March 2014 Babies Club

cyning · 06-10-2014 6:47pm

I'm still 28 so have plenty of time to take a few years break! Although after a mental day I'm not sure why I'd ever want another one

pwurple · 06-10-2014 7:09pm

I'd definitely go for it if ye are in the zone. The more people I meet with sick children, or who ended up incontinent after a birth, the less I want to risk any of the awful sad things that can go wrong with the whole lot of it, ever again. Only way I'd go for it would be with a surrogate! Don't think we could afford more babies either. 2 to three is a bigger jump in expense than 1 to 2. Different car(s) needed etc.

Sligo1 · 06-10-2014 7:10pm

cyning wrote: »

I'm still 28 so have plenty of time to take a few years break! Although after a mental day I'm not sure why I'd ever want another one

I'm 32 next monday! Lol... so want to get it done! Lol

Suucee · 06-10-2014 8:36pm

I always wanted 3 but dont think i could do it again. ha would be a lil impossible as still terrified to do the deed.
Ive a bigger gap 23 months. i found pregnancy hard due to spd but toddler was sick with ear infections for months until she had her grommets so wasnt very energetic. i found it very hard after the birth when i had the infection to deal with along with spd and a newborn and 2 year old.
I still get the odd flare up of spd 6 months later.
Routine really is key though. once i keep to that we are sorted.
For a few weeks i kept getting bad pain in my foot so was walking funny and started to feel the strain in pelvic region. decided to get a balance assesment done in elverys sports, forked out €130 for runners with molder inserts as i have collapsed arches.
Anyway a week later my toes were swelling (arch pain eased though) so i popped to doctor. It actually looks like i may have gout but no idea how. Or could be some arthritis inflammation .
Im 28, definitely not over weight (not sure what weight i am at the mo but a size 10) i walk alot (dont exercise as much as id like though) and eat pretty healthily. so gp is a bit stumped. Will be getting blood results this week and waiting on appointment for xray also.

Sligo1 · 06-10-2014 11:24pm

Good luck with the blood results Suucee. Hope it's nothing too serious x

LH2013 · 07-10-2014 9:57am

Sligo1 wrote: »

I'm 32 next monday! Lol... so want to get it done! Lol

Im 32 in November so want to get all the kids done and dusted before 36 ( hopefully ! )
Suucee hope you get on ok with your bloods !

I still get pain like my SPD as well - have pains in my feet when I stand up - though I think its from wearing flats all day !

Sligo1 · 07-10-2014 7:32pm

LH2013 wrote: »

Im 32 in November so want to get all the kids done and dusted before 36 ( hopefully ! )
Suucee hope you get on ok with your bloods !

I still get pain like my SPD as well - have pains in my feet when I stand up - though I think its from wearing flats all day !

I'm hoping to get 3 in before I'm 34. And we may leave it at that but it gives me a few years just incase I get broody again

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O you know those fisher price toys boards.ie were giving people to try out! Well my name was picked!! Yay me! Feeling lucky

. It's coming tomorrow. Wonder which one it will be.

cyning · 07-10-2014 8:16pm

Mine too Sligo I'm so excited to see what we get

S is reacting to the vaccinations again: diarrhoea, temperature, off her food and quite cross. Fingers crossed it doesn't get any worse. She's extremely snotty and coughing too. Well reacting not the right word: she's sick right after vaccination again! We know her immune system is ok so I cannot understand it

I'm desperately broody too but honestly cannot cope with the pregnant part!

Suucee · 07-10-2014 8:40pm

Whats this about fisher price. I really should read more posts..

Cyning your poor lil woman. Least no more injections for 6 months now (ours are thursday morning) .

cyning · 07-10-2014 8:46pm

Suucee wrote: »

Whats this about fisher price. I really should read more posts..

Cyning your poor lil woman. Least no more injections for 6 months now (ours are thursday morning) .

http://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057299037
This is the thread Suucee we will have to write a review but no idea what we are getting yet!

I know I'm so bloody grateful for that... No bother with vaccines in the first little lady: this one is a disaster!

Sligo1 · 07-10-2014 9:05pm

Cyning I hope you're little one is feeling better tomorrow. I'd say she is getting lots of cuddles from you.

I'm definitely broody aswell! I got pregnant with Lilly when thomas was Lilly's age now. Lol. Definitely NOT doing that again! I want to wait till Lilly is on the verge of walking. Having said that, she is a lot easier than tom was as a baby and A LOT lighter... So I might be ok being preggers.... But I'm not gonna risk it! Hahaha.

I'm so excited to see which toy we get Cyning. Would love the red car but doubt we would be lucky enough to get it! The chair looks cool aswell but I haven't really read much about them.

O Suucee such a pity you didn't get your name down! I think your man chose 10 people. It was a lottery sort of thing with random names picked but I have a feeling those with 2 or more babies and toddlers may have got preference as the toys are the sort to adapt to different ages. So they'd get a. Ore comprehensive review from those who could test them at home with each child. So you prob would've had a good chance of getting one!

Siipina · 08-10-2014 1:41pm

LO is getting on great, no crawling yet but he is sitting on his own, standing while holding on to something and walking with support. My back is in bits. He is in great health not once a cold or a fewer no probs at all from the vacinations. I feel everz morning like a train hit me though. the spd is nearlz gone but my feet my hands and wrists and mz back are killing me.
Heared its normal as all ther homonal chances are causing it. Will be gone in a few month.
Not going back to work, see how that goes. But the childcare would be nearlz the same as my wages. But I enjoy it being home with him.

Sligo1 · 09-10-2014 2:43pm

Cyning did ye get the toy yet? Which one?

cyning · 09-10-2014 4:23pm

Just got it by courier an hour ago got the car

Very welcome after spending my night in A&E with my toddler with a head injury!! I can't wait to put it together: I opened the box and promptly closed it again I'll do it when they are in bed tonight

Sligo1 · 09-10-2014 4:25pm

cyning wrote: »

Just got it by courier an hour ago got the car

Very welcome after spending my night in A&E with my toddler with a head injury!! I can't wait to put it together: I opened the box and promptly closed it again I'll do it when they are in bed tonight

O no!!! Is ur LO ok??? Poor pet. You must be wrecked aswell!

OMG I'm so jealous you got the car! Delighted you got it tho... Well deserved!

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cyning · 09-10-2014 5:05pm

Sligo1 wrote: »

O no!!! Is ur LO ok??? Poor pet. You must be wrecked aswell!

OMG I'm so jealous you got the car! Delighted you got it tho... Well deserved! .

She's fine it was the back of her head: a fall from about 4 foot onto a wooden floor... She had a very high temp too, and was very sleepy and groggy so had to get her checked out. Left the house with no shoes on her, no dress on the baby just tights and a top, I'm fairly wrecked now!!

Suucee · 09-10-2014 10:40pm

cyning wrote: »

She's fine it was the back of her head: a fall from about 4 foot onto a wooden floor... She had a very high temp too, and was very sleepy and groggy so had to get her checked out. Left the house with no shoes on her, no dress on the baby just tights and a top, I'm fairly wrecked now!!

Glad to hear shes ok. Ps ive done the whole leaving the house with no shoes too . And i wasnt in as much of a hurry as you would have been.

Sligo1 · 10-10-2014 8:37am

Cyning you guys really need to catch a break! I'm glad your LO is ok x

Sligo1 · 14-10-2014 3:00pm

How's everyone doing now? Lilly had her developmental check today. She's 17lb 9oz and in 50th percentile. Has 2 teeth aswell

. She's eating her solids a little bit better now aswell. About one third of a weetbix in the morning and a carrot spud mix with gravy in the evening. She's very fussy so I want to try and give her a bit more variety.

How many milk feeds are ye giving at the mo? Lilly is still on 4 total (breast and bottle). The PHN said to cut out a feed and she may take her solids better... I know I should but I'm very reluctant at the mo as she has been very unsettled in the night (due to her teeth I think??).

I started a diploma last night. Nice to get out of the house for a few hours

. And turned 32 yesterday!! Lol... Where is the time going!!!!???

Today I really feel like curling up on the couch and putting the cartoons on all day until OH gets home and I'm finding it very tough to resist the urge! I put the 2 babes down at 1 and they were both awake at 1.30... It's going to be a long day!

pwurple · 14-10-2014 4:26pm

Happy birthday!! God you're so ancient now, nearly catching up on me!

Hmm, where's my developmental check I wonder... haven't heard anything from the PHN.

50th percentile is nice! My first was always around 25th-ish, and this lady was up at 90th last check. Funny that even though I started the bfing and then went to formula at around the 6 wk mark for both of them, the PHN blamed the 6 wks of bfing for the 25th percentile for my first, and the formula from 6 weeks for the 90th percentile for second baby. Cue giant eye-rolling from me. They're just different babies.

4 milk feeds a day here still, although she doesn't take much, down to about 5oz each time. That being said, 6oz per feed was about as high as we ever got with the reflux thing. The tin of formula says 7oz x 3 times a day for her age, but neither baby has ever fit with those guidelines.

I don't envy you the diploma, I'm on a piss easy project at work (grad level, insulting stuff tbh), so I've horsed myself into very specialised training, and doing odds and ends out of normal hours to fill it out. Always good to get more knowledge, whether I ever use it or not, but my brain feels like it's going to explode some days. I've another week on this one, and think I might take it easier then for a week or two. I've this massive sense that I need to prove myself again. I've been cycling to work as well where I can. I pile the 3yr old and the 7mt old onto the bike with me, to get dropped in creche on the way, proper amsterdam styley! They love whizzing along. But weather looks like a change, so might be the end of that for a while.

Sligo1 · 14-10-2014 5:00pm

OMG 2 on the bike with u! You must be back into shape! Lol. I think my fitness is pretty good at the moment and I'm back to my pre-preg figure thank god. But I put that down to all the walking and ringing around. I still have my bar of chocky every night in bed with OH while watching Suits or the Good Wife or more recently Love Hate

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Yea I'm hoping the course gives me a little boost more than anything. Dunno where I'm going to get the time to study for it but OH is pretty good with the kids so he'll prob give me a couple evenings to get some study done.

Perhaps I should be cutting out a bottle in that case. She takes a full 9oz per feed.... so I spose that's quite a lot! Pwurple is your LO sleeping through the night yet? Lilly has been very unsettled the last few nights but prior to that we had a great week of 8.30pm till 7-8am... I think that's why I'm scared to decrease the milk feeds just yet.... Lol. I know they say it's got nothing to do with their sleeping but I'm still to be convinced of same!

LH2013 · 14-10-2014 7:35pm

Happy Birthday !!!!

No developmental check here either ..... TG our PHN is a fool ! We still have 3-4 bottles a day ...... He takes between 5-7 ozs - Loves his grub ha ha down to pre pregnancy weight but still have squishy tummy

Sligo1 · 14-10-2014 7:43pm

LH2013 wrote: »

Happy Birthday !!!!

No developmental check here either ..... TG our PHN is a fool ! We still have 3-4 bottles a day ...... He takes between 5-7 ozs - Loves his grub ha ha down to pre pregnancy weight but still have squishy tummy

Ah here that squishy tummy is your medal of motherhood! I'm pretty slim again but still have the squishiness... Kinda dont mind it at all tho... And I'll be damned if I'm going to be doing any sit-ups!!! Lol

pwurple · 14-10-2014 9:03pm

I was back to my weight alright, but sitting behind a desk for a month instead of walking all over the place and doing gardening has re-chubbied me by about 2kg. Need to start paying attention to that, bleurg. My old role was much more active. The bike is about all I get, and it's a very short distance, on the flat. counts for feck all.

Yeah, she sleeps the night alright, she loves her sleep! Down at 7pm, i wake her at 8am and she takes 2x2hr naps during the day. I've never seen the like, such a deep sleeper. She has shot up in height the last few weeks, real growth spurt. Doesn't look half as roundy anymore. She even fits back into stuff I couldn't get around her arms before! She's got hair too! Hairy Baby!

cyning · 14-10-2014 9:12pm

No developmental check here yet... they normally do it closer to 8 months here so sometime in the next few months. Dreading it: shes dropping down the centile charts (from the 93rd to under the 50th), and I know the advice is going to be formula. Paed isnt worried so going to ignore it!

I've lost 4 of the 30 pounds I need to lose! Meh it will come! I have had enough to deal with lately.

S is on 3/4 solids a day and breastfeeds on demand so it all depends on the day. Shes motoring around the place you would want eyes on the back of your head with her :rolleyes:

Suucee · 14-10-2014 9:26pm

Ah good to hear they are doing well. Didnt realise we have a 6 months check. Will keep an eye on that.

L having 2-3 bottles a day. Some mornings he's not bothered about it. He gets sippy cup of milk few times during the day too. I think he prefers it that way as its faster. Hes on size 4 teat and had to punch few extra holes and still guzzling.

He's doing so well with solids. Getting away with mashing now instead of pureeing. And he's loving it.

He's ok at night. Goes down 7.15 ish. Has bottle 9.30 then hopefully sleeps to 6.30 /7. But some night wakes earlier or during the night. Also think its teeth but going through a bit of a phase if i walk out of a room he cries (during the day) so could be that either.

Happy birthday sligo.

We have a family wedding mext week (sil) so they are coming. Got him a little 3 piece suit. Its so adorable.

Im so annoyed with weight. Had lost loads and was in my size 10 skinnys but with feet playing up not walking as much as id like and clothes getting tighter.
Was with go last week and bloods not showing gout or rhuematoid (sp) athritis. Toes still very swollen red and sore. So on another week of anti inflamotries and an antibiotic and told to rest when i can.
On these since thursday and still not a bit of improvement. When i do rest makes no difference (except toddler bouncibg off the walls) so had xray yesterday. Waiting for results on that. I was put on a new pill after having luke and asked could it be to do with that as no issues with previoua one for 10 yrs (except gap for having daughter) gp said it wouldnt even be a rare side affect . Just hope they find out whats wrong soon. Even some nighta when L does sleep im awake with pain. Not good.

Sligo1 · 14-10-2014 9:43pm

Pwurple you have a dream baby!!! I'm very jealous!

Suucee you poor thing. Sounds awful! What exactly is the problem. Is it swollen joints and pain since you gave birth?

Suucee · 14-10-2014 10:11pm

Sligo1 wrote: »

Pwurple you have a dream baby!!! I'm very jealous!

Suucee you poor thing. Sounds awful! What exactly is the problem. Is it swollen joints and pain since you gave birth?

No only in past month or 2. On my left foot its omly my second last toe. Very swollen and red and in past 2 weeks starting to turn/ bend to the right.
On my right foot its the second and second last toe. They are not as swollen but also very red and sore. The underneath of these two had been so swollen i could hardly move them but that has eased.

It started as pain in my feet (second last toes on both feet were a lil swollen) done a balance test in elverys . Said i had fallen arches . I could see the images if the way i stood and walked so it was the case. Forked out €130 for asics runners and molded inserts. But about a week or 2 later toes were so bad i popped to pharmacist. She reckoned was infection so headed to gp.
Gp thought it looked and sounded like gout but couldnt undrrstand as my weight/age/diet all good. But bloods not showing gout. Anti inflamotory and antibiotic not doing anything. Bloods only showed thete was inflammtion. So patiently awaitinh xray results. Bloods will be re done 6 weeks after first bloods to check again.
All a mystery. Was asked so many questions. Do i smoke ? No
did i have a virus/cold? No
did i injure them? No
any medication ? Other than pill no

pwurple · 14-10-2014 10:42pm

Oh dear, the last thing you want to be medically is a mystery!

Yes, I know should be uber thankful for the super-sleeping baby, but as usual there's a flipside to everything. With all her sleeping I pick her up from my mums at about 6pm, give her dinner and bottle, husband comes in and plays with her for 15 mins and she's asleep til I wake her up in the morning for porridge and out the door again. I barely see her at all.

My mum texts me photos of her playing with toys and smiling.

I'd be complaining if I was getting no sleep too though, so this is better I guess. And there's the weekend and everything.

Sligo1 · 15-10-2014 10:19am

Pwurple that must be very hard aswell, you must miss her so much.

Suucee is the pain predominantly around the toes and toe nails?

Suucee · 15-10-2014 1:53pm

Sligo1 wrote: »

Pwurple that must be very hard aswell, you must miss her so much.

Suucee is the pain predominantly around the toes and toe nails?

On left foot with one swollen slightly bent toe its just the toe. On right the ball of my foot aches too. Thats where pain started when i went to get balance test done. But im walking funny too bevause of the pain which doesnt help

Sligo1 · 15-10-2014 1:58pm

Suucee wrote: »

On left foot with one swollen slightly bent toe its just the toe. On right the ball of my foot aches too. Thats where pain started when i went to get balance test done. But im walking funny too bevause of the pain which doesnt help

Suucee sounds awfully painful you poor thing. Sounds like a medical mystery aswell! Without giving medical advice here... I don't spose you have any ingrown toenails. A few months after giving birth on both my pregnancies dunno what happened to my feet but I had maybe 3-4 ingrowns on each foot. I'm sure this isn't the case with you as it wouldn't account for the sore balls of foot. But my toes became very red and inflammmed from them. And after a while if I pushed the nail bed down puss would come out (tmi sorry). They can lead to not very nice infections aswell. But I'm sure your GP has had a good look and ruled this out?

I'm sure your ailment is a bit more complicated than this but just thought id share what happened to me incase you had similar...

Suucee · 15-10-2014 8:29pm

Sligo1 wrote: »

Suucee sounds awfully painful you poor thing. Sounds like a medical mystery aswell! Without giving medical advice here... I don't spose you have any ingrown toenails. A few months after giving birth on both my pregnancies dunno what happened to my feet but I had maybe 3-4 ingrowns on each foot. I'm sure this isn't the case with you as it wouldn't account for the sore balls of foot. But my toes became very red and inflammmed from them. And after a while if I pushed the nail bed down puss would come out (tmi sorry). They can lead to not very nice infections aswell. But I'm sure your GP has had a good look and ruled this out?

I'm sure your ailment is a bit more complicated than this but just thought id share what happened to me incase you had similar...

No definitely not the case unfortunately. I wish it was that simple. Its so annoying now. Im between 2 minds I dont want them to find anything but then i do because i want to know whats wrong. I think im going to have to wear flats for the wedding next week after the effort i went to finding comfortable shoes for it . Its a full lenght dress so wont be too bad at least but no need to get it turned up a little.

Sligo1 · 15-10-2014 9:42pm

Suucee wrote: »

No definitely not the case unfortunately. I wish it was that simple. Its so annoying now. Im between 2 minds I dont want them to find anything but then i do because i want to know whats wrong. I think im going to have to wear flats for the wedding next week after the effort i went to finding comfortable shoes for it . Its a full lenght dress so wont be too bad at least but no need to get it turned up a little.

Hope the docs find out what it is suucee. Enjoy the wedding. On the plus side, if you wear flats you'll be way more comfortable and might even get to dance... Hopefully one or 2 drinks will sort out the pain situation for u.

Sligo1 · 28-10-2014 2:05pm

Hi guys, so how r ye all doing now? Yet another question re routine!? How many milk (bottle/boob/solids) are you're babas getting now. And about how much milk would they take each feed?

My PHN has told me L should now only be getting 3 milk feeds. Problem is she gets one in the morning and then is gasping again by 11.30-12. She would usually get another around 3.30 and again at 7. Basically te one I want to cut is the 3.30 but it seems like a long time to go from 12 until 7 without a milk feed? I can't drop the 11.30 or make it later as it's prob the one she craves or wants most. The other times aren't actually so bad.

This is our routine.

6-8: milk
9/9.30 solids
11.30 milk
Sleep
2.30 solid
2.40-4 milk
6 solid
7 milk
8-8.30 bed

I'm also worried if we cut the 3.30 mill she won't sleep aswell? I know it's apparently not meant to have much of an impact but I didn't give it yesterday and she woke at 5.30am and downed nearly 200ml in one go!

At each milk feed she will only take between (150-200ml). Used to take more before we started solids.

So what do you guys think? Any advice appreciated

pwurple · 28-10-2014 2:14pm

Still on 4 milk feeds here. About 160 ml, but it varies a bit.

Sligo1 · 28-10-2014 2:17pm

pwurple wrote: »

Still on 4 milk feeds here. About 160 ml, but it varies a bit.

Pwurple maybe I'll just ignore the phn and continue on the 4 feeds only giving say 150-160 each feed. What you think? How many solids you giving?

I never had this problem with my son as he'd easily down 240ml so u didnt mind cutting his bottles. This little lassie seems to like little but often!

pwurple · 28-10-2014 2:19pm

That sounds very reasonable. I think the babies are well able to tell you what they need. PHN's are all about this mythical Average Baby, but sure no baby is going to be the average baby exactly.

Siipina · 28-10-2014 2:38pm

I totally ignore what anybody is telling me, I would not let anybody tell me how much and what I have to eat. My one doesnt like his milk anymore. I mix it in the porridge in the morning and in his foot when I cook it. He is having some sups here and there but I dont know how much on the day and everyday is different anyway. He is drinking plenty of water so he is getting enough fluits. He is telling me when he is hungry and thursty, we always handeld it this way and he automaticly wanted his food around the same times. Its easier i think and more natual, they learn to eat when thez are hungry and not on the time, thez listen more to the body . And its brilliant while we are traveling. He is getting a pro on the plane now. We came back on Sunday from Germany, was already the third time we went over and not a piep from him on both ways. Got his first tooth as well, while we were over. Not a bother at all. He was chewing mz finger in the morning and nothing there when he did in the evening, there it was.
His walking is improving as well, he can hold himself opn a table or the couch so mz poor back is getting a rest from time to time. yay

cyning · 28-10-2014 3:28pm

Routine here is a bit like this:

5am boob
730 boob
930 medicines
10 breakfast & boob
1 lunch & boob
330 medicine
4 Snack & boob
6 dinner & boob
730 boob
11 boob

So I think your ok with 4 milk feeds! In fairness S feeds poorly which is why she feeds so often. She feeds less some days, more on others depending on her reflux. She's having problems with constipation now too and has piles the poor petal

BUT she's pulling herself standing, and is saying mama so really she could get away with murder right now

LH2013 · 28-10-2014 3:43pm

Sligo1 wrote: »

Hi guys, so how r ye all doing now? Yet another question re routine!? How many milk (bottle/boob/solids) are you're babas getting now. And about how much milk would they take each feed?

My PHN has told me L should now only be getting 3 milk feeds. Problem is she gets one in the morning and then is gasping again by 11.30-12. She would usually get another around 3.30 and again at 7. Basically te one I want to cut is the 3.30 but it seems like a long time to go from 12 until 7 without a milk feed? I can't drop the 11.30 or make it later as it's prob the one she craves or wants most. The other times aren't actually so bad.

This is our routine.

6-8: milk
9/9.30 solids
11.30 milk
Sleep
2.30 solid
2.40-4 milk
6 solid
7 milk
8-8.30 bed

I'm also worried if we cut the 3.30 mill she won't sleep aswell? I know it's apparently not meant to have much of an impact but I didn't give it yesterday and she woke at 5.30am and downed nearly 200ml in one go!

At each milk feed she will only take between (150-200ml). Used to take more before we started solids.

So what do you guys think? Any advice appreciated

Still have 4 milk feeds here too - anything from 5 oz to 7 oz - he goes to sleep for night at 6 pm and awake at 5.30 am ! He gets breakfast , lunch and dinner and a snack - he hates water so im finding it hard to drop a milk feed !

moominn · 28-10-2014 10:26pm

Between 4 and 6 breastfeeds during the day plus his 3 meals with water..

Suucee · 29-10-2014 8:48pm

I started giving L his milk in beakers as on size 4 teat and had punched holes and still wasnt fast enough
so

6.30 beaker of milk (approx 190ml)
8 weetabix
9.30 nap
10.30 /11 yogurt
1.00 lunch and approx 190 ml milk in beaker
3/4 fruit puree
6 dinner and approx 190 ml milk
bed at 7

Dream feed at 9 in bottle. We are slowly reducing this to try cut it out. Reducing by 1/2 oz every 2 weeks so hopefully be gone before he is 1.

We stopped the soother as sick of getting up at night. Its going very well. Only woke once last night compared to 6 times the night before. We are trying a form of cry it out but only when he whinges i go in if he gets upset. Tonight he settled to bed with no soother. A lil whimper and asleep in less than 5 mins.

LH2013 · 30-10-2014 8:30pm

Went back to work today ..... It sucks

Suucee · 31-10-2014 10:02pm

Guys i know ive posted before about this. The issues i have with L.

Hes 7 months now and i still feel im not bonding well. I still feel resentful towards him. Between the tough pregnancy, problems after birth, weeks/months of pain. The time he is taking away from A (toddler) the fact he is a crap sleeper (although this is fastly improving).
The amount of attention he requires. He never seems satisified.
Now i know people have bigger problems but this is getting to me now.

Sometimes i feel like i dont love him or wish we hadnt had him (i know sounds so so awful). I know alot of this is probably down to tiredness and ongoing health issues (still no improvement in my feet). But what to i do.
how do i bond with him? And stop resenting him? Hes an innosent baby i know its not his fault but what do i do.

I honestly dont think im depressed tbh. I love getting out of the house. Meeting people . Playdates. I try spend 1 afternoon a week on my own with just toddler. Just the 2 of us. Go fof a swim or shopping.
Why cant i love him or bond like i did with her.
Ive told OH all of this . I just have no idea what to do.

cyning · 31-10-2014 11:45pm

I think at this stage it may be no harm to have a chat with GP or phn. It's hard and I don't think you are awful at all. I know you get alone toddler time, but do you get alone baby time? It might help. But definitely chat to phn or GP, you won't be the first or last.

Suucee · 01-11-2014 10:22am

cyning wrote: »

I think at this stage it may be no harm to have a chat with GP or phn. It's hard and I don't think you are awful at all. I know you get alone toddler time, but do you get alone baby time? It might help. But definitely chat to phn or GP, you won't be the first or last.

Im sick to death of going to the doctor about other issues as it is. And i actually dont know if i want alone baby time. What would i do. Id probably feel bad for toddler. (Why dont i feel bad for baby when having alone toddler time).

Sligo1 · 01-11-2014 10:22am

Suucee you poor dear! To be fair you've had a really rough time since you got pregnant to its no wonder you are feeling the way you do. I would echo Cynings sentiments and say perhaps it's time for a GP visit? You say you don't think you're depressed and perhaps you aren't. But PND really can manifest in lots of different ways and sometimes you may not even realise yourself. Now not saying its that at all... I really just think a GP visit or a chat to someone would be the right decision. You have been through a lot and being a parent is the hardest thing in the world so it can be very difficult when you have all those other things to deal with aswell. Xxx

LH2013 · 01-11-2014 2:39pm

You have had a tough time of it and I know your probably reluctant to go to your GP but it wouldnt do any harm to have a chat to them xx
PND can come in many forms and chatting to someone will def' help you through the issues your having xxxxxx Huge Hugs xxxxxx

pwurple · 01-11-2014 3:05pm

I got a bit like that with my first when my stitches had me laid up for ages. I think a lot of it is tiredness, pain and being overwhelmed with needing to care for someone else's needs when you still need to get better yourself.

I don't know what to tell you, except it got a lot better for me when i got a break, and someone else shared the responsibility. Like at the weekend and someone else would take the baby for a couple of hours. All i did was take a sleep and have a bath, but I felt a million times better and would start to miss the baby a bit, instead of wait impatiently for her next nap.

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