least one person yelled ‘NERD’ at you in the street. Imagine that at family gatherings people discussed what a nerd you are. every Time you leave the house you wonder if someone’s going to yell NERD at you. Some people follow you around calling ‘nerd’. How do you think that affects one’s self esteem? But sure, they’re only women/nerds. Who cares if they’re made feel uncomfortable?
_Dara_ wrote: » You'll get on with your life but why should anyone be made to feel uncomfortable by a total stranger? And really, "What harm does it do?" is a sticks and stones mentality. As a teenager, I had an eating disorder, and comments from strangers could really mess with my head at that point in my life. Think about that for a second.
Koala Sunshine wrote: » The pertinent question is are they being objectified in that example, are they reduced to the status of mere objects. I would say no, nobody insults a coffee cup or a toaster.
kylith wrote: » It’s not about insulting. It’s about remarking on a woman in the street so that she feels like a piece of public property for all and sundry to comment on. Like she shouldn't be out if she’s not pretty enough, thin enough, or not smiling enough.
[Deleted User] wrote: » Sure. I do. Just as I hear groups of women talking about men. Or groups with both men and women all listing what they like in a person, and using a celeb/model as an example. It's a pretty standard conversational topic to talk about the physical attractiveness of the opposite gender. But... it's terrible when men do it, because [obviously] when men do it, they're turning the woman into a sexual object... the same logic doesn't seem to apply when women do it though. [I am extremely happy that the women in my life don't consider this objectification concept as being limited to the male gender, and just something that is. Thankfully, it seems to be the internet, media, and feminists that want to promote this as being an issue with men, with other people ignoring it and getting on with their lives]