Dislike wedding speeches?

Boardbird83 · 28-01-2015 11:58pm #1

Gettin married in three months, I dislike wedding speeches, my OH is very shy, my dad would say very little & my FIL to be isn't a nice man.,.,. What other ideas would be good instead of speeches?

kandr10 · 29-01-2015 1:05am

Boardbird83 wrote: »

Gettin married in three months, I dislike wedding speeches, my OH is very shy, my dad would say very little & my FIL to be isn't a nice man.,.,. What other ideas would be good instead of speeches?

I felt the same. We went with no speeches. I wouldn't do anything instead necessarily but I do think it's nice for one or both of you to just stand up and say thanks to everyone for coming - esp if you've people travelling. Short and sweet- not a speech as such. Alternatively perhaps the best man could do it and work it into a toast?

fits · 29-01-2015 3:45am

The plan for us is that just the bride and groom will speak. And it will be brief.

GalwayGirl26 · 29-01-2015 8:15am

You could have a picture slid show instead, with a thank you at the end?

Electric Sheep · 29-01-2015 9:48am

GalwayGirl26 wrote: »

You could have a picture slid show instead, with a thank you at the end?

Oh God no, not the dreaded slide show...

Rubberchikken · 29-01-2015 9:52am

bride and groom each say a small thank you. no slide show. only people who like them are the people in it

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 10:52am

Are Slide Shows a no no then!!

Feel the same would not be mad on speeches unless you have a good fun character to do them. I know I hate the sound of my voice so although I always said I like it when the bride says something, Id be like really you want me to talk.. Himself wouldn't be too bad but I can see him not fancying it too much.. My dad just would not like it either..

Think like others said there is nothing wrong with the two of ye or even all the family on the the top table getting up together and saying a joint thank you to everyone for coming and toasting all the guests.

Or you could do something like a Mexican wave style (I don't mean all getting up and sitting down but more passing the standing up passing the mike to the next etc) speech just have each person say a quick thank you and pass the mike along..

An Bhanríon · 29-01-2015 11:00am

I've been to weddings with no speeches. To be honest I don't think anybody noticed.

I think the main thing you need to be sure of is that you thank everyone for coming to the wedding in some way and thank those who have helped with the preparation and done things on the day. Speeches are normally used for this. But you could just write a heartfelt note and put it in the ceremony booklet or leave it on the tables at the reception.

We just had a bride and groom speech. However, both of us are used to standing up in front of large groups of people. If we weren't I think I would rather no speeches. We both spent a lot of time writing (and rewriting!) our speeches and they went down really well in the end. But if this is not your thing, I would avoid it totally!

Arbiter of Good Taste · 29-01-2015 11:01am

Milly33 wrote: »

Are Slide Shows a no no then!!

Feel the same would not be mad on speeches unless you have a good fun character to do them. I know I hate the sound of my voice so although I always said I like it when the bride says something, Id be like really you want me to talk.. Himself wouldn't be too bad but I can see him not fancying it too much.. My dad just would not like it either..

Think like others said there is nothing wrong with the two of ye or even all the family on the the top table getting up together and saying a joint thank you to everyone for coming and toasting all the guests.

Or you could do something like a Mexican wave style (I don't mean all getting up and sitting down but more passing the standing up passing the mike to the next etc) speech just have each person say a quick thank you and pass the mike along..

Definitely no slideshows. I can't understand why people think their guests would be interested in the bride and grooms personal photos.

You don't need full blown speeches, but the bride and groom should say a few words of thanks to the guests.

kandr10 · 29-01-2015 11:16am

An Bhanríon wrote: »

I've been to weddings with no speeches. To be honest I don't think anybody noticed.

I think the main thing you need to be sure of is that you thank everyone for coming to the wedding in some way and thank those who have helped with the preparation and done things on the day. Speeches are normally used for this. But you could just write a heartfelt note and put it in the ceremony booklet or leave it on the tables at the reception.

We just had a bride and groom speech. However, both of us are used to standing up in front of large groups of people. If we weren't I think I would rather no speeches. We both spent a lot of time writing (and rewriting!) our speeches and they went down really well in the end. But if this is not your thing, I would avoid it totally!

Lovely idea there to put a note in the booklets or a note in a frame that's displayed near the table setting or something. You can't beat a personal thank you though!

Frigga_92 · 29-01-2015 11:17am

We didn't have speeches at our wedding. I stood up and said "Thank you to everyone for coming and enjoy the night". The end.

An Bhanríon · 29-01-2015 12:25pm

I've just remembered another wedding I was at. The groom gave the shortest speech ever, but it was just perfect. He is really quiet and shy but he stood up and, using a few humorous anecdotes (all in very good taste!), told us how wonderful his wife was and how she had changed his life for the better; then he thanked everyone for coming, and that was it. It was over in two or three minutes. It was so simple but straight from the heart and while others gave longer and 'fancier' speeches at the same wedding his speech was the one that stuck.

Just an option for those who aren't into public speaking but feel they should say something!

skallywag · 29-01-2015 1:23pm

fits wrote: »

The plan for us is that just the bride and groom will speak. And it will be brief.

I really like the sound of this. The speeches can really be one of the more thrashed to death parts of the day. I think that a few words from the bride and groom is more than adequate.

skallywag · 29-01-2015 1:27pm

An Bhanríon wrote: »

...using a few humorous anecdotes (all in very good taste!), told us how wonderful his wife was and how she had changed his life for the better...

At the risk of sounding terribly cynical here, I wish that the format would move on from speaking about how great the bride is, how she has changed his life, etc, etc. Fair enough I am sure that it is all perfectly true, but I don't think it needs to be harped on about considering that it's pretty obvious by the fact that we are at their wedding

MsBubbles · 29-01-2015 1:32pm

We asked our honorary best man to stand up and say thank you for coming and he toasted us.
it was great more time for eating and drinking

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 1:46pm

Like that MsBubbles nice and simple

MsBubbles · 29-01-2015 1:56pm

Milly33 Thanks. It was a combination of my husband's fear of public speaking, my dislike of speeches and the fact our wedding was only 50 people.

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 2:00pm

Still it works. was just thinking I know my brother he isn't groomsman or anything but he is a lovely speaker always has a happy face on him, is used to addressing crowds. So maybe he might like to do it.. 50 people im well jealous I kinda wish we had stuck to or original plan of just inviting close friends and sod the family well extended one

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