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  • #102
    mazdaminx
    Registered Users Posts: 97 ✭✭mazdaminx


    Taltos wrote: »
    Go back to ignoring. Contact just won't work. You will get lies, blame, guilt tripping all designed to chip away at you even more.

    Block his number, update your FB privacy settings but really stop torturing yourself and take the time you need to heal. Not kidding these types of breakups can be extremely traumatic, and you might well benefit from finding someone to talk to - a friend or a professional.

    It will get better, day by day. Some days will suck, but one day not that far away you'll turn that corner. It will come sooner when you make the complete break and learn to forgive yourself.

    I had a few good no contact days. I've good friends and family around me. Just I've never experienced this type of break up. It's so hurtful how cold he is.


  • #103
    Tasden
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,166 ✭✭✭Tasden


    mazdaminx wrote: »
    I had a few good no contact days. I've good friends and family around me. Just I've never experienced this type of break up. It's so hurtful how cold he is.

    That will honestly make it easier in the long run because you want want/miss someone so cold.


  • #104
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    I'm afraid if you stay in contact it could get worse. He knows you buttons and will have no hesitation in pressing them to cause the most harm possible.


  • #105
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    mazdaminx wrote: »
    It's a hard time. He's blaming it all on me, that I left him and don't want him. I was ignoring and not contacting, then I started as I wanted answers. It's so painful.

    I doubt you're going to get any answers. It's obvious that you are finding it hard to walk away from this relationship but you've got to leave it be. What exactly is it you want to know anyway? You sound like a person who's in the zoo and can't resist poking the lion in his enclosure even though you know you'll annoy him. When you asked last time you got shouted down, bullied and fobbed off with answers that insulted your intelligence.

    I can't emphasise enough your need to leave this guy in your past. It doesn't matter if he once seemed to be nice. You've discovered he has a very nasty side. Thank your lucky stars you were able to walk away without the complication of kids etc.


  • #106
    Pippy1976
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,047 ✭✭✭Pippy1976


    Stavro Mueller wrote: »
    I doubt you're going to get any answers. It's obvious that you are finding it hard to walk away from this relationship but you've got to leave it be. What exactly is it you want to know anyway? You sound like a person who's in the zoo and can't resist poking the lion in his enclosure even though you know you'll annoy him. When you asked last time you got shouted down, bullied and fobbed off with answers that insulted your intelligence.

    I can't emphasise enough your need to leave this guy in your past. It doesn't matter if he once seemed to be nice. You've discovered he has a very nasty side. Thank your lucky stars you were able to walk away without the complication of kids etc.

    I tend to agree with this - you have GOT to leave this, for good. I know you love him. But he won't change.

    People may say 'you thrive on the drama' as they did with me, but it's more than that.. but believe me, walk away and do NOT entertain this guy.

    The relationship had an expiration date: it wasn't meant to end a day sooner, or a day later. It has run it's course. It's time to leave it be now. Draw a line, step over it and do not look back.


  • #107
    mazdaminx
    Registered Users Posts: 97 ✭✭mazdaminx


    Thanks for all your guidance. I'm out of the raw stage thank god. It's hard to see things as clearly when you're in the situation as opposed to looking in. I finally got the proof which brought me a lot of closure. I've so much now to look forward to. Thanks again.


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