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Gay porn

  • 15-02-2010 9:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Regular poster, going unreg for this one.

    I was on my OH's computer today doing some research for a project I am doing when I came across a porn site that he seemed to be going onto regularly. Now, usually I have no problem with porn at all, I find it a healthy part of our relationship as we usually view it together. The videos that I discovered however all involved men partaking in a variety of sexual acts.

    We have a very open and honest relationship and I only assume that him keeping this from me means that he is ashamed? Embarrased by being turned on by members of the same sex? He's a very traditional man and although we have homosexual friends, he is never fully comfortable around them, much to all of our amusement.

    I am not worried about it, simply wondering is it normal for straight men to view gay porn?


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  • #2
    Miller Boy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭Miller Boy


    It's certainly normal for many men to be curious about what goes on in gay porn clips. If he watches it a lot, maybe you should ask him about it.


  • #3
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Yeah, pretty normal, out of curiosity and suchlike. There's a million and one reasons why he was looking it up before "he's secretly gay", up to and including sending it to mates as a prank or simply wondering about what it was.

    I wouldn't worry - as long as everything is ok in your relationship, this shoudn't raise any flags.


  • #4
    GiftofGab
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,390 ✭✭✭GiftofGab


    I am male and I think that this is not normal at all. Well, not normal for a straight guy. I would honestly think that any male that looks up any sort of gay porn is a homosexual (or bi since his is your OH). If he is frequently looking at it, you should be very worried. As a male, I would not be one bit curious at all. I have never viewed gay porn.


  • #5
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I don't think you should necessarily be worried but if you are wondering about it and it's playing on your mind, why not just ask him about it? He hasn't deleted all history, it's not being done furtively so I'd just say you have noticed & ask him about it. Best of luck.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    He could well be feeling insecure around your gay friends because he is very nervous about his own underlying feelings about being attracted to men. I think you are just going to have to ask him about it. It would be better you know now if that is indeed the case...


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  • #7
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    I agree with shellyboo. Its not a red flag per say.

    But as his girlfriend you would feel a bit taken back by it. Anyone would. To be with someone and feel you know them in and out, then to find out they might be curious. It would take you back a bit. Its one of those things. Being of the subject nature (and a guy) you could forgive if he withheld anything But within saying that if you date someone, and seeing as how you both say you are open minded it is a bit weird for him to with hold it. But he is a guy after all. But thats a grey area.

    Personally, i'd put money on that he is "curious" - weather or not he does anything is a different story. If you said he was on a gay site thats about contacting other gay people thats a different story. (then we are talking red flags)

    Over the next while, and when you get a chance mention bisexuality or men being curious. He might open up. I think he should. There is nothing wrong with if you were curious at one point and hiding that, but if you are currently curious .. i dont think that should be hidden to your partner.

    You say him and you have the same homosexual friends. If he told one of them before you then yeah, you, or anyone would be very annoyed. but as it stands right now. You found out a clue that suggest he might be curious (but lets be honest there is no might about it... its just about how curious he is now )


  • #8
    krudler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    GiftofGab wrote: »
    I am male and I think that this is not normal at all. Well, not normal for a straight guy. I would honestly think that any male that looks up any sort of gay porn is a homosexual (or bi since his is your OH). If he is frequently looking at it, you should be very worried. As a male, I would not be one bit curious at all. I have never viewed gay porn.

    Plenty of straight girls look at lesbian porn, whats the difference?


  • #9
    omahaid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,497 ✭✭✭omahaid


    krudler wrote: »
    Plenty of straight girls look at lesbian porn, whats the difference?

    Any straight girl I know who I've asked about porn have no problem admitting they have looked at lesbian porn, so I assume its fine for men too.


  • #10
    krudler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    I've watched gay porn at my girlfriends request, being the modern man I am I have no issue with it, didnt do anything for me but she enjoyed it and thats all that mattered, but at no stage did i think "jaysus I must be gay now" while watching it, guys need to get over this idea that looking at another man in a sexual way must mean you're a closet gay


  • #11
    Dwn Wth Vwls
    Registered Users Posts: 401 ✭✭Dwn Wth Vwls


    The combination of looking at a gay site regularly and being uncomfortable around gay friends would seem to me like he does have some attraction to men. Chances are he's still 90% straight or something along those lines, but if he's traditional as you say, he may just not have a way to cope with these feelings.

    He's very lucky that you have no problem with it, but he may be unaware of that. He's probably still too scared or uncomfortable to talk about it and afraid of the consequences. I think ultimately you should broach the subject with him, or it will only get worse. Keeping a secret is not good for him.

    I think if you were in bed talking and said something along the lines of this; "I was on your computer the other day and I couldn't help but notice something. I don't want you to freak out though, because I'm completely okay with it. I'd just like to talk about it, because I was surprised to find it; The gay porn you've been looking at.".


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  • #12
    aidan24326
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,925 ✭✭✭aidan24326


    GiftofGab wrote: »
    I am male and I think that this is not normal at all. Well, not normal for a straight guy.I would honestly think that any male that looks up any sort of gay porn is a homosexual (or bi since his is your OH). If he is frequently looking at it, you should be very worried. As a male, I would not be one bit curious at all. I have never viewed gay porn.

    Nonsense, there is such a thing as curiosity you know.


  • #13
    Fink Goddie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭Fink Goddie


    No straight man would look up gay porn!
    Curiosity my eye.


  • #14
    omahaid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,497 ✭✭✭omahaid


    Fink Goddie wrote: »
    No straight man would look up gay porn!
    Curiosity my eye.

    How do you know?


  • #15
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    I'm a straight man, and I've watched the odd clip because I was curious about the mechanics of it.

    I'd just like to remind thunderdome regulars that it's forbidden in the charter to quote posts from PI :)


  • #16
    Fink Goddie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭Fink Goddie


    tbh wrote: »
    I'm a straight man, and I've watched the odd clip because I was curious about the mechanics of it.

    I'd just like to remind thunderdome regulars that it's forbidden in the charter to quote posts from PI :)

    The mechanics of it? I think you could guess without having to watch it no.
    Whats next, curious about what it would be like to be in the video??

    I just dont think thats very straight behaviour at all, if it was my boyfriend i'd be gone like a shot!!!


  • #17
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    Fink Goddie wrote: »
    The mechanics of it? I think you could guess without having to watch it no.
    Whats next, curious about what it would be like to be in the video??

    I just dont think thats very straight behaviour at all, if it was my boyfriend i'd be gone like a shot!!!

    *shrugs* just telling the truth, I don't really care if you believe me or not.


  • #18
    Fink Goddie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭Fink Goddie


    tbh wrote: »
    *shrugs* just telling the truth, I don't really care if you believe me or not.

    That i dont believe what that your a straight man with gay curiosity into the mechanics of what goes on?
    Its how far that curiosity goes that should worry the OP


  • #19
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Well then the op needs to talk to her partner about it.

    Yes 'straight' men and women look at all sorts of porn that doesn't mean they ever wish to
    do any of the things in them and it is more 'normal' then most people think for a guy to look at gay porn.


  • #20
    kraggy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,414 ✭✭✭kraggy


    Jeez, I've watched midget and granny porn.

    Doesn't mean I wanna experience either.


  • #21
    Fink Goddie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭Fink Goddie


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    it is more 'normal' then most people think for a guy to look at gay porn.

    According to who?


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  • #22
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    If you want to starting looking up human sexuality studies then fire away.
    This thread is about offering the op advice no debating the 'norms' of human sexuality.
    You have stated that you would consider it to be a deal breaker in a relationship, fair enough,
    if it is for the op she will have to figure that out for herself.

    beautifulmirage it could be that your partner is Bisexual that is he is attracted to men but has never done anything
    with another man and while being attracted to men prefers women and has chosen to be in a relationship with you.
    There are many reason why people who are bi will hide it, due to not being comfortable with it or not wanting to
    talk about it with their partner as it can raise issues which they don't want to deal with or feel will damage the relationship.

    There are plenty of Biphobic people out there and the myth that a bi person can't be happy within a monogamous relationship with one person is one of them.


  • #23
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    also a lot of sites have straight and gay porn videos listed together. If he's going to dedicated gay sites, it's more of a warning than if he's clicking gay videos on mixed sites, imo.


  • #24
    Karmafaerie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,871 ✭✭✭Karmafaerie


    Watching gay porn doesn't make him gay.
    But being curious, or clicking on something by accident is different from regularly looking at a site as the OP implied.

    Either way it still doesn't make him gay.

    He might simply be turned on by the taboo more so than the act.

    If it's not an issue to you, then maybe you're better leavng it as it is.
    Whatever you do, don't be confrontational.
    If he's very traditional as you said, then maybe even you bringing it up will make him very defensive.
    Only you can answer that really, as you know your relationship.

    It comes down to trust more than anything really.
    If you trust him as a straight man, I can see a reason not to trust him as a bi-sexual man, whether he is or isn't.


  • #25
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    Heck, I'm a gay man and I've watched lesbian porn entirely out of curiosity. I'd say if he was seriously bisexual or such, you'd have found far more than one website.

    But sure ask him about it. Just make sure you don't do it in away that seems to serious or puts him on the defensive.


  • #26
    weiland79
    Registered Users Posts: 3,311 ✭✭✭weiland79


    GiftofGab wrote: »
    I am male and I think that this is not normal at all. Well, not normal for a straight guy. I would honestly think that any male that looks up any sort of gay porn is a homosexual (or bi since his is your OH). If he is frequently looking at it, you should be very worried. As a male, I would not be one bit curious at all. I have never viewed gay porn.

    Well as i am also a man, I have to say that while there are of course men that would be sick to the stomach at another man watching this type of pornography.There are of course plenty of us that don't feel threatened by it.
    OP i really wouldn't feel worried about it as the way i see it,it really has to do with the ease of access the internet affords us all.If I'm brutally honest there is a lot of stuff I've looked at in the privacy of my home that i wouldn't bring up in 'normal' converstation.


  • #27
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    beautifulmirage wrote: »
    simply wondering is it normal for straight men to view gay porn?

    Personally, I'd say no, it's not "normal". I would have nothing to do with it and would switch off or leave if it was on.

    But then if I've learned one thing, it's that there's no "normal" or "average" when it comes to issues of a sexual nature.

    So if it's "normal" or more widely accepted, feel free to call me the exception, and I'm glad to be.


  • #28
    irishh_bob
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,700 ✭✭✭irishh_bob


    krudler wrote: »
    Plenty of straight girls look at lesbian porn, whats the difference?

    apples and oranges , its widlely acknowledged that most women have a lesbian side , this is not at all the case with men


  • #29
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    irishh_bob wrote: »
    apples and oranges , its widlely acknowledged that most women have a lesbian side , this is not at all the case with men

    Agree, women have sexier bodies/get turned on by different things.

    I don't think its normal at all. I'm male and it has certainly never occured to me to look at gay porn.

    If he regularly looks up gay porn id be fairly certain hes bisexual/gay. There's a lot of people putting it down to curiosity but I doubt many of them would bet money on it being exclusively that.


  • #30
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    irishh_bob wrote: »
    apples and oranges , its widlely acknowledged that most women have a lesbian side , this is not at all the case with men
    Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »
    Agree, women have sexier bodies/get turned on by different things.

    I don't think its normal at all. I'm male and it has certainly never occured to me to look at gay porn.

    If he regularly looks up gay porn id be fairly certain hes bisexual/gay. There's a lot of people putting it down to curiosity but I doubt many of them would bet money on it being exclusively that.

    i think its only in mens fantasies that most women have lesbian tendencies!

    i would never look at lesbian porn, but i look at straight porn and gay male porn

    the female body does nothing whatsoever for me in terms of turning me on, and i know my female friends say the same thing

    having said that, i dont think looking at a particular genre of porn means someone wants to participate in that, necessarily.


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  • #31
    thedeadp0et
    Registered Users Posts: 30 ✭thedeadp0et


    No, for a straight man to watch gay porn on a regular basis is not normal at all - it is in fact rather abnormal. Most men I've spoken to, including myself, would have watched many types of porn out of mere curiosity although it wouldnt be in any way regular.

    If you've noticed visits to this particular material on a regular basis via his internet browsing history (which is really none of your busniess wheither you're his other half or not) then either he's frequently looking at gay porn and has bisexual tendencies or else he could be visiting straight porn sites and these entries are a result of pop-ups advertising other sites that contain clips of gay porn which isn't uncommon at all. You should be aware that it doesn't necessarily mean he's watching it.


  • #32
    krudler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    Fink Goddie wrote: »
    The mechanics of it? I think you could guess without having to watch it no.
    Whats next, curious about what it would be like to be in the video??

    I just dont think thats very straight behaviour at all, if it was my boyfriend i'd be gone like a shot!!!

    I've looked at gay porn out of curiosity as well, I have a few gay friends, wanted to see what goes on, told my girlfriend about it too and she thought it was quite open minded. Looking at gay porn doesnt make me gay, same as being able to look at another man and see why women would think he's attractive doesnt either,nor does going to gay clubs with my gay friends and enjoying myself. I'm not gay, not bi, not even bi-curious, perfectly straight, always have and will be, good thing not everyone in the world is as small minded as you eh?


  • #33
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    thedeadp0et wrote: »
    No, for a straight man to watch gay porn on a regular basis is not normal at all - it is in fact rather abnormal. Most men I've spoken to, including myself, would have watched many types of porn out of mere curiosity although it wouldnt be in any way regular.

    If you've noticed visits to this particular material on a regular basis via his internet browsing history (which is really none of your busniess wheither you're his other half or not) then either he's frequently looking at gay porn and has bisexual tendencies or else he could be visiting straight porn sites and these entries are a result of pop-ups advertising other sites that contain clips of gay porn which isn't uncommon at all. You should be aware that it doesn't necessarily mean he's watching it.

    I'm straight and I watch gay porn. I have no intention of ever hooking up with a guy, nor do I find guys attractive at all. Its just something different. Its just homoerotic fantasy. If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    I would only really get worried if he started actively pursuing gay sex. For now, I would say leave him be.


  • #34
    Fink Goddie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭Fink Goddie


    krudler wrote: »
    I've looked at gay porn out of curiosity as well, I have a few gay friends, wanted to see what goes on, told my girlfriend about it too and she thought it was quite open minded. Looking at gay porn doesnt make me gay, same as being able to look at another man and see why women would think he's attractive doesnt either,nor does going to gay clubs with my gay friends and enjoying myself. I'm not gay, not bi, not even bi-curious, perfectly straight, always have and will be, good thing not everyone in the world is as small minded as you eh?

    Funny how you just focused in on my post eh, when there were planty of other people posting the same thing. :rolleyes:
    Wanted to see what goes on???????? Can you not guess what goes on, ya dont need to watch it to know that!
    A totally straight guy wouldnt be interested in seeing that IMO!


  • #35
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Fink Goddie banned for one week for off topic and unhelpful posting.


  • #36
    thedeadp0et
    Registered Users Posts: 30 ✭thedeadp0et


    kjl wrote: »
    If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    You have the right to your opinion, but this is just plain wrong, and if you can't see why then I'm afraid you most likely have a serious intellectual handicap.
    You've made an assuption here. You should never assume, you'll more often than not be embarassingly wrong.

    I have never ever had a homoerotic fantasy and if I did I'd admit it as I am who I am and I would never be ashamed of myself. Just because you probably have really doesnt mean every other man has.


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  • #37
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    thedeadp0et Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    This site does not tolerate personal abuse, attack the post not the poster.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


  • #38
    6th
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,247 ✭✭✭✭6th


    thedeadp0et wrote: »
    You have the right to your opinion, but this is just plain wrong, and if you can't see why then I'm afraid you most likely have a serious intellectual handicap.
    You've made an assuption here. You should never assume, you'll more often than not be embarassingly wrong.

    Banned for 1 week for the bit in bold.


  • #39
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    kjl wrote: »
    If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    I would only really get worried if he started actively pursuing gay sex. For now, I would say leave him be.

    The first part I really think is simply ridiculous. What are you basing that on?

    Second part, well I think your biased by your own behaviour. Which if I had to guess, would think quite unusual.


  • #40
    newmember2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,599 ✭✭✭newmember2


    I've looked at a lot of pr0n of all sorts and have to say that it's never even occurred to me to watch gay porn*. Am I abnormal?






    Until now...


  • #41
    irishh_bob
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,700 ✭✭✭irishh_bob


    kjl wrote: »
    I'm straight and I watch gay porn. I have no intention of ever hooking up with a guy, nor do I find guys attractive at all. Its just something different. Its just homoerotic fantasy. If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    I would only really get worried if he started actively pursuing gay sex. For now, I would say leave him be.

    when you say you watch gay porn , can you be more specific , how often and for how long , is it merley a case of when flicking through the channells if you land on gay tv , you pause for a brief few seconds or is it that you have a regular time slot for male on male erotica


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  • #42
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    If posters will not be pressurised into elborating on thier posts.
    This is not about the surfing patterns of any but the OP's parter
    please keep all post on topic and helpful to the OP.


  • #43
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    kjl wrote: »
    If all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.

    OP, I'd definitely ignore this as "advice" because I can state for a fact that this poster is incorrect.

    And kjl, please don't come back and suggest that I'm lying to myself.....


  • #44
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    sam34 wrote: »
    i think its only in mens fantasies that most women have lesbian tendencies!

    i would never look at lesbian porn, but i look at straight porn and gay male porn

    the female body does nothing whatsoever for me in terms of turning me on, and i know my female friends say the same thing

    having said that, i dont think looking at a particular genre of porn means someone wants to participate in that, necessarily.



    Completely agree. Society tells women that its most women have lesbian tendencies... but thats a fairly new idea - which has come about over the last few decades inspired by porn - made by men!

    I'm not even slightly bi and neither are 90% of my female friends, even though there would be no stigma to acknowledging it among the girls if we were.

    This whole 'all women are bi' myth really annoys me actually.

    However, I do believe that everyone's sexuality is on a continuum. My husband is not in any way homophobic but he would probably puke if you showed him gay porn, while my ex told me about quite a few homosexual experiences... which did throw me a little bit at first until I asked myself this question:

    If the man was gay, would he be comfortable to live that way or would he try to suppress it and live a conventional hetero lifestyle?

    I believe that my ex with the gay experiences would have come out if he felt his true orientation was homosexual, so that took a lot of doubt out of mind. Even if you feel your fella would attempt to suppress his homosexuality... that still doesn't mean he's gay, he might just have been curious - though something tells me you wouldn't be posting here if it was just a small amount of gay porn. You need to talk to him. A woman I know had a similar problem and ended up insisting her fella go for counselling to work out his sexuality, as when confronted, he hadn't denied being confused. They have since broken up, and he now dates men.


  • #45
    Captain Darling
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,542 ✭✭✭Captain Darling


    tbh wrote: »
    I'm a straight man, and I've watched the odd clip because I was curious about the mechanics of it.

    I'd just like to remind thunderdome regulars that it's forbidden in the charter to quote posts from PI :)
    I got your back dude.....

    /pun intended.

    ;)


  • #46
    Silverfish
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Captain Darling wrote: »
    I got your back dude.....

    /pun intended.

    ;)

    Banned. It's not like there isn't enough warnings about the place.


  • #47
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    irishh_bob wrote: »
    when you say you watch gay porn , can you be more specific , how often and for how long , is it merley a case of when flicking through the channells if you land on gay tv , you pause for a brief few seconds or is it that you have a regular time slot for male on male erotica

    Well I was trying to put the OP at ease, I don't regularly do it, but from time to time, when the mood strikes I look at it. I never said anything about normal or abnormal, I was simply stating that fact that it's not uncommon for straight guys to watch gay porn. As has been stated before sexuality isn't black or white, it's mixed.

    From my point of view, I don't look at footballers and think oh he's cute, nor can I tell if a guy is attractive. But I do feel that way about women. Its simply the sexual act that turns me on. Its just a fantasy and it's harmless.

    Just as an FYI, this whole idea of grouped sexuality is only been around since the early 20th century, Shakespeare was bisexual, as were many other famous figure. Greek and Roman solderers we notorious for sleeping around with each other. And as for Liam and all the other guys on this forum, if all the women in the world were to disappear tomorrow you would all be humping each other within a year, and there are plenty of studies and case's in point that prove that.

    My advice still stands, don't go accusing him of being gay unless he actual goes and sleeps with a man.


  • #48
    irishh_bob
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,700 ✭✭✭irishh_bob


    kjl wrote: »
    Well I was trying to put the OP at ease, I don't regularly do it, but from time to time, when the mood strikes I look at it. I never said anything about normal or abnormal, I was simply stating that fact that it's not uncommon for straight guys to watch gay porn. As has been stated before sexuality isn't black or white, it's mixed.

    From my point of view, I don't look at footballers and think oh he's cute, nor can I tell if a guy is attractive. But I do feel that way about women. Its simply the sexual act that turns me on. Its just a fantasy and it's harmless.

    Just as an FYI, this whole idea of grouped sexuality is only been around since the early 20th century, Shakespeare was bisexual, as were many other famous figure. Greek and Roman solderers we notorious for sleeping around with each other. And as for Liam and all the other guys on this forum, if all the women in the world were to disappear tomorrow you would all be humping each other within a year, and there are plenty of studies and case's in point that prove that.

    My advice still stands, don't go accusing him of being gay unless he actual goes and sleeps with a man.


    your experiences are not regular or typical of most straight men IMO , never once has the mood struck me to go and watch gay porn , in fact , ive never in my life deliberatley looked it up beit online or other , i have no problem with gay people whatsoever ( have a gay cousin who i get on great with ) but i couldnt bring myself to ever watch two men engage in a sexual act , i imagine my views are that of the overwhelming majority of straight men , fine if you like to occasionally check gay porn out but i think you are in a tiny minority who do this


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    kjl
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    I never said I was in a majority. I was just explaining to the OP that there are some cases.

    and btw, it tends to be married men who are on most of those ns sites, so what does that say about your theory? Mainly people go on there to just look up alternatives, a fantasy. Sometimes men are attracted to the physical side or gay sex but not necessarily attracted to men.


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    LegacyUser
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    I look at it too occasionally and I'm straight - it would always be in a group/threesome so there'd always be a woman involved.

    Sometimes it's just to look at something completely different if I'm bored of straight porn or more so, just something more kinky.

    I've never been with a man or have any desire to be.

    I don't know what goes on in other guys heads, nor do I care.

    Just cos I look at it, doesn't mean that I gay.


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    Bottle_of_Smoke
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    kjl wrote: »
    I never said I was in a majority. I was just explaining to the OP that there are some cases.

    eh....

    [quote=kjlIf all the guys on here want to say they have never had a homoerotic fantasy then they are just lying to themselves.[/quote]
    nbeneeee wrote:
    I look at it too occasionally and I'm straight - it would always be in a group/threesome so there'd always be a woman involved.

    Sometimes it's just to look at something completely different if I'm bored of straight porn or more so, just something more kinky.

    I don't think its counts as gay porn if the men aren't interacting with one another.


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