what the hell is going on?!!

LegacyUser · 14-01-2008 12:53pm #1

OK, I met this lovely guy before xmas. He is a friend of a friend. I instantly liked him and there was a connection. Anyway I asked my friend(male) for this guys number and he wouldn't give it to me. He said he doesn't give out anyone's number to anyone. I was very annoyed at this but I let it go and forgot about it. 5 days later the guy text me telling me that it had taken him 5 days to get my number from our mutual friend. I was delighted and we met up for a drink. Everything went really well. I'm totally intrigued by the guy. We went out on another few dates, went for dinner etc. We text each other on a daily basis. On a couple of occasions we dicussed the fact the we both knew our mutual friend was not happy that the pair of us were meeting up. Now, i know he's been trying to put a spanner in the works.

So all of a sudden, nothing from this guy. He hasn't been returning my texts. So I'm just in limbo. It doesn't make sense to be honest.

Any advice?

Beruthiel · 14-01-2008 1:07pm

Perhaps he's jealous?
Perhaps he fancys you himself?

Mr. Incognito · 14-01-2008 1:14pm

Mutual mate has crush on you and bad-mouthed you to other mate that you like........ probably.

AngryBadger · 14-01-2008 1:16pm

Maybe the mutual friend has a part in this.

Or maybe the guy just isn't as interested in you as you are in him.

humanji · 14-01-2008 1:16pm

Why not actually ring him?

justsomebloke · 14-01-2008 1:19pm

humanji wrote: »

Why not actually ring him?

ye just ring him

Balmed Out · 14-01-2008 1:20pm

Other possible reason too. Mutual friend was trying to protect you knowing the other guy is a dickhead to women.

Cathmandooo · 14-01-2008 1:21pm

humanji wrote: »

Why not actually ring him?

+1!

Ring and ask, could be a simple answer!

I can understand mates not giving out other mates numbers. If there's trouble with the couple the mate generally gets stuck in the middle.

jdivision · 14-01-2008 1:25pm

You have to ring because maybe his phone was nicked and he hasn't been getting your texts - by ringing you'll know

Lux23 · 14-01-2008 1:38pm

Just ring him and ask him straight out but I have an inkling that its mutual friend that may be causing trouble here.

Teddi · 14-01-2008 1:48pm

Well by the sounds of it, You guys would be an Item by now if this "mutual" friend wasnt on the scene?

Maybe your mutual friend gave him a telling off and that your friend has hidden feelings for you?

I dont want to wreak your head anymore than it is, just something to think about

Buzz Buzz · 14-01-2008 2:32pm

Have a friend that I would'nt be overly keen handing out his number to any woman friend of mine.. not because I'm jealous or anything, but because he goes through women so fast, massive interest at the start, then gets what he wants and gets bored.. usually discards them pretty quickly. I know its not my problem once they become involved with each other.. but I dont want to be associated with that his antics for my sake.

LegacyUser · 14-01-2008 2:52pm

Well its true I don't really know much about this guy but surely its up to me to find out for myself what he's like. I did say to him that when my friend wouldn't give me his number that I thought he might have wanted to protect me from something but its just my friends actions over the last while have confirmed to me otherwise....

biko · 14-01-2008 2:58pm

Ask you mutual friend why he don't want you two to hook up, maybe he has a reason.
Ring new guy and ask what's up. If he works close by you could just pop in to say "hi".

pookie82 · 14-01-2008 3:02pm

Your mutual friend likes you. Therefore he's either confided in his mate, who has now backed off (which is pretty mean without as much as an excuse) or else he's bad mouthed you to him. If your mutual friend was really concerned from the beginning that this guy was bad news, surley he could have come out and said it straight.

Balmed Out · 14-01-2008 4:00pm

"my friends actions over the last while have confirmed to me otherwise.... "
How so?
How good a friend is he anyhow?
I still reckon hes trying to protect you , its a male sexist thing.

Itd be pretty freaky for a guy to go bad mouthing someone to put somebody off, its not really our style.

astrofool · 14-01-2008 8:30pm

A lot of people would be the same about giving out numbers, unless they knew both parties wanted the number given (probably why the guy got yours in the end). I've known people to have a lot of problems with their mobile numbers going to people they don't want to have it due to some naiive do-gooder.

The rest just sounds like the guy is either busy and hasn't had time to text/forgotten, or he's not interested. If he was interested, he wouldn't let a third party stand in the way.

what the hell is going on?!!

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