Selling your wedding/ bridesmaids dresses ?

janetc · 03-04-2013 2:46pm #1

looking at Adverts.ie during lunchtime, I noticed quite a few adverts for the above. I would never sell my wedding dress as I use it as a gauge for my weight ! (4 years on I can still squeeze into it and he loves removing it !)
But to go and ask your Bridesmaids for the dress back so you can sell it is so mean ! I would be so embarresed to ask my sister and 2 friends for the dress back !

OldGoat · 03-04-2013 2:48pm

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janetc · 03-04-2013 2:49pm

OldGoat wrote: »

This space for sale. One time offer. €25.00
Don't miss out on this unique offer to buy this space. Now YOU can have your witty remark right here on page one of the thread where you are going to get ALL the THANKS!
Remember, Just €25.00 secures you thread immortality, in a nice neighbourhood.
No swops.

Anyone? €22.50?

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CrabieCrawford · 03-04-2013 2:50pm

OldGoat wrote: »

This space for sale. One time offer. €25.00
Don't miss out on this unique offer to buy this space. Now YOU can have your witty remark right here on page one of the thread where you are going to get ALL the THANKS!
Remember, Just €25.00 secures you thread immortality, in a nice neighbourhood.
No swops.

Anyone? €22.50?

Will you take €3?

Eponymous · 03-04-2013 2:50pm

@oldgoat: Swap for my ads?

I know you said no swaps, but I'm offering to swap anyway. (oh yeah, and €25 my way)

RATM · 03-04-2013 2:51pm

This space €19.99, far better than that one above.

OP perhaps consider that most women don't want to sell their wedding dress as they've dreamt about it since they were a little girl. But some women may have to sell it out of financial necessity. So count yourself lucky when you say "I would never sell my wedding dress" whilst clearly casting judgement on those who have to.

Ihatecuddles-old · 03-04-2013 2:51pm

I'd probably just rent one. Actually I wouldn't need one, if I ever get married it will be in Vegas!

You should get yourself a measuring tape and weighing scales, sell the dress!

03-04-2013 2:53pm

Is it like a big achievement or something not to get fat after your wedding?

u_c_thesecond · 03-04-2013 2:53pm

janetc wrote: »

looking at Adverts.ie during lunchtime, I noticed quite a few adverts for the above. I would never sell my wedding dress !

I didn't see the point of holding on to mine as ill never wear it again. I gave mine away to a charity who will auction it off and put the money into the charity, so at least it was put to good use instead of being stuck in my wardrobe

LizT · 03-04-2013 2:55pm

I know a lot of people that donated or sold their wedding dresses. Some of the time it was because the marriage broke down so they didn't see the point in keeping it. Some women just genuinely don't care and would rather someone else get some wear out of a dress they're never going to use.

Either way, what does it matter?

Also, how do you know the bride is intending on keeping the money from the sale of the bridesmaids dresses? She could just be selling on behalf of her bridesmaids.

janetc · 03-04-2013 2:56pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Is it like a big achievement or something not to get fat after your wedding?

I was fat before my wedding, just not fatter !:)

Hardonraging · 03-04-2013 2:59pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Is it like a big achievement or something not to get fat after your wedding?

It saves on Divorce proceedings i hear

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:01pm

LizT wrote: »

be selling on behalf of her bridesmaids.

Eh no, The Bridesmaids did not pay for them, So you get them back, sell them, and give an envelope with cash inside to each of them ? What bubble do you live in ?:D

Shenshen · 03-04-2013 3:01pm

I had no bridesmaids, so that particular question never arose.

I had bought my dress for around €80 from ebay, so there's little point to selling it on. And I kind of like knowing I've still got it somewhere. A bit sentimental, but there you go.

Toto Wolfcastle · 03-04-2013 3:04pm

People actually put on their wedding dresses after the wedding?

Mine is in the attic. I'll sell it at some point.

LizT · 03-04-2013 3:06pm

janetc wrote: »

Eh no, The Bridesmaids did not pay for them, So you get them back, sell them, and give an envelope with cash inside to each of them ? What bubble do you live in ?:D

No bubble, have heard of people paying for their bridesmaids dresses themselves, especially when the budget is low.

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:11pm

LizT wrote: »

No bubble, have heard of people paying for their bridesmaids dresses themselves, especially when the budget is low.

Well If they bought them themselves, you could not ask for them back as they belong to them, So your arguement is totally irrelevent

hdowney · 03-04-2013 3:12pm

I know people who keep it for their daughter to wear, to make into christening gowns, who need to sell it, who want to sell it (why do I keep writing sell as seel!!) who donate it to charity. Many reasons for doing things with your dress. Do with as you please, it is your property after all!

The bridesmaids dresses is a question mark, depending on if the ladies asked you to sell it, if the ladies are selling themselves etc

Larianne · 03-04-2013 3:16pm

Bobblehead Panda wrote: »

People actually put on their wedding dresses after the wedding?

Cost per wear perhaps? Makes sense really.

03-04-2013 3:17pm

janetc wrote: »

Well If they bought them themselves, you could not ask for them back as they belong to them, So your arguement is totally irrelevent

Well no - she said they might have asked the bride to sell them all in one go, so it's perfectly relevant.

The point is, there are many many reasons why someone would sell their bridesmaids dresses or their wedding dresses. I know one person who sold her bridesmaids dresses because the wedding didn't go ahead, for example.

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:24pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Well no - she said they might have asked the bride to sell them all in one go, so it's perfectly relevant.

The point is, there are many many reasons why someone would sell their bridesmaids dresses or their wedding dresses. I know one person who sold her bridesmaids dresses because the wedding didn't go ahead, for example.

If the wedding was called off, Then go and sell as they would be brand new and never worn, Thats a different scenario though

03-04-2013 3:25pm

janetc wrote: »

If the wedding was called off, Then go and sell as they would be brand new and never worn, Thats a different scenario though

You're missing the point.
There are many scenarios - you don't know any of them but you think anyone selling their bridesmaids dresses must be mean.

TheDriver · 03-04-2013 3:27pm

OH donated hers to a missionary in Africa, nuns out there let local girls use it on their wedding day. thought it was a lovely idea....

pwurple · 03-04-2013 3:28pm

Meh, I bought mine on ebay, and sold it again afterwards on ebay... for more than I bought it for. Win win. It's expensive enough without hanging onto a useless dust gatherer.

People who keep them are hoarders. So There.

LizT · 03-04-2013 3:28pm

janetc wrote: »

Well If they bought them themselves, you could not ask for them back as they belong to them, So your arguement is totally irrelevent

Thanks for completely missing my point. I said the bride could be selling them on behalf of the bridesmaids. It might be more attractive to people to be able to buy three/four dresses together instead of a single dress.

irishgirl19 · 03-04-2013 3:29pm

Some of the adds say brand new dress never worn. I'd feel sad wearing a dress that someone had for their wedding that possibly fell through

granted though some of them do say I seen another dress I liked better.

Sleepy · 03-04-2013 3:32pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Is it like a big achievement or something not to get fat after your wedding?

Honestly?

Based on the lengths some women go to to fit into their dress and the amount who simply stop making an effort after marriage and kids, it would appear to be.

Toto Wolfcastle · 03-04-2013 3:33pm

irishgirl19 wrote: »

Some of the adds say brand new dress never worn. I'd feel sad wearing a dress that someone had for their wedding that possibly fell through

granted though some of them do say I seen another dress I liked better.

Yeah a friend of mine changed her mind about her dress and put the original one online to sell. I'd say that happens fairly often.

LizT · 03-04-2013 3:37pm

Bobblehead Panda wrote: »

Yeah a friend of mine changed her mind about her dress and put the original one online to sell. I'd say that happens fairly often.

There was an article in either the times or the independent about it a few weekends ago. One woman got pregnant and had to sell her original dress, another had a lot of illness in the family I think and had to postpone her wedding a few times and didn't feel right wearing her original dress. It was an interesting read actually.

jonnyfingers · 03-04-2013 3:39pm

I would love my fiancee to buy a second hand dress. It would only have been worn once and would save us quite a bit of money that we could then spend on booze and hookers in Vegas during the honeymoon.

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:44pm

Deleted User wrote: »

You're missing the point.
There are many scenarios - you don't know any of them but you think anyone selling their bridesmaids dresses must be mean.

''Only worn once'' in an ad is a dead givaway that the nuptuals did take place

03-04-2013 3:46pm

janetc wrote: »

''Only worn once'' in an ad is a dead givaway that the nuptuals did take place

Oh lord.

You don't know why they're selling them. You don't know who paid for them. All you know is that some bridesmaids dresses are being sold. Nothing more. But they're all meanies.

southsiderosie · 03-04-2013 3:46pm

LizT wrote: »

There was an article in either the times or the independent about it a few weekends ago. One woman got pregnant and had to sell her original dress, another had a lot of illness in the family I think and had to postpone her wedding a few times and didn't feel right wearing her original dress. It was an interesting read actually.

Yeah, I had to postpone mine, and I think I've finally convinced my mom that a backyard BBQ wedding is the way to go so I won't be needing the original white floor-length dress I got. That said, it wasn't a 'wedding dress' per se, but rather a white dress off of the rack, so maybe I will keep it and dye it or something.

I don't see anything wrong with selling dresses afterwards, but personally I don't understand why people spend so much on a dress in the first place. Plus most bridesmaid's dresses are hideous - I wish I could have sold the ones I've purchased over the years, but most of them were too ugly to ever be seen in public again.

kraggy · 03-04-2013 3:46pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Is it like a big achievement or something not to get fat after your wedding?

Not necessarily, but I think both members of a partnership have a responsibility to try and stay in reasonable shape and reasonably well-groomed out of respect for each other.

I hate to see people let themselves go, as if to think to themselves that, "well he/she married me and is stuck with me now, therefore I can sit on my arse, eat crap and not bother showering for a couple of days".

It's the height of selfishness in my opinion.

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:47pm

LizT wrote: »

Thanks for completely missing my point. I said the bride could be selling them on behalf of the bridesmaids. It might be more attractive to people to be able to buy three/four dresses together instead of a single dress.

Well we will agree to differ then !

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:48pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Oh lord.

You don't know why they're selling them. You don't know who paid for them. All you know is that some bridesmaids dresses are being sold. Nothing more. But they're all meanies.

Thank You, They are Meanies..Agreed !

03-04-2013 3:49pm

janetc wrote: »

Thank You, They are Meanies..Agreed !

Well played
:pac:

southsiderosie · 03-04-2013 3:50pm

kraggy wrote: »

Not necessarily, but I think both members of a partnership have a responsibility to try and stay in reasonable shape and reasonably well-groomed out of respect for each other.

I hate to see people let themselves go, as if to think to themselves that, "well he/she married me and is stuck with me now, therefore I can sit on my arse, eat crap and not bother showering for a couple of days".

It's the height of selfishness in my opinion.

I know someone who started to let herself go and became disinterested in sex once she got engaged and moved in with her fiance - they ended up (briefly) calling off the wedding because it put such a strain on their relationship. I think she thought that her friends would be sympathetic, but they all told her she was being stupid (and I agree).

janetc · 03-04-2013 3:55pm

kraggy wrote: »

Not necessarily, but I think both members of a partnership have a responsibility to try and stay in reasonable shape and reasonably well-groomed out of respect for each other.

I hate to see people let themselves go, as if to think to themselves that, "well he/she married me and is stuck with me now, therefore I can sit on my arse, eat crap and not bother showering for a couple of days".

It's the height of selfishness in my opinion.

Thats why I still try to squeeze into it ! Thanks for seeing my point.. Always be clean is so important !

03-04-2013 4:00pm

Re-reg banned >.<

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