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Joking has escalated - Read Mod warning in post 1

Dylann

Hi, im a quiet person who in the office keeps to myself and trys to stay out of most things. On Friday when talking to my supervisor another employee who is the mouth of the office walked past me and said " hurry up baldy, I want to talk to him" about 5 other people heard this and there was a giggle or two and my response was I may be bald but you will always be ugly. The woman I said this to then walked away almost crying, I walked away too, I was so annoyed and I was annoyed with myself for reacting. My supervisor later came over to my desk and told me to apologise for what I said and that there will have to be a meeting on Monday about my reaction . I feel hard done by here, this wouldn't of happened if it wasn't for the other employee trying to make a show of me. What should I do next? I've never been in trouble in work before and im dreading Monday now.

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yourdeadwright

All you have to say is your comment was not about her looks but about her ugly attitude towards you ,
You've ever right to tell her you feel she is ugly on the inside for commenting about your physical condition ,

soiseztomabel

the_pen_turner wrote: »

I wonder what would happen if you walked in , sat down and said
iv been thinking about this over the week end and I don't think having this on her permanent record is warranted . if she apologises I wont report it . I feel the embarrassment of someone standing up to her is enough punishment for now

This person knows !!!!

beauf

martingriff wrote: »

I would agree with this. More then likely the person made a complaint and the supervisor has to talk with the OP. I have an example where my supervisor came to me to have a discussion because someone made a complaint (it was about noise) and it went look they made a complaint saying you are noisy I and nobody else think you are but I had to just say something.

It should go like this but if on the off chance it does/didn't (could be late here) have your defense ready saying it was reactionary but she started

Perhaps the OP should have made also make a complaint.

Thus far they've only received one.

beertons

Are ya on the scratcher now OP?

dd972

Good lord, I'm so glad I don't have a job. :pac:

soiseztomabel

Waiting all day to find out what happened

Dylann

Went to the meeting today and straight away the other employee said to me, I don't know why we are here I was joking with you and you went mad. I didn't say anything to her. My supervisor said she was in the wrong to start slagging but I shouldn't of reacted like that. The other employee then apologised and so did I . They just said can we move on and I said yeah I just want to get on with my work. Leaving the room the other employee said it was just a laugh I didn't think you would react like that, if I did I wouldn't of said anything. I just said forget about it.
I don't want hassle in work I just want to get my work done and that's it.

martin101

Well done, you did good today OP

Benildus

She was the one who went away crying!!!!!!!! i reckon she realised she fcuked up over the weekend and needed to apologise first

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Benildus wrote: »

She was the one who went away crying!!!!!!!! i reckon she realised she fcuked up over the weekend and needed to apologise first

Or she read this thread.

<waves>

quadrifoglio verde

On the bright side op, no one will ever call you baldy in work again

soiseztomabel

Good to hear it worked out

tayto lover

Well done baldy

NollagShona

That softened her cough.

December2012

Sounds like the supervisor wanted it sorted out and the other employee got a fright cos she KNEW she did wrong

Well done op - you handled it very well

martinr5232

quadrifoglio verde wrote:

On the bright side op, no one will ever call you baldy in work again

Not to his face anyway :-)

RobAMerc

Dylann wrote: »

I don't know why we are here I was joking with you and you went mad. I didn't say anything to her.

I am reading from this she did nothing wrong and you went off the deep end.
You are still getting the blame in her eyes.

Gonad

It must be terrible being baldy in this weather

Cheerio now ,,, baldy conscience !

DuffleBag

RobAMerc wrote: »

I am reading from this she did nothing wrong and you went off the deep end.
You are still getting the blame in her eyes.

This.

It appears to me she "won". What happened all the good advice we gave you?

Now it's like you have a rage issue and fly off the handle at "jokes". Because you know now she will tell others you "went mad" at the joke that she and the others laughed about when she called you baldy, and that you apologised for it.

beertons

You're a dead cert for a wig in the work Kris Kindle.

Practice that smile, grumpy pants!

Avatar MIA

Gonad wrote: »

It must be terrible being baldy in this weather

Cheerio now ,,, baldy conscience !

Was this thread transferred to AHs?

solderon

RobAMerc wrote: »

I am reading from this she did nothing wrong and you went off the deep end.
You are still getting the blame in her eyes.

When someone treats you like OP has described, what they think isn't worth considering.

Teyla Emmagan

Good for you OP. I hope that taught her a lesson in cop on. What an appalling thing to say to anyone, she should be ashamed of herself. Hiding behind the "it was only a bit of craic" defence is the preserve of bullies and the terminally stupid.

NIMAN

In this modern age of 'the womans always right', you came out of this pretty well OP.

inforfun

Watch your back, OP.

And your dome.

Rezident

NIMAN wrote: »

In this modern age of 'the womans always right', you came out of this pretty well OP.

Yes you were lucky. Live and learn but fair play for standing up for yourself, more men need to start doing that nowadays, although - and it's easy to say this when you're not in the heat of the moment - but perhaps more elegantly. I know, I'm as bad!

daheff

Dylann wrote: »

Went to the meeting today and straight away the other employee said to me, I don't know why we are here I was joking with you and you went mad. I didn't say anything to her. My supervisor said she was in the wrong to start slagging but I shouldn't of reacted like that. The other employee then apologised and so did I . They just said can we move on and I said yeah I just want to get on with my work. Leaving the room the other employee said it was just a laugh I didn't think you would react like that, if I did I wouldn't of said anything. I just said forget about it.
I don't want hassle in work I just want to get my work done and that's it.

Good to see common sense prevailed all round.