Edward M wrote: » Fair enough too, I can be compartmentalised as judgemental in that sense. What I mean in reference to that is that I don't judge those who would openly admit to having an abortion. If they feel they did the right thing then don't mind anyone who accuses or judges them of other. Just an instance I know of, a young girl 17, fairly close acquaintaince of mine some years ago, got pregnant, her boyfriend was about the same age at the time, her family didn't want her to have the baby, boyfriends family didn't want her to have the baby, they clubbed together and virtually forced her to England, accompanied by her mother for an abortion. We are still friends, she still regrets that decision and at the time wanted to have the baby, if she had support at the time she would have had the baby. She now lives in regret of a decision forced on her, even though she now has a family, her biggest regret in life is that abortion.
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grahambo wrote: » This country's f*cked...
dr.fuzzenstein wrote: » Even if abortion was available, I'm sure it would be purely academic. This is Ireland. There will firstly be a month long consultation and counselling process for any woman wanting an abortion and at the end it would "so, that is everything in order then, unfortunately there is a bit of a waiting list. I have booked you in for an appointment at 8 am on October the 22nd in 3 year's time, is that OK with you?"
dr.fuzzenstein wrote: » Even if abortion was available, I'm sure it would be purely academic. This is Ireland. There will firstly be a month long consultation and counselling process for any woman wanting an abortion and at the end it would be "so, that is everything in order then, unfortunately there is a bit of a waiting list. I have booked you in for an appointment at 8 am on October the 22nd in 3 year's time, is that OK with you?"
grahambo wrote: » You're probably right.
WhiteRoses wrote: » This. Also, domestic adoption in this country is pretty much non existent anyway. Children can only be adopted after spending many, many years in the foster care system. By the time they are teenagers, no one wants them, because they have built up years worth of social and behavioural issues. And at that, it is a tedious, expensive and extremely emotionally taxing endeavour which is why most Irish couples looking to adopt do so internationally. Because its cheaper and easier.
WhiteRoses wrote: » I honestly don't see how giving birth to a child to give it a life sentence in the care system is preferable to abortion, with no adult around in their life long enough to give a sh*t, but that's just me.
mrkiscool2 wrote: » This is unfortunate, and will happen. However, the majority of cases will be made by informed women who know that they can't go through a pregnancy, for whatever reason, and will therefore have an abortion. It's all about weighing the harms with the benefits. Access to safe and legal abortion, without having to pay a fortune, outweighs the harms of a few cases like this.
ohnonotgmail wrote: » and none of that means that another woman should not have the choice of an abortion.
January wrote: » They can now, but they used to not be able to. Not that that really makes a difference. Can you imagine ever having to explain to a child that mammy and daddy are having a baby but can't keep it because they can't afford it so it's going to live with someone else and you'll never see it?
end of the road wrote: » killing it certainly would be a lot worse.
Hotblack Desiato wrote: » In all areas of life, some adults make bad choices or ones which they may later regret. We can't use this as an excuse to take agency away from all adults or else we would be living in a totalitarian hell hole. Yet some are prepared to do this to women. Expect lots more of the "abortion regret" stories in the coming months - just like the handful of gay people opposed to marriage equality kept getting wheeled out.
end of the road wrote: » this could and should be changed. it's not a justification for abortion on demand and abortion on demand is a non-solution looking for a problem that can be changed without abortion on demand being availible. because the issues with the care system and adoption and the rest can be changed. if the unborn baby is killed then they aren't able to be potentially given the good life they deserve, they don't get to live. again, this seems to be another problem looking for abortion to be the solution to, when we can and should be solving the issues instead.
kylith wrote: » That's a terrible shame. I know it's hard to do when you're afraid, Mammy is right beside you, and it could ruin your relationship with your family, but if she had told the doctor that she didn't want the termination they wouldn't have performed it. No doctor will perform a non-lifesaving procedure on a person who is old enough to understand what's going on and the ramifications of it if that person does not want it performed. What anti-choice people forget is that for every 'I regret my abortion' story there is an 'I regret not having an abortion' story.
WhiteRoses wrote: » It isn't going to change any time soon, if ever. And even if it did, why would anyone go through with a pregnancy just to hand their child over to the state? Even if the system was a LOT better, a child should still have at least 1 functional, stable, loving parent. Why should an unwanted child be born just so they can be handed over to the social services? How is that a positive outcome, for the mother, knowing the life her child will face, or for the child, growing up with no stable figure knowing they weren't wanted by their natural parent(s)?
WhiteRoses wrote: » Whether it is better or not is a matter of opinion.
WhiteRoses wrote: » A girl in my class in school was in foster care and after seeing what she went through I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, let alone an innocent child. She was moved constantly from home to home, beat up by the other foster children, the "real" children of the foster parents got treated far better and she literally had no one looking out for her apart from her social worker. She did not have a good, stable childhood. She missed out on a lot of love that caused her issues in later life. It just isn't a life I'd choose for myself or for a child.
pilly wrote: » Have you a source for this evidence from other countries please?
One eyed Jack wrote: » That wasn't the original claim at all though. The original claim had nothing to do with adoption, it related to the numbers of children in care if we had or hadn't abortion in Ireland, and I said there was simply no way of knowing whether it would make any difference, but the evidence from other countries suggests that it doesn't.
Deleted User wrote: » I think it would be fairer to say that for every "I regret my abortion" story there are maybe nine "It was the right decision for me" stories.
Ninety-five percent of women who have had abortions do not regret the decision to terminate their pregnancies, according to a study published last week in the multidisciplinary academic journal PLOS ONE. Source: http://time.com/3956781/women-abortion-regret-reproductive-health/.
kylith wrote: » What anti-choice people forget is that for every 'I regret my abortion' story there is an 'I regret not having an abortion' story.
end of the road wrote: » how is that unborn child being killed better then changing the system and insuring they go to a loving stable home once born should the parent decide they do not wish to look after it? improving the system brings greater benefits then allowing for those children to be simply aborted and then we just wash our hands of the system as will likely happen.
the thing is, as much as you may not understand it, it really isn't a matter of opinion. a system where the child is matched with a suitable home and where there is complete oversight of the adoptive/foster parents will always outweigh simply having abortion on demand as the solution.
that girl's situation was absolutely aweful, how she was treated was beyond contempt and there was no justification for it. social services are to blame for not insuring those parents were suitable foster parents. but i cannot and will not except the idea that abortion on demand is the solution to solving that problem. it's just not. the solution is improving the systems vastly and insuring they work.
WhiteRoses wrote: » You missed the point. I didn’t say the system shouldn’t be changed. I said it won’t change for a long time, if ever. In the mean time, while we are waiting for that positive change to our appalling system, abortion would be preferable for a lot of people. Part two of you missing the point. Firstly, don’t be so condescending as to imply that I don’t understand the situation. Of course being put up for adoption into a loving home with two parents and a stable upbringing is preferable to abortion. But see my point above. We don’t have a system like that in place. It’ll be years, if ever, before the system is rectified to an acceptable standard. Therefore once again, I will repeat, abortion would be preferable, for some people. That is your opinion, not a fact. I see things differently.
volchitsa wrote: » The girl whose case came to light a few months ago was wrongly incarcerated for asking for an abortion on suicide grounds. Not for "varied" reasons.
volchitsa wrote: » As for Savita, the expert who wrote the report confirmed only recently that his view was that without the law, she would have lived. They messed up her care after, true. But if the 8th hadn't been in place she wouldn't have had to wait as she did.
end of the road wrote: » it is a fact though. i understand some may not like it and that's okay, but it definitely is true that abortion on demand just isn't the solution to the problems with the system. abortion on demand may be preferable for some but it's not for society as a whole, it will become the default solution to every problem as far as the state would be concerned. that is why instead of calling for abortion on demand, forcing through the improvements to the system is the best option. so i haven't missed your point and i wasn't condescending, i was suggesting that maybe you don't understand where i was coming from in terms of my points. if you do, great, if you don't, that's okay.