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Judgement on single life

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  • #52
    PinkLemonade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 768 ✭✭✭PinkLemonade


    Wulfie wrote: »
    I read this thread a few days ago. Prompted me to contemplate my number (score). Off the top of my head I would have guessed 12, but 8 is probably more true.
    I have never rushed into anything,except when cold and lonely on a miserable winter night,when another year alone has seemed unbearable.
    Be proud of your score OP ,let your friends know. True friends will congratulate a high score.
    I sincerely hope to raise mine by at least 1 before autumn this year.

    I don't agree that true friends should congratulate you for the number of conquests, that seems extremely childish.

    OP, I've to agree with other posters, keep your stories about your single life to a minimum with this friend, if they continue to be judgmental then stand up for yourself and be firm and let them know their opinion isn't welcome.

    She sounds out of order but probably not worth losing a friendship over at this stage.


  • #53
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,843 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    Wulfie wrote: »
    I read this thread a few days ago. Prompted me to contemplate my number (score). Off the top of my head I would have guessed 12, but 8 is probably more true.

    I think your number gets seriously less important as you get older. I turned 30 this year an honestly cant remember the last time I'd even thought about it before now.


  • #54
    Wulfie
    Registered Users Posts: 161 ✭✭Wulfie


    Most people replying to this thread have passed judgement on the OP's close/or not so close friend. The friend afik is the only one, who actually has heard this"number".
    She may have been concerned/shown concern,which may have been taken up as judgement.
    Maybe boards.ie posters know more.
    If youv'e got a friend, keep that friend.


  • #55
    meeeeh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    I don't think OP feels uncomfortable with number, she feels uncomfortable with friend's reaction to her dating. And for that I think the best thing is just to avoid those conversations with the friend.


  • #56
    Chocolate fiend
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 465 ✭✭Chocolate fiend


    It actually sounds as if your friend fancies you, the way she wants you to stop seeing guys for 3 weeks and things like that. Very strange behaviour from a friend.


  • #57
    The Young Wan
    Registered Users Posts: 1,398 ✭✭✭The Young Wan


    I've spoken to this person about the subject if this thread (not that the thread is a thing) and they blocked me on WhatsApp and removed me on Facebook, Twitter etc. So there's that.


  • #58
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    The Young Wan wrote: »
    I've spoken to this person about the subject if this thread (not that the thread is a thing) and they blocked me on WhatsApp and removed me on Facebook, Twitter etc. So there's that.

    It's probably for the best. I'm not sure I'd want someone who judges me like that in my life.


  • #59
    dellas1979
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    This thread gave me a good giggle (not for the actual issue, but your friend's reaction).

    OP live your life how you see fit. And choose who you share information with.

    I am single and I meet guys. And Ive loads of funny stories. Most of my attached mates love to hear them and find them as funny as I do. Others I do not share this information. But if anyone judged me for the life I choose to lead, Id stand up for myself and remind them its my life.

    Most recently a friend of mine (married last year) made a comment (still meeting fellas/slutting around? I think she meant it jokey). And I retorted that was not a nice thing to say, and was delighted for her she felt she could make a comment like that now shes married. Wasn't she lucky she met someone she wanted to marry. But I have not (and maybe wont-its not my priority to wear a white dress). So Im going to have my fun.

    So, yes, judgement of single people is alive and kicking.


  • #60
    mrsdewinter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,162 ✭✭✭mrsdewinter


    dellas1979 wrote: »
    This thread gave me a good giggle (not for the actual issue, but your friend's reaction).

    OP live your life how you see fit. And choose who you share information with.

    I am single and I meet guys. And Ive loads of funny stories. Most of my attached mates love to hear them and find them as funny as I do. Others I do not share this information. But if anyone judged me for the life I choose to lead, Id stand up for myself and remind them its my life.

    Most recently a friend of mine (married last year) made a comment (still meeting fellas/slutting around? I think she meant it jokey). And I retorted that was not a nice thing to say, and was delighted for her she felt she could make a comment like that now shes married. Wasn't she lucky she met someone she wanted to marry. But I have not (and maybe wont-its not my priority to wear a white dress). So Im going to have my fun.

    So, yes, judgement of single people is alive and kicking.

    You treated her with much more respect than she deserved for that cheeky greeting.


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  • #61
    dellas1979
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    mrsdewinter wrote: »
    You treated her with much more respect than she deserved for that cheeky greeting.

    I did. Because that is who I am. I treat people respectfully. Am not going to fight ignorant comments with more ignorant comments. But Im still going to get my point across.


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