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The Pregnant Womans Moan Thread.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 17 kco2010


    30 weeks, working 45 hour weeks, trying to close on a new house that the bank seem intent on cocking up whilst living with relatives who bless are too overeager to help and my three year old cant seem to sleep through the night! exhausted, heavy and sore....rant over 😂😂


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,832 ✭✭✭spottybananas


    I've been coping ok with most symptoms, of which I have many minor ones. Luckily the horrific heartburn has eased up a bit...but I'd take it back now over my newest symptom :( I have a horrible ache somewhere around my crotch, I can't even pinpoint where it is other than to say it's on the right. I've had it since last week and today it's really ramping up, great :mad: I figure there's no point calling gp/midwife to ask about it, I assume it's just pressure on something, a vein or whatever, pretty sure nothing other than rest can relieve it, which isn't really practical is it! :)

    I reckon I've heard every bit of stupid clichéd "advice" about pregnancy now, I seem to draw them on me. Yesterday I was told that one of my symptoms which actually affects my ability to do my job and means that I have to finish up early and with any subsequent pregnancies will have to too is a small sacrifice for getting a child. My income, what pays the bills, is a small sacrifice? Interesting, I was under the impression children needed food, schooling, and so on :mad:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,326 ✭✭✭Blingy


    25 weeks and feeling awful today. Lightheaded, faint, exhausted and nauseous. I thought this second trimester was meant to be great.

    Left work and off home to bed for me. Just hope it's not the start of a tummy bug that's doing the rounds!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 36 Elly_Welly


    Ms2011 wrote: »
    In the same boat, just over 7 weeks left & I've had enough of being pregnant now.

    I'm just 7 weeks IN and I can't take it anymore!
    Non-stop nausea all day, as well as chronic constipation and now my whole body's aching from carrying heavy groceries home yesterday :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,131 ✭✭✭Ms2011


    Elly_Welly wrote: »
    I'm just 7 weeks IN and I can't take it anymore!
    Non-stop nausea all day, as well as chronic constipation and now my whole body's aching from carrying heavy groceries home yesterday :(

    6-16 was a nightmare for me with nausea & exhaustion, had a great stretch from 17-29 weeks. Now I'm back to being miserable, not to much longer left though!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,162 ✭✭✭autumnbelle


    Ms2011 wrote: »
    6-16 was a nightmare for me with nausea & exhaustion, had a great stretch from 17-29 weeks. Now I'm back to being miserable, not to much longer left though!!

    I improved after week 13, I said in early pregnancy if it lasts this way for the full nine months this baby is an only child :);)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,131 ✭✭✭Ms2011


    I improved after week 13, I said in early pregnancy if it lasts this way for the full nine months this baby is an only child :);)

    I feel tricked by my first pregnancy, I more or less breezed through it, this one not so much!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,832 ✭✭✭spottybananas


    I've been pretty much miserable the whole time, except for the early weeks, up to about 7, when all I had were stretching pains. I was hoping this last stretch would be great because I have pretty much adjusted to the heartburn and stuff, but nope, I'm beginning a bit of a waddle and walking is not fun, so there goes that theory! A friend of mine has had a perfect pregnancy, other than the bump she/everyone wouldn't even know she was pregnant.


  • Registered Users Posts: 455 ✭✭Leogirl


    Almost 10 weeks in & my only complaint is sore boobs but they are killing me!! Cant sleep, end up killing him if he even touches off them, the shower hurts, putting a bra on hurts-and the nurse said it probably wont stop!!

    Plus all my lovely pretty bras are useless now- i'm at least a size bigger already :-(

    Rant over- feels good to admit its p*ssing me off :-)


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,559 ✭✭✭cruais


    Does anyone have a problem with acne and extremely dry skin?

    My back, tummy and shoulders are spotty and my forehead is like sandpaper with the dryness.

    I know its all down to feckin hormones! Any advice on what can be used to treat the problem?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 339 ✭✭Allirog


    I go one day having really dry, flaky skin to really oily skin. It's crazy. I had spots really just on my face and I use a face exfoliating sponge from boots, it's their own brand and I find it really good and helps! I suppose the best thing is to keep the skin clean and well moisturised but I know that's hard when we are out all day and there's make up involved and that :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,181 ✭✭✭2xj3hplqgsbkym


    Yes dry skin too, especially my forehead. I tried rubbing it with a facecloth to exfoliate, but didn't realise it was so sensitive, as then I ended up bleeding and I have a big red blotch in the middle of my forehead for weeks now, so don't do that anyway!
    The best thing i I have found s la Roche Possay hand barrier cream, and it is also THE very best nappy cream I have found after trying at least 20.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,163 ✭✭✭Nead21


    Ms2011 wrote: »
    I feel tricked by my first pregnancy, I more or less breezed through it, this one not so much!!

    I'm totally with you on this. Last time I continued spinning with until week 16 or so, then swam a lot and did yoga. My energy levels didn't seem to suffer at all, not to mention I was only queasy for a few mornings This time I'm a total wreck, and at only week 20 I get tired at the mere thought of doing anything!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 339 ✭✭Allirog


    Have any of the first timers been hearing the lines 'you've got all this ahead of you', 'you've no idea what's coming down the line', 'enjoy your sleep while you can' etc???
    Oh god my head is melted with these one liners and I'm finding it hard to bite my tongue! I'm enjoying talking about my pregnancy but to some people I just don't bother anymore. Aaahhhhh!!!! Sorry, just needed to vent fir a moment.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,175 ✭✭✭angeldelight


    Oh yeah and the people who ask "how far along are you?"

    "7 months"

    "I know someone who had a miscarriage at 7 months"

    Really? Why the fcuk would you feel the need to tells that??


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 339 ✭✭Allirog


    Oh thank god it's not just me!!! But that's a really awful thing to say to someone isn't it!! Jeez!! A friend of mine started to tell me a story and then she back tracked, she was like nope I'm not finishing that I'm sorry I shouldn't have started. She was genuinely apologetic so I got her to finish anyways but some people just don't actually think!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,306 ✭✭✭ariana`



    "I know someone who had a miscarriage at 7 months"

    There is no such thing as a miscarriage at 7 months. The loss of a baby at 7 months gestation is a still birth and while it does very sadly happen it's rare, this definitely takes the biscuit at inconsiderate comments to make to any expenctant parent :(

    I was chatting to 2 work colleagues yesterday, the 1st was saying "you look great, you're very neat" when the 2nd chimed in with "sure what are you saying she's 4 months to go wait til you see her then"! Charming. I had already said when asked that i've 14wks to go so how 14wks = 4months i don't know :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,163 ✭✭✭Nead21


    I was told on Monday in work that "you really are getting bigger by the week". I should be, I'm 5 months!

    The "it's all ahead of you" comments unfortunately don't stop with the first baby. I've already endured months of "oh you'll know all about it now with two" and "you'll really have your hands full now"......


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,162 ✭✭✭autumnbelle


    I've started snoring 😳 never have snored in my life before! I even wake myself up with it a few times during the night let alone my poor partner, anyone any advice 😄 if this is the only moan I have im doing well :)


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  • Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,947 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    Oh yeah and the people who ask "how far along are you?"

    "7 months"

    "I know someone who had a miscarriage at 7 months"

    Really? Why the fcuk would you feel the need to tells that??

    I had this at the OH's Christmas party, one of his workmates despite me telling her several times during the long monologue, that I wasn't going to listen to any horror birth stories, thanks, proceeded to describe them in excruciating boring detail.

    Jesus.

    Nearly as bad as people who gloss over stuff and you KNOW they are lying - like, my sis was heading towards a section, wanted to know honestly what to expect. So I was honest, gave her the facts without scaremongering, showed her my lovely tiny scar, which you can barely see, explained the pain levels (at my worst, I'd have taken section pain over dental pain any day tbh.) I gave her the facts, but in an upbeat and positive way. She felt happy and informed and a lot calmer about a section if needed.

    The mammy gave out to me for 'scaring' her. :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,131 ✭✭✭Ms2011


    I've started snoring 😳 never have snored in my life before! I even wake myself up with it a few times during the night let alone my poor partner, anyone any advice 😄 if this is the only moan I have im doing well :)

    No advice I'm afraid. The only times I snore is when I have too much to drink (not a big drinker so not a big problem), when I have a bad cold or during the last few weeks of pregnancy.
    It's around then I start to drool in my sleep too...v.attractive:o


  • Registered Users Posts: 96 ✭✭deedless


    Sweet jeez us could people stop telling me I'm "waddling ". For f's sake I'm doing my best. My back hurts, my shoulder hurts, my neck hurts. I do not need to be told I waddle. Really. I don't


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 499 ✭✭ainy


    Ms2011 wrote:
    No advice I'm afraid. The only times I snore is when I have too much to drink (no a big drinker so a big problem), when I have a bad cold or during the last few weeks of pregnancy. It's around then I start to drool in my sleep too...v.attractive


    oh snap on the drooling and snores at this stage!!


  • Registered Users Posts: 222 ✭✭orlyice


    Oh here, why do people feel the need to offer advice, especially when they repeat their "advice " 20 times. One of my sisters and one sister in law are the worst. I am only 9 weeks, we told our siblings a week ago. So far my sister has repeatedly told me to get rid of my cats now, can't have them around a baby, a friend of hers found the cat in the cot so they took it to Shelter. I should bring them now. I should mention that she has no kids or cats herself! I Could understand if there wasn't a thing called a door that keeps the cats out. It's not like I am going to leave the cats in the same room as the baby!
    The sil keeps telling me what to buy. She doesn't have kids But minds bil child a few times so suddenly knows everything. I should buy this car seat, this cot etc because they are the ones the bil has so obviously we wouldn't be able to make our own decisions on What to get. And their child is 7 now so things have changed in those 7 years!

    I don't mind advice from people who have kids if I ask for it or we are talking about something specific and they give me their 2 cents worth. But this is all stuff I haven't brought up with them at all, yet they have to tell me themselves. And advice is offered repeatedly! Don't know how I will manage 31 weeks of this. Then, once the baby comes everyone will have their own opinions which will have to be repeatedly shared. and I know my sis and sil will tell me I am doing something wrong when baby arrives arrives. Aaaaahhhhh


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,323 ✭✭✭Roesy


    Ugh, I'm wrecked. So sick of the mental(and sometimes scary!) dreams and the getting up several times a night for the bathroom.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,077 ✭✭✭Saralee4


    Roesy wrote: »
    Ugh, I'm wrecked. So sick of the mental(and sometimes scary!) dreams and the getting up several times a night for the bathroom.

    I haven't had too many mad dreams this time but I remember in my last pregnancy, I dreamt that I murdered my husband :eek: and then all I could think of was how was I going to get away with it. I wasn't worried about the fact that I just killed him. So I rang my mam and told her that I killed him and she came over to help me get rid of the evidence and then I killed her!

    The dream was so graphic and scary. I am nice as pie in real life I swear! :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,306 ✭✭✭ariana`


    Saralee4 wrote: »
    I haven't had too many mad dreams this time but I remember in my last pregnancy, I dreamt that I murdered my husband :eek: and then all I could think of was how was I going to get away with it. I wasn't worried about the fact that I just killed him. So I rang my mam and told her that I killed him and she came over to help me get rid of the evidence and then I killed her!

    The dream was so graphic and scary. I am nice as pie in real life I swear! :P

    Got a laugh from that thanks! I've had really graphic dreams too from day 1 of this pregnancy, i wake up exhausted from them even after 8 hrs solid sleep :rolleyes:

    Cramps during the night in my calf muscles last few nights now, so bad that they're still sore during the day afterwards? Anyone get this? I'm 26wks now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,077 ✭✭✭Saralee4


    orlyice wrote: »
    Oh here, why do people feel the need to offer advice, especially when they repeat their "advice " 20 times. One of my sisters and one sister in law are the worst. I am only 9 weeks, we told our siblings a week ago. So far my sister has repeatedly told me to get rid of my cats now, can't have them around a baby, a friend of hers found the cat in the cot so they took it to Shelter. I should bring them now. I should mention that she has no kids or cats herself! I Could understand if there wasn't a thing called a door that keeps the cats out. It's not like I am going to leave the cats in the same room as the baby!
    The sil keeps telling me what to buy. She doesn't have kids But minds bil child a few times so suddenly knows everything. I should buy this car seat, this cot etc because they are the ones the bil has so obviously we wouldn't be able to make our own decisions on What to get. And their child is 7 now so things have changed in those 7 years!

    I don't mind advice from people who have kids if I ask for it or we are talking about something specific and they give me their 2 cents worth. But this is all stuff I haven't brought up with them at all, yet they have to tell me themselves. And advice is offered repeatedly! Don't know how I will manage 31 weeks of this. Then, once the baby comes everyone will have their own opinions which will have to be repeatedly shared. and I know my sis and sil will tell me I am doing something wrong when baby arrives arrives. Aaaaahhhhh

    People giving advice doesn't bother me really. I just like people that are interested to talk about the pregnancy because it does be all I can think of so im happy for anyone's opinion. When someone is not talking about it im just thinking 'mmm how will I bring up the conversation of the baby again' haha!

    And yea you should get rid of the cats and get some vests and babygros lots of babygros, that's all im saying haha only joking :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,077 ✭✭✭Saralee4


    ariana` wrote: »
    Got a laugh from that thanks! I've had really graphic dreams too from day 1 of this pregnancy, i wake up exhausted from them even after 8 hrs solid sleep :rolleyes:

    Cramps during the night in my calf muscles last few nights now, so bad that they're still sore during the day afterwards? Anyone get this? I'm 26wks now.

    same again I haven't had cramps yet but I think they are fairly normal. and at 26weeks I think would have been the time I got them.

    I remember at 34 weeks, I was grand up until then but at 34 weeks I got quite uncomfortable and if I lay down for too long, my leg hurt, not a cramp but just kind of sore.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,326 ✭✭✭Blingy


    Saralee4 wrote: »
    I haven't had too many mad dreams this time but I remember in my last pregnancy, I dreamt that I murdered my husband :eek: and then all I could think of was how was I going to get away with it. I wasn't worried about the fact that I just killed him. So I rang my mam and told her that I killed him and she came over to help me get rid of the evidence and then I killed her!

    The dream was so graphic and scary. I am nice as pie in real life I swear! :P

    This gave me a good giggle especially the part of killing your mum after she helping you dispose of the evidence !!! I agree my dreams are so detailed and so graphic it's mad.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,306 ✭✭✭ariana`


    Saralee4 wrote: »
    same again I haven't had cramps yet but I think they are fairly normal. and at 26weeks I think would have been the time I got them.

    I remember at 34 weeks, I was grand up until then but at 34 weeks I got quite uncomfortable and if I lay down for too long, my leg hurt, not a cramp but just kind of sore.

    My hubby just reminded me that i got them last time too. I think i've blocked out all the bad bits :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 339 ✭✭Allirog


    Saralee I never thought of it that way that it's discussion about the baby, im going to adapt that view :D

    As for the dreams, that's hilarious :D I dreamt last week that my oh won the lotto and did a runner with all the cash!! So funny :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,077 ✭✭✭Saralee4


    Allirog wrote: »
    Saralee I never thought of it that way that it's discussion about the baby, im going to adapt that view :D

    As for the dreams, that's hilarious :D I dreamt last week that my oh won the lotto and did a runner with all the cash!! So funny :D

    ah no allirog, im only joking. Everyone gets annoyed sometimes, sure didn't I even subconsciously want to kill my mother and husband at one stage :D

    I bet you woke up feeling slightly annoyed at your OH for running off with the money :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,559 ✭✭✭cruais


    I am totally with you all re mad dreams.

    I had such a horrible graffic dream last week that i woke in a sweat....horrendous.

    I had a stupid row with my husband and to annoy him and get him in trouble, i told my mam that he raped me. And i rememeber her saying get up quick, pack your things and get away from him. Such a horrible horrible dream.


  • Registered Users Posts: 92 ✭✭Wholeheartedly


    Saralee4 wrote: »
    People giving advice doesn't bother me really. I just like people that are interested to talk about the pregnancy because it does be all I can think of so im happy for anyone's opinion. When someone is not talking about it im just thinking 'mmm how will I bring up the conversation of the baby again' haha!)

    You made me laugh! ;) It wasn't until I read it I realised I am similar! It's just on my mind ALL the time and it's hard to imagine everyone else isn't the same! I went to visit my step sister about two weeks ago, and when I left after about two hours, I realised she hadn't mentioned the baby or pregnancy once and I was sort of like 'what's wrong with her?! ;) in the most loving way possible!! It kind of consumes you, but I feel bad for bringing it up too much!!


  • Registered Users Posts: 47 gracielooks


    ariana` wrote: »
    Got a laugh from that thanks! I've had really graphic dreams too from day 1 of this pregnancy, i wake up exhausted from them even after 8 hrs solid sleep :rolleyes:

    Cramps during the night in my calf muscles last few nights now, so bad that they're still sore during the day afterwards? Anyone get this? I'm 26wks now.

    Ah me too. Mine wake me up and I have to hop out of bed to put my foot down! I'm 28 weeks.

    If I stretch out my calf muscles on any little step I can find throughout the day it helps. I'm staying as hydrated as I can, feel like I'm always drinking water.


  • Registered Users Posts: 47 gracielooks


    orlyice wrote: »
    Oh here, why do people feel the need to offer advice, especially when they repeat their "advice " 20 times. One of my sisters and one sister in law are the worst. I am only 9 weeks, we told our siblings a week ago. So far my sister has repeatedly told me to get rid of my cats now, can't have them around a baby, a friend of hers found the cat in the cot so they took it to Shelter. I should bring them now. I should mention that she has no kids or cats herself! I Could understand if there wasn't a thing called a door that keeps the cats out. It's not like I am going to leave the cats in the same room as the baby!
    The sil keeps telling me what to buy. She doesn't have kids But minds bil child a few times so suddenly knows everything. I should buy this car seat, this cot etc because they are the ones the bil has so obviously we wouldn't be able to make our own decisions on What to get. And their child is 7 now so things have changed in those 7 years!

    I don't mind advice from people who have kids if I ask for it or we are talking about something specific and they give me their 2 cents worth. But this is all stuff I haven't brought up with them at all, yet they have to tell me themselves. And advice is offered repeatedly! Don't know how I will manage 31 weeks of this. Then, once the baby comes everyone will have their own opinions which will have to be repeatedly shared. and I know my sis and sil will tell me I am doing something wrong when baby arrives arrives. Aaaaahhhhh

    Some people are just annoying! Any area of expertise and they're just delighted to be sharing their 'wisdom'.

    Then some people are just so pleased and think they're being helpful, and of course some people really are treasure troves of good advice. I find I only go back to the same 2 people for advice now (28 weeks). It cuts down on the 'noise'.

    I feel my first pregnancy is magical and I am in awe of what I am going through but I still want to talk about other things too. I also want to live in the moment with the pregnancy and only started planning and preparing in the latter half of the second trimester. So I just responded to people talking about prams and labour when I had only shared the news that I wasn't thinking about that yet and I wanted to enjoy each stage. I noticed people stopped talking about it as much to me.

    P.s I have a cat too, no one has dared say the same to me, probably because they know I'm a crazy cat lady. Hehe. Some people get rid of pets too easily, you can make it work, which I'm sure you know.


  • Registered Users Posts: 324 ✭✭LH2013


    Gastro while 18 weeks pregnant SUCKS !!!! As does ohhhhhh are you sure its not twins ... Your HUGE !! Ughhhhhh ...... Rant over


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 672 ✭✭✭Ms Tootsie


    Im 20 weeks and have a very neat bump - which is so lovely (really it is, I know I am super lucky in that regard) but absolutely nothing fits! My own clothes are now to0 tight and maternity clothes drown me so I have had to buy clothes a few sizes up which dont fit right all over so they look ridiculous. Also if one more person exclaims OMG YOURE TINY!!!!!!!!!!!! I will punch them right square in the face! Never tell a pregnant woman she is huge, never tell a pregnant woman she is tiny, in fact just dont comment on a womans size because she is pregnant - it is not a free pass allowing you to say whatever the hell you want.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,326 ✭✭✭Blingy


    Ms Tootsie wrote: »
    Im 20 weeks and have a very neat bump - which is so lovely (really it is, I know I am super lucky in that regard) but absolutely nothing fits! My own clothes are now to0 tight and maternity clothes drown me so I have had to buy clothes a few sizes up which dont fit right all over so they look ridiculous. Also if one more person exclaims OMG YOURE TINY!!!!!!!!!!!! I will punch them right square in the face! Never tell a pregnant woman she is huge, never tell a pregnant woman she is tiny, in fact just dont comment on a womans size because she is pregnant - it is not a free pass allowing you to say whatever the hell you want.

    Yeah I feel your pain....I was told that the whole time....you're so small, are you sure you're pregnant, are you sure the baby is growing ok!!!!!
    I am now 32 weeks and still being told 'oh my god your so neat'. Yet I think I have a big heavy bump!!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 672 ✭✭✭Ms Tootsie


    Blingy wrote: »
    Yeah I feel your pain....I was told that the whole time....you're so small, are you sure you're pregnant, are you sure the baby is growing ok!!!!!
    I am now 32 weeks and still being told 'oh my god your so neat'. Yet I think I have a big heavy bump!!

    Someone in work actually asked me if I was sure the baby was ok and was I eating right!! And so many think they are the first to crack the joke 'are you are you are pregnant hahahahaha' - eh no mate I am not I just spent 3 months with my head stuck down a loo puking for the craic and the scan pictures are photo shopped and the kicking I am feeling constantly probably just means I need to fart. Thanks so much for your witty input.

    I dont mind being told I am neat, but being told I am so small or so tiny (usually in exclaiming tones) implies something is wrong, it is as bad as being told you are massive or you are huge. Eh did anyone ask for your opinion on my size? At least being 'small' ( :rolleyes: ) means I havent had people touching me yet without asking.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,326 ✭✭✭Blingy


    Ms Tootsie wrote: »
    Someone in work actually asked me if I was sure the baby was ok and was I eating right!! And so many think they are the first to crack the joke 'are you are you are pregnant hahahahaha' - eh no mate I am not I just spent 3 months with my head stuck down a loo puking for the craic and the scan pictures are photo shopped and the kicking I am feeling constantly probably just means I need to fart. Thanks so much for your witty input.

    I dont mind being told I am neat, but being told I am so small or so tiny (usually in exclaiming tones) implies something is wrong, it is as bad as being told you are massive or you are huge. Eh did anyone ask for your opinion on my size? At least being 'small' ( :rolleyes: ) means I havent had people touching me yet without asking.

    Only in the last 2 weeks have I graduated from being called small to now being called neat!!
    And it was my mum(of all people) that kept asking why was I so small and did i check properly with the docs that everything was ok, etc etc. She put the fear of God up me that I started worrying that something was wrong but of course it wasn't. Everyone is different.

    Ms Tootsie don't listen to any of them anymore. They are probably just jealous ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,751 ✭✭✭mirrorwall14


    I had growth scans coz they were concerned. I explained nicely to every person who commented on how small I was how upsetting it was. I Was hoping they wouldn't do it to anyone else. Baby was fine in the end (6lb3 at term) but I didn't know that then!


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭LETHAL LADY


    I'm due the start of June and my moan (I'm sure many others have experienced the same, haven't read the thread) is the lack of sensitivity some people show when you're pregnant. This is baby No 3 for me and I'm all bump by the way, a very high sticky out bump.:pac:

    I'm not usually a sensitive auld soul and when its close friends and family asking me questions or commenting I don't really mind tbh. However, when it's people I barely know then it's a whole different matter.

    While out shopping recently at the local supermarket for a cake for my husbands birthday I had the assistant declare very loudly and in front of a queue of people that I was very big but not to worry because I'd probably go before my due date given my size.

    Last week while I was in another supermarket trying to get change for a trolley and again in front of a queue of people the cashier decides to give me her tuppence worth on my shape. This time it was along the lines of how she could tell that it was going to be a very big baby or else it could be all fluid, all while making a kind of a wow face. I could feel everyone looking at me as if I was some kind of medical marvel.

    I was mortified on both occasions as you can imagine. Like wtf is wrong with some people? Your appearance doesn't suddenly become fair game for strangers to remark on just because you're pregnant.

    I'm well aware of what I look like and thankfully (fingers and toes crossed) everything is going fine with the pregnancy, but having had a family member who had a baby with a fatal foetal abnormality maybe this has thought me to think before I open my mouth.

    I also know that they did not mean to offend me but I did leave both shops feeling upset. I would only ever congratulate someone who is pregnant and if they wish to engage in conversation about their pregnancy then grand, otherwise I keep my mouth shut.

    If it happens again I'm going to have to ask if this is their expert medical opinion and then demand to see their professional credentials.:pac:


  • Registered Users Posts: 159 ✭✭catchery


    On my second pregnancy i was asked in a queue in the canteen in work which was extremely busy was i sure there was only one baby in there ? I said yes only one and thought that would be the end of it ! But no ! They then said maybe its a baby elephant cos you are huge !!!! This was a woman who was also pregnant ! I was so shocked i didnt reply.
    I am now 23 weeks on my third and another woman in a supermarket said to me last week ohh not long now nearly there ! Which i just smiled and kept walking ! In my opinion i have heard it all you are this you are that , i always carry very big thats my body , my sister in-law carries small thats her body ! I am so happy to be pregnant i dont care what anyone says any more i just smile and say im very happy and i am and i love all the kicks and i cannot wait to see my babies little face !


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,175 ✭✭✭angeldelight


    I've got to the stage where I have a pain in my arse with being pregnant - both literally and figuratively speaking. Pelvic pain means I can't walk or do anything even turn in the bed without pain. Baby's movements are now killing me they're so uncomfortable. I appear to be growing a massive baby so am grumpy about prospect of loads of stuff I bought not fitting (not the giving birth psrt, I know I'm weird). At 37 weeks was even offered a sweep to try and kickstart things due to baby's size but wasn't favourable so now have to wait until next week to see if baby drops - just come out already!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 672 ✭✭✭Ms Tootsie


    Oh Angeldelight your post is so funny :) (sorry not in a bad way, I am giggling at the fact that labour isnt bothering you but all the outfits not fitting is hehe). It sounds like you are so uncomfortable. I hope baby starts to get a move on soon for you!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,175 ✭✭✭angeldelight


    Ms Tootsie wrote: »
    Oh Angeldelight your post is so funny :) (sorry not in a bad way, I am giggling at the fact that labour isnt bothering you but all the outfits not fitting is hehe). It sounds like you are so uncomfortable. I hope baby starts to get a move on soon for you!

    Ha I'm in a much better mood today and reading it back is funny! Still impatient but not in the horrors today :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,832 ✭✭✭spottybananas


    Traumatic and all as my experience has been with long hospital stay and emcs the really odd positive of the situation is that I dodged the last few weeks of being hugely uncomfortable and in pain. The movements, heartburn and breathlessness were bad enough at 36-37 weeks, I couldn't have done another month. What freaks me out is I now know my breathlessness wasn't from baby crowding everything, it was fluid in my lungs :O


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,175 ✭✭✭angeldelight


    Traumatic and all as my experience has been with long hospital stay and emcs the really odd positive of the situation is that I dodged the last few weeks of being hugely uncomfortable and in pain. The movements, heartburn and breathlessness were bad enough at 36-37 weeks, I couldn't have done another month. What freaks me out is I now know my breathlessness wasn't from baby crowding everything, it was fluid in my lungs :O

    You were uncomfortable for such a long time though! That is a bit scary but sure how were you to know - we've never been pregnant before!! Saw on another thread you're home now, delighted for you!


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