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What engagement present??

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  • 29-04-2014 11:29am
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    you wha?
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    Hey ladies,
    My older sister got engaged a week or two ago and me and my other sister and stumped as to what to get her for an engagement present? i guess it should be for himself too so i really havent a clue....
    any ideas would be greatly appreciated
    :)


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    coffee_cake
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    Eh... what? Engagement present? Buy them a card and a couple of drinks


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    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    I've never bought anyone an engagement present, don't see the need for it when you will buy them a wedding present.


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    #4
    you wha?
    Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭you wha?


    bluewolf wrote: »
    Eh... what? Engagement present? Buy them a card and a couple of drinks

    Thats what i thought, bought them a deadly funky pigeon card with their faces on it even ha but everyone is telling me to buy them something?!!who knew this was a thing?!!!


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    coffee_cake
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    you wha? wrote: »
    Thats what i thought, bought them a deadly funky pigeon card with their faces on it even ha but everyone is telling me to buy them something?!!who knew this was a thing?!!!

    There is no way it's a thing, even if I sound out of touch
    You'll be buying them a wedding present
    Card and maybe a bottle of champagne if you want to get something


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    skallywag
    Registered Users Posts: 2,987 ✭✭✭skallywag


    Agree completely with those who are saying that no present at all is required. It can certainly be the case that some may have an expectation though, I can recall times when a girl would throw an 'engagement party' (i.e. basically make a few sandwiches and use a small room / function area in a bar etc) , where everyone who was coming along would then feel obliged to bring a gift. It always struck me as odd / backhanded though, i.e. why not just head out for a normal evening of drinks / dinner etc to celebrate ...


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    Lucyfur
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    Moved from tLL :)


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    Cathmandooo
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    I agree that there's no need, ignore people saying that you must buy something.

    But if you do want to, depending on your budget, something for the house? tickets to a play / concert / comedian? A bottle of bubbly? Suggest a family dinner to celebrate?

    Honestly though, the card sounds like great fun and just perfect to mark the occasion.


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    Plek Trum
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    No need for a present at all - a nice card, maybe a bottle of bubbly and off you go!


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    brassbutterfly
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    I dont mean to go against the grain here but I think something small to mark the occasion would be nice! Nothing big or no need to spend a lot of money just something thoughtful. Depending on their taste you could get them something small in relation to where he popped the question eg a picture. I don't think they expect anything from you though? I definitely wouldn't!


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    you wha?
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    brassbutterfly wrote: »
    I dont mean to go against the grain here but I think something small to mark the occasion would be nice! Nothing big or no need to spend a lot of money just something thoughtful. Depending on their taste you could get them something small in relation to where he popped the question eg a picture. I don't think they expect anything from you though? I definitely wouldn't!

    I was kinda thinking about a pic but they have so many flipping pics of themselves up at their place!i have wrecked my head thining of something and come up with nothing.to be honest i can barely afford to head to their engagement party next month so a pint from me will have to do haha


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    brassbutterfly
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    you wha? wrote: »
    I was kinda thinking about a pic but they have so many flipping pics of themselves up at their place!i have wrecked my head thining of something and come up with nothing.to be honest i can barely afford to head to their engagement party next month so a pint from me will have to do haha

    If that's the situation financially I definately wouldn't get them anything! They'll more than understand. Stop worry and just enjoy the party- don't be listening to ppl telling you about what you have to buy!


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    skallywag
    Registered Users Posts: 2,987 ✭✭✭skallywag


    you wha? wrote: »
    ...their engagement party next month...

    Are ''Engagement Parties'' still the norm?

    I can fully understand meeting up with your friends & family etc shortly after getting engaged to have a few celebratory drinks, etc, but having a party a couple of months after you have actually gotten engaged seems a bit odd, to me anyway.


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    ammiem
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    When my brother and his wife got engaged i contacted loads of their friends and put together a photo album and a collage of pics of them that they probably wouldnt have seen or wouldnt have seen in ages anyway. It was loads of work and turned out quite expensive but 6 years later it still has perfect position on their coffee table.


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