suicide_circus wrote: » As a child, if I told my dad that a neighbour had shouted at me I would have got in trouble for annoying the neighbours. I should probably go get some counselling.
Westley Gorgeous Mucus wrote: » I think you overreacted and could have dealt with neighbour kids on your lawn in a much more measured and proportional way.
Tzardine wrote: » Tell me about your relationship with your father.
Specialun wrote: » No. the bike was in my lawn. How was i aggressive. I asked them to FO, they came back. When somebody comes to my door looking 4 a barney and having a go am i to offer them a box of butlers chocs and a spa weekend away
pablo128 wrote: » I live on a corner in an estate in Tallaght. We get hounded, if it's not kids coming in banging on the windows or staring in the windows, its some other knacker behaviour. We are here 7 years and still get it. We managed to stop the ones who would stand outside and abuse my partner when she went outside, by finding where they lived and telling the parents, although like the OP, one of them came around first shouting the odds about 'abusing' his darling child. He fcuked off with his tail between his legs when he realised exactly what his angel was doing. We haven't seen his kid since either. Then there was the Romanian kid who was terrorising the road with his cousin. Until he put a brick through my window. Then I went around to his house, marched straight in to the sitting room when the door opened, and went ballistic to his father, letting him know what I was going to do if he didn't pay for my window. I had 90 euro the next day off him.
Little CuChulainn wrote: » There is a middle ground between confrontation and surrender. Aggressive people don't usually see that, which is why I'd consider you to be aggressive. Sounds like your tactics aren't working too well.
pablo128 wrote: » Well neither do yours given the profession that you are in. We tried that route first. Any suggestions rather than idle remarks?
Little CuChulainn wrote: » Yeah, don't be so aggressive and confrontational with your neighbours.
pablo128 wrote: » You don't live in a rough area, do you? You let things like that go, and you are seen as a soft touch and will be hounded day and night. Don't get me wrong. I've no problem with a ball coming in the garden or nick nack or kids making noise. But when your family are being abused and your property attacked and the gardai can't or won't do anything, well in my book it's time to take matters into your own hands.
Specialun wrote: » You must be on the wind up..so the 2nd time they came back what am i to do..ask them kindly again???
Little CuChulainn wrote: » And in many cases that just escalates things. Yes.
Samuel T. Cogley wrote: » Well to be fair OP you didn't even ask nicely once. You may have tried that at least once, as you've nowhere to go now. I'd still have shouted at the kids and I wouldn't have bothered going over but I do think once the neighbour is on the door step a middle road might have been worth trying. That said dunno if I'd have the presence of mind at that point, I'd probably bite back too.
anewme wrote: » The neighbours attitude is what was wrong, not the OP's. Op was already annoyed so a narky neighbour giving out in his own doorstep would not have gone down well. Agree with the other posters, if we had gone home and said Mr. Smith or whoever gave out to us for looking in the windows, we'd have been given short shrift. If someone kicked my door in a threatening manner , I'd be calling the Gardai.
pablo128 wrote: » I can't agree with this more. Someone comes and has an argument, fair enough. If someone booted my door I wouldn't hold back.
Specialun wrote: » I opened the door and off he rattled. The kids should not be on my property, not once or not twice. They were asked to leave. They came back.
amcalester wrote: » When I was a kid the only neighbours we purposely annoyed were the ones who got reacted like you OP.
Live65a846d0ee wrote: » Jesus, relax, it's such a nice day outside and you get mad about nothing. It's children playing for ****s sake get a ****ing grip. Evil human being, just has to infect everyone else with their bad mood.
Live65a846d0ee wrote: » End of the ****ing world, wish there was less evil men like you and more nice people in this world literally ruining the days of other people.
