Surreptitious wrote: » She means 8 dates not 8 months which is even worse.
neonsofa wrote: » What I, or you for that matter, think doesn't come into it because it's your mams house and what she thinks/wants/feels is all that matters when it comes to who she let's into her house. 8 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things if you're planning on spending your life together so if you expect it to last then there really is no rush. If its just a bit of fun then there is no point in falling out with your mam over some random guy. There are plenty of ways to see each other that don't involve money and tbh it's not really your mother's concern how you spend your money, she isn't there to subsidise your social/love life.
boobycharlton wrote: » donkeykong5 wrote: » The words you used to describe your mother on mothers day were truly awful. Yeah! Hallmark would be disgusted that you disgraced their day with such foul words. Bloody hell, get a grip.
donkeykong5 wrote: » The words you used to describe your mother on mothers day were truly awful.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » Yet, my brother who doesn't pay a penny towards anything, brings home his girlfriend without introducing her and into his bed. Moving too fast for a movie night? What is a suitable timeframe to have someone over for a movie? Will I wait for 10 dates, or maybe 10 months. We have 8 under our belt. The reason half my brothers don't know I'm dating is because they are on the other end of he world. Or perhaps I'll go out every weekend to see him and spend money I don't have and money my mam is so eager to get her hands on.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: Or perhaps I'll go out every weekend to see him and spend money I don't have and money my mam is so eager to get her hands on.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » I have a fantastic idea for a business (and it's not a brothel) but I would never know how to get it off the ground.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » Unfortunately, he also lives at home.
ibarelycare wrote: » Why can't you go to his house?
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » neonsofa wrote: » But you even said yourself that the issue isn't with who he is, it's that she feels you're moving too fast with him. You say your brothers dont even know ye are dating so it's obviously not a long term thing where he has been introduced to all the family as your boyfriend and has been accepted as part of the family, he is a new partner and if she doesn't feel comfortable with him staying in her house then it's her prerogative, doesn't make her a cnut like you said. Yet, my brother who doesn't pay a penny towards anything, brings home his girlfriend without introducing her and into his bed. Moving too fast for a movie night? What is a suitable timeframe to have someone over for a movie? Will I wait for 10 dates, or maybe 10 months. We have 8 under our belt. The reason half my brothers don't know I'm dating is because they are on the other end of he world. Or perhaps I'll go out every weekend to see him and spend money I don't have and money my mam is so eager doto get her hands on.
neonsofa wrote: » But you even said yourself that the issue isn't with who he is, it's that she feels you're moving too fast with him. You say your brothers dont even know ye are dating so it's obviously not a long term thing where he has been introduced to all the family as your boyfriend and has been accepted as part of the family, he is a new partner and if she doesn't feel comfortable with him staying in her house then it's her prerogative, doesn't make her a cnut like you said.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » I can see how she may not be too pleased to have a new person come in visiting. I can see that. The lad is local to us, he works locally and he knows some family already and my brothers know him too but they don't I'm dating yet. He is very sound and kind. Really, there's little to worry about here.
pilly wrote: » Ah come now, the unemployment rate is down at its lowest in years and that's not just from people in a specialized industry in Dublin getting jobs.
mickdw wrote: » Set up a business. I worked 8 to 6 with 1 hour morning and evening commute on top for 3 years after leaving college. Couldn't figure out how people do this for a lifetime as it's really not living at all. I got a little business going and packed up the job. I probably work just as many hours but it's my choice and the more I do, the more I get paid. I can schedule jobs to give mysslf a day off etc. Self employment had many downsides too but at least you get some kind of a life.
pilly wrote: » Well that's a lot more measured than your horrible horrible post yesterday. On mother's day of all days you called your mother (who raised you on her own) a cnut and wished for the day when she's old and frail (presumably so you can treat her like ****). You don't realise how lucky you are to have a home to go back to. Lots of young people out there who don't have the option to go back home. And as for jumping in a coffin because your Mam won't let you have movie night, get over yourself, seriously. Did it occur to you that maybe she was in bad mood because you weren't treating her nicely on Mothers Day? Really you will only appreciate your mother when you become a mother yourself and realise how hard it is.
BrokenArrows wrote: » The person i quoted pays rent, bills, put in a new kitchen and bathroom. In my opinion they are no longer just living there with their parents. At the very least they should be allowed have a boyfriend over.
JupiterKid wrote: » Public transportation in Dublin is so appallingly bad that unless you have a car or a fortunate to live beside a rail/Luas line, a 4.5 hour commute just WITHIN the city is very possible. It's a scandal and I don't know how people put up with it.
pilly wrote: » That's because it is her house? I bought my house, if my grown up children decide to move back home it doesn't make it a house share whether or not they pay rent? Where on earth are you getting your logic from?
BrokenArrows wrote: » Nothing you can really do about it. Shes stuck in her ways and regardless of you paying your way she will never see it as a shared house. It will always be her house her rules. Just forget it and save your pennies and move out and try and get a better job and try and resist helping her will bills. There will be a spare room in the house when you leave and she can rent it out if she wants some extra money coming in.
pilly wrote: » Broken Hearted Road wrote: » I come from a broken family. My father left a long time ago and never provided for us. Growing up things were always though. We made the best of things though. You don't climb out from that poverty over night. When I started work, I knew what I wanted to do. Save some money and put it towards to house because so much was neglected. I was able to chip in for a new sitting room. I was able to pay for a new kitchen and bathroom. Eventually I moved and rented for a few years, then bang the recession came and my wage was hit. I tried so hard to hold onto my apartment but I couldn't afford the rent on my place any more. The three months there was very, very, very hard. I had to move back home. My mam was happy with this too. I find now, there's nothing working out for me anymore. I do enjoy the work I do but it's just not working any more for me. My income is less than 300 a week. Out from that comes so much for bills and groceries etc. Yesterday was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I'm breaking my back every day to bring in a wage and help at home. Then she back tracked on what we talked about allowing me to have my boyfriend over and went on a nutty rant about respect, respect, respect, respect and bla, bla, bla and 'you're moving too fast with this last'. It's a movie night. To spend the night together and to save a bit doing so. Respect goes two ways and I'm doing all I can. A little courtesy wouldn't go astray. Another deal breaker, I have a brother at home and he pays nothing. He has a girlfriend and a new thing from him, he takes her home and into his room. She doesn't like it and rants away to me about it but she won't say a thing to him in fear of her baby boy running. I'll be packing things up here by May. May is the deadline for me to get a houseshare in the city and hopefully change jobs in the summer too. Mam is going to crumble when all the bills will be on her back with no one to chip in. She came to me before when I was renting 'for loans' of me to pay bills. Well that's a lot more measured than your horrible horrible post yesterday. On mother's day of all days you called your mother (who raised you on her own) a cnut and wished for the day when she's old and frail (presumably so you can treat her like ****). You don't realise how lucky you are to have a home to go back to. Lots of young people out there who don't have the option to go back home. And as for jumping in a coffin because your Mam won't let you have movie night, get over yourself, seriously. Did it occur to you that maybe she was in bad mood because you weren't treating her nicely on Mothers Day? Really you will only appreciate your mother when you become a mother yourself and realise how hard it is.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » I come from a broken family. My father left a long time ago and never provided for us. Growing up things were always though. We made the best of things though. You don't climb out from that poverty over night. When I started work, I knew what I wanted to do. Save some money and put it towards to house because so much was neglected. I was able to chip in for a new sitting room. I was able to pay for a new kitchen and bathroom. Eventually I moved and rented for a few years, then bang the recession came and my wage was hit. I tried so hard to hold onto my apartment but I couldn't afford the rent on my place any more. The three months there was very, very, very hard. I had to move back home. My mam was happy with this too. I find now, there's nothing working out for me anymore. I do enjoy the work I do but it's just not working any more for me. My income is less than 300 a week. Out from that comes so much for bills and groceries etc. Yesterday was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I'm breaking my back every day to bring in a wage and help at home. Then she back tracked on what we talked about allowing me to have my boyfriend over and went on a nutty rant about respect, respect, respect, respect and bla, bla, bla and 'you're moving too fast with this last'. It's a movie night. To spend the night together and to save a bit doing so. Respect goes two ways and I'm doing all I can. A little courtesy wouldn't go astray. Another deal breaker, I have a brother at home and he pays nothing. He has a girlfriend and a new thing from him, he takes her home and into his room. She doesn't like it and rants away to me about it but she won't say a thing to him in fear of her baby boy running. I'll be packing things up here by May. May is the deadline for me to get a houseshare in the city and hopefully change jobs in the summer too. Mam is going to crumble when all the bills will be on her back with no one to chip in. She came to me before when I was renting 'for loans' of me to pay bills.
Broken Hearted Road wrote: » mike_ie wrote: » Respect, apparently.... I come from a broken family. My father left a long time ago and never provided for us. Growing up things were always though. We made the best of things though. You don't climb out from that poverty over night. When I started work, I knew what I wanted to do. Save some money and put it towards to house because so much was neglected. I was able to chip in for a new sitting room. I was able to pay for a new kitchen and bathroom. Eventually I moved and rented for a few years, then bang the recession came and my wage was hit. I tried so hard to hold onto my apartment but I couldn't afford the rent on my place any more. The three months there was very, very, very hard. I had to move back home. My mam was happy with this too. I find now, there's nothing working out for me anymore. I do enjoy the work I do but it's just not working any more for me. My income is less than 300 a week. Out from that comes so much for bills and groceries etc. Yesterday was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I'm breaking my back every day to bring in a wage and help at home. Then she back tracked on what we talked about allowing me to have my boyfriend over and went on a nutty rant about respect, respect, respect, respect and bla, bla, bla and 'you're moving too fast with this last'. It's a movie night. To spend the night together and to save a bit doing so. Respect goes two ways and I'm doing all I can. A little courtesy wouldn't go astray. Another deal breaker, I have a brother at home and he pays nothing. He has a girlfriend and a new thing from him, he takes her home and into his room. She doesn't like it and rants away to me about it but she won't say a thing to him in fear of her baby boy running. I'll be packing things up here by May. May is the deadline for me to get a houseshare in the city and hopefully change jobs in the summer too. Mam is going to crumble when all the bills will be on her back with no one to chip in. She came to me before when I was renting 'for loans' of me to pay bills.
mike_ie wrote: » Respect, apparently....
donkeykong5 wrote: » ... Maybe give her a bit of slack.
