Honestly now...... What does it for you?

AnonoBoy · 22-10-2014 7:25pm

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

What people think about looks Is important because it's how they view people around them.

You can kinda tell a lot of the time if someone doesnt find someone good to look at they don't take them as seriously in general. It's not always the case but it does happen a lot more than it could.

A handsome devil is what most women would be looking for.

But sometimes good looks can just be hiding the fact that underneath it all they're half a person and are in fact unloveable.

Sometimes you'll meet a girl afraid of being alone but I stayed with someone for years because of that, had many an unhappy birthday and heaven knows I'm miserable now. I think though to find beauty in others you've first got to accept yourself. Regardless of looks you want to find this charming man or a wonderful woman and say "I won't share you."

I do like how it almost seemed like I was contributing to the thread when I was just shoehorning in Smiths song titles.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 7:26pm

AnonoBoy wrote: »

A handsome devil is what most women would be looking for.

But sometimes good looks can just be hiding the fact that underneath it all they're half a person and are in fact unloveable.

Sometimes you'll meet a girl afraid of being alone but I stayed with someone for years because of that, had many an unhappy birthday and heaven knows I'm miserable now. I think though to find beauty in others you've first got to accept yourself. Regardless of looks you want to find this charming man or a wonderful woman and say "I won't share you."

I'm nearly out of Smiths songs.

:pac: you be onto his solo stuff next!.

catallus · 22-10-2014 7:51pm

I don't think it is fair that ridiculously good-looking people are instantly dismissed as being "half a person", we have feelings too you know!

lufties · 22-10-2014 7:56pm

catallus wrote: »

I don't think it is fair that ridiculously good-looking people are instantly dismissed as being "half a person", we have feelings too you know!

Do you know whats worse? When you think you are really good looking and are in fact not.

I should know

Smidge · 22-10-2014 8:36pm

I think the majority of people are not attracted to physical extremes in general.
There will always be people who love very over weight people and those who like their partners to look practically malnourished.
They are just extreme end of the scale.

After that we are left with what's in the middle, slim women/lean men and then curvy women/built men.
After that it just boils down to sex appeal.

Fat Christy · 22-10-2014 8:38pm

catallus wrote: »

I don't think it is fair that ridiculously good-looking people are instantly dismissed as being "half a person", we have feelings too you know!

Are you really, really, ridiculously good looking? :eek:

Smidge · 22-10-2014 8:45pm

Fat Christy wrote: »

Are you really, really, ridiculously good looking? :eek:

I have big beewbs, a slim waist and a rather large rear end.
The only downside to this is that the missus goes mental when I borrow her bras.

Fat Christy · 22-10-2014 8:49pm

Smidge wrote: »

I have big beewbs, a slim waist and a rather large rear end.
The only downside to this is that the missus goes mental when I borrow her bras.

PM sent, I'll just stick a bag over your head. :pac:

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 8:54pm

14 out of 300 odd ain't bad I guess ha :-).

Shakespeare's Sister · 22-10-2014 8:55pm

I see the "Fat women, thanks to a feminist conspiracy, have no problem pulling hapless hot men giving away their power" "theory" is debunked on this thread anyway.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 8:57pm

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

I see the "Fat women, thanks to a feminist conspiracy, have no problem pulling hapless hot men giving away their power" "theory" is debunked on this thread anyway.

That's some theory!

catallus · 22-10-2014 8:58pm

I'm hapless and hot! Where's my fat woman??!

Shakespeare's Sister · 22-10-2014 8:58pm

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

That's some theory!

It was being posted over and over by a handful of posters on the other thread (about the plus size modelling women).

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 8:59pm

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

It was being posted over and over by a handful of posters on the other thread (about the plus size modelling women).

Wonder where there getting that idea from?

Fat Christy · 22-10-2014 9:00pm

catallus wrote: »

I'm hapless and hot! Where's my fat woman??!

Hello!! I'm standing right here! And it's not like I'm easy to miss....

wiseoldelf34 · 22-10-2014 9:01pm

I like em carrying an itty bitty bit of weight girls

Mister Vain · 22-10-2014 9:02pm

How fat is too fat? When having her on top becomes uncomfortable. Anything up to that is fine.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 9:03pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

How fat is too fat? When having her on top becomes uncomfortable. Anything up to that is fine.

Bit of bounce is fun ;-) ha.

Smidge · 22-10-2014 9:03pm

catallus wrote: »

I'm hapless and hot! Where's my fat woman??!

She's in the post.
Are you sure you put enough postage on? :P

Mister Vain · 22-10-2014 9:05pm

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Bit of bounce is fun ;-) ha.

A bit yeah. I don't want a tonne of fun though.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 9:06pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

A bit yeah. I don't want a tonne of fun though.

No one wants to lose the feeling in there legs no ha.

catallus · 22-10-2014 9:08pm

Smidge wrote: »

She's in the post.
Are you sure you put enough postage on? :P

Are you suggesting I'd order a mail-order bride?!

How very dare you!

Although, now that you mention it... I've never seen a fat Thai bird!

Shakespeare's Sister · 22-10-2014 9:11pm

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Wonder where there getting that idea from?

Usually it's from guys who find it difficult to meet women and they start to get angry about it; seeing women then, whom they deem unattractive getting together with not-bad-looking guys, absolutely guts them.
I understand a guy being disheartened about lack of interest from women, but it enters dark territory when he starts getting resentful towards huge numbers of women he's never met, or even women in general.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 9:12pm

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

Usually it's from guys who find it difficult to meet women and they start to get angry about it; seeing women then, whom they deem unattractive getting together with not-bad-looking guys, absolutely guts them.
I understand a guy being disheartened about lack of interest from women, but it enters dark territory when he starts getting resentful towards huge numbers of women he's never met, or even women in general.

Can happen to anyone I guess male or female. It can be easy to feel bitter towards people when they have things u want sometimes!

Shakespeare's Sister · 22-10-2014 9:19pm

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Can happen to anyone I guess male or female.

True. There's the "All men are bastards" shyte from some women.

The Wild Bunch · 22-10-2014 9:20pm

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How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 9:20pm

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

True. There's the "All men are bastards" shyte from some women.

Which you hear all the time and it's clearly not true.

Both sexs are guilty of that kinda crap though.

lufties · 22-10-2014 9:22pm

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

Usually it's from guys who find it difficult to meet women and they start to get angry about it; seeing women then, whom they deem unattractive getting together with not-bad-looking guys, absolutely guts them.
I understand a guy being disheartened about lack of interest from women, but it enters dark territory when he starts getting resentful towards huge numbers of women he's never met, or even women in general.

Its fear of rejection mostly, after a long days work the last thing I want to do is face rejection, especially if you get it a lot, pride comes into. Why is it always men that have to do the chasing anyway? Supply and demand?

One eyed Jack · 22-10-2014 9:24pm

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Can happen to anyone I guess male or female. It can be easy to feel bitter towards people when they have things u want sometimes!

That's just it though. These people that are bitter towards anyone, are viewing people merely as possessions, property, with no agency of their own as if they should have no choice in who they choose to date.

Ironically, that same inflated sense of self-worth they talk about other people having, they're blind to it in themselves, and that's exactly what makes them unattractive to other people - their complete lack of self-awareness.

Mister Vain · 22-10-2014 9:25pm

Sometimes a girl can have a bit of extra weight but can have a very pretty face. I was served by a girl in Halfords recently who had a very attractive face. It was only after she stood up that I realised she was a little on the heavy side. In that situation its the personality that would make or break it.

Shakespeare's Sister · 22-10-2014 9:27pm

lufties wrote: »

Its fear of rejection mostly, after a long days work the last thing I want to do is face rejection, especially if you get it a lot, pride comes into. Why is it always men that have to do the chasing anyway? Supply and demand?

I don't know - goes back a long way to more traditional times. It's one of those "That's the way things are" things (not that that makes it right, or that people shouldn't go against the grain - they very much should) but it's fine to criticise it; it's not fine to get angry towards women in general for it though.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 9:28pm

One eyed Jack wrote: »

That's just it though. These people that are bitter towards anyone, are viewing people merely as possessions, property, with no agency of their own as if they should have no choice in who they choose to date.

Ironically, that same inflated sense of self-worth they talk about other people having, they're blind to it in themselves, and that's exactly what makes them unattractive to other people - their complete lack of self-awareness.

Well I no when I was younger and single and didn't want to be seeing couples used to annoy me and make me feel bitter because I felt well why can't I have that? That was more being a teenager then anything. I've never taught about it in the way u mentioned.

MRnotlob606 · 22-10-2014 9:28pm

I don't even entertain the Idea of women as some sort of means to an end , despite been a heterosexual male.

One eyed Jack · 22-10-2014 9:32pm

lufties wrote: »

Its fear of rejection mostly, after a long days work the last thing I want to do is face rejection, especially if you get it a lot, pride comes into. Why is it always men that have to do the chasing anyway? Supply and demand?

It isn't always men who do the chasing? Women do plenty of chasing (a point I tried to make in the other thread, but made a complete balls of it :pac:), but women will chase you if they find you attractive enough to want to chase you. Then it becomes a case of are you attracted to them? That depends on the kind of women you want chasing you -

The women you want, and the women who chase you, are rarely ever the same person. The same would apply to men - often the men women want, are not the same men chasing them.

Pablodreamsofnew · 22-10-2014 9:33pm

Girls we need to start a thread on penis size. The exact same poll but to penis size

lufties · 22-10-2014 9:34pm

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

I don't know. It's one of those "That's the way things are" things (not that that makes it right, or that people shouldn't go against the grain - they very much should) but it's fine to criticise it; it's not fine to get angry towards women in general for it though.

Its crap imo...I never get abuse from women I approach, I just find it daunting..I've done it so many times but I still get that approach anxiety, worried about being rejected which I usually am, probably not cause how I look but because I get nervous and can't think of what to say after how's it going? Some women can be very cold. Sometimes it begs the question, why do we live in a society with so many frustrated, angry men who can't find a partner? I'd guarantee there is more than the other way round.

dresden8 · 22-10-2014 9:35pm

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

Now we know how much of a gentleman you are and the women are sufficiently wet in their knickers, do you like 'em fat or thin?

Horny and dirty, intelligent, funny, fun, good face, nice eyes.

Beats skinny every day.

Although skinny might also have that. But not in my experience.

Mister Vain · 22-10-2014 9:35pm

One eyed Jack wrote: »

The women you want, and the women who chase you, are rarely ever the same person. The same would apply to men - often the men women want, are not the same men chasing them.

True. And then there are those mad women on hen nights that strip you down, molest you, and handcuff you to the table. I thought that cougar was into me the other night but she was just having a laugh with those handcuffs.

How Soon Is Now · 22-10-2014 9:35pm

MrsYelnekoff wrote: »

Girls we need to start a thread on penis size. The exact same poll but to penis size

Its not meant to be just about women though the point was what men/women are into. It just happens to be mostly men who state what there into though.

lufties · 22-10-2014 9:38pm

One eyed Jack wrote: »

It isn't always men who do the chasing? Women do plenty of chasing (a point I tried to make in the other thread, but made a complete balls of it :pac:), but women will chase you if they find you attractive enough to want to chase you. Then it becomes a case of are you attracted to them? That depends on the kind of women you want chasing you -

The women you want, and the women who chase you, are rarely ever the same person. The same would apply to men - often the men women want, are not the same men chasing them.

Yea perhaps you are right, I was out recently with a big group for a birthday, we all went for drinks after and I noticed the best looking girl (by a mile) was always catching up with me as we walked, we had some banter..but my limiting belief and buffers (she's taller than me etc) couldn't take it that extra step.

One eyed Jack · 22-10-2014 9:43pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

True. And then there are those mad women on hen nights that strip you down, molest you, and handcuff you to the table. I thought that cougar was into me the other night but she was just having a laugh with those handcuffs.

Reminds me of that girl I met in the club who asked me did I want to come home with her for cuddles. I looked around to see where were her group of mates breaking their balls laughing. Nope, she'd approached on her own initiative, and I had to double check with her to make sure it was just cuddles we'd be doing...

She lied :pac:

Mister Vain · 22-10-2014 9:46pm

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Reminds me of that girl I met in the club who asked me did I want to come home with her for cuddles. I looked around to see where were her group of mates breaking their balls laughing. Nope, she'd approached on her own initiative, and I had to double check with her to make sure it was just cuddles we'd be doing...

She lied :pac:

Ohh do go on. You can't leave us on that cliffhanger ye fecker.

Sweet Rose · 22-10-2014 11:49pm

lufties wrote: »

Nice to hear the truth, some boardsies tend to project idyllic holier than thou opinions on here that are false generally.

I guess it can be geographic too, I live near fulham, where a 5 foot 8 average bloke like me doesn't stand much of a chance. Its quite shallow and pretentious around here, but then again so is a lot of london.

Thanks but I find not a lot of people appreciate honesty over sugar coating things.

I found London like that too. Pubs and clubs are very trend orientated. I guess you just have to find a club that suits your style. Confidence is key too

SameDiff · 23-10-2014 1:35am

bodice ripper wrote: »

Morrisey looks like ****

What a classless comment to make on a person being treated for cancer.

BrokenHero · 23-10-2014 1:46am

MrsYelnekoff wrote: »

Girls we need to start a thread on penis size. The exact same poll but to penis size

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGjElvt4nP8

McChubbin · 23-10-2014 1:47am

My own personal preferance is curvy- not too big, not too small but a happy, healthy medium.
To give an example, if I had to choose between Miley Cyrus or Christina Hendricks, I'd go for Christina everytime. Aside from the fact she is one of the most stunningly beautiful women I've ever seen, she generally looks much healthier than Miley-who I think could do with eating a burger or two. Just my opinion.
I think once someone is happy and healthy, it doesn't really matter if they're big or small.

Macavity. · 23-10-2014 1:47am

Slim, I have a thing for slim women. As long as they are an acceptable healthy weight I wouldn't be too bothered though.

blacklilly · 23-10-2014 2:01am

After having dated very slim men to well built men, my preference would be well built men.

As some other posted stated, the extreme of either side of the scale has a niche following

darced · 23-10-2014 2:40am

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Lalealea · 23-10-2014 4:00am

You know what I hate about this threads ? This and the one about men's height?

They are just out to hurt people.....the possibly hundreds of people that read it. Thats all it is drama and negative drama at that. I love drama ..it doesn't have to be hurtful though.

I just think these threads pick a sensitive issue and do it knowing that lots of people reading this are gonna feel it and thats what its about.

Feeding off of pain.

I just don't like it.

Boards goblins.

Honestly now...... What does it for you?

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