Meeting other young lesbians in Ireland.

stephunk · 14-07-2010 6:11pm #1

Hi,
So I live in Meath and basically I'm 19 and haven't (to my knowledge) ever even meet another lesbian.
I've only recently came to accepting my sexuality and tried some dating sites. It was a disaster and I just found it awkward and stuff.
I'm really clueless about how girls go about meeting other lesbians, especially when you don't have any friends willing to come to gay bars etc. with you...

I've never properly been with a girl and I'm starting to feel a little on my own... So yeah, any advice would be nice!
Thanks

Nevyn · 14-07-2010 6:18pm

http://www.belongto.org/group.aspx?sectionid=54

The Ladybirds

The Ladybirds is a group for young Lesbian, Bi-sexual and Transgender women in Dublin aged 14 - 23 years of age, the group meets weekly on Thursdays.

We’re very friendly and welcome all new people, so if you’re feeling all alone, come and join us! Everything that happens in The LadyBirds stays confidential so don’t worry if you’re not out – if you don’t want to tell other people. For the first half hour we sit around, eat food, drink tea and chat before we get down to work and then in the last half hour we clean up the mess we’ve created and wind down.

During the time that we do “productive” work, we’re the ones who get to decide what it is we are going to do, whether its learning about lesbian, bi and trans women’s issues or watching a movie with a bit of popcorn. No matter what goes on in The LadyBirds we always make sure we have the craic and make friends. And the youth workers are always there to give us support and guidance.

Parliament House, 13 Parliament Street, Dublin 2, Ireland
See map
Phone us

01 670 6223
Email us

info@belongto.org

lushballs · 15-07-2010 1:12am

'Running Amach' Social Club for LGBTQ women.
Has over 500 members. Social Events organised several times a week.
Women of all ages.

http://www.meetup.com/Dublin-LGBTQ-Womens-Social-Networking-Club

baby and crumble · 15-07-2010 11:32am

Well first off, the suggestions from above posters are really good.

Secondly, don't feel rushed into 'being with a girl properly'. A lot of girls are in a similar situation as you- i didn't have a romantic/ sexual experience with a girl til I was 21, so you're not weird.

If you're in college, try joining their lgb group too- you can meet lots of people. Don't assume either that you can opnly meet gay girls in gay places- i met my gf volunteering with the St. Vincent de Paul!

General chat websites can be good too, like forums on Gaire, and afterellen.com has a decent irish contingent.

Either way, try not to get too stressed and rush stuff- just have fun. I know there's a group from Running Amach (which a previous poster recommended) going to the Funky Seomra in the RDS this weekend, plus they do lots of random days out and events like photowalks, picnics, gig groups, etc.

frankie15 · 20-07-2010 12:18pm

The above suggestions are great ones and something you should really consider-if you're in Meath-it's worth making the short trip to Dublin to get involved. I'm also from Meath 9although a bit older) and it was hard initially to try and make LGBTQ friends let alone meet someone so I know where you're coming from! Joining social websites like Gaire.com can be a good way of making contact and they frequently organize offline meet-ups, but in starting out, it would prob be a good to join a group similar to your own age. Good luck

Annasopra · 20-07-2010 1:02pm

If you're near enough to Dundalk perhaps visit Dundalk outcomers as well http://www.outcomers.org/ also - there appears to be somesort of group in meath that I found on facebook when I did a search for gay meath - don't think its very active but not quite sure

Paula10 · 12-08-2010 2:04am

yeh ive the same prob,im bi ,or i think i am,have never been with a girl and duno where to find other bi girls,i only like girly girls like me,not boy looking girls,im 21 and from dub

AvaKinder · 12-08-2010 11:04pm

Hi Paula,
You should check out Running Amach it's a great way to meet other LGBT women based in Dublin. Always something different on.

http://www.meetup.com/Dublin-LGBTQ-Womens-Social-Networking-Club/

Paula10 · 13-08-2010 1:30am

Thanks Avakinder,i set up a profile thing on that,duno if ill be able to get a hang of it though not good with computers lol.x

skysthelimit · 27-12-2010 2:25am

hayy im 19 bi and from meath too i find if ya go on sights like tagged etc thats where i meet aot of ppl and i find once ya know 1 lesbian they usualy know alode of other ones i know it sounds rediculous but in my experiance it is anyway wat parta meath u from

BanzaiBk · 27-12-2010 7:47pm

+1 for ladybirds
There's a nice, safe atmosphere and it's more geared to friendships etc which takes the edge off it. Great youth workers and organisers too.

Chuchoter · 27-12-2010 10:27pm

Finding other lesbians my age outside of group-y things is so hard. The only way to do it is be friends with some other gay person on Facebook and then find people through that. Now I've been friends with one or two gay people for MONTHS on Facebook and today is the first day anyone new has contacted me, which I'm very happy about because she's cute. Now to decide what to do next :S

Tagged is fine but the problem with it is people are on for a week and then never come back. Most of the people are from outside Dublin though, which is probably good because you're in Meath.

LegacyUser · 29-05-2011 9:32pm

stephunk wrote: »

Hi,
So I live in Meath and basically I'm 19 and haven't (to my knowledge) ever even meet another lesbian.
I've only recently came to accepting my sexuality and tried some dating sites. It was a disaster and I just found it awkward and stuff.
I'm really clueless about how girls go about meeting other lesbians, especially when you don't have any friends willing to come to gay bars etc. with you...

I've never properly been with a girl and I'm starting to feel a little on my own... So yeah, any advice would be nice!
Thanks

Hi,
I'm in the same thing like you.. I'm 21 and i'm living in meath too.
And I'm new in Ireland so thats ****ty too cuz i don't know anybody!
But know ur not on your own!!
x

cuffesis · 05-06-2011 6:11pm

I'm 19 from Dublin and I totally understand. I'm told there's loads of people like me out there and yet... they're doing a great job at hiding!:p

Chuchoter · 06-06-2011 12:41pm

cuffesis wrote: »

I'm 19 from Dublin and I totally understand. I'm told there's loads of people like me out there and yet... they're doing a great job at hiding!:p

I know!! I never even see them let alone know them! 1 in 10 my arse. I think unless you're within certain circles you basically never meet anyone.

cuffesis · 06-06-2011 3:20pm

I think once you meet one you find about 50 more. And then there's the ones you have your suspicions about! hehe. Suppose we have each other on this. You know me now :rolleyes:

Lorrrrraine · 07-06-2011 4:33am

I've been meaning to go to Lady Birds for the last while but am a bit aprehensive. Just hoping that the people are different to the ones that I've encountered on the scene.

cuffesis · 07-06-2011 5:50pm

I want to try go to a few of the groups myself but I'm quite nervous. i definitely wouldn't go alone!

Lorrrrraine · 07-06-2011 6:37pm

cuffesis wrote: »

I want to try go to a few of the groups myself but I'm quite nervous. i definitely wouldn't go alone!

Yeah, same. I'm imaginging some sort of lesbian circle formation protected with a super-clique force field. :pac:
I'd imagine that the people would be copped on enough to introduce themselves to a new member though.

LegacyUser · 07-06-2011 7:41pm

How old are you all do you mind me asking?

I find the whole Ladybird group a bit too young and innocent for me. Youth groups in general don't appeal to me and meeting up to do 'projects' and talking about LGBT 'issues' is a not really what I'm looking for.

Yet the Running Amach group seems to have no young members

Catch 22

Lorrrrraine · 07-06-2011 9:01pm

onlinedating wrote: »

How old are you all do you mind me asking?

I find the whole Ladybird group a bit too young and innocent for me. Youth groups in general don't appeal to me and meeting up to do 'projects' and talking about LGBT 'issues' is a not really what I'm looking for.

Yet the Running Amach group seems to have no young members

Catch 22

I thought Ladybirds was for 18-24 year olds but I've just checked and it's not. Shame! Yeah, I quickly scoped out the meetup website and they all seemed to be over 40.

cuffesis · 07-06-2011 9:39pm

Lorrrrraine wrote: »

Yeah, same. I'm imaginging some sort of lesbian circle formation protected with a super-clique force field. :pac:
I'd imagine that the people would be copped on enough to introduce themselves to a new member though.

I'd say they have a routine when a new member comes along. Hi I'm susie I've been liking vaginas for quite some time now etc etc etc

Chuchoter · 08-06-2011 12:45am

From my experience of some of these sorts of groups they are soooooooooooo cliquey. Like levels of cliquey I've never even seen, so I can only imagine what a club for young lesbians who are cliquey to begin with must be like.

Platinum2010 · 12-06-2011 9:35pm

I'm 18 from munster and there's no one round these parts that's openly lesbian as far a I know

Kanoe · 12-06-2011 10:16pm

Platinum2010 wrote: »

I'm 18 from munster and there's no one round these parts that's openly lesbian as far a I know

There's three decent sized areas of population in Munster, between Cork, Waterford and Limerick there's bound to be a few girls around, you just haven't met them yet. From what I can see there's a larger number of younger females out here (s.e. munster) I have a hard time meeting women over the age of 28. Then again it appears that every second female I meet is bi these days, it's very confusing.

Look out for group gatherings, theatre, drama, sports and activities that you can become involved in, it's a good way of meeting people too.

Platinum2010 · 12-06-2011 10:34pm

Can't say I've tried limerick but not having much luck in Waterford or cork

Kanoe · 12-06-2011 10:50pm

Platinum2010 wrote: »

Can't say I've tried limerick but not having much luck in Waterford or cork

mmm..I'm in Waterford. If I went to town tonight I could guarantee that within twenty minutes I will have met a handful of bisexual girls in their early-mid twenties in one or two main street locations. (I just need to state not that I'm especially interested or looking it's just that I seem to meet a lot of them lately)
I met a group of gay girls early twenties last week from the area in the local gay bar so they are there and not hiding. (they went to school with my niece)

While it's all good and well versing whats in pubs or clubs, it's probably not the best way to meet people..although understandably it might be the easiest.

I'm just more willing to put in a little effort to meet the right person/people.

Platinum2010 · 12-06-2011 11:30pm

Are you originally from Waterford ?
Been to dignity and there are not many people interested in anything other than hanging with their mates which is understandable to be fair

Kanoe · 12-06-2011 11:55pm

Platinum2010 wrote: »

Are you originally from Waterford ?
Been to dignity and there are not many people interested in anything other than hanging with their mates which is understandable to be fair

yep from the area. and yeah, most people will hang out with their mates there but it's a small enough town that usually someone knows someone else and that's how you get to meet people. I don't go very often, maybe once or twice a month but I know enough to mingle with. On the other hand I've met more people and made lasting friendships through people on a regular night out, in very "straight" environments. So don't give up just yet

Platinum2010 · 13-06-2011 12:02am

Thanks it's just hard when you dont know anyone really and most of your friends won't go to dignity or when you are nervous about going to the chillout group in town the only really way I know anyone gay is in Dublin because I know folk up there who have introduced me to the scene up there

LegacyUser · 14-06-2011 12:03am

Hi there..
im 19 and i live in cork..ive been extremely curious lately about being with another girl..ive tried to talk to girls from my area on dating sites but id reather just do it in a chatroom or on facebook if possible.. is there ne1 who knows a chatroom or anything?!?!....

Platinum2010 · 16-06-2011 11:39pm

Would love to help you out but I really don't know . Sorry

lex123 · 16-06-2011 11:45pm

im from tipp and there is a few around,depends how open and confident you are!

Chuchoter · 16-06-2011 11:47pm

The difficulty with online chatrooms is that they tend to be populated with men pretending to be lesbians.

Could you try the belongto group in Cork maybe? I'm nearly sure one exists. Or just go add people on facebook and start talking, or tagged.

lex123 · 16-06-2011 11:54pm

reality is every girl thinks about been without another girl,and every girl giving the chance would in my opinion,although most girls would deny it.

Platinum2010 · 16-06-2011 11:59pm

Tagged is useless tbh

Chuchoter · 17-06-2011 12:04am

I'm having a flick through here and remembering why I deleted my account here actually. I swear to God, I know this is going to make me sound like the biggest snob in the universe, but why is it that the vast majority of lesbians my age are just rather....I don't know. No-one seems to read or be at all interested in anything slightly intellectual. Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong people..but seriously.

Platinum2010 · 17-06-2011 12:05am

crayolastereo wrote: »

I'm having a flick through here and remembering why I deleted my account here actually. I swear to God, I know this is going to make me sound like the biggest snob in the universe, but why is it that the vast majority of lesbians my age are just rather....I don't know. No-one seems to read or be at all interested in anything slightly intellectual. Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong people..but seriously.

Haha trust me you're not a snob I often wonder the same things . I try find some other common ground

Chuchoter · 17-06-2011 12:24am

Like what though? What is the secret key interest I need to make friends with gay girls my own age? :P

Kanoe · 17-06-2011 12:33am

^ alcohol. :pac: (k,)

btw platinum, I was in dig recently and they were advertising a wimmins under 25's night this month sometime so if your around you might want to check it out.

Platinum2010 · 17-06-2011 9:14am

Kanoe wrote: »

^ alcohol. :pac: (k,)

btw platinum, I was in dig recently and they were advertising a wimmins under 25's night this month sometime so if your around you might want to check it out.

^^^^^ seriously gotta love that girl

Depends on the night though .I've one more exam left

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Kanoe · 17-06-2011 3:37pm

I think it's the 25th which would make it a Saturday, handy if everyone is heading out to celebrate. If I'm I'm passing later I'll take a look an let you know. Best of luck with exams btw

edit: if it is on this month and I haven't picked up the info wrong, maybe a few others here might be interested? There seems to be a few here who are not too far away and ye could make a night of it.

Platinum2010 · 17-06-2011 5:14pm

Kanoe wrote: »

I think it's the 25th which would make it a Saturday, handy if everyone is heading out to celebrate. If I'm I'm passing later I'll take a look an let you know. Best of luck with exams btw

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All exams are done on the 24th, the day the entire leaving cert ends lol
Totally screwed up Biology yesterday like big time .

Doubt religion will be much better so will need a good night out after it

littlehedgehog · 18-06-2011 1:25pm

I'm a bit older than you guys (omg 25.. FUUUUUUU), but I'm from a tiny town. I came out very, very openly at 17, and suddenly, I knew a good handful of gay people. Just from the virtue of being very out, people were more likely to come out to me then.
It may be an idea..! If not, college, college, college

Chuchoter · 18-06-2011 1:31pm

The amount of things I've heard about how amazing college is, there better be nothing but lesbians when I get there or I'll be so disappointed :P

littlehedgehog · 18-06-2011 1:35pm

Don't get me wrong - college doesn't mean you'll have a line of ladies outside your door, awaiting your attentions! And honestly, my story is very different to most people's - I met a girl early in first year, and had a 4 year relationship, so I don't know anything about single, gay college life.
What I mean is that it's just much easier to be yourself in college so you are vastly more likely to get yourself a group of gay friends - especially in LGBT socs! You've a ready made group of queers right there - surely there'll be a few you'll get on with

Platinum2010 · 18-06-2011 1:58pm

Can't wait till college !to be fair ....in my case its like 2 months away hopefully lol
but the things I've heard about attention seekers in LGBT groups is kinda off putting - makes me not wanna join :cool:

rainbow kirby · 18-06-2011 2:05pm

Platinum2010 wrote: »

Can't wait till college !to be fair ....in my case its like 2 months away hopefully lol
but the things I've heard about attention seekers in LGBT groups is kinda off putting - makes me not wanna join :cool:

Tbh, you won't know for definite until you try it. See how you get on, if nothing else it will be a means of getting to know a few other LGBT people at college.

LegacyUser · 07-11-2011 1:29am

Duno if anyone is still typing to this but, I'm also living in Cork and yeah i've been having very homosexual thoughts recently. Im pretty confused, as I am going out with a guy for a good while now, and i really do love him, and i find him sexy and everything feels right. but sometimes, i see very pretty girls and i just feel this lust come over me. I think I might be bisexual. Not sure. And not sure what to do either .... ...

another new one · 08-06-2012 12:09am

corkgirl2011 wrote: »

Duno if anyone is still typing to this but, I'm also living in Cork and yeah i've been having very homosexual thoughts recently. Im pretty confused, as I am going out with a guy for a good while now, and i really do love him, and i find him sexy and everything feels right. but sometimes, i see very pretty girls and i just feel this lust come over me. I think I might be bisexual. Not sure. And not sure what to do either .... ...

i know you wrote your message there ages ago but just wondering, how did it all work out for you in the end with the fella and your feelings for girls?

baby and crumble · 08-06-2012 12:12am

another new one wrote: »

i know you wrote your message there ages ago but just wondering, how did it all work out for you in the end with the fella and your feelings for girls?

Please don't drag up an old thread just to look for an update.

Meeting other young lesbians in Ireland.

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