New Galway social group for bi-guys and galls?

Jargonaut · 13-06-2011 7:01pm #1

I'm a bi Galway guy and I'm seeking to put an end to a mystery of my orientation by answering the question:

"Where the hell is everybody!?":)

Try as I might, I can't seem to meet any bi guys in Galway and I know some female friends have the same problem. Even just to connect with someone to chat about what's going on with them would be so great.

From a lot of threads here it would seem I'm not alone in answering this question. So with that in mind, would anyone be interested in forming our own new social group where we could have a monthly meet up, to chat and build our own community of like minds?

There's youth groups but I can't find anything active in Galway for grown ups where you can be discrete if you want to be and seen as just another random group of people socialising without the labels.

What do you guys think? Is there room for such a social group in Galway City especially for those who want to be discrete and equally for those who are out?

If there's good enough interest it is something very easy to organise. Let me know and if the interest is good I'll happily arrange a venue etc.

Thanks!

Killer_banana · 13-06-2011 7:35pm

I'm interested. I'm technically still young enough for the youth groups but since the starter age is usually around thirteen or fourteen I'd feel old. =P I might have a friend who's interested as well.

Jargonaut · 14-06-2011 4:10pm

That's great! Hopefully the word will spread a bit and we can get a few peeps together. Keep in touch so.

boarding12 · 20-06-2011 1:43pm

Hey!

Well count me in! Im mid 20s, bi, not out and based in Galway! Looking forward to the updates!

LegacyUser · 23-06-2011 11:40am

Keep me up up date too.

trevbren · 27-06-2011 8:44pm

Hey guys.

I'm 22 in galway cty aswel. Only out to 4 friends, but dont plan on being out to anyone else. I'd love to be a part of a group to chat with others in my situation. I'll follow this thread. Cheers lads

Jargonaut · 30-06-2011 2:37pm

This is great guys. I left this a couple of weeks to see if there would be any responses. Thanks to all of you for showing an interest. I got a couple of private messages about it too. It's great! If you want maybe we can kick off a conversation or two here to get the ball rolling, while we're waiting to see if anyone else is interested too.

Any one have anything they'd like to say? How about; What would you like a social group like this to be about for you?

Cheers guys.

Bad Science · 30-06-2011 10:18pm

Hey guys 23 in galway. sounds like a great idea. let me know

VSBeetle · 01-07-2011 2:47am

Hi, I wandered over here to see if there was a group like this. I'm a member of BiScotland but I live here now so it'd be nice to go along to a group. I'm a little older than a lot of you seem to be and also a woman. A group sounds good but not if I'm the only girl among a lot of boys! ;-D

Killer_banana · 01-07-2011 11:24pm

VSBeetle wrote: »

Hi, I wandered over here to see if there was a group like this. I'm a member of BiScotland but I live here now so it'd be nice to go along to a group. I'm a little older than a lot of you seem to be and also a woman. A group sounds good but not if I'm the only girl among a lot of boys! ;-D

I'm female too. So there's at least gonna be two of us.

VSBeetle · 02-07-2011 1:25am

Killer_banana wrote: »

I'm female too. So there's at least gonna be two of us.

Well that's a good start then. :-)

GalwayFear · 05-07-2011 3:35pm

Well question is, where do people go out to? i am not into the scene in galway at all so find it very hard to meet guys who are bi like me.

Sam Tyler · 07-07-2011 9:59pm

This might seem like a silly question but is this group just for bi people? As a galway singleton that hasnt been on the dating scene for a while id quite like to meet some new people so i would i be welcome?!!

VSBeetle · 07-07-2011 11:59pm

As someone else who doesn't know anyone in Galway yet I don't have an objection. Do folk want a group of like-minded folk to be friends with though or a group to go out on the pull with? Group I used to be in would have a meeting and discussion somewhere then go on to a pub for a few drinks and a chinwag.

L.Jenkins · 08-07-2011 11:24am

Seems like a fascinating idea as it will be the first Bi group I've seen. Do keep us informed and I may attend any social get togethers.

Annasopra · 08-07-2011 6:02pm

ItsThatManAgain wrote: »

Seems like a fascinating idea as it will be the first Bi group I've seen. Do keep us informed and I may attend any social get togethers.

There is a Dublin bi group called bi Irish - Google you lots of links to them

Asry · 10-07-2011 4:49pm

God damn it! Why couldn't things like this have happened when *I* lived in Galway! I felt so straight that I started believing I was!

L.Jenkins · 10-07-2011 5:49pm

You could always move back

Asry · 10-07-2011 7:32pm

if I could only get a job there, I would! Dublin sucks!

VSBeetle · 10-07-2011 10:39pm

Asry wrote: »

God damn it! Why couldn't things like this have happened when *I* lived in Galway! I felt so straight that I started believing I was!

A sad fate indeed! I'm sure you could drop by for the meet-up, if we get one organised?

VSBeetle · 10-07-2011 11:24pm

I keep seeing ads and that for Wilde's, what's that like then? Looks new? Probably not the best for a first meeting mind, if it's got loud music and that.

L.Jenkins · 10-07-2011 11:27pm

Been to Wildes a few times and it's nice. If it gets noisy, you could always head upstairs to the pool room or head somewhere else.

Jargonaut · 24-07-2011 5:28pm

Wow everybody, I'm so delighted to see so many guys and girls interested in this group.

Let's set the first meeting for Thursday September 1st 2011 with venue to be announced. I love the idea of having a meeting first then heading for a drink and a chin wag.

Everyone on board for Sept. 1st!?:)

L.Jenkins · 24-07-2011 5:39pm

I can't see myself making it unless I'm living in Galway at that stage. Have an appointment in Dublin the day before and a meet up in Galway with another group the night after, so money could be tight.

Annasopra · 24-07-2011 6:47pm

If you need any advice or assistance LGBT Diversity are great at helping groups out

It might be worth contacting Hayley Fox Roberts in LGBT Diversity - I think the person who had been working in the Midlands Region (covering Galway) left

http://www.lgbtdiversity.com/about.aspx?title=contact_details

http://www.lgbtdiversity.com/region-information.aspx?title=midlands_region

Jargonaut · 15-08-2011 8:17pm

Thanks for the feedback guys and galls! As many of us are not yet out, including myself, I think the first meeting should be discrete enough and the location the same. Once everyone is comfortable with each other we could then maybe look for some where more public to meet from then on.

I'm thinking we could meet somewhere and have a chat about the group and what everyone would like it to be for them and then decide the setting for the next meeting.

What would be a great help in organising a venue would be if you could all confirm your availability below for Thursday, September 1st 2011 at 7pm and that you'd like to attend.

This will just be a meet and greet and we can move it forward from there. Once I know those who have shown interest in this thread are available to actually meet on this night, I can go ahead and book a meeting room and let y'all know where that will be. I'll send you private emails here.

If that sounds good and safe please let me know you can make it.

Please keep in mind that this is a group for males and females with a bisexual orientation only. Other orientations have their own groups. We do not want this to descend into a free for all with other orientations coming along hoping for a leg over or something. It's not about that.

Cheers!

GalwayFear · 20-08-2011 3:45am

Where you thinking of as a venue? I am sure that might be a big issue for some people! Well me anyways!!

apache · 20-08-2011 3:57pm

Jargonaut wrote: »

Please keep in mind that this is a group for males and females with a bisexual orientation only. Other orientations have their own groups. We do not want this to descend into a free for all with other orientations coming along hoping for a leg over or something. It's not about that.

Cheers!

gay groups also have their own meets but it dosen't stop bisexuals coming along. imagine if that was suggested? there would be uproar!

swine · 22-08-2011 12:53am

Might be up for this, location is pretty important though...

Galwaystar · 23-08-2011 12:28pm

Sept 1 is good for me!

jaffacakesyum · 23-08-2011 12:57pm

apache wrote: »

gay groups also have their own meets but it dosen't stop bisexuals coming along. imagine if that was suggested? there would be uproar!

There are many different LGBT groups around Ireland. Some are LGBT, some are just for women, some just for men, some just for bi's....don't see the problem here?

kiwipower · 24-08-2011 10:45am

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

There are many different LGBT groups around Ireland. Some are LGBT, some are just for women, some just for men, some just for bi's....don't see the problem here?

What about members of the LGBT who may identify as Lesbian/Gay or Trans or may even identify as Straight but maybe exploring issues around Bisexuality?

As is often said on this Forum Sexuality is fluid. You cant box people into strict categories.

That said the group sounds like a fantastic idea! Would love to give it a go but unfortunatly am down in Limerick. Best of luck!

andanotherthing · 24-08-2011 4:38pm

I'd be up for a limerick group

Killer_banana · 25-08-2011 7:28pm

Can't make the first I'm afraid but still interested in other meetings.

Jargonaut · 29-08-2011 2:58pm

apache wrote: »

gay groups also have their own meets but it dosen't stop bisexuals coming along. imagine if that was suggested? there would be uproar!

I don't really care about that to be honest. Also some people like me would not be interested, comfortable or bothered being in a gay group or in an organisation like LGBT. It doesn't suit me, it doesn't suit my desired level of participation in the 'community' and it doesn't suit my desire to publicly announce my orientation (such as pride days etc). There is no compulsory order in existence that demands everyone, because they are gay or not, gets invited into a group of any description. That is determined by descriptive invitation at the discretion of the organisers and members not some philosophy that resides in the ether. I'm not gay and from experience and talking to gay friends who don't know I'm bi, some of their attitudes toward bisexual people quite frankly stinks. So each to their own. You don't have to come along if you don't like the Modus Operandi. Form your own group. We are just trying to sort ourselves out with people who understand how it feels to be bi, not gay not transgender etc. Just bi. Other groups have already been set up to deal with other sexual orientations and issues and you are free to join as many of them as you like until the cows come home! A lot of people who want to be involved in this group want to do so in a very private manner as they/we are not out. There are other issues in the background here other than pigeon holing sexual orientations or displaying a lack of fluidity. The fact is that sexuality is fluid for some and confirmed one way or another for others.

All interested will be emailed by me tomorrow privately, to let you know where to meet. It will be some where private in Galway City Centre at 7pm. Awaiting venue confirmation this evening. Thanks.

Annasopra · 28-04-2012 1:55pm

*bump* for kiwipower

kiwipower · 29-04-2012 12:07am

mango salsa wrote: »

*bump* for kiwipower

Thanks Mango Salsa your the best!

Actually, Just as a side thought, would it be possible to have some type of search function for the forum, where you can search through threads you have posted on?

Cheers

kiwipower · 29-04-2012 12:24am

So,
Am now back in Galway, Am exploring many new aspects of my personality, sexuality and being newly single in my mid 30s.
Just wondering if this group is still running?
If so I would like to join the meet ups.
Would someone mind posting or PMing me the details?
Cheers
KP

rocket_diva · 30-08-2014 10:16am

curious. is this group still active or gone. any alternative groups ? kind of new to this shall we say and thought the idea of this group sounded like great support for newbies though I'm not so young. I'm in my 30's. I guess it would be nice to chat to females in similar situation.

Annasopra · 30-08-2014 12:26pm

rocket_diva wrote: »

curious. is this group still active or gone. any alternative groups ? kind of new to this shall we say and thought the idea of this group sounded like great support for newbies though I'm not so young. I'm in my 30's. I guess it would be nice to chat to females in similar situation.

Id say at a guess given its 3 years later its gone

VSBeetle · 31-08-2014 1:24am

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Id say at a guess given its 3 years later its gone

It did just send me a notification though. I was too shy to come along to the group back in the day, no idea if I'm less shy now but I am still subscribed to the thread, at the very least.

Galwaystar · 05-09-2014 5:42pm

Count me in for this group if it gets started

Annasopra · 05-09-2014 6:30pm

Folks - theres no point in you all saying - "if something gets started" - it wont get started if you all say that

VSBeetle · 05-09-2014 11:39pm

Yeah was about to say... :-D OK I work shifts, have kids, stay outside of town and don't know anything about meeting places in Galway. Now that I've got my excuses in what's everyone else's excuse? :-D

LegacyUser · 10-04-2015 8:31am

Single father, bi and discreet, don't have a social life really, just work and be a dad, would love to get out meet new people in similar circumstances and enjoy life, have drinks, go the gym, hang out in good company! If anyone is interested get in touch!

GalwayGuy29 · 10-04-2015 8:49am

Single Father 28, bi discreet, not much of a social life, just work and be a dad, would like to meet like minded for pints, cinema maybe gym! Get in touch of interestinterested, just want to start living a bit!

Euphoria Intensifies · 12-04-2015 10:02pm

Bi Ireland have had a few meetups in Galway. Check their facebook page to see when another one will be coming up.

LegacyUser · 28-05-2017 8:04pm

Yep... old thread I know but I'm still going to respond. I'm setting up a group. I'm new to Galway and will hold the first get together in July. Any recommendations for venue? Sunday brunch? Friday night dinner? Anyone?

Galwaystar · 07-07-2017 12:47pm

Friday night dinner would be nice...I'm in!

cozmon · 06-05-2018 10:36pm

Old post but I'll give it a try
Married man 40, mostly spending time at work and home, probably bi curious as i wanted to meet a guy for absolutely desceet relationship. No parties no nights out , just someone who wouldn't declare his orientation to public but seems it's not quite possible, in Galway anyway,
Ahh it's hard to find someone with same preferences in this little town

New Galway social group for bi-guys and galls?

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