Facebooking dead people

Someone could "frape" them saying, "I'm back, bitches" or something along those crude lines.

If you poke a dead person on Facebook does that count as necrophillia?

I have never joined FB but I watch as nearly everyone I know or work with is obsessed with it. I simply do not get it at all, is has mutated from what it was originally designed to be, and the idea of pages to dead people basically sums up how cr@p it has become.

What's worse is memorial pages. One was setup for a friend of mine who I've written about far too frequently for my liking on boards over the past few months, but anyway -- someone made a memorial page for her and then started posting christian messages and weird totally non-related pictures and things to the girl, obviously just because between just two of the memorial pages there are 30,000 "fans".

Fcuking sick people in this world

I think maybe, it's like their way of trying to still feel close to the person. Like if you aren't one for praying and you still want to "talk" to them, and maybe facebook was one of the ways you used to talk to them so that's what you do. Like I know people who have text/left voicemails for people who passed away which would never be seen or heard so it wasn't an attention thing, but it helped them. I know some people really dislike it though, like if it's someone they were close to they hate seeing people are posting on their page. Everyone has their own way of dealing with it.

I guess if I didn't do it myself I would say it is weird. My brother died nearly 2 years ago he was 22. We were incredibly close and always had a laugh on Facebook. I got his page memorialised after he died. I go onto his page maybe once a week but last year I would have been on his page a lot more. It comforts me to see his friends haven't forgotten about him. He went suddenly and accidentally so it's nice to be able to look back on the stuff he would post up as he was hilariously funny and I miss him terribly. I can tell you with all honestly that it's not for attention. It's just a place to go that he used a lot. I go to his grave also of course each week.

Edited to say after my brother died he got about 50 friend requests which I thought was peculiar. I declined every one of them. I also got about 30 friend requests that I declined. Friends of friends.

Whether I think I'd do it myself or not, criticising people for how they deal with the loss of someone close isn't cool. Loads of stuff in the FB thread on here makes me cringe but this is something I won't ever judge someone on.

La_Gordy wrote: »

An acquaintance of mine was murdered two years ago and I had to block his Facebook page as our friends posting on it was so upsetting, and I'd upset myself by looking at things he said, YouTube clips he posted, things he laughed at. What pushed me to blocking it really though was when people posted pictures of his funeral and for fear they'd start tagging his casket I had to. Awful awful this Facebook pish

Yeah - this one got me. Taking photos at a funeral. Is this remotely normal or ok?

A few years ago, I had to stop myself from doing it. I was telling my uncle in Australia who couldn't make it home all about the funeral. I was reading his memorial piece at the church.
Anyway, for some reason, I came out the wrong door of the church, and I was standing half way up to the graveyard watching the funeral procession coming up. I had the phone in my hand, ready to take a few photos for my uncle & then thought 'what the fcuk are you doing? Taking photos at a funeral'. So I stopped.

To me, it seems weird. But then maybe it is ok.

donvito99 wrote: »

Someone could "frape" them saying, "I'm back, bitches" or something along those crude lines.

a vile waster from the UK did that; setting up accounts under peoples names who were killled in difficult circumstances [apologies from the bottom of heart for posting a daily mail link]-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2036935/Natasha-MacBryde-death-Facebook-internet-troll-Sean-Duffy-jailed.html
thankfuly got jailed for it.


as for this facebook praying thing going on,can understand if it helps people come to terms with it,perhaps help them feel like the person may even see it from wherever they are-if that is their belief and it helps them then so be it.
its common practice on catster;which is like facebook but for peoples cats instead.
its good to celebrate their lives.

I've seen two different sets of open casket photos on Facebook. One was somebody I didn't know but I still found it upsetting and disrespectful. When it was my friend I felt very angry but this was done because none of his family could make it to the funeral. I hated it, hence the preemptive blocking, and I doubt it brought them any comfort but who knows.