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Co-parentng - single gay male

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  • #52
    Rachiee
    Registered Users Posts: 880 ✭✭✭Rachiee


    LLMMML wrote: »
    I think the Iona Insitute have a point, though they misuse it horribly. Two parents living in one home in a stable relationship does seem to be best.

    There has been very little scientific finding on this loving stability is what is important there is nothing to say that a co-parenting situation couldn't be stable and loving if done right.


  • #53
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,104 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    LLMMML wrote: »
    You're confusing the reasons people have kids with the time they put into that child.

    No. Im not. I mentioned Time AND energy AND commitment AND money AND emotions AND support

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #54
    Peregrinus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,690 ✭✭✭✭Peregrinus


    xLisaBx wrote: »
    Have you a close female friend that would have the baby for you? I know it sounds absurd, but she'd be like a surrogate who doesn't cost a lot :)
    But he's not looking for a surrogate; he's looking for a co-parent. Big difference!


  • #55
    LLMMML
    Registered Users Posts: 108 ✭✭LLMMML


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    No. Im not. I mentioned Time AND energy AND commitment AND money AND emotions AND support

    But the willingness to invest these things is not why people have kids. They want kids because they think it will improve their life. Pretending it's some selfless act because it takes effort is misleading. It's like pretending the time someone spends on a hobby is the same as the time they spend doing something they don't like. Completely different things.


  • #56
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,104 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    LLMMML wrote: »
    But the willingness to invest these things is not why people have kids. They want kids because they think it will improve their life. Pretending it's some selfless act because it takes effort is misleading. It's like pretending the time someone spends on a hobby is the same as the time they spend doing something they don't like. Completely different things.

    I think its impossible to determine that all people who want children want them purely for selfish reasons.

    In addition to think being a parent is actually one of the least selfish things a person does in life.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #57
    floggg
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,824 ✭✭✭floggg


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    I think its impossible to determine that all people who want children want them purely for selfish reasons.

    In addition to think being a parent is actually one of the least selfish things a person does in life.

    I really can't see any other reason for a planned pregnancy other than the fact that at least one of the persons involved WANTS a baby

    They do it for themsleves and whatnot brings to their life. Sure, once the baby is conceived their lives become secondary to the child's, and so the act of parenting itself is generally a selfless task.

    But intentionally conceiving one is an act motivated by the desires of parents, and what they want.

    Not that there's anything wrong with that.


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