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What's the going rate for confirmation money (Godchild)

  • 24-04-2013 11:07pm
    #1
    Deskjockey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 855 ✭✭✭Deskjockey


    Hi, realise this is one that has probably been done to death on here over the years, but what is the going rate for godchild dough? The godmother says she's giving €100 but it seems a bit over the top to me.

    Is €50 sufficient or am I just being a tightwad? Thinking we have given €200 as a wedding present (as a couple) before to different people so €100 seems like a lot for a kids confirmation

    Thanks


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  • #2
    Boombastic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    Prayer book and rosary beads


  • #3
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    €100 if it's a Godchild, €50 for a niece/nephew and €20 for the scobie down the road who happens to be in the same class as your own kid. It was in that memo you got when you became a Godparent - didn't you read it?


  • #4
    kraggy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,414 ✭✭✭kraggy


    The country hasn't climbed back down from the ridiculous heights of the Celtic Tiger I see.

    Madness. And in most cases, hypocrisy.


  • #5
    Sergeant
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,362 ✭✭✭Sergeant


    Give them nothing. Instead give them a stern lecture on the importance of budgeting and an appreciation of money.


  • #6
    Banjo String
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,380 ✭✭✭✭Banjo String


    In before tree fiddy.


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  • #7
    Fr_Fitzexactly
    Site Banned Posts: 85 ✭✭Fr_Fitzexactly


    NuckingFacker wrote: »
    €100 if it's a Godchild, €50 for a niece/nephew and €20 for the scobie down the road who happens to be in the same class as your own kid. It was in that memo you got when you became a Godparent - didn't you read it?

    We don't have "memo" over here. Round these parts if I want to tell someone a thing and they're not within roaring range I send a message in morse code using the throttle on the chainsaw while i'm cuttin a few blocks for the fire. This saves me the trouble of removing the ould Galaxy S3 from my pocket


  • #8
    JustAThought
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,324 ✭✭✭JustAThought


    E50 is generous and LODES

    Just
    Make sure it's in a cool card too!


  • #9
    Gringo180
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,205 ✭✭✭Gringo180


    A card with 2 all cash scratch cards in it.


  • #10
    ShinyHappy
    Registered Users Posts: 16 ✭ShinyHappy


    And communion????


  • #11
    Jack Lumber
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 75 ✭✭Jack Lumber


    A kick in the hole.


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  • #12
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Fr_Fitzexactly wrote: »
    We don't have "memo" over here. Round these parts if I want to tell someone a thing and they're not within roaring range I send a message in morse code using the throttle on the chainsaw while i'm cuttin a few blocks for the fire. This saves me the trouble of removing the ould Galaxy S3 from my pocket
    Thats Stihl a memo. Husqvarna give more than €50 to his Godchild. You only get to be a Godfather by splashing the cash.


  • #13
    missingtime
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,942 ✭✭✭missingtime


    Girlfriend had to hand over 50€ ****ing euros for one of these recently. An absolute joke imo.


  • #14
    irishgirl19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,609 ✭✭✭irishgirl19


    100 euro is a bit much!


  • #15
    Madam_X
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,327 ✭✭✭Madam_X


    Deskjockey wrote: »
    Is €50 sufficient or am I just being a tightwad?
    Tightwad? FFS no.

    What can you afford? If you want to exceed €50, €70/80 is extremely generous IMO. And a wedding gift, when the bride and groom have gone to a lot of expense, is hardly comparable to a present for a kid's confirmation.

    €100 is too much IMO. If a person can afford it and wants to give it to their godchild, fair enough, but I personally don't see the point. Pity there's the notion that there's a "going rate".

    Got £100+ in total for my confirmation in 1991. I loathe doing the "In my day..." thing like a woman of 70, and I know it's over two decades on, but I still can't help finding it absolutely staggering that it's deemed not particularly excessive for one gift to be €100 now. :eek:

    People have their pride, it isn't all about pressure, but a figure somewhere in the middle is plenty.


  • #16
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    kraggy wrote: »
    The country hasn't climbed back down from the ridiculous heights of the Celtic Tiger I see.

    Madness. And in most cases, hypocrisy.
    €100 excessive? Go on ya auld softie, you.


  • #17
    Anyone
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,376 ✭✭✭Anyone


    SamHall wrote: »
    In before tree fiddy.


    Aww I was going to say "tree fiddy" :(


  • #18
    fergiesfolly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,407 ✭✭✭fergiesfolly


    Daughters making her confirmation next week. I'll batter the godparents if they hand her €100.
    €20-€50 is loads.


  • #19
    sungear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 158 ✭✭sungear


    missingtime wrote: »
    Girlfriend had to hand over 50€ ****ing euros for one of these recently. An absolute joke imo.

    why had to?
    If they were genuinely religious, I might consider it
    but if they weren't
    brush up on religion, ask a few questions, if they cant answer
    nothing

    The expectation of money at communion and confirmation should be discouraged, same as spending money on getting clothes for it, then it takes all the bother of that and the expense out of it.


  • #20
    colossus-x
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,202 ✭✭✭colossus-x


    I'm really bitter that I only got 8 punts back in 1984 when my classmates boasted of getting over a ton. I lied and said I got 50. My nephew got 20 euro from me last week. I'm on the dole and would love it if someone would give me crisp blue 20 note.

    Can't believe ppl think there is a 'going rate' for these sorts of things. Makes everything feel so 'clinical' .


  • #21
    Tin Foil Hat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,664 ✭✭✭Tin Foil Hat


    Deskjockey wrote: »
    Hi, realise this is one that has probably been done to death on here over the years, but what is the going rate for godchild dough? The godmother says she's giving €100 but it seems a bit over the top to me.

    Is €50 sufficient or am I just being a tightwad? Thinking we have given €200 as a wedding present (as a couple) before to different people so €100 seems like a lot for a kids confirmation

    Thanks

    Give a copy of The God Delusion and tell them to stop bothering you with this bollox.


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  • #22
    NegativeCreep
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,351 ✭✭✭NegativeCreep


    A doll, a drum, a kick up the bum and a chase around the table.
    That's plenty.


  • #23
    DyldeBrill
    Registered Users Posts: 1,406 ✭✭✭DyldeBrill


    20-50 euro is more than enough!

    It depends on whether or not the kids a little fcuk


  • #24
    Fr_Fitzexactly
    Site Banned Posts: 85 ✭✭Fr_Fitzexactly


    NuckingFacker wrote: »
    Thats Stihl a memo. Husqvarna give more than €50 to his Godchild. You only get to be a Godfather by splashing the cash.

    Surely sorting out a few lads who caused hassle to your godchild will buy you a lot more godfather cred than a few bits of paper. If I owned a chainsaw factory I'd be giving more than €50 as well. Or maybe just give them a chainsaw, learn them young, a nice light one to start them off


  • #25
    murpho999
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,542 ✭✭✭✭murpho999


    Totally ridiculous concept, major religious sacrament and people give money for it just because it's the done thing.


  • #26
    Fr_Fitzexactly
    Site Banned Posts: 85 ✭✭Fr_Fitzexactly


    murpho999 wrote: »
    Totally ridiculous concept, major religious sacrament and people give money for it just because it's the done thing.

    Catholicism. Serious business


  • #27
    Odysseus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,754 ✭✭✭Odysseus


    Give what you can afford, however, if you can give the 50 don't go over it. That is more than enough, however, posts like yours show the type of pressure than can be put of people around these events.

    My own view is not to hold out on the child, but you should not give more than you can afford and if that is a fiver, so be it.


  • #28
    efb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35,514 ✭✭✭✭efb


    €100


  • #29
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators Posts: 14,384 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    I gave my Godson a watch for his confirmation. Less than €30! He was thrilled with it. His first "proper" watch - just in time for secondary school. I didn't include any cash!


  • #30
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    I gave my Godson a watch for his confirmation. Less than €30! He was thrilled with it. His first "proper" watch - just in time for secondary school. I didn't include any cash!
    "Yeah, thanks Unk BigBagofchips, I'm thrilled, so I am"






    "Did you see the shyte that Bigbagofchips gave our little Johnnie? The miserable b0llix"


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  • #31
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators Posts: 14,384 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    He has no idea how much it cost - and his mother was with me and picked it out!!
    I got off light there!

    Had I been giving cash, I would have given €50!!

    (he got plenty of cash - he only got 1 watch!!)


  • #32
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    He has no idea how much it cost - and his mother was with me and picked it out!!
    I got off light there!

    Had I been giving cash, I would have given €50!!

    (he got plenty of cash - he only got 1 watch!!)
    I'm only skitting, I'd be mean enough as well, sorry, careful.:D


  • #33
    ITS_A_BADGER
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,232 ✭✭✭ITS_A_BADGER


    Im sponsor for my niece in a couple of weeks im going to give her 50 euros id say that should be enough for a sponsor to give like


  • #34
    Boombastic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    NuckingFacker wrote: »
    "Yeah, thanks Unk BigBagofchips, I'm thrilled, so I am"






    "Did you see the shyte that Bigbagofchips gave our little Johnnie? The miserable b0llix"

    The bolded bit

    Said by the parents and not the child, interestingly enough


  • #35
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Give them a copy of the God Delusion


  • #36
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    My youngest did his Confo a few weeks ago. The Godparents gave him €300, Aunts/Unks were allowed away with €100/€200. Anyone bearing less than €50 could feck right the feck off. He ended up with €3k. Proper order. I don't scab their kids, don't come here scabbing mine. It's a question of respect. I don't just expect it, I demand it. It's a Loreal thing.


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  • #37
    Boombastic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    NuckingFacker wrote: »
    My youngest did his Confo a few weeks ago. The Godparents gave him €300, Aunts/Unks were allowed away with €100/€200. Anyone bearing less than €50 could feck right the feck off. He ended up with €3k. Proper order. I don't scab their kids, don't come here scabbing mine. It's a question of respect. I don't just expect it, I demand it. It's a Loreal thing.

    Did you have a charge in to the bouncing castle?


  • #38
    Fr_Fitzexactly
    Site Banned Posts: 85 ✭✭Fr_Fitzexactly


    NuckingFacker wrote: »
    My youngest did his Confo a few weeks ago. The Godparents gave him €300, Aunts/Unks were allowed away with €100/€200. Anyone bearing less than €50 could feck right the feck off. He ended up with €3k. Proper order. I don't scab their kids, don't come here scabbing mine. It's a question of respect. I don't just expect it, I demand it. It's a Loreal thing.

    Loreal.. pleb.


  • #39
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Boombastic wrote: »
    Did you have a charge in to the bouncing castle?
    No, I got one for free. He was honoured to be able to give me one for the day. Actually.


  • #40
    Deskjockey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 855 ✭✭✭Deskjockey


    Ok I feel validated and am going to give €50 in a really nice card


  • #41
    Boombastic
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    NuckingFacker wrote: »
    No, I got one for free. He was honoured to be able to give me one for the day. Actually.

    Should have had an entry fee in for each of the guests, you missed a trick there...:pac:


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  • #42
    blatantrereg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,743 ✭✭✭blatantrereg


    bonkers. What's a kid going to do with that sort of money anyway.


  • #43
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    blatantrereg wrote: »
    bonkers. What's a kid going to do with that sort of money anyway.
    Borrow it to me.


  • #44
    Deskjockey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 855 ✭✭✭Deskjockey


    blatantrereg wrote: »
    bonkers. What's a kid going to do with that sort of money anyway.

    Start of loan sharkin at 2 points above the vig.

    Sheesh


  • #45
    Kichote
    Registered Users Posts: 305 ✭✭Kichote


    Madam_X wrote: »
    Tightwad? FFS no.

    What can you afford? If you want to exceed 50, 70/80 is extremely generous IMO. And a wedding gift, when the bride and groom have gone to a lot of expense, is hardly comparable to a present for a kid's confirmation.

    100 is too much IMO. If a person can afford it and wants to give it to their godchild, fair enough, but I personally don't see the point. Pity there's the notion that there's a "going rate".

    Got £100+ in total for my confirmation in 1991. I loathe doing the "In my day..." thing like a woman of 70, and I know it's over two decades on, but I still can't help finding it absolutely staggering that it's deemed not particularly excessive for one gift to be 100 now. :eek:

    People have their pride, it isn't all about pressure, but a figure somewhere in the middle is plenty.


    In my day a funt up the hole was the going rate. For the trouble you put your parents through making them go away from the farm and having to drag you to church and buy you clothes that cost a week's food but they bought it anyway for the sake of the family's reputation


  • #46
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Kichote wrote: »
    In my day a funt up the hole was the going rate. For the trouble you put your parents through making them go away from the farm and having to drag you to church and buy you clothes that cost a week's food but they bought it anyway for the sake of the family's reputation
    Ye were posh. My parents couldn't even afford to give us a kick in the hole.


  • #47
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 16,720 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Talk to siblings and parents and buy the kid a family pass for the zoo together.


  • #48
    Akrasia
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,597 ✭✭✭✭Akrasia


    You should offer them a choice. 100 euros or the contents of a 'mystery box'.

    Valuable life lessons will be learned


  • #49
    passive
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭passive


    Akrasia wrote: »
    You should offer them a choice. 100 euros or the contents of a 'mystery box'.

    Valuable life lessons will be learned

    ... by the OP when the kid takes the €100?


  • #50
    Liamario
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,094 ✭✭✭Liamario


    Boombastic wrote: »
    Prayer book and rosary beads

    Couldn't agree more. What the hell has money got to do with. I'd love to hear the bull**** from the parents though. "The scabby bastard!"- it would be a great litmus test on how important religion actually is to them.
    I don't who I resent more; cultural Catholics or the real ones.


  • #51
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Liamario wrote: »
    Couldn't agree more. What the hell has money got to do with. I'd love to hear the bull**** from the parents though. "The scabby bastard!"- it would be a great litmus test on how important religion actually is to them.
    I don't who I resent more; cultural Catholics or the real ones.
    O.M.G, people will just keep dragging religion into absolutely everything.


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