Really Embarrassing

abc12312312313 wrote: »

ok sick page but annnyway.

Okay. Here we've hit on a really, really serious issue you have.

It does sound like you might have frenulum breve, or might not but if your worse case scenario is frenulum breve that falls well into the category of "minor" as problems go.

Frenula are any stretch of skin that restricts the movement of an otherwise unattached part of you body. The stretch of skin under your upper lip and the one under your tongue are frenula also, and similarly the frenulum of prepuce of penis connects the foreskin to the vernal mucosa. It pretty much keeps your foreskin in the position it's mean to be in.

For the most part frenulums are just there and primarily of interest because the delta where it meets the penis is a particularly sensitive spot sexually (often referred to as the male clitoris, though I think that probably overstates the case).

Frenulum breve is just latin for "short frenulum" and means it's a bit short. Just as ankyloglossia means the lingual frenulum under the tongue is very short and can cause problems with breastfeeding during infancy and with speech, frenulum breve can be to the extent where it interferes with sexual acts.

It's also possible that you have phimosis (a tight foreskin), which is much more common and even more minor since while it may benefit from medical intervention, it can also possibly be resolved by training it (if you start with gently stretching it in a warm bath).

Either of these possibilities, and a few other similar ones, are easily dealt with after a quick trip to the doctor.

It's also possible that you don't really have either problem. What that girl said doesn't really indicate much since girls your ages are no more reliable judges of what's normal in genital development than boys your age, indeed we get quite a few posts here about "Help! My vagina looks like a perfectly normal vagina!" or "Help! My boyfriend's penis looks like a perfectly normal penis!"

However, in this post you've shown a much more serious problem.

Why do you describe a page which gives a relatively objective description of the penis (focusing mainly on the human penis) as "sick"?

Why are you putting it in people's mouths if you think it's sick?

There are a good few reasons why our society doesn't condone children having sex. While it may seem like this is just a matter of grown-ups trying to stop you having fun or overly worrying about the risks of pregnancy and STIs (and indeed, while you quite likely think you aren't a child anymore) and that some of the reasons just don't apply to your case (particularly the fact that one of the reasons it's illegal is to protect children from sexual exploitation by adults) there are other reasons beyond that.

And one of them is that maturity isn't needed just to have sex responsibly and with an assessment of the risks of pregnancy, STIs and emotional harm, but also needed to make it something that is a truly enjoyable experience rather than just the equivalent of a good ****.

The way you are going you are going to be looking back upon your earliest sexual encounters with nothing but sadness and regret. Worse still, it's going to take you longer to realise just how crap they are.

I strongly suggest you work on your attitude to your own penis and your body and to penises generally.

You've had 15 years of having a penis. It's part of you. While phallocentricity can be a considerable issue with a lot of men, the opposite is no more helpful (and really, is the flip side of the same coin).

If you're a 15 year old boy I don't think I'm making too large an assumption in saying that you probably masturbate. I suggest that when you do so you don't just go straight for the release of sexual tension that comes from a quick orgasm, but explore your penis, the rest of your body (particularly your perineum) and work on enjoying the different sensations that you can induce which don't bring you to an immediate climax but which are enjoyable (the delta where the frenulum is connected is particularly worth lightly stimulating).

The immediate side-effect of this will be better masturbation in cases where you've the time to do so. The longer-term side effects will be a better sexual response when you are with a partner, and better understanding that you should similarly not just go straight for the most obvious things when you are with a partner, but most importantly in your case it could hopefully help you deal with your issue regarding how you think of penises.

davyjose wrote: »

The guy is asking for help, not a lecture on the ills of modern society. This is exactly the sort of thing that turns young people away from seeking advice: self-righteous, fogeyish, lecturing.

I can't make him feel that sex should be enjoyable and fulfilling and I can't make him not describe his own body in hateful terms, I'm just suggesting it's worth trying and offering an idea towards that. Don't see what any of this has to do with the ills of society.

abc1231231 wrote: »

it says "It is possible for the frenulum of the penis to tear during sexual activity. The frenular artery may be severed, causing significant bleeding."
how likely is this to happen?

It's not very likely, but it can happen.

If you do have frenulum breve it's more likely that you'll find what should be enjoyable is instead painful.

That in itself is more than enough reason to get things checked out.

It's also more than likely if you went to a doctor you'll be told you have no such problem. And then you'll have a lot more peace of mind.