Outlaw Pete wrote: » First of all, can't stand Jeremy McConnell, total clown of a man, grade A plonker if ever there was one (as is Stephanie Davis.... wish I never heard of either of them) but still and all, I'm very surprised at how little condemnation there is in general to her apparently beating him about the head and face with a bed post in a hotel over the past few days..... and which she as later arrested for and released the next day.... while pregnant too. (DM link). Majority of comments online I've seen were pretty much just saying he must have deserved and sure what does he expect hanging around with someone like her........ which I simply can't imagine being said were the injuries the other way around. I know we had Kelly Brook laughing on This Morning about punching boyfriends (including Jason Statham) and Beyonce's sister kicking Jay-Z in the lift etc........... but there were no injuries to see those cases, so you could almost understand the head in the sand reactions. Here though there can be no doubt about the level of assault but the reaction just all seems a bit.... meh... to the whole thing. It's been reported by the red tops alright but anyone I have spoken to laughed tbh while they discussed. Certainly a much different reaction than when the photos of Rhinana were splashed across the pages.... not that I'm saying they are the same, I appreciate her injuries did seem worse.... but considering she apparently hit him a bed post, she damn lucky she didn't kill him. Feel sorry for the kid in all this also...... both of them........ as one day they'll be old enough to Google this crap and be able to see what mammy and daddy got up to when they were young (/on the way).
Sleepy wrote: » Who the **** are Jeremy McConnell and Stephanie Davis? Never heard of either of them.
The domestic abuser next door Abusers do not always look like abusers – and victims can look like gentle giants about 11 hours ago Jennifer O'Connellhttps://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/the-domestic-abuser-next-door-1.3137987
iptba wrote: » From the Irish Times:
py2006 wrote: » In a nutshell? (too lazy to read)
Diana suspected Douglas of “fahking” about with his PA. I don’t know how Douglas felt about this accusation because, even in extremis, he rarely said much. On and on she would go, about the life she didn’t sign up for, the kids she didn’t want, the husband who was unfaithful and weak. Thud. And whose fahking PA could fahking have him. Thud. Useless p***k. Thud. Had she thrown something? Hit something? Hit him? I didn’t know. He never made a sound. Never shouted or tried to placate her. That was the worst part, the silence. You’d not have known he was there at all, except you’d see him in the garden the next morning, wordlessly serving pancakes to the kids at 7am. They moved away after a while. Years passed, and I forgot about them, until I read an article recently about how charming men can make dangerous lovers. They can draw you in by being loving and charismatic, it said. But so too can charming women. The thing about abusers is that they don’t always look like abusers. They can look like a tiny Princess Diana in Coach loafers. The victims of the abuse can look like gentle giants. They can look like reliable men with big jobs who know their way around a barbecue. They can look like me and you. They can look like the nice couple next door.
Government considering domestic violence offence, UN toldhttps://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/government-considering-domestic-violence-offence-un-told-1.3170317
Lavinia Woodward: Oxford student who was told she could avoid prison sentence 'due to her extraordinary talent' is spared jail ‘Whilst you are a clearly highly-intelligent individual, you had an immaturity about you,’ judge tells aspiring heart surgeon
Rubberchikken wrote: » Just read this today. First thought was if sexes were turned around, I'm betting he would have been jailed or the knives would have been out. The fact that a conviction might have affected this woman's future chances as a doctor shouldn't have entered the equation. What she was accused of was horrendous and should have been punished by jail time no matter how intelligent or immature she may be.
silverharp wrote: and she has decided not to go back to college because "she is too well known" so the reasoning is self cancelling her career is over before it started. she is basically a psycho, nobody will hire her.
py2006 wrote: » iptba wrote: » From the Irish Times: In a nutshell? (too lazy to read)
Rubberchikken wrote: » The fact that a conviction might have affected this woman's future chances as a doctor shouldn't have entered the equation. What she was accused of was horrendous and should have been punished by jail time no matter how intelligent or immature she may be.
The probation officer weighed the fact that he has surrendered a hard-earned swimming scholarship. How fast Brock swims does not lessen the severity of what happened to me, and should not lessen the severity of his punishment. If a first-time offender from an underprivileged background was accused of three felonies and displayed no accountability for his actions other than drinking, what would his sentence be? The fact that Brock was an athlete at a private university should not be seen as an entitlement to leniency, but as an opportunity to send a message that sexual assault is against the law regardless of social class.
Father wins barring order against wife who doctored whey powder Judge told woman ‘tried to finish me off’ by putting crushed paracetamol in protein
FishOnABike wrote: » The lack of balance and one sided reporting on domestic violence needs to be challenged.https://m.medicalxpress.com/news/2014-06-women-aggressive-men-relationships.html Research, going back to Erin Pizzey, founder of the first domestic violence shelters, shows that domestic violence is not a gender based issue. Treating it as such leaves half of those who experience domestic violence without a voice and without support.
alchemist33 wrote: » Half? I'm as glad as anyone that domestic violence against men is being highlighted (e.g. it was in that series of tv ads a few months ago) but let's not get the idea there's a 50/50 gender split among victims. Male victims are a minority - a sizeable minority who deserve support and services - but women are in the majority here. (Note, just in case - I'm a man, not a feminist of any kind)
FishOnABike wrote: » It's a lot closer to 50/50 than is commonly thought, probably within single digit % of 50/50 according to multiple independent sources of academic research (e.g. Elizabeth Bates, Murray A. Strauss, Richard J. Gelles, Erin Pizzey amongst others). The constantly repeated myth that it is otherwise has and continues to leave support for male victims of intimate partner violence and abuse drastically under resourced and under funded almost to the point of non- existence.
Saruhashi wrote: » Why don't we just discuss "victims of domestic violence" without going out of our way to separate the victims into "male" and "female" categories?
Women's Aid December 6 at 4:02pm · Myth: “She must have done something to deserve it” Fact: No woman ever deserves abuse. The sort of abuse disclosed to Women’s Aid by women using our 24hr National Freephone Helpline is never okay. Every day we hear from women who feel trapped, alone and isolated. A common reaction to a woman speaking about her experience of domestic violence is to focus on her credibility, her actions and her behaviour. Society analyses and judges her choices. Unhelpful speculation can include suggestions that she is lying or that her actions may have provoked the abuse. This is typical of a ‘victim blaming’ mentality which focuses on the behaviour of the woman, rather than the perpetrator of the abuse. Blaming is something that abusers will often do to make excuses for their behaviour. This is part of the pattern of abuse. Sometimes abusers manage to convince their victims that they are to blame for the abuse. The challenge for society is to treat the crime of domestic abuse as seriously as it deserves and place the responsibility solely at the hands of the perpetrator. Until we do, women will remain at risk and afraid to speak up. Download the postcard series here: https://www.womensaid.ie/about/campaigns/resources
A bystander to action: warning signs of domestic abuse Being a witness to domestic abuse can often leave a person unsure of how to act. Here are stories of people whose experience of domestic abuse was changed by the actions of a bystander Sat, Dec 16, 2017, 08:00 Sponsored by Cosc and The Department of Justice and Equality
https://meowitstimetoduel.tumblr.com/post/171278682392/just-shower-thoughts-a-guy-can-decline-an A guy can decline an invitation by saying his girlfriend won’t let him go and everyone will likely understand. But if a girl declines an invitation by saying her boyfriend won’t let her go, people will likely get concerned.
iptba wrote: » Just came across this on Tumblr. I presume like most things on Tumblr the point is that this is unfair on girls but what it suggests to me is a female partner controlling to some extent a male partner is more socially acceptable than vice versa.
