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How Important would someone's taste in music and night's out be to you?

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  • #52
    Linoge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,790 ✭✭✭Linoge


    ash23 wrote: »
    Mmmm, the dance scene, if that's what he is into and I'm just assuming it is, seems to be pretty intense for some people (my ex included).

    I'd tread carefully with this one OP. I'm probably biased because of my own experience but I found my ex and his mates would plan their holidays around raves etc. The biggest dance events don't tend to be in the country. Lots of weekends to Liverpool or Manchester, dance festivals in Europe in the Summer, holidays to Ibiza etc. It can be more of a way of life for some people and if you're not into it and he is (in a big way) you can expect to find it might become a problem.

    I am one of these people. All the posts I've read before about people just accepting different tastes in music, not basing a relationship on socialising, etc. That can all go out to the window when you like dance music. For me, it actually pains me to be in a bar with a live band.

    Decent dance events are so rare in Ireland, you basically need to plan all your holidays and breaks away around them. As much as south of France and Italy are amazing places to visit, it would kill me to have to give up 2 weeks in Ibiza and visit there instead on a "normal" holiday. Even if you were so amazing as to go with, the last thing you want is to be dragging someone who doesn't like the music out to a sweaty club, standing painfully listening to it, not dancing and then wanting to go home at 2:00am.


  • #53
    Lalealea
    Closed Accounts Posts: 212 ✭✭Lalealea


    Linoge wrote: »
    I am one of these people. All the posts I've read before about people just accepting different tastes in music, not basing a relationship on socialising, etc. That can all go out to the window when you like dance music. For me, it actually pains me to be in a bar with a live band.

    Decent dance events are so rare in Ireland, you basically need to plan all your holidays and breaks away around them. As much as south of France and Italy are amazing places to visit, it would kill me to have to give up 2 weeks in Ibiza and visit there instead on a "normal" holiday. Even if you were so amazing as to go with, the last thing you want is to be dragging someone who doesn't like the music out to a sweaty club, standing painfully listening to it, not dancing and then wanting to go home at 2:00am.

    Ah that makes sense now.

    In that case you either have to make a choice or make compromise.

    It depends on how strong his feelings are and what he sees his future as.

    I would never want to hold someone back. But we all have needs in relationships. It's either compromise or he needs to think. She does too.

    I'm a little bit of home bird. I like new experiences but I can imagine a lot of guys would not notice me or just not be into me. I guess it's incompatibility.


    I don't really know what to say to the OP then. It seems a bit out of experience.

    My feeling has always been if you want someone you want them and if they want you they want you. It should be direct and you just make it work. If they don't want you or are indifferent to you then it won't.


  • #54
    happypants
    Registered Users Posts: 280 ✭✭happypants


    Personally I can't stand a bit of music snobbery. I love music, all types of music apart from jazz- can't abide it, but if a partner enjoyed it, what's it to me?! anyway, this is such a trivial non issue IMO. It would worry me if a partner brought it up as a possible issue. When you hang out together if the gap is too wide do something that doesn't involve music then head to chosen gigs/ concerts with friends who enjoy the same. That's the best of both worlds- he gets time with friends and so do you.

    I the grand scheme of life this is such a small part. There will always be stuff you enjoy that your partner doesn't- for my relationship, he hates some of the garbage tv I watch, I hate most sports he watches. but I'll leave him at it to watch rugby/ f1 etc

    Also if you see yourself having children at some stage most of the above is completely irrelevant. My baby is 5 months old and i honestly don't remember when I last had time to update my iPod or actually listen to any music outside of the car. I did notice last week that the majority of pop music on the radio is pretty poor tho, no doubt my little one will love it, and myself and her dad will just have to lump it!


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