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When somebody really wants your number what do you do?

  • 18-09-2012 11:48pm
    #1
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭


    I hate being guilt tripped for numbers off people. You can't say no because that's a bit harsh so you go along with it. Now, if I have no interest in you but you're wanting to exchange numbers I'll give in but it's always so awkward. 
    You get the text a while later and you can either be a dick then and not reply when it's easier, or suck it up for a while longer.
    Either way, you're only doing this to be nice and even then it's going to be awkward and drawn out. My usual cut-off point is always when they say "lol". Nice to go out with a bang I recon! :pac:

    So do any other people go along with it to be nice, give fake numbers or flat out just say no? 


    Edit: forgot about all the false hope. Doesn't seem so nice now..

    Somebody asks for your number but you've no interest 57 votes

    Plain out say no
    0% 0 votes
    Give them your number but never reply*
    57% 33 votes
    Text back and play along until you can fizzle it out*
    42% 24 votes


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  • #2
    Lumbo
    Registered Users Posts: 2,113 ✭✭✭Lumbo


    My house phone number is very similar to the local take away number. Sometimes people get to ring me, sometimes they get to ring for chips.


  • #3
    xDramaxQueenx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 944 ✭✭✭xDramaxQueenx


    Like on a night out? I lie, unless I'm too drunk, then I'll give the right one.
    Sober? No.


  • #4
    eth0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    Sure you never know they might turn out to be alright. Maybe you should try being less dismissive of these people

    A common tactic seems to be to delay with replying, delay longer, come up with excuses if they say anything about it (no credit, was busy and so on), also give short 2-3 word replies and hope for a natural 'fizzling out process' to occur.

    Last resort get a new number and tell them you were gone travelling if you meet them in real life after or lay on the "stop harassing me" stuff if they get persistent


  • #5
    gronemeyer
    Registered Users Posts: 68 ✭✭gronemeyer


    Number 2 on the aul poll. And blame a lack of credit if/when I bump into them in person...


  • #6
    Skid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,873 ✭✭✭Skid


    I usually give my friend's number. Always entertaining.


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  • #7
    gronemeyer
    Registered Users Posts: 68 ✭✭gronemeyer


    Skid wrote: »
    I usually give my friend's number. Always entertaining.

    Or a fake one which I have been guilty of if I don't know the person :D


  • #8
    qz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,753 ✭✭✭qz


    Give the number and never respond. I had someone ask me for it once the morning after and then they rang the number straight away to see if it was the 'right one' I guess. Now, I was never going to talk to the person or see them ever again as it was as far as I was concerned, but Jesus! How awkward would it have been if my phone didn't ring!


  • #9
    Where To
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭Where To


    I give my number to everyone.


  • #10
    Vicar in a tutu
    Registered Users Posts: 901 ✭✭✭Vicar in a tutu


    My phones dead and i don't know my number always works! or the old i lost my phone.


  • #11
    Nolimits
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,654 ✭✭✭Nolimits


    Where To wrote: »
    I give my number to everyone.
    I'll be expecting a PM


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  • #12
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    Where To wrote: »
    I give my number to everyone.
    Yeah but you're 2.99 a minute.. and you didn't sound all that sexy to me! :mad:


  • #13
    eth0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    1ZRed wrote: »
    Yeah but you're 2.99 a minute.. and you didn't sound all that sexy to me! :mad:

    I'm three fiddy a minute. satellite phone :)


  • #14
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    It depends, I don't always give out my phone number willingly. Some people I do give my number to if they ask but only give it to very few people to be honest.

    If a guy asked for my number and I wasn't interested I would straight out say no unless I thought we could be friends but if not or not interested no I wouldn't give out my number, I be blunt but let him down gently. I don't always believe if the guy is interested in me unless he asks for my number but if no mutual thing going on no I wouldn't give it to him no matter how nicely he ask!

    Good idea though OP giving the number of a chipper lol.


  • #15
    keelanj69
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,089 ✭✭✭keelanj69


    Does the no credit excuse work anymore? What with all the free texts banging about.


  • #16
    WumBuster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭WumBuster


    Im the guy who is always asking for the number, rarely happens that i get asked for mine! Its always handy having a new no. in your phone when you wake up next morning then you can decide in the cold light of day if its really worth persuing or not.On occasions Ive got wrong numbers, dosent bother me, but its always polite to ask for the number anyway even if you have no intention of ringing it.


  • #17
    keith16
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,061 ✭✭✭keith16


    Isn't there a facebook equivalent of this?

    Some dude be-friended me and I accepted out of politeness and curiosity from where I knew him. Few PMs back and forth. Found out I knew him, from a place I used to work in years ago, but don't think I ever even met the chap but I did know his name.

    Anyway, the PMs from his side became a bit much and the questions got a little weird....so I just ignored him.

    Still the likes came for every status update I posted (even ones where non mutual friends tagged me for instance, and my mates were all like, WHO THE FCUK IS THIS?) along with comments and so on.

    And still the PMs came, asking personal questions, generally talking as if we were long lost brothers.

    So I thought about de-friending him but never really got round to it. One day I get a PM from him and I'm thinking FFS....

    Open it up and it's just him going "deleting you from my friends list" and I can sense the bitterness in it. All very strange indeed and has made me very wary of accepting requests like this.

    So to answer your question OP, just take their number and ignore them and hope they don't turn into a weird stalker. At least with a mobile number they can't stalk your pictures, updates etc....


  • #18
    eth0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    keelanj69 wrote: »
    Does the no credit excuse work anymore? What with all the free texts banging about.

    runs out after 30 days so that still works


  • #19
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    keelanj69 wrote: »
    Does the no credit excuse work anymore? What with all the free texts banging about.

    That is not always believable but the no answer will give them their answer basically. Change number or say you leaving the country or just say you met someone else or just basically say just want to be friends?? Its not you its me line. Or hope for the best to let it fizzle which may or may not happen unless you dreadful at keeping in contact then that person might understand.


  • #20
    jimmycrackcorm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,346 ✭✭✭✭jimmycrackcorm


    My number is 9. It's very lucky and I've no problem giving it out.


  • #21
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Your magic number isn't the number they on about....


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  • #22
    Fromthetrees
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,846 ✭✭✭Fromthetrees


    When somebody really wants your number what do you do?

    Get excited and punch the air in joyful happiness.


  • #23
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Its nice of them to ask yes but only give them your number if you any interest in them whether be it friends or more. You could give you number to them even if they asked and never hear from them again or they could ask someone whose a mutual friend and ask for your number. Gets a bit creepy if they do that especially.


  • #24
    homeless student
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,020 ✭✭✭homeless student


    i think you should always ask for the number if u like them.then u can decide later to txet or not. 2 examples of this going well and not so well. one time i asked for the number of a girl i met 1 night and wasnt going to txt her because i thought she wouldnt text back(girl was a 10/10) text her like 5 days later and she text back in about 10 seconds,we were great friends for the next 2 years,my 1st love.

    example of asking for the number that didnt work out same sitation i was out pulled a girl back to hers, asked for her num the next morning(btw we had just kissed and nothing else)she looked surprised i had asked for the number,she gave me the number but didnt reply to my constant texting lol only joking i text her once that day,no reply,didnt bother me, you shouldnt take rejection to heart.she was good looking but not as good looking as girl A.


  • #25
    YFlyer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,717 ✭✭✭YFlyer


    qz wrote: »
    Give the number and never respond. I had someone ask me for it once the morning after and then they rang the number straight away to see if it was the 'right one' I guess. Now, I was never going to talk to the person or see them ever again as it was as far as I was concerned, but Jesus! How awkward would it have been if my phone didn't ring!

    Have your phone on silent and say 'job' while looking at it when the other person ring.


  • #26
    Where To
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭Where To


    homeless student wrote: »
    i think you should always ask for the number if u like them.then u can decide later to txet or not. 2 examples of this going well and not so well. one time i asked for the number of a girl i met 1 night and wasnt going to txt her because i thought she wouldnt text back(girl was a 10/10) text her like 5 days later and she text back in about 10 seconds,we were great friends for the next 2 years,my 1st love.

    example of asking for the number that didnt work out same sitation i was out pulled a girl back to hers, asked for her num the next morning(btw we had just kissed and nothing else)she looked surprised i had asked for the number,she gave me the number but didnt reply to my constant texting lol only joking i text her once that day,no reply,didnt bother me, you shouldnt take rejection to heart.she was good looking but not as good looking as girl A.
    :confused:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9O0TNMCmXJY


  • #27
    humbert
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,238 ✭✭✭humbert


    1ZRed and Edenhazard are definitely one person with two accounts.

    Next week: I kissed 12 girls/guys and I'm not sure if they love me as much as I love me.


  • #28
    Larianne
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Some feckers then call your number if you give it to them so you 'then have their number'. So if you give a wrong number you're screwed!

    One of the radio stations (a morning show I think) used to give out a number for people to give to guys/girls at weekends and then would air their voicemail messages they left...


  • #29
    AngeGal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 927 ✭✭✭AngeGal


    The obvious thing is surely to give your number but change one digit, that way if you ever see them again, can say oh no its not 7 its 6 or whatever, could be either persons fault then.


  • #30
    humbert
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,238 ✭✭✭humbert


    AngeGal wrote: »
    The obvious thing is surely to give your number but change one digit, that way if you ever see them again, can say oh no its not 7 its 6 or whatever, could be either persons fault then.
    Transpose digits, people do that all the time....on me :(


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  • #31
    eth0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    The trouble people go through to avoid the slightest bit of social awkwardness or confrontation


  • #32
    General General
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,900 ✭✭✭General General


    Why not begin simulating wild masturbation when anyone asks you for your number... it's what I do.

    Zero stalkers.


  • #33
    WoollyRedHat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    My number is 01 496 0577, its a landline, but I'm always up for listening to what you want.


  • #34
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    AngeGal wrote: »
    The obvious thing is surely to give your number but change one digit, that way if you ever see them again, can say oh no its not 7 its 6 or whatever, could be either persons fault then.
    I actually do this the odd time when I'm still capable enough of remembering it :D I have 3 of the same number inorder and another of the same number further down.

    Thing is, I actually **** it up more times giving it to people to do want than don't!


  • #35
    Where To
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭Where To


    WoollyRedHat wrote: »
    My number is 01 496 0577, its a landline, but I'm always up for listening to what you want.
    12' Mighty Meaty please.


  • #36
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Its possible to give someone a wrong digit can happen to anyone or someone take it down wrong.

    That's weird that a radio show do that though? A bit silly don't ya think?!?

    A 10 out of 10 girl why wouldn't you text/ring a girl if she that?? Makes no sense so you'd text an 8 or a 9 then??


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  • #37
    eth0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    Where To wrote: »
    12' Mighty Meaty please.

    Bit o white pudding on top?


  • #38
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    What I find annoying is that someone could have three different mobile numbers!? :eek:


  • #39
    WoollyRedHat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    Where To wrote: »
    12' Mighty Meaty please.

    kk what would you like on the side?


  • #40
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    humbert wrote: »
    1ZRed and Edenhazard are definitely one person with two accounts.

    Next week: I kissed 12 girls/guys and I'm not sure if they love me as much as I love me.
    Definitely caught me out there man! I just can't resist myself :pac:


  • #41
    homeless student
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,020 ✭✭✭homeless student


    doovdela wrote: »
    Its possible to give someone a wrong digit can happen to anyone or someone take it down wrong.

    That's weird that a radio show do that though? A bit silly don't ya think?!?

    A 10 out of 10 girl why wouldn't you text/ring a girl if she that?? Makes no sense so you'd text an 8 or a 9 then??


    because i thought she was out of my league, guess i was wrong


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  • #42
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    homeless student wrote: »
    because i thought she was out of my league, guess i was wrong

    :( You can still text someone even if they a ten and out of your league whether or not you in with a chance some girls that aren't a 10 might not bother to text if a guy shows a lack of interest!?


  • #43
    homeless student
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,020 ✭✭✭homeless student


    doovdela wrote: »
    :( You can still text someone even if they a ten and out of your league whether or not you in with a chance some girls that aren't a 10 might not bother to text if a guy shows a lack of interest!?

    no you cant, its the law lol ah no i suppose i didnt want to be rejected so wasnt going to text her, glad i did though.


  • #44
    BOF666
    Registered Users Posts: 163 ✭✭BOF666


    WoollyRedHat wrote: »
    My number is 01 496 0577, its a landline, but I'm always up for listening to what you want.

    Are landlines still on the go? :P


  • #45
    Red Hand
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    eth0 wrote: »
    The trouble people go through to avoid the slightest bit of social awkwardness or confrontation

    Hiya, etho how's the going? Ehm, could I have your number?

    Wait are you male or female? Ah, doesn't matter! So....lol! How about it?:confused::eek::pac::mad::):D:p


  • #46
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    homeless student wrote: »
    no you cant, its the law lol ah no i suppose i didnt want to be rejected so wasnt going to text her, glad i did though.

    :( that's part of the risk but I can understand why you didn't want to feel rejected I guess but you wouldn't have known unless you tried?!
    If at least an 8 or a 9 came along you text her ya and see what happens coz a ten only comes around so often? Try not to worry too much just let it happen. Just go for it what have you got to loose!

    Women admire confidence not over confidence mind but they like shy and coy types but that can just chat to a girl and ask her out even if it means texting, even if she didn't want anything more you gain a friend or would you have wanted more? if that the case the only way to find out she wants the same is to text her but give it a go if you think it be worth it? What if's will play on your mind? We all going to be old and grey faster than you think!?


  • #47
    Red Hand
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    doovdela wrote: »
    :( that's part of the risk but I can understand why you didn't want to feel rejected I guess but you wouldn't have known unless you tried?!
    If at least an 8 or a 9 came along you text her ya and see what happens coz a ten only comes around so often? Try not to worry too much just let it happen. Just go for it what have you got to loose!

    Pride. No point in making a fool of yourself sometimes, either.


  • #48
    Piste
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,440 ✭✭✭✭Piste


    WoollyRedHat wrote: »
    My number is 01 496 0577, its a landline, but I'm always up for listening to what you want.

    That's the number for Dominos in Rathmines and it depresses me that I recognised it straight away and didn't have to look it up.


  • #49
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    You men and your pride...man up! :D;)

    Thought that number looked familiar nice dominos there!


  • #50
    homeless student
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,020 ✭✭✭homeless student


    doovdela wrote: »
    :( that's part of the risk but I can understand why you didn't want to feel rejected I guess but you wouldn't have known unless you tried?!
    If at least an 8 or a 9 came along you text her ya and see what happens coz a ten only comes around so often? Try not to worry too much just let it happen. Just go for it what have you got to loose!

    Women admire confidence not over confidence mind but they like shy and coy types but that can just chat to a girl and ask her out even if it means texting, even if she didn't want anything more you gain a friend or would you have wanted more? if that the case the only way to find out she wants the same is to text her but give it a go if you think it be worth it? What if's will play on your mind? We all going to be old and grey faster than you think!?

    ? but i did text the 10/10 she replied and we went on to become great mates and a bit more. and i learned a lot from the whole situation and her and i always ask for everyones numbers now 10/10 or not.


  • #51
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,348 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    homeless student wrote: »
    ? but i did text the 10/10 she replied and we went on to become great mates and a bit more. and i learned a lot from the whole situation and her and i always ask for everyones numbers now 10/10 or not.

    Ah sorry missed that there. Very good man yourself! So proud!! I feel like a mammy now and I only young 27!:D


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