Sex Buddy wants to do me bareback

LegacyUser · 15-09-2014 10:28pm #1

HI Guys

i am posting as a guest as i am a regular poster and need some advice would greatly appreciate.

I have a sex buddy and he "tops"me . was with him 2 weeks ago and he said he would like to to f>>k me without a condom. he keeps saying to me its much better feeling for him and it will amaze me and that he has tested negative as i am so theres no need to worry. i am coming around to idea of going for it Has anyone tried this ? and were you worried after?

Peregrinus · 16-09-2014 3:27am

How could you not be worried after?

If he is your "sex buddy", presumably you are not exclusively monogamous with one another. Even if you accept at face value his statement that he has recently been tested and was negative, that doesn't mean his is negative today, and of course we know he is someone with a taste for unprotected sex - because he is asking you for unprotected sex.

This is not a risk you need to run, and he should not be asking you to run it. He may be your sex buddy but he is not your friend.

jaymcg91 · 16-09-2014 4:15am

No. Absolutely not. When it comes to sex, trust no-one. I have too many friends whose lives have been ruined by men they thought they could trust.

Your safety and health ranks so far ahead of what he finds pleasurable.

Miike · 16-09-2014 4:25am

I'm another one for absolutely not. Hell. No.

No Username Yet · 16-09-2014 6:55am

Good god NO!!

Annasopra · 16-09-2014 8:08am

jaymcg91 wrote: »

No. Absolutely not. When it comes to sex, trust no-one.

I agree with the first part. Its a no for me.

With the second part I dont necessarily agree. I think if you are in a long term monogomamous relationship where trust has been built up over time and both partners get fairly regularly tested as clean then it is ok to do bareback.

The other thing is op you should remember the issue of the Window period. So when his last test was is important.

It can take up to three months for your body to produce antibodies to HIV after you are infected. This time between infection and when antibodies can be detected is know as the "window period." If you test within three months of your last possible exposure you may not get a positive result even if you are actually infected with HIV. In some very rare cases it can take six months for antibodies to show up. If you have been infected with HIV you can still transmit HIV during the window period so it is very important that you continue to practice safer sex.

floggg · 16-09-2014 8:54am

Peregrinus wrote: »

How could you not be worried after?

If he is your "sex buddy", presumably you are not exclusively monogamous with one another. Even if you accept at face value his statement that he has recently been tested and was negative, that doesn't mean his is negative today, and of course we know he is someone with a taste for unprotected sex - because he is asking you for unprotected sex.

This is not a risk you need to run, and he should not be asking you to run it. He may be your sex buddy but he is not your friend.

This. I think that a casual sex partner who asks for unprotected sex is the very type of person you shouldn't have it with. The request evidences the fact that he makes questionable and irresponsible choices as regards his sexual health - and by extension your sexual health.

In fact, I would be wary about having sex with somebody like that full stop, whether protected or unprotected.

J_E · 16-09-2014 9:23am

Don't play with fire if you don't want to get burned. Outside of a long term partnership it's a very dangerous activity. He might not know he has something.

LegacyUser · 17-09-2014 10:28pm

Thanks for the advice guys i wont let him do it BB

Cheers

Mr.Frame · 17-09-2014 10:39pm

looking for info wrote: »

HI Guys

i am posting as a guest as i am a regular poster and need some advice would greatly appreciate.

I have a sex buddy and he "tops"me . was with him 2 weeks ago and he said he would like to to f>>k me without a condom. he keeps saying to me its much better feeling for him and it will amaze me and that he has tested negative as i am so theres no need to worry. i am coming around to idea of going for it Has anyone tried this ? and were you worried after?

What astounds me is that you are "coming around to the idea of going for it", in other words you are thinking of going bareback with someone you don't know.

You are going to have unprotected sex with a stranger,unbelievable.

Cannot believe in 2014 that someone would even think like this.

FFS kop on ,if you are going to have sex and are not in a monogamous relationship,ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS, use protection. NO excuse.

Your life may depend on it.

StanMcConnell · 18-09-2014 2:07am

If he wants more sensation, maybe suggest he tries latex free condoms. You can get them in the sex store near the Workmans on the quays. Apparently, they're more sensitive than latex ones.

Peregrinus · 18-09-2014 2:31am

Mr.Frame wrote: »

What astounds me is that you are "coming around to the idea of going for it", in other words you are thinking of going bareback with someone you don't know.

You are going to have unprotected sex with a stranger,unbelievable.

Cannot believe in 2014 that someone would even think like this.

FFS kop on ,if you are going to have sex and are not in a monogamous relationship,ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS, use protection. NO excuse.

Your life may depend on it.

The Romans had a proverb, Penis erectus non habet conscientiam, meaning that a stiff willy has no conscience. That's true, but what's even truer is that it doesn't have a lot of common sense either. You may be dismayed that "in 2014 someone would even think like this", but you had better believe it. Horniness => stupidity; this will never change.

To the OP's credit, he knew perfectly well when he posted his query that we would all slap his face and tell him not to be stupid; he came here to hear that, to get our support to bolster his common sense, and not have it overborne by horniness and the undoubted appeal of transgressive sex.

Mr.Frame · 18-09-2014 11:02am

Peregrinus wrote: »

The Romans had a proverb, Penis erectus non habet conscientiam, meaning that a stiff willy has no conscience. That's true, but what's even truer is that it doesn't have a lot of common sense either. You may be dismayed that "in 2014 someone would even think like this", but you had better believe it. Horniness => stupidity; this will never change.

To the OP's credit, he knew perfectly well when he posted his query that we would all slap his face and tell him not to be stupid; he came here to hear that, to get our support to bolster his common sense, and not have it overborne by horniness and the undoubted appeal of transgressive sex.

Yes I know the expression well "a standing cock has no conscience",all the more reason why a person must and NEEDS to play safe. A brief horny moment of unsafe sex can and DOES have consequences.

I don't believe the OP "knew perfectly well when he posted the query". He did after all say," I am coming around to idea of going for it". That alone beggars belief!!

There are far far too many young guys out there who are now HIV positive because going bareback, "felt better" or "I was drunk" or "I got carried away because we were so horny".
Ask those same guys now would they have behaved differently and the answer is most definitely YES.

Again I would tell the OP to kop onto yourself, if you are going to have sex PLAY SAFE ALWAYS .
NO EXCUSE.

Peregrinus · 18-09-2014 11:11am

Mr.Frame wrote: »

Yes I know the expression well "a standing cock has no conscience",all the more reason why a person must and NEEDS to play safe. A brief horny moment of unsafe sex can and DOES have consequences.

I don't believe the OP "knew perfectly well when he posted the query". He did after all say," I am coming around to idea of going for it". That alone beggars belief!! . . .

It doesn't beggar belief at all; it's absolutely commonplace. Randy people do stupid things all the time. Everybody knows this. It goes with the territory of being randy.

The point is, the OP felt an inclination to do a stupid thing, but he didn't go out and do it; he came here and asked us what we thought.

And he tells us he's a regular on the board under another name. If that's true he must have known that to a man and woman we would all tell him that what he was considering was stupid, and he mustn't do it. So he came her to ask us what we thought, when he almost certainly already knew what we thought. But he needed to hear us say it. That was his purpose in coming here.

That wasn't stupid. That was wise.

Mr.Frame · 18-09-2014 11:35am

Peregrinus wrote: »

It doesn't beggar belief at all; it's absolutely commonplace. Randy people do stupid things all the time. Everybody knows this. It goes with the territory of being randy.

The point is, the OP felt an inclination to do a stupid thing, but he didn't go out and do it; he came here and asked us what we thought.

And he tells us he's a regular on the board under another name. If that's true he must have known that to a man and woman we would all tell him that what he was considering was stupid, and he mustn't do it. So he came her to ask us what we thought, when he almost certainly already knew what we thought. But he needed to hear us say it. That was his purpose in coming here.

That wasn't stupid. That was wise.

It beggars belief that he would even consider it (or anyone for that matter) he said he was "considering" it .
That beggars belief!
Whatever about getting caught up in the passion of things,thats one thing, but to think about going bareback BEFORE getting caught up in the passion, is another thing.
Dangerous.

LegacyUser · 18-09-2014 11:54am

Hi All OP here many thanks for all the information and advice you have given here

The guy that tops me has assured me that he never has unprocted with anyone else which isnt many people anyway and his reasoning to me was i would feel a whole lot more intimatcy and he would also feel this and as he says for both of us it would feel amazing. Of course i know about the dangers of unprotected and that its more dangerous for the bottom but i am honest in that i have toyed with the idea of going for it.

Sadly i know the fun of one night can have have a lifetime of misery I also know a drunken night can lead to this type of thing happening

But in looking at the cons, would one go be all that bad ? if the other guy is honest

Thanks

floggg · 18-09-2014 12:56pm

Mr.Frame wrote: »

It beggars belief that he would even consider it (or anyone for that matter) he said he was "considering" it .
That beggars belief!
Whatever about getting caught up in the passion of things,thats one thing, but to think about going bareback BEFORE getting caught up in the passion, is another thing.
Dangerous.

Does it do anybody any good getting all righteous and telling people they are considering something foolish?

Sex has been risky since it was invented - after all, for much of history pregnancy was the deadliest STD known to man.

and yet people kept on doing it anyway.

Your evidently far more sensible than the OP, and so many more other foolish humans. That's great.

How about being just a little bit more patient and understanding with the lesser beings though.

Milly33 · 18-09-2014 2:00pm

Ok im not gay but just browsing, and would defo say do not do anything you are not comfortable with.. Even if your partner or sex buddy says he has got a fresh bill of health to put it or says he likes it, you might not... You have to think of all things and especially yourself do not be pressured into doing anything you do not want to do

18-09-2014 2:21pm

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

I agree with the first part. Its a no for me.

With the second part I dont necessarily agree. I think if you are in a long term monogomamous relationship where trust has been built up over time and both partners get fairly regularly tested as clean then it is ok to do bareback.

It's probably worth mentioning though that even if both partners are negative for STIs, there's still the risk of contracting a urinary tract infection from unprotected anal sex. It's something that never gets talked about. UTIs may be curable and less serious than STIs but they're still rather unpleasant. >__<

Annasopra · 18-09-2014 2:45pm

Looking for info wrote: »

Hi All OP here many thanks for all the information and advice you have given here

The guy that tops me has assured me that he never has unprocted with anyone else which isnt many people anyway and his reasoning to me was i would feel a whole lot more intimatcy and he would also feel this and as he says for both of us it would feel amazing. Of course i know about the dangers of unprotected and that its more dangerous for the bottom but i am honest in that i have toyed with the idea of going for it.

Sadly i know the fun of one night can have have a lifetime of misery I also know a drunken night can lead to this type of thing happening

But in looking at the cons, would one go be all that bad ? if the other guy is honest

Thanks

His story doesnt add up.

Firstly originally you gave us the impression he had done this before.

Sorry OP but it seems to me like he is lieing that he has never had unprotected sex before. I think Flogg nailed it earlier.

floggg wrote: »

This. I think that a casual sex partner who asks for unprotected sex is the very type of person you shouldn't have it with. The request evidences the fact that he makes questionable and irresponsible choices as regards his sexual health - and by extension your sexual health.

In fact, I would be wary about having sex with somebody like that full stop, whether protected or unprotected.

Mr.Frame · 18-09-2014 2:46pm

Looking for info wrote: »

Hi All OP here many thanks for all the information and advice you have given here

The guy that tops me has assured me that he never has unprocted with anyone else which isnt many people anyway and his reasoning to me was i would feel a whole lot more intimatcy and he would also feel this and as he says for both of us it would feel amazing. Of course i know about the dangers of unprotected and that its more dangerous for the bottom but i am honest in that i have toyed with the idea of going for it.

Sadly i know the fun of one night can have have a lifetime of misery I also know a drunken night can lead to this type of thing happening

But in looking at the cons, would one go be all that bad ? if the other guy is honest

Thanks

Wow!???
It only takes "one go" to be infected.
No matter what he tells you,unless you both get tested at the same time and get the results at the same time, there is no way of knowing if he is clean,it's that simple.

Daith · 18-09-2014 2:48pm

Mr.Frame wrote: »

No matter what he tells you,unless you both get tested at the same time and get the results at the same time, there is no way of knowing if he is clean,it's that simple.

Even that's not the case. There is a window for transmission. So getting tested now won't mean anything if the other guy shagged somebody last night.

Mr.Frame · 18-09-2014 2:51pm

floggg wrote: »

Does it do anybody any good getting all righteous and telling people they are considering something foolish?

Sex has been risky since it was invented - after all, for much of history pregnancy was the deadliest STD known to man.

and yet people kept on doing it anyway.

Your evidently far more sensible than the OP, and so many more other foolish humans. That's great.

How about being just a little bit more patient and understanding with the lesser beings though.

Righteous?? Really?
We are talking about a possible sexual transmitted disease here, one that could potentially have devastating effects on a persons life.

Yes I am far more sensible when it comes to unprotected sex with a stranger,you have to be.

floggg · 18-09-2014 3:56pm

Mr.Frame wrote: »

Righteous?? Really?
We are talking about a possible sexual transmitted disease here, one that could potentially have devastating effects on a persons life.

Yes I am far more sensible when it comes to unprotected sex with a stranger,you have to be.

Hurray for you.

There's a way of advising without treating people like they are stupid. Even if they are considering doing something stupid.

J_E · 18-09-2014 8:49pm

Looking for info wrote: »

The guy that tops me has assured me that he never has unprocted with anyone else which isnt many people anyway and his reasoning to me was i would feel a whole lot more intimatcy and he would also feel this and as he says for both of us it would feel amazing. Of course i know about the dangers of unprotected and that its more dangerous for the bottom but i am honest in that i have toyed with the idea of going for it.

I can't help but feel it's not so much about you enjoying it as it is him talking you into enjoying it, and I think despite give and take in sexual relationships, that's an unhealthy attitude to impress upon you, and it sounds like it's leading into 'we can't play unless it's my way' territory.

But in looking at the cons, would one go be all that bad ?

One go is all it can take if it ends up being an STD. Even if honest, some STDs are not immediately detectable. I would just consider it an irresponsible decision do perform that with someone who partakes in casual sex and would not like something to happen to you on an offchance. This isn't just talking about HIV, by the way.

There are options like post-exposure prophylaxis if it was worst case and he did admit he had HIV, but why put yourself through an unnecessary risk? You can still have fun and play safe. This is not about 'not trusting' him, it's about keeping your own sexual health in mind regardless of who it is. We're not always perfect but the default should be to take precautions where you can when it's not a long-term partner.

Milly33 · 18-09-2014 9:17pm

even saying that it would give ye more intimacy sends alarm bells off, I am sorry...Intimacy should have nothing to do with that in such

Mr.Frame · 18-09-2014 10:49pm

floggg wrote: »

Hurray for you.

There's a way of advising without treating people like they are stupid. Even if they are considering doing something stupid.

Oh what a lovely response ,thanks

Just.Jessie · 19-09-2014 12:36am

Looking for info wrote: »

Hi All OP here many thanks for all the information and advice you have given here

The guy that tops me has assured me that he never has unprocted with anyone else...

........

....if the other guy is honest

Have you ever seen the test results? Or you just simply trust him?

He's just your sex buddy, so it basically means that he can can have fun with someone else right now, and tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow. How you can trust someone who just f...k you?

LegacyUser · 19-09-2014 9:44am

Hi Everyone OP here thanks once again to everyone who posted their thoughts on me having unprotected sex with a buddy.

The consensus is not to do it under any circumstances..... and i appreciate that

I suppose its an individuals choice wheter to do it or not and its more dangerous for the receiver than the top.

its something i have to think about before engaging in it however im sure this happens all the time with guys who get it together, and alchol and or drugs are involved inhibitions are gone out the window

So thanks all

L1011 · 19-09-2014 11:26am

Looking for info wrote: »

But in looking at the cons, would one go be all that bad ? if the other guy is honest

Yes, as that "if" is something you've no knowledge or control over.

Tell him to keep it wrapped or feck off.

Annasopra · 19-09-2014 12:53pm

Looking for info wrote: »

Hi Everyone OP here thanks once again to everyone who posted their thoughts on me having unprotected sex with a buddy.

The consensus is not to do it under any circumstances..... and i appreciate that

I suppose its an individuals choice wheter to do it or not and its more dangerous for the receiver than the top.

its something i have to think about before engaging in it however im sure this happens all the time with guys who get it together, and alchol and or drugs are involved inhibitions are gone out the window

So thanks all

Yes guys do it all the time with alcohol/drugs but that doesnt mean you should use that as an excuse to abdicate responsibility.

At the end of the day you are responsible for your own health. If other guys do something thats irrelevant really.

JohnHodge999 · 19-09-2014 1:45pm

Is the chance of the johnny splitting really a concern nowadays either?

foggy_lad · 19-09-2014 2:20pm

OP It shouldn't be too difficult for you to find someone else who will do more for you in bed than this nasty piece of work. Tell him to F**k Off Full Stop!

Annasopra · 19-09-2014 8:03pm

Mr.Frame wrote: »

The word "clean" is used all the time by those who are infected with HIV,whether its the right word to use or not ,that's how uninfected people are called.
If you are referring to me,, I have at no time treated or would treat anyone as "expendable".

Its the wrong word to use. It stigmatises and offends.

I accept that many who use it do not mean to be disparaging or offensive.

I see this as a learning process. It wasn't something I was overtly aware of until a few months ago until I saw Rory O'Neill (aka panti) point out that to him as a person who is HIV positive it is very offensive. I then read more about the issue. I would have used it until then but now having gone through that learning process (of recognising that many HIV+ people find it offensive and reading more about the stigmatising meesages it sends out) I wouldnt use it.

Lobby Con Shine · 19-09-2014 10:31pm

Is this not the Ploughing Championship thread?

Seriously though, I came in to congratulate the OP on what must be the greatest thread title I've ever seen on Boards.

I have nothing to add on the substantive issue.

ytre · 20-09-2014 8:55pm

absolutely not, it could be the death sentence you weren't expecting

Dr. Shrike · 21-09-2014 12:26pm

It's really more of a thought experiment than an actual legal recommendation, but I think if you made it legally punishable to foolishly get HIV, it would probably cut the rates of infection more than it being illegal to knowingly pass it on.

Obviously that's not going to happen, but I think it's fair to assume that the kind of people who would knowingly pass on HIV aren't going to be obsessing over the legal ramifications while their doing it.

the_syco · 21-09-2014 11:02pm

looking for info wrote: »

that he has tested negative

Why did he go for a test in the first place, and how long ago was the test?

Looking for info wrote: »

The guy that tops me has assured me that he never has unprocted with anyone else

How does he know that it feels "amazing" in that case? Bullsh|t, tbh. I'm thinking he got the test done shortly after doing it unprotected before, but it may have been within the 3-month window, and thus he's playing with your life.

Looking for info wrote: »

however im sure this happens all the time with guys who get it together, and alchol and or drugs are involved inhibitions are gone out the window

And you'll have to wonder have said people gone to get a check done next day, or have they ever gotten checked out. Some people care about other peoples health, and some people want to watch the world burn.

Annasopra · 22-09-2014 1:58pm

I've split the discussion on "clean" into a completely separate thread

azezil · 24-09-2014 4:30pm

Looking for info wrote: »

its something i have to think about before engaging in it however im sure this happens all the time with guys who get it together, and alchol and or drugs are involved inhibitions are gone out the window

So thanks all

I've a friend who felt that way too, also said he preferred having sex without a condom. He has HIV now.

the_syco wrote: »

Why did he go for a test in the first place, and how long ago was the test?

Sexually active people should be tested regularly, condoms don't protect against all forms of STDs and STIs.

Peregrinus · 25-09-2014 4:12am

azezil wrote: »

Sexually active people should be tested regularly, condoms don't protect against all forms of STDs and STIs.

This.

LegacyUser · 25-09-2014 5:02pm

Hello All, OP here i Thanks for all the advice given on this thread.

Anyway down to business, I went ahead with it on monday night last he used condom for most of it then before he came he asked was i ok to take it without condom , he took it off and went in bb and finshed off partialy inside and partially outside. Apoligies for using explict words

Must admit it did heighten my excitement in anticipation of how it would feel my buddy loved it said it brings us to new sense of closeness

Afterwards we just hugged and kissed

I hope anybody here who was against this behavoiur will try and understand why i asked for info on this

Mongfinder General · 22-10-2014 1:05am

Looking for info wrote: »

Hello All, OP here i Thanks for all the advice given on this thread.

Anyway down to business, I went ahead with it on monday night last he used condom for most of it then before he came he asked was i ok to take it without condom , he took it off and went in bb and finshed off partialy inside and partially outside. Apoligies for using explict words

Must admit it did heighten my excitement in anticipation of how it would feel my buddy loved it said it brings us to new sense of closeness

Afterwards we just hugged and kissed

I hope anybody here who was against this behavoiur will try and understand why i asked for info on this

You're nuts, going in up the muck without a raincoat is madness nowadays. Have you gone to get tested? It mustn't have been that good if he pulled out while ejaculating.

floggg · 22-10-2014 2:15pm

Looking for info wrote: »

Hello All, OP here i Thanks for all the advice given on this thread.

Anyway down to business, I went ahead with it on monday night last he used condom for most of it then before he came he asked was i ok to take it without condom , he took it off and went in bb and finshed off partialy inside and partially outside. Apoligies for using explict words

Must admit it did heighten my excitement in anticipation of how it would feel my buddy loved it said it brings us to new sense of closeness

Afterwards we just hugged and kissed

I hope anybody here who was against this behavoiur will try and understand why i asked for info on this

I missed this but I would strongly recommend you both go get tested.

J_E · 23-10-2014 1:45pm

Looking for info wrote: »

Hello All, OP here i Thanks for all the advice given on this thread.

I hope anybody here who was against this behavoiur will try and understand why i asked for info on this

I can't really understand it if you basically disregarded it.

jobbridge4life · 23-10-2014 2:21pm

Get tested. Get tested now and never ever do this again. I have heard of two acquaintances, living in Dublin, both in there 20s who are now HIV+. Get tested now and never ever do this again.

WILL NEVER LOG OFF · 23-10-2014 3:42pm

I can understand the anger to an extent but I think people are going a bit far in rounding on the op and the op's sexual partner.

Based on my male friends who are gay, unprotected sex is something many young gay men have engaged in. Maybe even most of them. Maybe even most of the men on this thread.

I think the OP was foolish, but i'm not going to sit in judgment or attack him. I dont have that entitlement . Even if this is the internet and indignation is par for the course.

floggg · 23-10-2014 4:10pm

WILL NEVER LOG OFF wrote: »

I can understand the anger to an extent but I think people are going a bit far in rounding on the op and the op's sexual partner.

Based on my male friends who are gay, unprotected sex is something many young gay men have engaged in. Maybe even most of them. Maybe even most of the men on this thread.

I think the OP was foolish, but i'm not going to sit in judgment or attack him. I dont have that entitlement . Even if this is the internet and indignation is par for the course.

I think some of is are just pretty disappointed that somebody would make the conscious choice to engage in such risky behaviour after asking for and being given all the relevant information.

I realise mistakes will be made in the heat of the moment, and don't judge anybody but it's surprising that somebody who appeared to be concerned about the obvious risks knowkngky disregarded them.

I think though the OP made up his mind before he ever posted the thread and was looking for validation for the decision.

Mr.Frame · 23-10-2014 9:35pm

Looking for info wrote: »

Hello All, OP here i Thanks for all the advice given on this thread.

Anyway down to business, I went ahead with it on monday night last he used condom for most of it then before he came he asked was i ok to take it without condom , he took it off and went in bb and finshed off partialy inside and partially outside. Apoligies for using explict words

Must admit it did heighten my excitement in anticipation of how it would feel my buddy loved it said it brings us to new sense of closeness

Afterwards we just hugged and kissed

I hope anybody here who was against this behavoiur will try and understand why i asked for info on this

Bit odd why you asked for advice and then ignored it. Lets hope for your sake you don't have any STI's
I would suggest you get tested immediately and well kop on

LegacyUser · 24-10-2014 12:11am

There is nothing wrong with unprotected sex, it doesn't make someone a bad person deserving of scorn.

Likewise there is nothing wrong with a person asking for advice and testing out if there maybe aspects to a tough decasino they not thought of.

Just because a person in the cold light of day, after full and proper evaluation, decides not to go with a particular recommendation, it doesn't mean that they weren't open to being convinced.

WILL NEVER LOG OFF · 24-10-2014 1:33pm

floggg wrote: »

some of is are just pretty disappointed that somebody would make the conscious choice to engage in such risky behaviour after asking for and being given all the relevant information.

Mr.Frame wrote: »

Bit odd why you asked for advice and then ignored it. [...] kop on

*every* young man who engages in unprotected sex knows the health risk, and almost all do it consciously.

Nobody needs a discussion forum to discover the fact that HIV transmission is strongly associated with unprotected anal sex.

People are far too quick to judge others online.

I might give-out to my male friends who have unprotected sex, because I personally know and care about them. But some reactions here seem to be more matronly, or carpingly judgmental towards both parties, for the sake of it. He didn't take the advice, OK, but there's no need to take it as a personal insult.

OP, please rethink this for your own and your partner's welfare.

Sex Buddy wants to do me bareback

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