The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

That_Guy · 23-04-2012 3:08pm

SEEMagazine wrote: »

Are you The Joker?

Yes but don't tell anybody.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA *cough cough cough*

LoTwan · 23-04-2012 3:12pm

I feel old when I hear the term "going steady". In my day LOL 6 weeks was the line. If you were still together after 6 weeks he could be called your boyfriend. Before that he was just a guy you were seeing.

With regards to exclusivity it should never be implied because that can leave you in a situation where you think you are exclusive & s/he is not thinking and therefore not acting the same way. How you choose to bring it up is your own business though

SEEMagazine wrote: »

And both me and herself wonder on a daily basis why all the regular posters haven't paired off by now... Ye've all gotten past the "getting to know someone" stage.

Some of us aren't cut out to be cougars, even if the victims are cute

Ankhyu · 23-04-2012 3:18pm

Armaghmagic wrote: »

I know this may depend on the person but when is it acceptable to ask someone to go steady with them.....after a certain amount of dates/time? Im seeing this girl on Thursday for our third date and really like her....just don't want to freak her out!

I'm gonna have to agree with Larianne. I know it varies from person to person but even if she is looking for a long term relationship she may not want to have things rushed either. Keep going on dates with her, she must know that you're interested by that alone

Esoteric_ · 23-04-2012 3:51pm

If all the regs pair up, this thread would be nothing but couples bitching at each other. We're keeping things interesting by dating strangers!

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 3:59pm

Has anyone met up with someone that looked completely different to their online pic?

SEEMagazine · 23-04-2012 4:07pm

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Has anyone met up with someone that looked completely different to their online pic?

Not to bemoan my current situation (I'm not), but I did meet one Cork lass off OkC and her photos didn't even begin to do her justice.

In fact I can only assume that she was in possession of some fatal personality flaw because there is no way a girl who looked like her would ever be short of suitors.

Actually, since she decided she didn't like me I have to conclude that she was flawed. Mrs SEE got lucky there.

That_Guy · 23-04-2012 4:09pm

SEEMagazine wrote: »

Actually, since she decided she didn't like me I have to conclude that she was flawed. Mrs SEE got lucky there.

This will be worth the ban but you sound like a right dick.

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 4:11pm

SEEMagazine wrote: »

Not to bemoan my current situation (I'm not), but I did meet one Cork lass off OkC and her photos didn't even begin to do her justice.

In fact I can only assume that she was in possession of some fatal personality flaw because there is no way a girl who looked like her would ever be short of suitors.

Actually, since she decided she didn't like me I have to conclude that she was flawed. Mrs SEE got lucky there.

Well I actually meant as in couldn't possibly be the same person :O

Larianne · 23-04-2012 4:17pm

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Has anyone met up with someone that looked completely different to their online pic?

Yeah I have. He was hotter in real life.

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Well I actually meant as in couldn't possibly be the same person :O

Oh no. :cool: What happened there?!

SEEMagazine · 23-04-2012 4:19pm

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Well I actually meant as in couldn't possibly be the same person :O

Well in the sense that she looked infinitely better than her photos... There was a resemblance yes, but you'd have to know it was her in the profile pic to put a name to her.

But a profile where the person looked totally different? There was one American lass, yes... Obviously picked the most physically flattering picture, but her personality was as expected, which was fine by me. I wasn't fishing for a shag partner after all...

I know there's a story about a very radical photo discrepancy in here somewhere. Worth a read if only to have a chuckle. Author is a Clonmel legend.

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 4:21pm

Larianne wrote: »

Yeah I have. He was hotter in real life.

Oh no. :cool: What happened there?!

Have a date organised for Friday and he sent me a pic on Saturday which doesn't really resemble the online one which he said was a year old. Don't know if it's just the angle or what, but there's not much similarities :eek:

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 4:24pm

SEEMagazine wrote: »

Well in the sense that she looked infinitely better than her photos... There was a resemblance yes, but you'd have to know it was her in the profile pic to put a name to her.

But a profile where the person looked totally different? There was one American lass, yes... Obviously picked the most physically flattering picture, but her personality was as expected, which was fine by me. I wasn't fishing for a shag partner after all...

I know there's a story about a very radical photo discrepancy in here somewhere. Worth a read if only to have a chuckle. Author is a Clonmel legend.

Was just wondering if it happens much, people posting somebody else's photo

Larianne · 23-04-2012 4:25pm

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Have a date organised for Friday and he sent me a pic on Saturday which doesn't really resemble the online one which he said was a year old. Don't know if it's just the angle or what, but there's not much similarities :eek:

Could be just how it was taken?? I know with me, I can look terrible in photos or the odd one turns out alright. Just ask for another one to be sure if you're worried.

Mental Mickey · 23-04-2012 4:26pm

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Was just wondering if it happens much, people posting somebody else's photo

How can they do that?

Pembily · 23-04-2012 4:28pm

Mental Mickey wrote: »

How can they do that?

Very easily, Google photo, upload!! Galva has a link that you can check the photo through!

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 4:30pm

Pembily wrote: »

Very easily, Google photo, upload!! Galva has a link that you can check the photo through!

The tineye thing? Yup tried that on both pics, nothing comes back

Handsome Bob · 23-04-2012 4:45pm

Galvasean wrote: »

I've dated half of boards at this stage :pac:

So you're the boards hoe that I've been hearing so much about.

Esoteric_ · 23-04-2012 5:15pm

So, is it normal to be asked out after exchanging about 4 or 5 messages? It's happening every time! Don't people take things slowly anymore?!

Larianne · 23-04-2012 5:31pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

So, is it normal to be asked out after exchanging about 4 or 5 messages? It's happening every time! Don't people take things slowly anymore?!

You're obviously so cool and hot that the guys are afraid you'll be snapped up by someone else!

If you're not comfortable meeting up in such a short space of time just let them know.

Esoteric_ · 23-04-2012 5:33pm

Larianne wrote: »

You're obviously so cool and hot that the guys are afraid you'll be snapped up by someone else! If you're not comfortable meeting up in such a short space of time just let them know.

Or most of the men on the site are very desperate. Seems a more logical explanation!

Larianne · 23-04-2012 5:39pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Or most of the men on the site are very desperate. Seems a more logical explanation!

Ah, I wouldn't think like that. I guess, its better to meet up sooner rather than later to see if you click than waste time chatting on line to someone and when you do meet-up neither have any interest in taking it further.

No set formula with online dating...

Pembily · 23-04-2012 5:40pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Larianne wrote: »

You're obviously so cool and hot that the guys are afraid you'll be snapped up by someone else! If you're not comfortable meeting up in such a short space of time just let them know.

Or most of the men on the site are very desperate. Seems a more logical explanation!

I'm the opposite I prefer to meet up sooner rather than later. 5 would be ok for me once I got decent info. I'm not looking for a penpal so I prefer to meet up sooner to see if there is a spark!

BigDuffman · 23-04-2012 6:06pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Or most of the men on the site are very desperate. Seems a more logical explanation!

I dunno, I tend not to waste time on a "pen pal" and weeks of messages back and forward. If I don't have an interest in someone after 4/5 messages. I'm not going to waste my time sending messages back and forth!

Esoteric_ · 23-04-2012 6:50pm

BigDuffman wrote: »

I dunno, I tend not to waste time on a "pen pal" and weeks of messages back and forward. If I don't have an interest in someone after 4/5 messages. I'm not going to waste my time sending messages back and forth!

I don't mean I want messages lasting weeks, just three or four exchanged in 20 minutes seems a bit fast! I was thinking a day or two!

Pembily · 23-04-2012 6:52pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

I don't mean I want messages lasting weeks, just three or four exchanged in 20 minutes seems a bit fast! I was thinking a day or two!

Yeah but when can you meet? It may not be for another week or so, and then ye will have messaged for a few days

Esoteric_ · 23-04-2012 6:57pm

Pembily wrote: »

Yeah but when can you meet? It may not be for another week or so, and then ye will have messaged for a few days

Hmm. I didn't consider that, actually. I need to learn this online dating etiquette. It's so much easier to just get stuck into someone at a bar, I swear.

Pembily · 23-04-2012 7:08pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Pembily wrote: »

Yeah but when can you meet? It may not be for another week or so, and then ye will have messaged for a few days

Hmm. I didn't consider that, actually. I need to learn this online dating etiquette. It's so much easier to just get stuck into someone at a bar, I swear.

Haha! If I was to start messaging someone now I can't meet them for about 2 weeks. So while they ask you on a date today you may not meet them for over a week.

FewFew · 23-04-2012 7:43pm

The worst is someone coming along who might be interesting, but you're genuinely too busy to meet them, so there's this prolonged period of back and forth, where they're dropping the "let's meet up!" hints like crazy, but you've got nothing but "I'm stupidly busy" to reply with. In real life it's somewhat understandable, but online people can feel that you're just not interested.
Once had a girl give out to me for being busy "If you're so busy, why are you on an online dating site?!" as if not being able to meet up in the next two weeks was cause to close down my profile :rolleyes:

LoTwan · 23-04-2012 7:48pm

Pembily wrote: »

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Pembily wrote: »

Yeah but when can you meet? It may not be for another week or so, and then ye will have messaged for a few days

Hmm. I didn't consider that, actually. I need to learn this online dating etiquette. It's so much easier to just get stuck into someone at a bar, I swear.

Haha! If I was to start messaging someone now I can't meet them for about 2 weeks. So while they ask you on a date today you may not meet them for over a week.

I'm the same. My free time is so limited its not funny & I'm not paying a babysitter €30 to go meet someone for coffee. If I got chatting to someone today the soonest I could meet them is next Sunday. Heck, the guy I'm chatting with is being fit into a trip to Dublin to see family & even then time will be limited because my family don't know where I'm going.

Owen · 23-04-2012 7:54pm

That tineye.com is a serious site, the amount of girls I've caught with fake photos is incredible.

FewFew · 23-04-2012 8:00pm

Owen wrote: »

That tineye.com is a serious site, the amount of girls I've caught with fake photos is incredible.

Sounds handy alright

Pembily · 23-04-2012 8:03pm

Owen wrote: »

That tineye.com is a serious site, the amount of girls I've caught with fake photos is incredible.

That's the one for checking them, thanks

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 8:06pm

Owen wrote: »

That tineye.com is a serious site, the amount of girls I've caught with fake photos is incredible.

No way? ha ha.. Did you tell them you caught them out?

ceegee · 23-04-2012 8:08pm

What sites do people use for online dating other than pof and okc? Had a quick look but theres so many different ones and Id prefer to sign up to something reputable that wont just spam me constantly

Owen · 23-04-2012 8:11pm

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

No way? ha ha.. Did you tell them you caught them out?

Nope, just report the profile and paste a link to the tineye search results for the admins to deal with.

Dolly Daydreams · 23-04-2012 8:14pm

Owen wrote: »

Nope, just report the profile and paste a link to the tineye search results for the admins to deal with.

I don't get why they'd bother doing it..

Pembily · 23-04-2012 8:37pm

OHMYGOD, classic message - Can I lick ur hoop

That was it, no punctuation and text speak! Eh nope, no, nope, no!

FewFew · 23-04-2012 8:41pm

Pembily wrote: »

OHMYGOD, classic message - Can I lick ur hoop

That was it, no punctuation and text speak! Eh nope, no, nope, no!

But then... part of you wonders, maybe he was a crime-fighting billionaire from Scotland, trying to text with his nose while defusing a bomb. Instead of hoop he meant face, instead of lick he meant kiss, instead of ur he meant "your uniquely beautiful".

I think you should take the chance Pem. It could be magic.

Daisies · 23-04-2012 8:43pm

Got a mail from a guy who's profile pic is a cocker spanial asking me for coffee.Looked at his profile, not filled in.Said, "Ah, I know nothing about you", response "Blue is my favourite colour". He's a keeper!

tatumkelly · 23-04-2012 8:44pm

Daisies wrote: »

Got a mail from a guy who's profile pic is a cocker spanial asking me for coffee.Looked at his profile, not filled in.Said, "Ah, I know nothing about you", response "Blue is my favourite colour". He's a keeper!

You sound awfully fussy

Daisies · 23-04-2012 8:49pm

tatumkelly wrote: »

Daisies wrote: »

Got a mail from a guy who's profile pic is a cocker spanial asking me for coffee.Looked at his profile, not filled in.Said, "Ah, I know nothing about you", response "Blue is my favourite colour". He's a keeper!

You sound awfully fussy

Can't deny that!

Mental Mickey · 23-04-2012 8:51pm

Pembily wrote: »

OHMYGOD, classic message - Can I lick ur hoop

That was it, no punctuation and text speak! Eh nope, no, nope, no!

:eek:

Pembily · 23-04-2012 9:03pm

Fewcifur wrote: »

But then... part of you wonders, maybe he was a crime-fighting billionaire from Scotland, trying to text with his nose while defusing a bomb. Instead of hoop he meant face, instead of lick he meant kiss, instead of ur he meant "your uniquely beautiful".

I think you should take the chance Pem. It could be magic.

Oh god, how did I mis-read it :P :pac:

Mental Mickey · 23-04-2012 9:08pm

POF.com keeps showing up the same faces all the time. This is getting boring.:(:rolleyes:

Pembily · 23-04-2012 9:12pm

I have also found a guy who is an enigeer! It's getting worse!

VinLieger · 23-04-2012 9:17pm

Mental Mickey wrote: »

POF.com keeps showing up the same faces all the time. This is getting boring.:(:rolleyes:

Yup same happening here, also my views are pretty much nonexistent.

Quick question for people, ive probably been a bit too picky about contacting girls whos profiles just consist of that generic "love going out with the girls, if you wanna know more just ask" etc or even girls who seem interesting but just have very limited profiles. My question is what to ask? Hobbies, music? or what? im just unsure as to where to go with those.

Galvasean · 23-04-2012 9:55pm

Pembily wrote: »

Very easily, Google photo, upload!! Galva has a link that you can check the photo through!

I've never used that website. I'm so well known on this thread I'm known for things not of my doing! Not sure if that's a good thing....

Handsome Bob wrote: »

So you're the boards hoe that I've been hearing so much about.

You dont exactly hear about them coming back for seconds though do you?

VinLieger wrote: »

Quick question for people, ive probably been a bit too picky about contacting girls whos profiles just consist of that generic "love going out with the girls, if you wanna know more just ask" etc or even girls who seem interesting but just have very limited profiles. My question is what to ask? Hobbies, music? or what? im just unsure as to where to go with those.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCvQ_7u1XeI

Kaldea · 23-04-2012 9:57pm

VinLieger wrote: »

Quick question for people, ive probably been a bit too picky about contacting girls whos profiles just consist of that generic "love going out with the girls, if you wanna know more just ask" etc or even girls who seem interesting but just have very limited profiles. My question is what to ask? Hobbies, music? or what? im just unsure as to where to go with those.

I'm the same, I've never done the online dating thing but for the first time last night I looked at a few websites to see what its like an whether I'd give it a go! But I wanna know specifics! Like are they into the same things that I'm into! tv, games, movies etc! But I don't know how to spark up a convo an go 'hey, do you like stuff!?'

Pembily · 23-04-2012 10:01pm

Galvasean wrote: »

Pembily wrote: »

Very easily, Google photo, upload!! Galva has a link that you can check the photo through!

I've never used that website. I'm so well known on this thread I'm known for things not of my doing! Not sure if that's a good thing....

Did you not mention it? I'm blaming my confusion on being sick

red_diesel · 23-04-2012 10:10pm

Anybody ever been to a POF singles night?? There are a few this weekend in Dublin.

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