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People on Boards who judge other people

steddyeddy

There's a strong element of looking down on other people present on these pages. Be the targets poor people, single mothers or working class people as they put it. The thing is I rarely rarely hear those views among real people. Are more people than I think judgmental or does Boards bring out the extremes in society?

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Samaris

Jack the Stripper wrote: »

What's with the cap locks none of us have a visual impairment.

I might and I look down my nose (myopically) at you for assuming such ableism!

Harumph, I say.

One eyed Jack

Jack the Stripper wrote: »

What's with the cap locks none of us have a visual impairment.

o/

:pac:

CzechChick

Somedude9 wrote: »

You're all a bunch of little whinging geebags...Whoops

You are a nerd

KERSPLAT!

CzechChick wrote: »

You are a nerd

And a dude none the less. Banned.

[Deleted User]

KERSPLAT! wrote: »

And a dude none the less. Banned.

:pac:

Graces7

Judging others as being judgemental is the worst and most hypocritical judgementalism there is.

And misinterpreting posts as judgmental comes a close second

And these two are epidemic here.

[Deleted User]

Graces7 wrote: »

Judging others as being judgemental is the worst and most hypocritical judgementalism there is.

And misinterpreting posts as judgmental comes a close second

And these two are epidemic here.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/endemic

KERSPLAT!

hungry hypno toad wrote: »

Agreed, express any legitimate concerns about the impact of mass immigration on Europe and European values and you are branded racist or far right. The biased moderation is not helpful either.

Plus lots of anti British sentiment which I find disappointing along with others gloating over the democratic Brexit decision and the alleged damage it will do the British economy.

Mod

Take your mod issues to the appropriate forums. This isn't one of them.

Permabear

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steddyeddy

Leilani Disgusting Posy wrote: »

I agree with most of that but, in fairness, there are one or two of those less fortunate, as you put it, who are very intolerant of anybody who can afford to have, eat, do, or enjoy anything that they don't. Like everything in life, it works both ways.

That's very true but it's also fair to say that polarising opinions often serve to polarise views (captain state the obvious here)

There are threads were people line up to say "poor people don't want education, people's poverty is their own doing, single mothers should know when to stop having kids ect". These sort of views bring out opposing and sometimes, equally vile views.

I don't agree with the ridiculous everyone should feel ashamed for eating out view, but I think it's understandable when people question privilege in response to dole bashing.

For example two of the biggest dole and poverty bashers on here talk about inheriting their house, getting their mother/spouse to wash all their clothes and then talk about other people not being self reliant. Now I myself am being judgmental here, but it's hard not to be when some views are presented and those espousing them. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just detailing how judgement begets judgement.

One eyed Jack

I hadn't realised this was a thread for people to air their personal grievances with other posters. Not something I think anyone should get caught up in tbh.

Your Face

steddyeddy wrote: »

There's a strong element of looking down on other people present on these pages. Be the targets poor people, single mothers or working class people as they put it. The thing is I rarely rarely hear those views among real people. Are more people than I think judgmental or does Boards bring out the extremes in society?

I think you have taking a certain position which may lead to a degree of judgement.

I have heard these views in real life and plenty more besides.

You mentioned working class etc but what about the bias against anyone who strives to be successful.

Everyone gets judged and its up to the individual to deal with it.

Permabear

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[Deleted User]

steddyeddy wrote: »

There's a strong element of looking down on other people present on these pages. Be the targets poor people, single mothers or working class people as they put it. The thing is I rarely rarely hear those views among real people. Are more people than I think judgmental or does Boards bring out the extremes in society?

I find this place to be the antithesis of the likes of some other places. Take for example, the Sunday World Facebook page. Full of people making excuses for criminals and fraudsters. ''Ah shure nobody got hurt, what harm''. There was a cash-in-transit robbery this week and one comment said ''Fair juice 2 de boys, Enda Kenny stole all are jobs inanyway''.

There's got to be a middle ground somewhere!

DeanAustin

Had to laugh yesterday at someone claiming they were being bullied on here. Wind yer neck in and grow thicker skin, it's the internet FFS.

Cyber bullying to me is when someone in real life bullies you online. I could get that. I don't consider what happens on here between people who don't know each other as bullying. If yer that bothered ignore those people or find another site.

pilly

I think some on boards find the courage to express their true views from behind a keyboard and then some just like to wind others up.

Hard to tell the difference sometimes.

Widdershins

A bit of puritanical opinion going around alright, but then I've been seen as judgemental of the hijab even though it's the idea behind it,which basically amounts to more puritanism again, imo. My friend said everyone judges somebody, but I don't know if that's true..

It's not just Boards either. Try being a vegetarian or vegan on Facebook, it does not go down well. On the other hand you'd see fanatical vegans judging meat eaters there as well.

pilly

Personally my views on here are the same as what I express in real life and I don't think there's any harm in calling people out on their judgemental view of anyone.

pilly

DeanAustin wrote:

Cyber bullying to me is when someone in real life bullies you online. I could get that. I don't consider what happens on here between people who don't know each other as bullying. If yer that bothered ignore those people or find another site.

You do realise this IS real life don't you? Do people honestly think boards is an alternate universe where there aren't really people behind their posts.

Just because it's anonymous doesn't give people licence to bully.

Solomon Pleasant

Ireland has built a society which prides itself on material possession (cars/obsessive property ownership being regarded as a fundamental success metric being the perfect example) and one which is innately judgmental as a result. It's not just boards where people judge each other, people judge each other everywhere and at every opportunity they get - people are just generally more vocal about it on boards because it's an anonymous internet forum which won't affect people's views of the poster in reality, therefore granting them the perfect opportunity to voice their actual opinions. I don't think that this is a phenomenon unique to Ireland but it is extremely prominent in Ireland and something which I really dislike about the country.

alig123aileen

I agree absolutely with your post and great of you to post . People come on boards for advice or direction usually. I Have been shocked sometimes by the judgemental attitude of some replies to people genuinely seeking assistance . No attempt to empathise with anyone's situation or support anyone. I've seen people complain about unfair train fines being slapped on them and people hop on them and turn into 'moral 'police and telling them to 'pay up him how dare they!. I think in the recession Irish people have got a lot more judgemental and confrontational (sometimes even hostile...) it's the wild Atlantic Rage that permeates this country. Sad and we need to tackle our lack of emotional intelligence and show empathy and kindness more.

DeanAustin

pilly wrote: »

You do realise this IS real life don't you? Do people honestly think boards is an alternate universe where there aren't really people behind their posts.

Just because it's anonymous doesn't give people licence to bully.

Ah would you stop. Nothing anyone says on here influences anything I do in real life. People also only criticise my opinions, not me or my family. I don't know anyone on here, they don't know me as far as I know. It's a virtual world with no impact on my life. If anyone takes it any more seriously than that, they need to look in the mirror.

Calling what happens on here bullying only demeans the word which, when it actually happens, is a serious issue.

Graces7

steddyeddy wrote: »

That's very true but it's also fair to say that polarising opinions often serve to polarise views (captain state the obvious here)

There are threads were people line up to say "poor people don't want education, people's poverty is their own doing, single mothers should know when to stop having kids ect". These sort of views bring out opposing and sometimes, equally vile views.

I don't agree with the ridiculous everyone should feel ashamed for eating out view, but I think it's understandable when people question privilege in response to dole bashing.

For example two of the biggest dole and poverty bashers on here talk about inheriting their house, getting their mother/spouse to wash all their clothes and then talk about other people not being self reliant. Now I myself am being judgmental here, but it's hard not to be when some views are presented and those espousing them. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just detailing how judgement begets judgement.

That was never ever said or implied.Just that many of us would not do it or enjoy it and would not value it.

[Deleted User]

It would very much depend on the people I was talking to. In real life among friends and family I would express opinions I would get banned for on boards very quickly while among people I don't know or people in a work environment I would tone it down a lot and keep my opinions to myself even more so than on boards.

Graces7

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I hadn't realised this was a thread for people to air their personal grievances with other posters. Not something I think anyone should get caught up in tbh.

the ignore option is a great blessing

pilly

alig123aileen wrote:

I agree absolutely with your post and great of you to post . People come on boards for advice or direction usually. I Have been shocked sometimes by the judgemental attitude of some replies to people genuinely seeking assistance . No attempt to empathise with anyone's situation or support anyone. I've seen people complain about unfair train fines being slapped on them and people hop on them and turn into 'moral 'police and telling them to 'pay up him how dare they!. I think in the recession Irish people have got a lot more judgemental and confrontational (sometimes even hostile...) it's the wild Atlantic Rage that permeates this country. Sad and we need to tackle our lack of emotional intelligence and show empathy and kindness more.

Totally agree. I've only ever posted once on boards for advice. Never again.

People take great delight in telling people how wrong they are to have a problem with something.

It's a horrible trait.

Permabear

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People voted for Trump and Brexit who wouldn't have necessarily supported them in public, and boards denizens who would never voice those opinions in person are emboldened by the pseudo anonymous nature of a message board in the same way voters are emboldened by the anonymity of a ballot box.

The spiteful vendetta against single mothers and those on welfare is notable, especially when it's obviously coming from someone who's had every advantage in life. The sneering at the working poor for not making ends meet, implying they just don't work hard enough is particularly prevalent. Not everyone has the means to secure a high paying job, lots of people work themselves blue making ends meet. You can do absolutely everything right and still lose out, and it says volumes about people who'll run that down instead of having some understanding or compassion for people caught in a poverty trap not of their own making.

pilly

Permabear wrote:

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That one definitely works both ways. Horrible attitudes on both sides.

johnnyskeleton

EICVD wrote: »

It's easy to judge people hiding behind a username!

Fun too!