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Believe his Actions or his Words??

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    #32
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Yes if his feeling were strong enough he would have given it a go. Onwards and upwards op


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    JeffKenna
    Registered Users Posts: 4,510 ✭✭✭JeffKenna


    Hi OP,

    Bottom line is if this guy wanted to be with you he would. That's his decision. It doesn't make him a prick or emotionally unavailable as some posts seem to suggest. Perhaps he just saw more and more parts of the relationship that he wasn't happy with or knew he wouldn't be in the future.


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    tinz18
    Registered Users Posts: 329 ✭✭tinz18


    Head-Melted wrote:
    But at the end of the day, I guess if his feelings were strong enough then he would have given it a go. So I need to try to forget him. Thanks again.


    Definitely follow this advice OP. I had a guy who used the same excuse (in my case pressure of a PhD) as an out of a relationship. Lo and behold he was in another serious relationship within a few weeks and by doing a PhD myself (and holding onto my relationship while doing it) I realised that it was his way of letting me down without having to be the bad guy and say the words "I'm just not that into you anymore." I remember how hard it is to reconcile words with actions but don't overthink it. If you haven't cut contact do so now and move on- its his loss and trust me there's many other guys out there who's actions match their words.


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