A bit of courtesy

TheFarrier · 09-09-2014 9:06pm #1

Parked up this evening waiting for a friend, when a woman parked in alongside me. No bothers there, only two available spaces were on either side of me.
Until she exited her vehicle, giving mine a generous thump with her door. Enough of a bang that I noticed my van rocking with the force of it before the noise registered with me.
Usually I wouldn't begrudge anyone a minor mistake such as this, but she kept her head down and did a fair impression of usain bolt out of the car park, even waiting until she was well out of sight before locking her car.

My question is, has courtesy disappeared altogether from motoring??

I didn't expect a grovelling plea for forgiveness, just a quick glance by way of apology, or a small wave or something.

colm_mcm · 09-09-2014 9:08pm

Inconsiderate scum have been around as long as I can remember.

RandomAccess · 09-09-2014 11:31pm

"I have taken your mirrors in lieu of an apology.
Regards, the man in the vannnnnn"

Atlantic Dawn · 10-09-2014 12:49am

To some people their car is a block of metal, bangs, dents, bits missing doesn't matter to them, they don't care about your car or theirs.

TheFarrier · 10-09-2014 6:54am

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

To some people their car is a block of metal, bangs, dents, bits missing doesn't matter to them, they don't care about your car or theirs.

I understand that, and tbh honest I wouldn't mind that as much.
What pissed me off was how she knew she was wrong, and took off at a gallop.

Cleveland Hot Pocket · 10-09-2014 8:18am

I'd have taken her insurance details and some photos and made a claim.

Scum, hate people who don't care about other's property.

Kopparberg Strawberry and Lime · 10-09-2014 9:39am

Certin people like that also wouldnt notice if there was a wheel missing too.

If you took say the rear passenger side wheel with basic tyre changing tools fitted to all cars im fairly sure you could jack jt up and take wheel and lower it to a reasonable height.....

But that would be bold...... bold like banging doors off cars....

djimi · 10-09-2014 9:48am

Best thing to do with these people is cause an absolute scene. Especially in a busy car park; get out and embarrass the absolute **** out of them. Utter scum these people are. Even the cheapest car on the road is probably worth €500; they wouldnt think that its okay to go into your home and scratch your €500 flat screen TV, so why do they think that its okay to damage a car that is worth at least that and most likely many times more?

Sam Kade · 10-09-2014 10:02am

By any chance was she a middle aged large woman? The chances of this category parking beside you will guarantee a thump on your door. I was in my car with my son and a middle aged large woman pulled up beside she thumped her door off my car and said nothing even though my window was down. I said to my son "I knew she'd do it" she just gave me a stare and carried on :mad:

djimi · 10-09-2014 10:12am

Sam Kade wrote: »

By any chance was she a middle aged large woman? The chances of this category parking beside you will guarantee a thump on your door. I was in my car with my son and a middle aged large woman pulled up beside she thumped her door off my car and said nothing even though my window was down. I said to my son "I knew she'd do it" she just gave me a stare and carried on :mad:

Why did you let her away with it? These people continue to do this because people are too passive about it. Call them up on it and then bill them for the damage; only way to ensure they wont do it again.

Cleveland Hot Pocket · 10-09-2014 10:13am

djimi wrote: »

Why did you let her away with it? These people continue to do this because people are too passive about it. Call them up on it and then bill them for the damage; only way to ensure they wont do it again.

Better still claim from their insurance.
Then they will lose their NCB aswell. Hit these idiots where it hurts. In the pocket.

Sam Kade · 10-09-2014 10:18am

djimi wrote: »

Why did you let her away with it? These people continue to do this because people are too passive about it. Call them up on it and then bill them for the damage; only way to ensure they wont do it again.

But there was no visible damage.

djimi · 10-09-2014 10:37am

Sam Kade wrote: »

But there was no visible damage.

There might be the next time she does it. Even get out and let a roar at her; hopefully the embarrassment might make her think twice about doing it again.

corktina · 10-09-2014 1:17pm

report to the Gards that this person damaged your car and walked off, having failed to report it...then claim from their Insurance...the details are in the window! As a minimum it will; teach them some respect for other's vehicles

congo_90 · 12-09-2014 4:00am

Something similar happened to me while parked in santry. The thunp was shocking. I got out to let her know. She looked confused but eventually apologised car was worth feck alk and wasnt too badly marked so i let it slide.
Few keyboard warriors here wanting to take someones ncb for a scratch that a stone chipping does worse? Bit extreme imo

12-09-2014 8:10am

Had just washed and polished my car and waiting outside shops when a "classic" Clio stopped on my right. The lady owner generously thumped drivers door against my car. I said nothing. 5 minutes later the driver comes back, swings the door open again with an unbelievable thump. Walked around, found out a dent on my car and totally rusty door edge on her driver's door, no doubt after hitting every car she had ever parked next to her over the past 20 years or so.

I suddenly had an urge to get something from my passenger side and it could be that the double skinned door edge may have slightly kissed the thin single sheet on side of the Clio. Who knows...

djimi · 12-09-2014 9:25am

congo_90 wrote: »

Few keyboard warriors here wanting to take someones ncb for a scratch that a stone chipping does worse? Bit extreme imo

Id claim off the stones insurance too in fairness if it had any...

How much do you think a scratch costs to fix, out of interest? And would you consider it okay to cause comparable damage to another item of property and expect for it to be let slide?

KTRIC · 12-09-2014 11:30am

congo_90 wrote: »

Something similar happened to me while parked in santry. The thunp was shocking. I got out to let her know. She looked confused but eventually apologised car was worth feck alk and wasnt too badly marked so i let it slide.
Few keyboard warriors here wanting to take someones ncb for a scratch that a stone chipping does worse? Bit extreme imo

And here in lies the problem. You have no value in your car and think everyone else shouldn't have any in theirs.

Some one damages something belong to you then you get it fixed at their cost. Simple.

Rowley Birkin QC · 12-09-2014 3:03pm

congo_90 wrote: »

Something similar happened to me while parked in santry. The thunp was shocking. I got out to let her know. She looked confused but eventually apologised car was worth feck alk and wasnt too badly marked so i let it slide.
Few keyboard warriors here wanting to take someones ncb for a scratch that a stone chipping does worse? Bit extreme imo

That's the difference. If you're not bothered, then it's no big deal for either party.

I had a guy kick in the panel of a car that was worth ~€500, but was my pride and joy (first car syndrome

) before. Collected €800 from him because it was purely malicious. Didn't know him, he didn't know me. He was locked out of his apt. block and in frustration kicked the nearest thing to him; my car.

All on CCTV.

MaxFlower · 12-09-2014 7:55pm

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

To some people their car is a block of metal, bangs, dents, bits missing doesn't matter to them, they don't care about your car or theirs.

I've met people like that. They don't care about my car and say they don't care until it actually happens to them, then all hell breaks loose.

Cleveland Hot Pocket · 12-09-2014 9:52pm

congo_90 wrote: »

Something similar happened to me while parked in santry. The thunp was shocking. I got out to let her know. She looked confused but eventually apologised car was worth feck alk and wasnt too badly marked so i let it slide.
Few keyboard warriors here wanting to take someones ncb for a scratch that a stone chipping does worse? Bit extreme imo

Are you going to shell out 500 quid to fix the dent and then the paintwork?
When some idiot with no regard for your property damages it from neglect.

You seem like the type of person that has no regard for another's property alright.

kevin65 · 12-09-2014 10:28pm

Door protector strips people.

The might look ugly, but far cheaper than repairing a door. They can bang their doors off them to their hearts content, but the funny thing is they don't seem to.

Cleveland Hot Pocket · 13-09-2014 9:15am

kevin65 wrote: »

Door protector strips people.

The might look ugly, but far cheaper than repairing a door. They can bang their doors off them to their hearts content, but the funny thing is they don't seem to.

Or just a little cop on and respect from others.
They wouldnt scratch a 500 quid tv but have no problem damaging a car worth 20 times that!

spider_pig · 13-09-2014 9:33am

Had a similar thing happen me a few weeks back I came back to my car in a car park to find the bumper had come off on the drivers side ,both the rear door and bumper was scraped to bits.
I think they might have tried to reverse into the spot beside me then flew off after hitting my car, I only had the thing a month so I was fuming.

kevin65 · 13-09-2014 12:54pm

Cleveland Hot Pocket wrote: »

Or just a little cop on and respect from others.
They wouldnt scratch a 500 quid tv but have no problem damaging a car worth 20 times that!

No, these kind of people wouldn't scratch a 500 quid TV, they would rob it. They just damage the stuff they can't steal.

dickwod1 · 13-09-2014 3:41pm

kevin65 wrote: »

Door protector strips people.

The might look ugly, but far cheaper than repairing a door. They can bang their doors off them to their hearts content, but the funny thing is they don't seem to.

Door protector strips only work when the person hitting your door has them on their door (which they dont cause the dont give a fcuk about your door)

This is one thing that really wrecks my head, I park in car parks as far away from everyone else because of this!

Sometimes in a busy car park I see a spot and pull in if the car next to me has bad scrapes and dinges all over it I pull out and get a different spot.

kevin65 · 13-09-2014 4:04pm

dickwod1 wrote: »

Door protector strips only work when the person hitting your door has them on their door (which they dont cause the dont give a fcuk about your door)

This is one thing that really wrecks my head, I park in car parks as far away from everyone else because of this!

Sometimes in a busy car park I see a spot and pull in if the car next to me has bad scrapes and dinges all over it I pull out and get a different spot.

I'm not talking about the bits of plastic people put on the edge of their door, I'm talking about the protector strips that fit onto the door panel itself. Most car manufacturers offer them as accessories.

visual · 13-09-2014 4:07pm

dickwod1 wrote: »

Door protector strips only work when the person hitting your door has them on their door (which they dont cause the dont give a fcuk about your door)

This is one thing that really wrecks my head, I park in car parks as far away from everyone else because of this!

Sometimes in a busy car park I see a spot and pull in if the car next to me has bad scrapes and dinges all over it I pull out and get a different spot.

and park at back of car park where no one else is only to return and find a banger parked beside yours with only inches to spare. As you walk closer you wonder how did they get out of their car without hitting yours and then you realise they couldn't have lol

n1ck · 13-09-2014 4:08pm

dickwod1 wrote: »

Sometimes in a busy car park I see a spot and pull in if the car next to me has bad scrapes and dinges all over it I pull out and get a different spot.

I always do this, I will only park next to someone who I think takes care of their car or in a spot where I can park far enough away that even if they open their door it can't reach.

A bit of courtesy

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