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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 656 ✭✭✭pinkstars


    Just about getting through the work day.


    This is hell!!!!!!!!!!!


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,482 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Jabberwocly, feel bad for you, i'm glad you're lining up an appointment with the doc though.. Is aware or pieta a viable option for you?

    Pinkstars, You'll get through, get out when you can and regroup for the evening.

    I'm off today and haven't moved from couch. Feeling a bit guilty at being so lazy, but better than wandering about being stupid..


  • Registered Users Posts: 656 ✭✭✭pinkstars


    Jabberwocly, feel bad for you, i'm glad you're lining up an appointment with the doc though.. Is aware or pieta a viable option for you?

    Pinkstars, You'll get through, get out when you can and regroup for the evening.

    I'm off today and haven't moved from couch. Feeling a bit guilty at being so lazy, but better than wandering about being stupid..

    How do you mean regroup? Recoup? lol
    I'm still at work anyway so it mustn't be that bad!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    pinkstars wrote: »
    I think it's best to wait until we feel better about ourselves if we do have issues. I know for a fact after the week I put down I am no way ready. I was doing well for the last year and a half and will happily stay single to avoid any dramas at the moment!!!

    A part of me would love to have a close companion through all this but I'd just too much of a F-up presently for any of it. In time I hope though.


  • Registered Users Posts: 656 ✭✭✭pinkstars


    A part of me would love to have a close companion through all this but I'd just too much of a F-up presently for any of it. In time I hope though.

    I feel the exact same........


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,482 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    The slip is on, and i can't halt it.. Ah well.. Curl in ball and stare at tv..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    same gremlin, life gone, bed is all that's left.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    The slip is on, and i can't halt it.. Ah well.. Curl in ball and stare at tv..
    same gremlin, life gone, bed is all that's left.

    I hope ye both get through it quickly.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,482 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    It'll be a loooooooong night. Even dog is bored with me by now.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    same gremlin, life gone, bed is all that's left.
    The slip is on, and i can't halt it.. Ah well.. Curl in ball and stare at tv..

    Same as cant fight it anymore body and mind too tired. Tried so much to fight the black cloak have to give in and hope for the best


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Jesus thought I was the only one, in some sort of way its nice to know im not alone with these effin thoughs. Hope that doesnt sound bad


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    Doesn't sound bad, it's the most natural feeling in the world as a human to want to connect/be together through thick and thin.

    I just had I think the longest cry of my life, must have been building up a while. Have felt so desperately and existentially alone for so long, with little (most times no) hope of ever experiencing any kind of relationship again, at age 27 that's a lot of lonely years to endure before I eventually expire. It scares the crap out of me and it is impossible to comfort myself


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    I just had I think the longest cry of my life, must have been building up a while. Have felt so desperately and existentially alone for so long, with little (most times no) hope of ever experiencing any kind of relationship again, at age 27 that's a lot of lonely years to endure before I eventually expire. It scares the crap out of me and it is impossible to comfort myself[/quote]

    Its good U can cry jimmy. Maybe if nothing else it was a small release.
    I dont know that I am capable of a full on relationship. I've not had good experiences so far. Pretty much been a door mat


  • Registered Users Posts: 53 ✭✭Jabberwocky_I


    Jabberwocly, feel bad for you, i'm glad you're lining up an appointment with the doc though.. Is aware or pieta a viable option for you?

    Unfortunately, I'm living too far away from Pieta at the moment. I went there years ago when I was going through a rough patch and they were amazing. Very supportive.
    I could look into Aware and see if there's any groups near me though. Thanks.

    I can see that I'm not alone in feeling trapped in this dense brain-fog. I do hope it passes sooner rather than later for you all.


  • Registered Users Posts: 16 Mister_Happy


    I just watched a YouTube video by eoghan McDermott a young tv presenter talking about mental health. Fair play to him, great to see young people like that opening up & raising awareness.

    Video is called 'a little confession' if anyone wants to check it out


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  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,482 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Very broken night. Got annoyed around six this morning so got up.. Stressed about what awaits at work.. I shouldn't be since i haven't heard anything from anyone, but the imagination is funny (oh-oh) thing. This is the sort of thing that makes sure i don't get too close to people..


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Doesn't sound bad, it's the most natural feeling in the world as a human to want to connect/be together through thick and thin.

    I just had I think the longest cry of my life, must have been building up a while. Have felt so desperately and existentially alone for so long, with little (most times no) hope of ever experiencing any kind of relationship again, at age 27 that's a lot of lonely years to endure before I eventually expire. It scares the crap out of me and it is impossible to comfort myself


    This.is.exactly.how.I.feel.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    me too!


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Pardon my language but EFF IT!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Would any of ye date a fellow depressed person?


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  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Well I cant seem to find anyone to date me so i'll never have to worry :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    Well I cant seem to find anyone to date me so i'll never have to worry :(

    I didn't mean to rub it in like that Chiquitita, sorry. :o


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Haha you're ok. What I meant is seeing as i'm the way I am and can't get past 1-3 dates I cant imagine meeting someone who's like me would go too well.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    Haha you're ok. What I meant is seeing as i'm the way I am and can't get past 1-3 dates I cant imagine meeting someone who's like me would go too well.

    I don't even talk to girls, let alone get dates! lol


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    Ah eff it as chiquita said at this stage I wouldn't have a problem with it, the problem is believing someone else would find me better than any other person in the world. I think I'm pretty cool apart from the ould appearance which has taken a hell of a shmack since I was young. So yea, if someone was down but had the same world view as me I would, but I wouldn't see myself indulging them, or allowing myself to feel responsible for their feeling.

    I have to deal with my own, so they should deal with theirs. But I'm sure companionship could help, so long as neither expects the other to fix them.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Ah eff it as chiquita said at this stage I wouldn't have a problem with it, the problem is believing someone else would find me better than any other person in the world. I think I'm pretty cool apart from the ould appearance which has taken a hell of a shmack since I was young. So yea, if someone was down but had the same world view as me I would, but I wouldn't see myself indulging them, or allowing myself to feel responsible for their feeling.

    I have to deal with my own, so they should deal with theirs. But I'm sure companionship could help, so long as neither expects the other to fix them.

    Well said Jimmy


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,904 ✭✭✭✭Rothko


    Would any of ye date a fellow depressed person?

    I would.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Suas11 wrote: »
    I would.

    I wouldn't rule it out here. Like a part of me thinks like it could be good as they would understand what it is like etc. The flip side of that same coin though is that they would have their own issues.


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Yeah Jimmy, agree with that. It'd be great to have someone to tell all your "things" to knowing that they accept you the way you are.
    Im determined to make tomorrow a good day, im going to get up early, shower,do my hair, go out wandering the streets looking for dates (just kidding...or am I ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    Yeah Jimmy, agree with that. It'd be great to have someone to tell all your "things" to knowing that they accept you the way you are.
    Im determined to make tomorrow a good day, im going to get up early, shower,do my hair, go out wandering the streets looking for dates (just kidding...or am I ;)

    What streets will you be wondering down?! ;):D


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  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    I dunno, where do you think would be a good place?!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    I dunno, where do you think would be a good place?!

    *location PM'd*


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    "Nowhere special..."?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    "Nowhere special..."?

    Stalker! :p:D


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,904 ✭✭✭✭Rothko


    I wouldn't rule it out here. Like a part of me thinks like it could be good as they would understand what it is like etc. The flip side of that same coin though is that they would have their own issues.

    Yeah, I've thought the same. It'd make it difficult but on the other hand I'd have someone that could relate to what I go through and also I might be able to help them too.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Suas11 wrote: »
    Yeah, I've thought the same. It'd make it difficult but on the other hand I'd have someone that could relate to what I go through and also I might be able to help them too.

    It could be something very special maybe.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    From my experience people who have these kinds of difficulties with life are very open and helpful when together and are very supportive.

    My current way of dealing with it is the dream of heading off canoing and camping on my own for a while around ireland. Proper sense of space and hopefully will be soothing for the mind. At the moment planning it in my head is keeping me from the horrible 4-walls-feeling.

    I just think it'll be a very therapeutic thing to do, bit of hiking, bit of self-sufficiency cooking my own food, getting a camp set up on a river bed, getting back into some reading and being. Bit of exploring etc.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    From my experience people who have these kinds of difficulties with life are very open and helpful when together and are very supportive.

    My current way of dealing with it is the dream of heading off canoing and camping on my own for a while around ireland. Proper sense of space and hopefully will be soothing for the mind. At the moment planning it in my head is keeping me from the horrible 4-walls-feeling.

    I just think it'll be a very therapeutic thing to do, bit of hiking, bit of self-sufficiency cooking my own food, getting a camp set up on a river bed, getting back into some reading and being. Bit of exploring etc.

    That sounds awesome actually Jimmy


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    I think it would suit people of our psychological makeup especially. Just got to source some gear and knowledge first. I've got nothing else so when it's all ye have it becomes more 'possible'.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Let's all go camping together :pac:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    Let's all go camping together :pac:

    This is an insanely good idea! :D


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    What support networks do ye use? Aware meetings? Pieta? Read particular books?

    Im sure you've said it a million and one times on this already but I cant remember, sorry :o


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Chiquitita wrote: »
    What support networks do ye use? Aware meetings? Pieta? Read particular books?

    Im sure you've said it a million and one times on this already but I cant remember, sorry :o

    I used to frequent Aware quite a bit. Tried GROW before but it wasn't really my thing.

    Speaking of books, I found a Little Book of Calm today. :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Im in the middle of the Aware cbt groups. Really enjoying it. Also going to Pieta, but only have 2 sessions left which is making me panic as there's a lot of stuff I should be saying to the therapist but cant find the courage and instead im suffering in silence.
    Im going to get out of the house for the entire day tomorrow, even if its just to sit in the garden. Im NOT hiding for another 24 hours god damn it!


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    Know that old nugget "what have you got to be depressed about, snap out of it" WELL I challenge them to come live inside my head or have the thoughts I have for 10 minutes and see how they'd like it. I'm pretty certain they too would retreat to the bed!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    What sort of stuff is your main gripe chiquitita? Focus on small or the whole Big Cake (universe)?

    For me a laser focus on the small (an OCD compulsion) causes me to be in isolation which causes me to really think through the universal and the inherent futility. I experience very consciously the fundamental cognitive dissonance: seeking our own significance as insignificant entities.


  • Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭Chiquitita


    I havent typed it here yet but you've hit the nail on the head. I have existential depression. Like yourself I have ocd which I find brings me more into reality which is comforting yet distressing at the same time.

    I've been afraid to say the reasons I find myself in my current state i.e going to pieta, aware, medication etc as im afraid to read peoples reactions.

    Thanks for being here though! :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    Got some xanax today a short-term but welcome release all the same.
    my poor little dog knows im down and is being extra cuddly and sweet bless him x


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,482 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    For me the thoughts that rattle around mostly are the ruminating on mistakes of the past and a self-defeatist view of the future.. I also try to make death a logical option to the point I convince myself that in time humans won't be against people deciding to euthanise themselves, that eventually it'll be normal..

    Mainly though I think my various trains of thought are so splintered and mashed into each other at times that I'm confused.. Not really sure though as I've yet to find a counsellor who can do any more than scratch the surface. Hoping to have a better experience this time around with the hospital..

    Sorry for rambling and being confusing.


  • Registered Users Posts: 656 ✭✭✭pinkstars


    Is there anyone on Zyprexa? I was getting weird thoughts and valium wasn't even calming me down so I'm up to 7.5 zyprexa. I was on 5 mg ppreviously. As well as the other concoction.


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