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Repeating advice 2014

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  • 21-08-2013 2:42am
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    oncex
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    I've seen so many threads on academic advice but none on how to deal with the social aspects of repeating.

    Is there anything you did differently? Did you make friends with the year below you and did you go out at the weekends?
    I'm guessing the next 2 weeks are the worst.


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    yoho139
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    I think most (or at least many) people who repeat change school, possibly exactly so they don't have to deal with those aspects of it. My brother went to the IoE when he repeated, for example. Plenty of people there repeating.


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    aimzLc2
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    oncex wrote: »
    I've seen so many threads on academic advice but none on how to deal with the social aspects of repeating.

    Is there anything you did differently? Did you make friends with the year below you and did you go out at the weekends?
    I'm guessing the next 2 weeks are the worst.

    Hi ,my school didn't offer repeating so i went to a college that offers just repeats and some college courses.I think its probably better this way , nobody knew anyone so we all got to know each other. At lunch times we would hang out in the canteen, i made some amazing friends for life in the one year, it took a few weeks but everyone is in the same situation :) i did not go out every weekend but i went out with the new friends regularly! and met old friends too
    why the next 2 weeks?


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    oncex
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    Ya see I can't afford the €10000 it would cost to repeat in a grinds school. I think it will be hard because all of my friends are getting their college courses and are preparing to go off, whereas I'm at home sorting out my folders. I'm an hour away from the city too and there aren't any grinds schools near


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    aimzLc2
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    oncex wrote: »
    Ya see I can't afford the €10000 it would cost to repeat in a grinds school. I think it will be hard because all of my friends are getting their college courses and are preparing to go off, whereas I'm at home sorting out my folders. I'm an hour away from the city too and there aren't any grinds schools near

    I didn't pay that either! i went to a vec :) but if you have to repeat in the school i'm sure it will be the same making friends-wise :)

    right i get you ,just ask your friends to do something fun /a big meet up in the next week before they start college/ before you start ,it won't be as bad as you think :)


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    ahmdoda
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    making friends is not that complicated man the same way you made your current friend you will make new ones


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    spurious
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    oncex wrote: »
    Ya see I can't afford the €10000 it would cost to repeat in a grinds school. I think it will be hard because all of my friends are getting their college courses and are preparing to go off, whereas I'm at home sorting out my folders. I'm an hour away from the city too and there aren't any grinds schools near

    The VEC/ETB schools charge nothing like that and have excellent results.
    Have a look at the Rathmines College threads here.


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    oncex
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    spurious wrote: »
    The VEC/ETB schools charge nothing like that and have excellent results.
    Have a look at the Rathmines College threads here.

    Would there be any like rathmines in Cork?


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    dory
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    I didn't repeat but I did drop out of college very early on and so had the experience of seeing all my friends enjoying college without me. Main advice I would give you is take all you see on Facebook with a pinch of salt. You're only going to see the nights out etc. Remember there's a lot people don't show behind the scenes. They will also have exams/essays and all that. It's not all fun and games! Best of luck.


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    spurious
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    oncex wrote: »
    Would there be any like rathmines in Cork?

    I don't know Cork VEC, but you could ring them and ask where is their specialist repeat college.


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    oncex
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    spurious wrote: »
    I don't know Cork VEC, but you could ring them and ask where is their specialist repeat college.


    Oh yes I actually know what you mean by VEC now. College of Commerce etc., although it would be easier for me to go to my own school as i'd be losing 2 hours a day travelling/paying for accomodation, so I'm stuck with my own school.

    Thanks guys.


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    aarond280
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    I'm talking from experience, just did my repeat leaving this year in the same school as last year. I had a few friends that ty and that so wasn't too bad but saying that some of them had made new friends or groups as you might like to call it. It can be very difficult at the start, first few weeks are anyway. I didn't go out many weekends throughout the year as I studied a good bit. in the end I went up 105 points, going to study actuarial and financial studies in ucd now. so even if you don't have many friends, feck them because ya wont talk to many of them once you leave school much anyway


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    oncex
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    aarond280 wrote: »
    I'm talking from experience, just did my repeat leaving this year in the same school as last year. I had a few friends that ty and that so wasn't too bad but saying that some of them had made new friends or groups as you might like to call it. It can be very difficult at the start, first few weeks are anyway. I didn't go out many weekends throughout the year as I studied a good bit. in the end I went up 105 points, going to study actuarial and financial studies in ucd now. so even if you don't have many friends, feck them because ya wont talk to many of them once you leave school much anyway

    Ya its just lunch times that are worrying me, because ill save my few nights out for my actual friends I grew up with. I just don't want to be a loner haha and I don't want to intrude in other groups I barely know either. aarond280 did you find it easier to repeat in your old school, I mean did the teachers go out of their way to help you? Thats the main reason I'm staying.


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    aarond280
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    Some of my teachers did in a way, my applied maths/physics teacher gave me me an chapter on hydrostatics from a different book to do on my own and ask her for help, when I was in the 5th year classes (when I had free classes I would sometime go into 5th year classes) she might get me to sit in with groups doing experiments.
    My maths teacher gave me extra questions to do in 5th year classes and, he would tell me to go on, when I would have the questions to do done or whatever.
    In biology I hardly ever brought any notes, books, exam papers etc into class and would just sit there listening.

    In fairness most teacher understand that its not easy repeating and would try to help.
    With the lunch thing, if most people go to the shop at lunch time, maybe say to someone you know in the year, can you go shop with them.
    I know where your coming from with the whole lunch thing it can be a long lunch time when none of your friends are there.
    Have you an option of going home at lunch ? Have you any friends in the year that you could hang out with ?


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    Coughlans
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    oncex wrote: »
    Would there be any like rathmines in Cork?

    I think Cork College of Commerce do repeat leaving cert courses which don't cost an arm and a leg


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    oncex
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    aarond280 wrote: »
    Some of my teachers did in a way, my applied maths/physics teacher gave me me an chapter on hydrostatics from a different book to do on my own and ask her for help, when I was in the 5th year classes (when I had free classes I would sometime go into 5th year classes) she might get me to sit in with groups doing experiments.
    My maths teacher gave me extra questions to do in 5th year classes and, he would tell me to go on, when I would have the questions to do done or whatever.
    In biology I hardly ever brought any notes, books, exam papers etc into class and would just sit there listening.

    In fairness most teacher understand that its not easy repeating and would try to help.
    With the lunch thing, if most people go to the shop at lunch time, maybe say to someone you know in the year, can you go shop with them.
    I know where your coming from with the whole lunch thing it can be a long lunch time when none of your friends are there.
    Have you an option of going home at lunch ? Have you any friends in the year that you could hang out with ?

    Ya that's exactly what I mean, extra classes and things. I know people in the year I'd talk to them on a night out but I would be shy enough. I think it's different for girls in our school as they're friends with their own friends and don't mix with any other group, whereas the boys are friends with everyone and they'd mix with other years. Ya I'm not far from home so I think Ill get my friends to pick me up for lunch until they go to college.


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    aarond280
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    oncex wrote: »
    Ya that's exactly what I mean, extra classes and things. I know people in the year I'd talk to them on a night out but I would be shy enough. I think it's different for girls in our school as they're friends with their own friends and don't mix with any other group, whereas the boys are friends with everyone and they'd mix with other years. Ya I'm not far from home so I think Ill get my friends to pick me up for lunch until they go to college.
    When you go to talk to the principle to repeat, if your dropping subjects such as English and Irish (that's what I dropped), ask them if there is 5th year classes on at the same time or other 6th year classes, but English and Irish are probably on for everyone at the same time.
    Oh you're a girl ? It would be probably hard to get in with groups of girls, because there can be a b*tch in the group that might just no. Girls are complicated ... ha. Well yeah you could out with your friends that are going college, before they start college.
    In the man time try making friends with some girls in your classes, so that when your friends go to college you'll have someone to hang around with :) ... I know easier said than done, but when you go to college you'll know very little people and that's what you'll have to do.


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    oncex
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    aarond280 wrote: »
    When you go to talk to the principle to repeat, if your dropping subjects such as English and Irish (that's what I dropped), ask them if there is 5th year classes on at the same time or other 6th year classes, but English and Irish are probably on for everyone at the same time.
    Oh you're a girl ? It would be probably hard to get in with groups of girls, because there can be a b*tch in the group that might just no. Girls are complicated ... ha. Well yeah you could out with your friends that are going college, before they start college.
    In the man time try making friends with some girls in your classes, so that when your friends go to college you'll have someone to hang around with :) ... I know easier said than done, but when you go to college you'll know very little people and that's what you'll have to do.

    Ya I think if I was a boy it would be fine as ye are more welcoming haha its okay someone might take pity on me hopefully :)


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    aimzLc2
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    oncex wrote: »
    Ya I think if I was a boy it would be fine as ye are more welcoming haha its okay someone might take pity on me hopefully :)

    I bet you will make loads of new friends , i made amazing friends repeating who are now as close as my other friends , just be brave and starting talking to as many people as possible :)


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    oncex
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    aimzLc2 wrote: »
    I bet you will make loads of new friends , i made amazing friends repeating who are now as close as my other friends , just be brave and starting talking to as many people as possible :)

    so quick update after day 2 im finding it extremely hard. I try but they dont want intruding into their groups and I would have been popular enough in my own year. Would it be awful if i sat alone at lunch?


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    aimzLc2
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    oncex wrote: »
    so quick update after day 2 im finding it extremely hard. I try but they dont want intruding into their groups and I would have been popular enough in my own year. Would it be awful if i sat alone at lunch?

    aw sorry to hear, it is only day 2 so don't worry yet! you say they don't want intruding? have you tried going over to a group and saying hey i don't really know anyone ,would you mind if i sat here kind of thing? they would hardly say no.. no its not awful but i think it would be nice if you could sit with someone , is there nobody else on their own or just two people that you could try to talk to.. wish i could come eat lunch with you! :P


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    if832uspx4eogt
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    I'm *nearly* in the same boat as you. I moved to a new county at the start of 3rd year, half way across the country in fact! I found it hard at first but after a week or two I made good friends and now I have a "group" I suppose.
    Two Spanish guys joined my year and even they've made friends with limited english so don't worry give it time!


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    yoho139
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    Relax, it's only the second day. There isn't anything wrong with eating alone, anyway.


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    oncex
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    Thanks amy you can get a bus down if you want? Haha:rolleyes: Ya its just hard when there is nowhere to go once the bell rings... id say theres a smell of desperation off me at this stage :D


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    Exo
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    I couldn't contemplate repeating my Leaving Cert in the same school, so I've enrolled into Ashfield College to repeat this year. The social stigma around repeating is the loss of a year. It's one aspect that really can bum someone out into making the decision to go for what they want.

    But think about it. If this one year will make a significant difference to your life (most cases, it will) - one year, twenty years later will not matter one single bit in terms of "loss". I'll be finished up at the age of 19, which was my only concern in the beginning. I've gotten over it.


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