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kandr10 · 18-09-2014 10:00am

Gosh I hope your cars ok . You must've got a bit of a fright with that!
Emmadilema youre a superstar. That is all

Emmadilema123 · 18-09-2014 10:56am

kandr10 wrote: »

Gosh I hope your cars ok . You must've got a bit of a fright with that!
Emmadilema youre a superstar. That is all

I am not! I can moan with the best of them but that's allowed when your a busy mammy I say lol

bp · 18-09-2014 11:09am

I breast fed only (well mainly) for six weeks but expressed a bottle every day and would bf at eight and go to bed. Hubby would stay up until 11 and give the bottle of expressed milk and I would sleep until 2am for that feed and again at six. This way I always got a solid 4-5 hours sleep.

Also baby wouldn't latch so was given formula in hospital and again the odd night here and there was I was either too tired or comatose!

I know it is hard at the beginning but you sound like you are doing an amazing job. Guilt is part of being a mammy but what I realised Is it there because you love them so much.

Try express a bottle may e for tonight, hand baby over, run a bath and get a nap.

Everyone here is here of you need to rant - we have all had nights up crying

John Mason · 18-09-2014 2:31pm

Jerrica wrote: »

@ Baby0103....I'm aware it's normal, I'm just finding it tough, that's what this thread is for right? And as I'm breastfeeding I'm the one who does all the feeding so I don't get a break at all.

I'm not talking about partying every weekend, but to discover that I got that tired half an hour after my usual nine pm bedtime was a bit of a shock, it means spending any time with friends or family in the evening is out the window.

But thanks for your understanding.

it gets better, we are at 20 weeks now and i can stay up until 11pm now

but when he was 8 weeks, i was in bed at 830pm every night, i was so tired :)i couldnt even read.

it will better without you realising. One night you will realise "OMG its 10pm and i am still up"

hang in there, and dont feel pressured into giving your baby formula. the more your baby feeds at night the better it is for you, him and your supply

Emmadilema123 · 18-09-2014 5:18pm

My little one is going through her cleaning phase which is grand after her dinner as she is currently cleaning her own highchair! That's a mammy win!

kandr10 · 18-09-2014 5:58pm

Wow I can't wait for that phase to begin. Cash in on that and show her the Hoover

Rachineire · 18-09-2014 6:40pm

Emmadilema123 wrote: »

My little one is going through her cleaning phase which is grand after her dinner as she is currently cleaning her own highchair! That's a mammy win!

wow! I'm going to need my little one to hit that phase! hes in the destruction/climbing everything in sight phase. (also im hitting the terrible twos tantrums and he isn't two until december. :mad: )

Emmadilema123 · 18-09-2014 7:54pm

Rachineire wrote: »

wow! I'm going to need my little one to hit that phase! hes in the destruction/climbing everything in sight phase. (also im hitting the terrible twos tantrums and he isn't two until december. :mad: )

I got my son one of those toy Henry hoovers and it actually has very light suction so he can help me Hoover. It's great fun because my Hoover is a hetty lol

I don't mean to alarm you but the threes are worse lol my friend has 3 boys much older than mine so she knew more than me and when my son was 2 she kept saying oh you just wait for the 3's. As much as I didn't her to be right she most definately was :-P

cyning · 19-09-2014 9:26pm

I actually feel tormented. Everyone told me solids would help S's reflux. I didn't introduce them until 6 months. Everything we introduce causes the same reaction: hours of screaming. She has full body sweats. She's on the max dose of Losec. On top of that I'm waiting on results to see if there's something wrong with her immune system, which means I'm avoiding toddler groups with my 2 year old in case S ends up in hospital again. C is going through the terrible twos... She misses the groups.

loubian · 19-09-2014 10:55pm

How long did it take for your little ones to adjust to their own room?

Roesy · 19-09-2014 11:02pm

loubian wrote: »

How long did it take for your little ones to adjust to their own room?

No adjustment time really but we moved her at 11/12 weeks. I'd imagine it's different when they are older.

bp · 20-09-2014 4:40am

Went in at six months and we all slept better! My loud sleeper :-)

indigo twist · 20-09-2014 8:09am

I think we moved him when he was around 3-4 months, he noticed no difference! It was the same cot as he'd been in in our room before that, and I don't think he really took any notice of what was outside the cot until he was a bit older!

Soooky · 20-09-2014 9:45pm

cyning wrote: »

I actually feel tormented. Everyone told me solids would help S's reflux. I didn't introduce them until 6 months. Everything we introduce causes the same reaction: hours of screaming. She has full body sweats. She's on the max dose of Losec. On top of that I'm waiting on results to see if there's something wrong with her immune system, which means I'm avoiding toddler groups with my 2 year old in case S ends up in hospital again. C is going through the terrible twos... She misses the groups.

Poor baby and poor you! How long have you had her on solids and what have you tried? Our LO had silent reflux and we too held off as long as possible before starting solids - good job too as the first 3 weeks were very tough on her little tummy

She spent every night crying with gas pains and constipation. After the initial 3 weeks she was flying and 4 months on she no longer has reflux. Hope things work out for ye

Emmadilema123 · 20-09-2014 9:54pm

cyning wrote: »

I actually feel tormented. Everyone told me solids would help S's reflux. I didn't introduce them until 6 months. Everything we introduce causes the same reaction: hours of screaming. She has full body sweats. She's on the max dose of Losec. On top of that I'm waiting on results to see if there's something wrong with her immune system, which means I'm avoiding toddler groups with my 2 year old in case S ends up in hospital again. C is going through the terrible twos... She misses the groups.

My little one had reflux and she was very petite so I waited until the very last minute to put her on solids too. She was grand on the baby rice so I thought when I wanted to introduce veg and meat etc it might help to go for something very light so instead of the standard mash veg with potato I uses cous cous. She loved it and much easier than cooking potatoes lol I did give her sweet potato but she managed that fine! I stuck to veg as I thought fruit would irritate it so her 5 a day was mainly veg but I sometimes threw a bit of pear in with her veg just to sweeten it a bit and help with her poos lol

dublinlady · 20-09-2014 10:45pm

Emmadilemma that really is a fantastic achievement - don't make little if it cos it's mega!! I had a similar situation for 2 months when my girls were 2 and 6months I was working 20hours, my husband 40 add commute times, no family around and no childcare and we basically were either at work, or on our own with the kids struggling!!

Jerrica - I breast fed / expressed and gave some formula (once or twice a week) for 7 months, I found a soother really helped with my second as she was only waking for comfort and not hunger! Once she had her soother she was happy out! It def cut a feed out - which she never took anyway - just snuggled and a few sips and fell asleep on me - literally! Also we coslept quite a bit at that stage too!

I have a 2&1/2 yr old and a 16 month old and have plenty of a social life - it's all possible once ur organised! And I work full time now! U go out after they are both in bed at 7, don't drink a lot and am home in bed by 11/12 - at 9 months the youngest started sleeping til 7am after we sleep trained her a bit! Worked out great - they both sleep fairly consistently from 8-7 now and then 1.30.3.30pm also.
It all changes very quickly so don't worry - it's only a short timeframe!
And for the record breastfeeding was always more convenient for me - I expressed at work from 3 months to ensure it was possible when I was at home - I had loads more time to relax when I wasn't cleaning bottles etc! Plus I loved the cosy time if I had to be away from her earlier in the day! But it's great to use the expressed for himself to give when u need a good nights sleep - I always woke after a few hours needing to pump anyway... That's the downside!! But i usually got more sleep that way for the odd night!

cyning · 20-09-2014 11:01pm

Started her at 25.5 weeks so just 6 months and she's on them just 3 weeks now: so far she's had baby rice, porridge, toast, sweet potato, carrot, parsnip, apple, pear, avacado and banana. And rice cakes. I know it will improve but I'm heartbroken from the screams. She's dropped to the 50th percentile too (from the 93rd). Reflux sucks!! I ate my stir fry using a spoon with her on my lap today because she only wanted me: a fork is a luxury some days

Emmadilema123 · 21-09-2014 12:32am

dublinlady wrote: »

Emmadilemma that really is a fantastic achievement - don't make little if it cos it's mega!! I had a similar situation for 2 months when my girls were 2 and 6months I was working 20hours, my husband 40 add commute times, no family around and no childcare and we basically were either at work, or on our own with the kids struggling!!

Jerrica - I breast fed / expressed and gave some formula (once or twice a week) for 7 months, I found a soother really helped with my second as she was only waking for comfort and not hunger! Once she had her soother she was happy out! It def cut a feed out - which she never took anyway - just snuggled and a few sips and fell asleep on me - literally! Also we coslept quite a bit at that stage too!

I have a 2&1/2 yr old and a 16 month old and have plenty of a social life - it's all possible once ur organised! And I work full time now! U go out after they are both in bed at 7, don't drink a lot and am home in bed by 11/12 - at 9 months the youngest started sleeping til 7am after we sleep trained her a bit! Worked out great - they both sleep fairly consistently from 8-7 now and then 1.30.3.30pm also.
It all changes very quickly so don't worry - it's only a short timeframe!
And for the record breastfeeding was always more convenient for me - I expressed at work from 3 months to ensure it was possible when I was at home - I had loads more time to relax when I wasn't cleaning bottles etc! Plus I loved the cosy time if I had to be away from her earlier in the day! But it's great to use the expressed for himself to give when u need a good nights sleep - I always woke after a few hours needing to pump anyway... That's the downside!! But i usually got more sleep that way for the odd night!

Aw thanks a million. The worst part is we are currently in the middle of a building project and living with the mil. My husband is the main builder on our project so once he is finished his 60 to 70 hour week in work he is doing work on the project. Eyes on the prize though lol in 10 years from now we will all be on here asking advice on how to deal with teenage hormones :-p there will always be something in life to deal with and were all very lucky to be able to say it's the children we were blessed with are the ones responsible for that :-)

uck51js9zml2yt · 21-09-2014 7:10am

Wife's been in hospital 5days and I'm home with 2 young kids and now a broken fridge.
The baby hasn't slept so well at night in 9 months and my other son is going to sleep on his own at night.
Last night got the kids bathed, house tidy and a pile of ironing done and fell into bed at 1230. Baby woke at 6 with a dirty nappy and is beside me playing with his feet

I need her home soon.

loubian · 21-09-2014 10:34pm

A's father is accusing me of not loving her because I won't help him. What a tool.

yellow hen · 21-09-2014 10:43pm

June Short Merry-go-round wrote: »

Wife's been in hospital 5days and I'm home with 2 young kids and now a broken fridge.
The baby hasn't slept so well at night in 9 months and my other son is going to sleep on his own at night.
Last night got the kids bathed, house tidy and a pile of ironing done and fell into bed at 1230. Baby woke at 6 with a dirty nappy and is beside me playing with his feet

I need her home soon.

When she comes home do you think you could pop round to mine and do my pile of ironing?

bp · 22-09-2014 6:17am

loubian wrote: »

A's father is accusing me of not loving her because I won't help him. What a tool.

Eejit!!!

Emmadilema123 · 22-09-2014 6:47am

bp wrote: »

Eejit!!!

I wish I could thank this more than once bp

nikpmup · 22-09-2014 11:51pm

What a friggin day. Little man woke up at 6.15am screaming. I'd had 4 hours kip, and had run out of coffee. Was counting the minutes until he went down for his nap. He was whingy, clingy and just wouldn't settle. Wouldn't eat breakfast, didn't want to be down, diodn't want to be up. Finally went down at 9.45 - for 20 minutes, then woke up screeching and crying and wouldn't settle. I actually burst into tears.
After lunch the three of us headed out to Dun Laoghaire for a stroll. He was in grand form, happy out watching the world go by, and got a taste of my ice cream

As we were leaving, I wondered aloud if we should stop for a coffee and feed him his dinner but decided against it. Hit the M50, and got stuck in a 45 minute tailback behind an accident. Little man screamed the whole time. It took us an hour and a half to get home.
Gave him his bottle tonight and he was shattered. I was tickling him and he just gawped up at me and gave me one of those sleepy giggles. All forgiven. Asleep in seconds (after crying getting his teeth brushed!)
Tomorrow's another day.

John Mason · 23-09-2014 11:00am

i feel your pain, spent the day in Powerscourt, dropped my mam home, and hit the M50 took me an hour to get from J13 to J14. It took me over an hour and half from Bray to Finglas.

L started crying, which turned into screaming. He was crying so much he was making himself sick.

I had to keep jumping out of the car to clean him up and make sure he wasnt choking.

I was crying, he was crying, it was a complete mess but at least we made it home safe unlike the people in the crash.

this is the second time this has happened to us, the next time that signs says there is an accident at J13, I will be coming off at J12 and going back to Bray.

nikpmup · 23-09-2014 12:39pm

True that - apparently a car had flipped in the far right lane. He had a three hour nap this morning!

lolademmers · 23-09-2014 1:36pm

Sounds tough nikpump hope you took full advantage of that nap this morning. My guy had a couple of three hour naps over the weekend. Was actually getting worried one day haha. Maybe a growth spurt or something.

nikpmup · 23-09-2014 2:41pm

I did indeed, lolademmers, took to the bed with him

Jerrica · 23-09-2014 7:14pm

nikpmup and John Mason my heart goes out to you both. I've only had a couple of nasty M50 traffic experiences with H in the car, and they weren't pretty. It's a special kind of mummy torture to listen to your baby screaming like that and be powerless to do anything about it.

H had another difficult day, we've both just stopped crying and she's conked out. Going to get her tongue tie snipped tomorrow, I'm dubious about whether it'll help her extend her feeds, but fingers crossed it will. We've three more days left of leap 2, maybe that'll show an improvement too.

cyning · 23-09-2014 8:25pm

Jerrica wrote: »

nikpmup and John Mason my heart goes out to you both. I've only had a couple of nasty M50 traffic experiences with H in the car, and they weren't pretty. It's a special kind of mummy torture to listen to your baby screaming like that and be powerless to do anything about it.

H had another difficult day, we've both just stopped crying and she's conked out. Going to get her tongue tie snipped tomorrow, I'm dubious about whether it'll help her extend her feeds, but fingers crossed it will. We've three more days left of leap 2, maybe that'll show an improvement too.

It should help, it did in anyone I know who had it done and it did here. Honestly it really did help. Fingers crossed for tomorrow

madeinamerica · 27-09-2014 9:36am

I'm new to these newborn threads so may be off topic here... My boy is a month old, I live abroad. My mum has been here for the last 2 weeks and my dad and brother arrived on Wednesday. I started getting a sore throat yesterday morning. I find out at dinner last night that my dad had a sore throat after arriving here, now mum and brother have it since yesterday too. These things happen, but I'm pretty bloody pissed off that they've been arounf the baby every day and no one thought to mention the sore throat! I didn't say anything last night about it. They leave tomorrow. They know that i want any illnesses to be kept away from him as we had talked about other possible issues with them. Should I bother saying anything? I think they, or at least my dad, knowingly exposed me and baby to this. My throat is worse now and in worried about poor bubs. I don't want to spoil their last day here, but seriously who handles a new born baby when they're sicck?! my dad is a bit of a selfish idiot so in one way I'm not surprised.

indigo twist · 27-09-2014 9:41am

madeinamerica wrote: »

I'm new to these newborn threads so may be off topic here... My boy is a month old, I live abroad. My mum has been here for the last 2 weeks and my dad and brother arrived on Wednesday. I started getting a sore throat yesterday morning. I find out at dinner last night that my dad had a sore throat after arriving here, now mum and brother have it since yesterday too. These things happen, but I'm pretty bloody pissed off that they've been arounf the baby every day and no one thought to mention the sore throat! I didn't say anything last night about it. They leave tomorrow. They know that i want any illnesses to be kept away from him as we had talked about other possible issues with them. Should I bother saying anything? I think they, or at least my dad, knowingly exposed me and baby to this. My throat is worse now and in worried about poor bubs. I don't wasn't to spoil their last day, but seriously who handles a new born baby when they're sick?!

Honestly I'd say nothing. Any potential damage is done now, so it wouldn't really achieve anything.

In fairness if I lived abroad and my family were only going to occasionally see myself and the baby, and they'd made the effort of getting flights over etc, I wouldn't ask them to stay away for the sake of avoiding a sore throat. And unless yourself or the baby have any problems with your immune systems, it's not really a big deal anyways, is it?

madeinamerica · 27-09-2014 9:57am

indigo twist wrote: »

Honestly I'd say nothing. Any potential damage is done now, so it wouldn't really achieve anything.

In fairness if I lived abroad and my family were only going to occasionally see myself and the baby, and they'd made the effort of getting flights over etc, I wouldn't ask them to stay away for the sake of avoiding a sore throat. And unless yourself or the baby have any problems with your immune systems, it's not really a big deal anyways, is it?

Thanks for your reply. Yeah I do feel bad saying anything as they came all this way, that's why I didn't say anything at dinner.
I didn't mean that they stay away altogether, just that they don't handle the baby when sick and take extra care washing hands and with cups etc. I don't see any point in restricting them now on their last day, as it's likely he has it or at least will get it from me now. But I feel like it was a stupid thing to happen and I should stand up for my son.

I am very prone to throat infections, i can get it really badly and can end up in bed barely able to breathe, it's like my achilles heel. I hope my son is not like me!

galah · 27-09-2014 1:33pm

why is it so hard to get both boys down for a nap at the same time?...:mad: they keep egging each other on, one starts messing, the other joins in, both are wrecked but neither is sleeping. i want a break, and peace and quiet, too

madeinamerica · 27-09-2014 2:18pm

In the light of day, I'm not so pissed off about the sore throats. Guess I needed to vent!

Jerrica · 27-09-2014 5:18pm

madeinamerica wrote: »

In the light of day, I'm not so pissed off about the sore throats. Guess I needed to vent!

There are a lot of parenting problems that can feel a lot worse in the wee small hours of the morning

Neyite · 27-09-2014 8:43pm

madeinamerica wrote: »

In the light of day, I'm not so pissed off about the sore throats. Guess I needed to vent!

There's an old wives theory that a baby is immune to coughts and colds and those type of illnesses in the first 3 months as they still have the immunity from being inside. So while you might feel crap altogether, baby is unlikely to get the sore throat.

My partner had man flu when my little one was 2 months and wouldn't touch him for 2 days until his mother mentioned the immunity. Baby was fine.

Sligo1 · 27-09-2014 9:21pm

Neyite wrote: »

There's an old wives theory that a baby is immune to coughts and colds and those type of illnesses in the first 3 months as they still have the immunity from being inside. So while you might feel crap altogether, baby is unlikely to get the sore throat.

My partner had man flu when my little one was 2 months and wouldn't touch him for 2 days until his mother mentioned the immunity. Baby was fine.

Yep and your breastfeeding too so baby should still be getting your antibodies

loubian · 27-09-2014 10:31pm

Does anyone remember, around the 14 month mark being absolutely exhausted yourself? I'm so wrecked the last few weeks - so drowsy at work n gonna have to get vitamins so I can stay awake after

Fell asleep writing this post! Meant to say so I can stay awake after 10.30!

How Strange · 27-09-2014 11:01pm

loubian wrote: »

Does anyone remember, around the 14 month mark being absolutely exhausted yourself? I'm so wrecked the last few weeks - so drowsy at work n gonna have to get vitamins so I can stay awake after

Oh god yes! My bubs is almost 17 months and some days I'm on auto pilot. I've found myself not being able to finish sentences because I can't remember the word I want to use. That's happened quite a few times.

I'm going to start taking floradix again. I took it from 5-9 months and found it fantastic.

At the moment we're being woken 2-3 times a night. It's all teething related but she's not the best sleeper anyway.

loubian · 28-09-2014 12:46am

How Strange wrote: »

Oh god yes! My bubs is almost 17 months and some days I'm on auto pilot. I've found myself not being able to finish sentences because I can't remember the word I want to use. That's happened quite a few times.

I'm going to start taking floradix again. I took it from 5-9 months and found it fantastic.

At the moment we're being woken 2-3 times a night. It's all teething related but she's not the best sleeper anyway.

I thought it was just me - I'm forgetting everything now - keys, words, tasks, things in work! I'm getting slagged over it which makes me feel worse about it!

dori_dormer · 30-09-2014 9:01am

I think that was officially the worst night we've ever had. He cried in his sleep the entire night

when I tried to console him he just squirmed and pinched and head butted me . I'm so worn out. It seems he had a pain cos he just did the most enormous poop ever this morning

Really doesn't help that I have flu and hubby is away this week too. I'm never this sick for this long but haven't had any rest to get over this dose.

Feel like crying all day

loubian · 30-09-2014 10:10am

Have a tummy bug here, she's crying when she goes

Pablodreamsofnew · 02-10-2014 11:31pm

We have reached the 'terrible twos' I was beginning to think we were gonna skip it but overnight our son has turned from an angel into a child that throws himself on the ground screaming like a mad yolk because I broke his liga in half :eek:

Still love him though but sssh dont't tell him

:D

nikpmup · 04-10-2014 12:49am

This time last year, I was lying in bed, cursing and bemoaning the woeful pain in my back and trying to not focus on the midwife's surprised expression when she looked at the trace and said ''you're having uterine contractions! Probably won't progress to anything......''

Happy birthday little dude.

Roesy · 04-10-2014 8:42am

Happiest of happy days Baby Nikpmup!!

Little fairy has to be woken around 7 from Monday to Friday and then wakes fresh as a daisy on Saturday morning at 6

That hour really makes a difference.

Rachineire · 04-10-2014 1:22pm

my little one decided that he likes waking up screaming several times a night- for no apparent reason. and the only person that he wants to cuddle with? mom of course!!

last night it was 12, 1, 3:30, 4:30, and 5:30 and I was up at 7 for work at 8.

Cunning Stunt · 04-10-2014 3:41pm

We're struggling with our little man's sleep at the moment too.

He's nearly 10 months now and he used to be a lot easier to get to sleep but now he just seems to get energized and hyper as soon as he hits the bed. It doesn't matter if it's our bed or his cot, he'll roll around, sit up, stand up, squeal and this will go on and on. The only thing that seems to help at the moment is holding him tight to me, which he doesn't like but sometimes it works and he calms down and drops off to sleep - but I don't want to be doing this for the future, it makes me feel like I'm holding him against his will or something!

I think it's been like this since he started in daycare. I just had a good sleep routine down and then he had to start daycare and now everything is messed up :mad: I'm back to work on Monday and I hope to God that this is just a phase he's going through!

Sweet Rose · 04-10-2014 4:02pm

Rachineire wrote: »

my little one decided that he likes waking up screaming several times a night- for no apparent reason. and the only person that he wants to cuddle with? mom of course!!

last night it was 12, 1, 3:30, 4:30, and 5:30 and I was up at 7 for work at 8.

I'm wrecked just thinking about it! You poor thing, hopefully it'll pass soon.

Merkin · 04-10-2014 7:18pm

Poor baby Merkin just totally off colour today. He had a very restless night with little moans and lots of tossing and turning and has been crying and off colour for some of the day in between catnaps on my chest or Mr. Merkins. Poor little fellow

Nappies fine although no poo since 6am which is unusual for him,no temperature thank goodness but just really unhappy although feeding very well. He is 10+2 and is eating the little hands of himself and shaking the head a bit, could he possibly be cutting a little tooth this early does anyone think? I thought one little cheek looked redder than the other.

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