22 year old behaving like a 2 year old

Op, you said that your daughter recently finished her degree and started a fas course. If this behaviour coincided with the transition I think following advise such as throwing her out and other threats are fruitless at the very least and possibly damaging.

She probably worked very hard in college for the past 3/4 years and now is doing a fas course. Her college degree may have had more structure and had more people with similar interests, age etc to your daughter. This recent transition obviously is impacting your child mental health (maybe anxiety and/ or depression.). Although she still goes out and meet her friends etc her mood and behaviour at home has changed quiet a bit. Thus is often the first signs of mental health difficulties.

In my opinion I believe she needs to know that she has support and that she is loved. This is a time of uncertatainity in her life , adult or not, that can be difficult for a lot of people.

Be thankful that she is not out doing drugs or driniking excessively and that all she is doing is not tidying her room and housework.

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Op's child is quite clearly suffering from depression. So she needs to act appropriately.

That said it's also clear the OP doesn't not think her child is an adult and is the source and enabler of her behaviour.

As someone who is all to familiar with depression, How the OP is acting with her daughter is making her feel worse about herself and her life situation and 'getting tough' with her is not the right course of action if she wants to help her child get out of the horrible personal funk she is in.

I know an answer may seem to jump off the page here but I think we need to be careful of "diagnosis via internet" . "Clearly", may or may not be clearly in reality, it may be any number of mental health issues or indeed none, just a difficult life situation.

I know we are asked our opinions and its nice to point to where an issue might be, but the "clearly" bit gets me. So how about perhaps??! As for not seeing your child as an adult, well I guess that's often an issue for parents in their 80's, your children are your children.

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Clearly a mental helth issue which has pretty much a lot of the hallmarks of depression. If anyone ever asks about how out of tune the Irish are to the symptoms of mental health issues and the absolutely worst way to deal with someone who is having these issues, direct them to the nightmare of bad advice that is this thread.

possibly and perhaps are certainly the words to use here. Ignorant of mental health issues is someone who chooses to speak about such issues in definites. dis regarding the fact that we're forming opinions based on a couple of forum paragraphs, teenagers and young adults often display behaviour inline with a whole host of mental illnesses when more often than not it is just a product of changing life stages and hormones, slapping a label on such people will do them more harm than good in this case. 'pretty much a lot ' is a gross overstatement here ( for starters the symptoms are only observed in one confined context) , if any thing, from whats written here, the most you can ddfinitively say is the girl is unhappy and/ or lazy.

Jellybaby1 wrote: »

This has been suggested earlier. Can you suggest how she can pay rent while on a FAS course?

Get a job? The rent is her problem, not her parents' problem. This sort of "I have to kiss my kids' ass" thinking is the cause of the behavior.