online dating etiquette

if there is profiles write back to the ones you find interesting, you will probably also get a load of weirdos so i doubt you need to write back to everyone.

Oflynna wrote: »

have just recently decided to give it a go and am not quite sure about the rules (if there are any)

Never tried it myself so I'm not sure if there are any rules but:

Oflynna wrote:

i'm a girl in my late twenties and not too bad looking so i got swamped with responses and i've quite a lot on at the moment so i can't really spend hours every day answering messages, checking peoples profiles etc

anyway, am i supposed to answer everyone,

I wouldn't think so, lets face it, do you reply to all the spam mail you get in your e-mail/letterpost? If you don't reply they'll just take it as you're not interested or perhaps never even logged back in.

Oflynna wrote:

even if it's just a short 'Hi' message that i got, do i have to say why i'm not interested,

Again, I wouldn't think so as if they can't take the time to type a bit more I'd assume that they're throwing "Hi" messages out to every XX on the site.

Oflynna wrote:

why do people think just because i haven't answered on the same day that im not interested

Guess they're just impatient, perhaps have a rejection complex or something.

Oflynna wrote:

and why do guys from the other side of ireland who're thirty years older than i am reply?

The idiotic belief that you must be there out of desparation and so maybe they can take advantage... creepy guys unfortunately do make up a significant portion of the internet population...:(
I'd definitely say you shouldn't respond to these in case you only encourage them, sounds terrible but I do know girls (only on-line) who've gotten a lot of harassment from guys just because they are girls and the lads were that sad.:(


Hopefully you'll manage to enjoy the on-line chatting and dating and won't get any hassle from ass-h*les (if their behaviour is rude in real life it's probably rude on-line).

Just respond to the messages that seem serious, it'd be rude not to. Even just to say Thanks, but I don't think we are compatible.
Meet for coffee/drinks in a public place and have fun.
You can arrange to meet during a week night at 7 or so and just stay for an hour, blame work.

Oflynna wrote: »

btw, i'm normally a really nice person and i don't want to upset people but this was supposed to be fun not stress...

Exactly, so reply to ones that send an interesting first email and/or have an interesting profile with/without picture.

Its only a different way of meeting people that you would never meet otherwise (because of location, vocation, etc, etc)

Someone who'd get upset over a non-response to an email would be immature in real life too.... not worth the effort to be nice to them all

Fred C. Dobbs wrote: »

The online dating just makes it easier to say hi nothing more (even if they know they're not your match like the 30yr older galway fellas, they'll chance it anyway)

Galway, where you get that from? OP could be anywhere, not just in the pale.
Unless you're cyber stalking

That's odd. Don't you want closure?

biko wrote: »

Galway, where you get that from? OP could be anywhere, not just in the pale.
Unless you're cyber stalking

whoops didnt read that profile roight other side of country = galway for moi

It is the same as 'real life'
if ypu think they are interesting and attractive then reply.
if you don't think they are your type then maybe a polite response say
thanks but no thanks.

I was just about to ask the same question! It would be good to find a relatively serious site where it's not just messin'. I have never done this and I'm not in any rush to, but it's something I might consider in due course.