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I know this is an old blog post but I've just come across it now and I think it's a brilliant story
This is definitely the kind of childbirth experience I would like to have 
https://theclotheslineie.wordpress.com/2014/06/02/the-time-when-i-had-an-unplanned-homebirth/
Here are the main bits:So the weekend passed. On Monday evening, the kids went to bed, I bounced on the stupid ball, The husband was watching the stupid snooker final on the tv. I looked down at my stomach and noticed it was tightening and then stopping again. This kept happening but there was zero pain so I didn’t think any thing of it. I went to bed. The tightening kept happening but still no pain. I got a feeling that maybe something might happen so I got up again. I spent a couple of hours wandering the house, watching crap middle of the night tv, napping and waiting. Still no pain. By 5am the baby hadn’t been moving a lot so I decided I would wait an hour and go into hospital and get checked out. I decided 6am was a reasonable time to wake my mother in law and we could go to hospital before rush hour started. Woke the husband and we pottered about making lunches and I laid out the three piles of school clothes. The boy came downstairs at 6.15am and we chatted. I phoned mother in law, no answer. Still no sign of labour. I considered maybe my “feeling” was off and that we should go no where. Then the following happened:
6.25am- went into the bathroom, hit by a pain, followed forty seconds later by another one.
6.27am- pain after pain after pain after pain. I barricaded myself into downstairs bathroom.
6.30am- husband knocked on door and asked should he ring an ambulance. I believe my exact words where “don’t be so ****ing ridiculous“
6.32am- walked into hall, looked out at car, realised there was no way I was going anywhere and kindly requested husband ring an ambulance.
Over the following ten minutes. I stayed in the bathroom alone. I remember shouting for some paracetamol at one stage, because you know paracetamol would have sorted the full-blown non stop contractions, right out.For once I was somewhat organised with regards packing my hospital bag. So organised I had gotten the husband to put them in the car. The paracetamol was packed in the hospital bag in the car, no wonder the husband couldn’t find them but sure it gave him something do to. I could hear my mother in law arriving and the children moving around and getting ready and then leaving. When they left, I stood and looked at myself in the mirror and decided I would have the baby now. Just like that, like I done this everyday. I don’t think I felt an overwhelming need to push more an overwhelming need for the pain to stop.I was very calm and felt very in control and had zero fear. This was the first labour I went through where I did not hit the “Sweet Jesus. Make It Stop. I CANNOT DO IT” stage. I called the husband and asked him to get more towels. He did. He then went back to doing whatever he was doing. I got down on the ground and pushed, once. I felt the baby’s head,so, called the husband back. Then we had the most surreal conversation
“I need you to get down on the floor with me“
“Ok“
“I am going to push now and the baby is going to come and you need to catch her“
“Ok” he replied. I will be forever grateful for his complete calmness too.
It was very quiet. I pushed. The baby arrived. The husband caught her. It was blissfully simple. She was just there, wide eyes staring around, covered in mess, spiky hair and looking to , our untrained eyes, as she should. We wrapped her up in towels. I sat down on the floor, she started to cry, we probably did too.
Total time from first pain to her arrival about 18 minutes. Whilst her birth at home was unplanned it was ideal. No bright lights, no negotiation or politics, no unfamiliar faces or hospital rooms.She arrived at 6.44am into a completely quiet peaceful house with her parents pretending they knew what they were doing. It could not have been more perfect.
The ambulance arrived ten minutes later, for all our sakes, I am glad they did not arrive before hand.They said at least 14 times “Glad you didn’t give birth in the back of the ambulance” . They didn’t exactly blue light it here and there were no sirens. To be fair , when the husband rang 999, I assume the dispatcher asked how long I had been having pains and he probably was sniggering with his hand over the phone when the husband replied five minutes. The paramedic asked the husbands permission for me to cut the cord ( seriously). I sent the husband to get me knickers upstairs, he came back with a thong, seriously again. Coincidentally the same thong I naively wore into hospital to have my first daughter 8 years earlier. I kept them as they are lucky knickers but not to actually wear them again and certainly not to wear them after just giving birth. The big huge knickers were safely packed in the hospital bag, in the car, obviously, to teach me some lesson for trying to pretend to be an organised person. I think I possibly waved the ginormous maternity pad at him and the thong and asked him how they would possibly work. I digress. The paramedics arrival ruined the calmness clearly. They asked was the baby a boy or a girl. A girl we both said. Then the husband looked at me, neither of us had thought to check was she actually a girl, we couldn’t take our eyes off her face. Familiar but new and so ridiculously beautiful and perfect.
We went to hospital, we got checked over, we came home shortly afterwards.
We lost a lot of towels and gained another perfect child and a sensational amazing memory. It was incredible.0 -
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Ladies,
I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my second baby. While I am utterly thrilled, I'm terrified. I thought I'd feel more relaxed this time round, but in a way I think ignorance was bliss last time! So far, this pregnancy has also been very different. I'm really sick, much more than last time. I know each pregnancy is different but I'm afraid because things went really smoothly last time, so I feel like it's going to be really difficult this time round. Sorry for rambling but has anyone else felt this way?
I hear you! I'm 10 weeks and think I'm even more nervous this time around. So far seems like a very different pregnancy too. Not as sick thankfully but definitely more tired. This might be because I have a 13 month old to add to the craziness this time Every time the nausea eases off I'm worried. After a healthy, relatively straightforward pregnancy last time I thought I'd be far less anxious this time. 0 -
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Ladies,
I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my second baby. While I am utterly thrilled, I'm terrified. I thought I'd feel more relaxed this time round, but in a way I think ignorance was bliss last time! So far, this pregnancy has also been very different. I'm really sick, much more than last time. I know each pregnancy is different but I'm afraid because things went really smoothly last time, so I feel like it's going to be really difficult this time round. Sorry for rambling but has anyone else felt this way?
I could have written your post, I was so sick & achey at the begining of this pregnancy compared to the last one & sooo tired to the point where I was wondering what the hell I was thinking getting pregnant again!! Everytime I thought about how I'd manage 2 small kids I could feel panic rising!
I'm almost 23 weeks now & have hit the nice part of pregnancy, I'm back to feeling like myself & thinking straight. I'm still not sure how I'll manage 2 small kids but I know I will.
Long story short ( for me anyway ) as time went on the better I felt, even feel excited now at the thoughts of cuddling my new baby 0 -
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Hey everyone (particularly angeldelight), what's the story with the flu vaccine, and the logistics of getting it really? My gp is closed all weekend now and I forgot to ask when I spoke to them today. Do you just make an appointment to get it or do they give it out to everyone on a particular day of the week? My friend just happened to be in her gp surgery one day when they were, is that how it works?
Or can you get it in a pharmacy, I know Boots offer it, but do you have to pay for it there? If I could get it in a pharmacy tomorrow that would be ideal, given how poor my immune system is at the moment I am bracing myself for a bad day or two after getting it, and the weekend would suit best to mope and feel ill. Sorry if these are thick questions
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Dammit I forgot all about this again, I meant to do it yesterday as that "suited" if I was to get a bit sick in the last day or two, I'm off work and my husband is around so I could've coped. Work tomorrow for the rest of the week though and I'm very busy Saturday so that's no good.
I would've thought it would be free, but I'm happy to pay to not be sick again! After ending up in hospital last night and getting well looked after for free paying €20-30 for the flu jab doesn't seem too bad 0 -
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Just an idle curiosity really but I see a lot of posters seem to be going to private ultrasound centres to get very early scans (around 7 weeks). I'm wondering if there is really much merit in them, as to me an early scan just confirms that everything is okay at that moment only. I've known people to get scans at 7 weeks, announce the pregnancy and sadly miscarry at 8 or 9 weeks
Or pay for an early scan, realise it's still miles too early and wait the 12 weeks anyway. I'm not thinking of going again any time soon(!) but to me waiting for the 12 week hospital scan makes the most sense, obviously things can still go wrong after that but it's a lot less likely. I guess I feel that these early 'reassurance' scans offer a bit of false security for big money, but they seem so commonplace! Thoughts? 0 -
Just an idle curiosity really but I see a lot of posters seem to be going to private ultrasound centres to get very early scans (around 7 weeks). I'm wondering if there is really much merit in them, as to me an early scan just confirms that everything is okay at that moment only. I've known people to get scans at 7 weeks, announce the pregnancy and sadly miscarry at 8 or 9 weeks Or pay for an early scan, realise it's still miles too early and wait the 12 weeks anyway. I'm not thinking of going again any time soon(!) but to me waiting for the 12 week hospital scan makes the most sense, obviously things can still go wrong after that but it's a lot less likely. I guess I feel that these early 'reassurance' scans offer a bit of false security for big money, but they seem so commonplace! Thoughts?
We got one at 9.5 weeks with heartbeat etc the miscarriage rate drops at that stage. I had been watching/testing so I knew I was pregnant very early and couldn't hack waiting another 3weeks for the hospital scan! It was nice reassurance
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I went for the private scan at 8 weeks too, my hospital 12 week scan wasn't til 14 weeks and as I'm a ftm and knew almost straight away I was pregnant I went more for reassurance and I'm so glad I did. I know you still have risk of miscarriage after but in my mind the way I felt was that if the heart had stopped I would have rathered known at 8 weeks then wait till 14.
The lady doing the scan was amazing. However I have a friend who had an early scan where the baby was ok and then at her 12 week scan found out the baby had no heartbeat i feel the first 12 weeks are so worrying in a way that I loved my early scan x
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Just an idle curiosity really but I see a lot of posters seem to be going to private ultrasound centres to get very early scans (around 7 weeks). I'm wondering if there is really much merit in them, as to me an early scan just confirms that everything is okay at that moment only. I've known people to get scans at 7 weeks, announce the pregnancy and sadly miscarry at 8 or 9 weeks Or pay for an early scan, realise it's still miles too early and wait the 12 weeks anyway. I'm not thinking of going again any time soon(!) but to me waiting for the 12 week hospital scan makes the most sense, obviously things can still go wrong after that but it's a lot less likely. I guess I feel that these early 'reassurance' scans offer a bit of false security for big money, but they seem so commonplace! Thoughts?
Mine was done at 7+4 as a fertility check to count embryos and make sure they'd not implanted in the tubes. A follow up one was done at 9+4 because the smaller twin was measuring smaller and they wanted to check growth. Second twin measured 7+1 at the first scan and 8 weeks on the second one. No trace of it at the 11 week one, so I'd have never known there was a vanishing twin only for the scans. Apparently its quite common.
I think that some people feel that somehow the risk goes down by the first scan, so think that if they have the first scan earlier, it reduces the risk. But I think its moreso that the first scan usually was at 12 weeks, so by that stage the risks decrease a lot anyway.
Some women get them though because there is no 12 week scan offered to them on the public system.This would have been my thinking too. Her comment got me wondering was I being too blasé.
I think the deli meats refer to the types of counters that are for sandwich bars with food out all day long. Pre-packaged salads and sandwiches from a reputable shop would be fine I'd say.
The risk is for food poisoning. Which is pretty unusual (and not counting the 'food poisoning' people get from a kebab after a heap of drink or from an actual bug) and usually self inflicted due to people not storing raw and cooked food correctly, using utensils on raw meats then the same for a salad.
And it depends on the person. Someone berated me for having a single can of coke when they ate unpasteurised cheeses throughout their pregnancies. Honestly, some people are so pass-remarkable!0 -
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I wouldn't be going looking for raw meat or mouldy cheese but I have been a bit naughty at times during pregnancy. My reckoning is that I've never gotten food poisoning before so I'm not likely to get it now (within reason). A little bit of what you fancy won't hurt I think the guidelines are only there to make women more aware of the kind of things to avoid and watch out for but some people really do go OTT. I was berated by a male childless colleague during my last pregnancy for drinking one small cup of coffee every evening :rolleyes: 0
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Just wondering if any of you were measuring bigger at your hospital appointments? My fundal measurement puts me 2 weeks nearly 3 ahead
I know my dates are not out by this much. If you were did the development level out or had you to be scanned? 0 -
Fundal measurement can be way out. I was measuring 2 /3 weeks behind with my youngest consultant kept saying baby is too small.autumnbelle wrote: »Just wondering if any of you were measuring bigger at your hospital appointments? My fundal measurement puts me 2 weeks nearly 3 ahead I know my dates are not out by this much. If you were did the development level out or had you to be scanned?
Had a development scan all was measuring fine. Saw the consultant the following week same story too small.
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autumnbelle wrote: »Just wondering if any of you were measuring bigger at your hospital appointments? My fundal measurement puts me 2 weeks nearly 3 ahead I know my dates are not out by this much. If you were did the development level out or had you to be scanned?
My fundal measurements were also 2-3 weeks ahead and they'd told me to prepare for a BIG baby. He came on his due date at 8lb4oz. There was a lot of amniotic fluid which made my bump a lot bigger but bubs was a nice healthy size when I was preparing for him to weigh a lot heavier. There really is an element of guess work involved so don't worry.0 -
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