I am in my early twenties and have recently been given the opportunity to relocate for work. I also live at home. The job is low waged, but I would have enough to live independently and I could 100% live out, although I'd imagine there will be a bumpy few weeks figuring out budgets and things. My problem surrounds my parents. I love them both dearly although we are not the sort of family to say it. They are older parents and have several minor-ish medical conditions which are age related. They are both relatively active, but my father in particular has had a number of health scares in recent years which involves regular hospital check ups. All of my siblings and parents live in the same county, and I will be working down the other end of the country.
The thought of something happening to them when I'm away and me not being there for them deeply upsets me. I don't know what I would do. I could turn down this job but if I do I will be unemployed as my current position will be gone from where I'm based now. I am the youngest and like to be there for my parents, even if just for the company as they live in a remote area. I think their wellbeing is increased by my presence - that sounds bigheaded, but when one can't be bothered staying up and goes to bed early I sit up with the other for a while and have tea and a chat. I feel like I'm bonding with them like I never did before, as I am old enough now to appreciate them and not clash heads with them too regularly.
I also don't want to be the one of the family that just fecked off to earn cash (not even enough to give them a cut each week - which I would really like to do as a thank you) and then swan back red eyed if they die suddenly, or worse leave their care in the hands of my siblings, and be the one to not help out if they get sick. The new job will give me a 9 month probationary period after which time I can leave if its not for me.