Money problems

Hi OP.

Seeing as everyone is jumping down your throat for the lack of self-suffiency I'd like to answer fairly.

Personally I've been financially independant since 17 but that doesn't mean a helping hand wouldn't have been nice from time to time, and I would have gladly accepted cause only people with something to prove don't appreciate a favour from the very people whose investment you ARE. However, no such luck in my case just caus there was no money, c'est la vie.

I know alot of people in their 20's & 30's who talk the talk about self-sufficiency, right up til Daddy gives them 40k for a deposit & even then they still let on they're self-sufficient cause its actually Daddy's 'investment'.

If you are getting an 'allowance' , lap it up babe. Very few do.

But in regards to your REAL ISSUE - career - where to go next - stop letting yerself be fooked around by this agency cause they''re only in it for their own commission. It IS hard to get a real career of the ground with just a primary degree, fact. Yes consider a post grad. I went back for mine at 27 cause I needed direction I've since met people in my (now rockin') career who didn't need a postgrad cause they naturaly had tons of talent & energy ... but personally I had no sense of how to have a career or conduct myself professionally at your age (late starter I know, but so what )

ALTERNATIVELY, feck the BIG 'career' route... find a hobbie & follow it? Sometimes in my day dreams I wish I'd become a florist....

Hang on a sec.

Although most people here were financially independant a 17, I believe the OP is asking a question about how to find a direction.

ALSO as I've said before, much as we all hate D4 chicks, or anyone with any privilege.... the OP has a great opportunity cause she DOESN'T have eat noodles half the week to afford one nite out i.e. she doesn't HAVE TO take a craap job.

Just try to work out what you want to do. Feck agencies. Finding the right employers is like finding a relationship partner: when u meet them you'll know it. Keep movin meantime

LuckyLloyd wrote: »

Wow at the hate in this thread. If someone is saying they are 25 and are in need of advice what good does telling them of your honest struggle with reality when you were in your late teens do? Are the people recounting their war stories here doing it out of a genuine sense of pride; or doing it because the dormant chip on their shoulder sprung into life when they read the op as a poor little D4 richkid who had all the opportunities?

That said, there is no reason to be unemployed in this country right now. That will not be the case in 18 months time - but right now if you want work you should be able to get it. The first thing you need to change is the fact that you should be actively applying and inquiring about an average of five positions per day minimum. And that is aside from your contact with the agency.

Living at home into ones mid twenties has become a modern reality. It is nothing to be ashamed of once you are handing up a reasonable amount of cash at home and actively saving and making plans for a place of your own.

The good news is that your difficulties are by no means insurmountable. Just get up and make things happen - no excuses.

Good luck!!

+1

Also, is you do move out and get your place, after a year or two living indepedently you should be means tested on your OWN income if applying for a grant for you postgrad, so you may not need to save that 10k.
Look into it.

I think some of the comments on this thread have been very harsh. Our lives are not carbon copies of eachothers and nor should they be. The OP is obviously a young woman in need of direction and she says as much herself in her post. Would it be totally impossible for people to consider offering suggestions without the barrage of negative and insulting remarks?

Sophiieekins; I think you would benefit from organising a meeting with a career adviser. I am sure that confusion about sense of direction would be pretty high up on the list of issues they deal with every day. The problem is, when you don't yet know where you want to be, it's difficult to make the next move because you'll be naturally fearful that it might end up taking you in a direction which you may later come to realise you didn't want to go. So, as previously suggested, I think banking would be a fairly solid springboard to begin with as it's in the general area of finance and would be something that could bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, when you figure out where that is.

I'd get moving on it pretty quickly, otherwise you'll find yourself with the problem of having a sizable gap on your CV which you'd find difficult to explain to prospective employers and which could end up holding you back in your future career. Good luck with it.

Dudess wrote: »

But do you not see she's clearly looking for an easy option - considering she reckons there's only one agency that can give her work. Where on earth has she got that idea from?

She never said there was only one agency that could give her work Dudess; she said that she is currently "completely financially dependent" on one particular agency, and I just feel that it would be entirely possible for people to point out to her that this by no means needs to be the case without ripping her character to pieces in the process. As to where she got that idea from, I would take it that since she has only applied to one agency she is experiencing a severe lack of motivation, which for all I know could be related to depression; it is after all a very common symptom of it. I was treated for clinical depression myself at one point, and let me tell you, I had trouble tying my shoelaces in the morning, never mind running around the place lodging job applications. Also, I think that if she was looking for an easy option she would not have come here asking strangers to help her make some sense of where her life is at.

Just reading some of the comments on this thread really pizzed me off; all this: 'I left home at 20' - 'I left home at 18' shyte. I was sitting here reading all that thinking 'so fukin what? - I left home at 13 and went straight into a salvation army hostel for homeless - doesn't give me the right to abuse anybody just cause they didn't share the experience'. Yeah, the OP has been sheltered, spoiled even; it doesn't mean she deserves to have others unload their self-congratulatory crap all over her.

Dudess wrote: »

no matter what your circumstances are, you should have some level of cop-on.

This may well be true, but I think that to admonish a person in one breath and then attempt to advise them in the next is a very unintelligent thing to do. After all, who would take advice from somebody who'd been verbally abusing them a moment before? Why do people assume the same rules of human response aren't in operation regarding typed text?

Honest to God, I find the degree of nasty unsupportive comments on a lot of these threads to be very very high, they are very prevalent, and I just don't get it; what do people get out of saying horrible things to people they've never met? Maybe it's a form of blowing off steam, but I'd imagine it is a very hurtful experience to come on here looking for advice and perhaps a bit of support and be met with some of the shyte I read on here.

I think that the OP is suffering from big-time, as you described it yourself; "aimlessness" and when a person's feeling like that, for Gods sake, why isn't it generally considered the better idea to try to assist that person in finding their aim, rather than ripping them to bits because they haven't got any? When someone we know in our personal lives comes to us looking for advice, almost 100% of the time they are feeling some level of vulnerability; it is no different for the people who post looking for advice here and my personal opinion is that these boards could do with a good bit more recognition of that.

I've gone well off-topic now and the mods may well have something to say to me, so I'll shut up now! I'm glad to hear you're happy at your new job anyway Dudess.