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What to expect in the Boilerhouse

JaegerJak

Hey I'm going to the Boilerhouse for the first time tomorrow. I'm meeting up with someone, I have no idea what could happen. When I walk in is there a reception or a gate like in a club or is it like a narrow hall like you see in seedy movies. Is the whole place a sauna? Is there private rooms where we could go off to? Will other men just come up to me and start touching me without asking?

Sorry if these questions has been asked before but I couldn't find these exact answers on the board. I will appreciate any heads up so thanks.

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JupiterKid

Yes, the priest dying in a gay sauna story is very true. It happened in the 1990s in a (now long gone) sauna called Incognito off Aungier St. Two other priests there administered the last rites.

Ten of Swords

Beechwoodspark wrote: »

There’s a story -possibly a myth I dunno-that an elderly priest died there one night and other priests were there to do the last rites.

I always thought that was an urban legend but it turns out it was a story that's just been told so many times by so many different people it's become embellished

J_E

Beechwoodspark wrote: »

There’s a story -possibly a myth I dunno-that an elderly priest died there one night and other priests were there to do the last rites.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9nwcunhLks

imme

Beechwoodspark wrote: »

There’s a story -possibly a myth I dunno-that an elderly priest died there one night and other priests were there to do the last rites.

An internet search tells me that that man died in a sauna off aungier street.
Fr Cosgrave was his name.

Beechwoodspark

Mr.Frame wrote: »

to add to the above poster, imme.
There are married ,single, bi, guys that go to the BoilerHouse and they come in all shapes and sizes, and all ages .

There’s a story -possibly a myth I dunno-that an elderly priest died there one night and other priests were there to do the last rites.

Mr.Frame

to add to the above poster, imme.
There are married ,single, bi, guys that go to the BoilerHouse and they come in all shapes and sizes, and all ages .

imme

baby and crumble wrote: »

Yeah nobody here is going to tell you the best way to cheat on your partner, regardless of sexuality.

Sure is the boiler house not full of married men??

I don't know that the op was looking for cheating tips.

He asked about the boiler house.

He did give info about his marital status.
If he hadn't would the people who liked the last 2 posts have replied to him in a different manner.

OP: there have been many posts about the boiler house on here before, they also have a website so a search should give you answers.

In terms of gay saunas, do customers undergo health checks, no.
Do they only allow in the best looking and fittest guys, no.

Will everyone have fresh minty breath, no.

baby and crumble

Yeah nobody here is going to tell you the best way to cheat on your partner, regardless of sexuality.

metamorphosis

Johnnyhot wrote: »

hi, I'm a married man but I'm interested in meeting guys. I've never been with a guy before. I'm thinking of going to the boilerhouse some afternoon. what should I epxect.

I also like ot wear speedos. would this be a problem. I'm happy to take them off if theres any fun.

So, you're essentially looking for advice around cheating on your wife?

Probably the wrong forum.

Johnnyhot

hi, I'm a married man but I'm interested in meeting guys. I've never been with a guy before. I'm thinking of going to the boilerhouse some afternoon. what should I epxect.

I also like ot wear speedos. would this be a problem. I'm happy to take them off if theres any fun.

JupiterKid

cgcsb wrote: »

You hardly went in with that intention though?

Nope, I didn’t. But I got lucky.

cgcsb

JupiterKid wrote: »

Well, I met a long-term partner in the BH and we were together for the best part of a decade. So it IS possible to meet someone meaningful in a gay sauna but very unlikely. We met purely by chance.

You hardly went in with that intention though?

Mr.Frame

cgcsb wrote: »

Going to your local gay bath house looking for those things means you probably have worse problems.

Ive met some really nice guys in there and had fun, thats why I went.
A friend of mine did actually meet a guy in there some years back and they had a relationship and no it wasnt JupiterKid.

The Boilerhouse is what it is, guys go in looking to have sex with other guys.

JupiterKid

cgcsb wrote: »

Going to your local gay bath house looking for those things means you probably have worse problems.

Well, I met a long-term partner in the BH and we were together for the best part of a decade. So it IS possible to meet someone meaningful in a gay sauna but very unlikely. We met purely by chance.

cgcsb

Deasy15324 wrote: »

if you are looking for stimulating conversation and long term friendship probably best to stay away.

Going to your local gay bath house looking for those things means you probably have worse problems.

Deasy15324

So I went - and how good a time you have really is down to what kind of person you are (or what mood you are in at the time). I got no hassle from no one, I was approached a few times but wasnt interested so I shook my head, then I met a hottie in the jacuzzi and had a ball. Will defo go again. If you are looking for quick sex with strangers defo go, but if you are looking for stimulating conversation and long term friendship probably best to stay away.

Mongfinder General

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AllForIt

Mongfinder General wrote: »

My boss used to go to that place. He was an old dude in his 60's. A filthy animal. Reading some of the reviews online I can see why he liked the place.

Sounds like fun - what time he's there would you know?

JupiterKid

I met my former long-term partner in the Boilerhouse back in 2000. We were together for almost 10 years and remain the best of friends. So it is actually possible to meet someone worthwhile there.

That said, 95% of the encounters in the BH are for quickie sex hook up.

Basically, you buzz the door to get in. Fri and Sat nights are the most popular, especially with younger men. You then go down a corridor to the counter where you pay and get a towel and condoms and sachets of lube and a locker key. Then you go into the changing room, strip off and lock away your clothes and possessions. You put the towel around you and then go into the shower. That is the ground floor.

On the first floor, there is the jacuzzi, steam room and sauna where you strip off to use. This is where a lot of guys eye each other up and check each other out. The smoking area is also on this floor.

On the third floor are the private booths where the action happens. There is also a mirror maze and a sling. At least there used to be. It’s been about 5 years since I was last there. Play safe. Also, don’t turn up too drunk or they will turn you away.

Mongfinder General

My boss used to go to that place. He was an old dude in his 60's. A filthy animal. Reading some of the reviews online I can see why he liked the place.

Ten of Swords

Deasy15324 wrote: »

is there a specific way of telling someone they are a God and you want to ravage them.

Oh Jayzus...

Have fun

Annasopra

Deasy15324 wrote: »

Hi guys, I am going to BH tomorrow, not expecting anything - me and a friend (both late 20s) are going just to see what its like more than anything but my question is how do I make it clear if someone wants something but I dont.
I dont want to come off as an asshole but I dont want to do something I am not comfortable with. Is it acceptable to say "No Thanks" and move away from the person?

Of course. Yes. If you are not interested just say no thanks and walk away.

Deasy15324

imme wrote: »

I think you have to make it clear OP

Why would you think you'd look like an asshole by not making clear and otherwise you'd be doing something you don't want to do

Dunno I thought there might be some sort of gay sauna etiquite that I'm not familiar with. As most lads go there for sex if I reject someone advances is he gonna think "what did you come here for then". Obviously I'm not going to do something I don't want to do. Just wanted to ask anyone who goes regularly is there a specific way to reject someone or the opposit is there a specific way of telling someone they are a God and you want to ravage them.

Heebie

Deasy15324 wrote:

Hi guys, I am going to BH tomorrow, not expecting anything - me and a friend (both late 20s) are going just to see what its like more than anything but my question is how do I make it clear if someone wants something but I dont. I dont want to come off as an asshole but I dont want to do something I am not comfortable with. Is it acceptable to say "No Thanks" and move away from the person?

The way that seems most used is looking away from someone. Generally holding their gaze tends to mean you're interested (or that they are)
Often, the looking away will be accompanied by a look that says "how dare you even think it's give you the time of day" quite sadly.
Using words, and only accepting information as words, is definitely at your own discretion.
If someone is polite "no, thanks" should do. If someone doesn't seem to want to take no for an answer, you might choose your words with less consideration, and speak louder.
If he persists, you can contact a member of staff.
Your safety is important, and the staff should know how to handle it.

Hopefully you had a good time!

imme

Deasy15324 wrote: »

Hi guys, I am going to BH tomorrow, not expecting anything - me and a friend (both late 20s) are going just to see what its like more than anything but my question is how do I make it clear if someone wants something but I dont.
I dont want to come off as an asshole but I dont want to do something I am not comfortable with. Is it acceptable to say "No Thanks" and move away from the person?

I think you have to make it clear OP

Why would you think you'd look like an asshole by not making clear and otherwise you'd be doing something you don't want to do

Deasy15324

Hi guys, I am going to BH tomorrow, not expecting anything - me and a friend (both late 20s) are going just to see what its like more than anything but my question is how do I make it clear if someone wants something but I dont.
I dont want to come off as an asshole but I dont want to do something I am not comfortable with. Is it acceptable to say "No Thanks" and move away from the person?

wordofwarning

Gael23 wrote: »

Tried ringing and it says leave your name & number and they will call you back. Is that normal?

Tried ringing who? The GMHS have limited hours. At times you will struggle to find someone to contact

Gael23

Tried ringing and it says leave your name & number and they will call you back. Is that normal?

wordofwarning

Gael23 wrote: »

Yes never been tested before but this was my first such encounter so never felt the need to.

You are the textbook definition of someone who should have gotten the HPV vaccine ie someone before they had any sexual encounters. You need to get the vaccines regardless of the number of your partners.

You ideally need to get the HPV vaccine now ie before more partners.

Mr.Frame

Gael23 wrote: »

Yes never been tested before but this was my first such encounter so never felt the need to.

I would hazard a guess and say you will be ok . However as a sexually active gay man you should go for a regular check up.