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Unreasonable or Selfless?

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    #32
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    Brendog wrote: »
    I'm turning 21 in July and have had my parents hounding at me to figure out what I want to do for it.
    Basically I'm a shy guy who hates going out to nightclubs or having any attention thrust upon me.

    They expected me to want to rent out somewhere and invite all my friends and relatives. I just want to have 5-10 friends up to my house to have a few drinks and play xBox.

    Now my parents are saying I'm being selfish because I'm the oldest and won't have a big celebration. "Its their first 21st too."

    I don't understand. I'm saving them hundreds of euro and they are mad at me? Someone please explain.

    Your parents aren't 21 yet? :p
    Tell thanks but it's not what you want. If they keep at it then they are being over bearing and not actually giving you what you want which means they suck.


    bronte wrote: »
    I'm the same op.
    I just wanted a meal locally with my parents and brother.
    Hated the idea of a big fuss and all that.
    They insisted on a party that ended up being 70+ people.
    For what it's worth it was a lovely day even if I felt like a right eejit!

    Insist on a stripper if you go ahead with it. Actually lots of strippers.
    That'll learn them.

    :)


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    #33
    Mr.Biscuits
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭Mr.Biscuits


    You think you have problems in life and then you read stuff like this.

    Thinking of you OP.


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    #34
    Chucken
    Registered Users Posts: 9,459 ✭✭✭Chucken


    Brendog wrote: »
    I'm turning 21 in July and have had my parents hounding at me to figure out what I want to do for it.
    Basically I'm a shy guy who hates going out to nightclubs or having any attention thrust upon me.

    They expected me to want to rent out somewhere and invite all my friends and relatives. I just want to have 5-10 friends up to my house to have a few drinks and play xBox.

    Now my parents are saying I'm being selfish because I'm the oldest and won't have a big celebration. "Its their first 21st too."

    I don't understand. I'm saving them hundreds of euro and they are mad at me? Someone please explain.

    Have you tried stomping your feet yet?


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    #35
    AskMyChocolate
    Registered Users Posts: 2,312 ✭✭✭AskMyChocolate


    Demand a solid gold "key of the door" OP from anyone who cares to show up.

    And then melt them down. Should leave you in serious profit or alone.

    Win Win.

    Also, don't make too many tuna sandwiches. For some reason, there's always too many tuna sandwiches.


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    #36
    Captain Graphite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,272 ✭✭✭Captain Graphite


    It's your birthday, do whatever you want. Don't give in to any pressure from anyone else.

    I didn't want a big 21st either. I just planned to spend it with my boyfriend (on what would be my first birthday as a non-single person) and was looking forward to commemorating it that way instead. Then the night before he dumps me over a phonecall. :mad: So my actual birthday consisted of me drinking wine by myself and watching (500) Days of Summer. :( Afterwards I wished I had organised something 'cause at least then I'd have something else to remember it by.

    So if you don't want a big party or anything, and you are very adamant about that, then you shouldn't be forced into having one. But if you don't commemorate it at all you might end up regretting it later. Whatever happens for your 21st it's unlikely to be as awful as mine was so you can take comfort in that at least! :pac:


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    #37
    biko
    Registered Users Posts: 81,223 ✭✭✭✭biko


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IShrytb1UZE


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    #38
    foxyboxer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,528 ✭✭✭foxyboxer


    Plazaman wrote: »
    X-Box?? Damn it man, you're 21. Foxy Boxing should be the priority.

    (A wrestling pond filled with Jelly for the all girls nude wrestling team wouldn't go astray either. PS I can help hand out the towels to the girls after the bouts)

    That can be arranged OP. PM me for a quote.


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    #39
    smash
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    Tell them you'll have a big party if they buy you a car and a few strippers.


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    #40
    coffee_cake
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 81,310 CMod ✭✭✭✭coffee_cake


    by the time mine came around i'd been to all my friends' ones with renting halls and djs and cringe
    so i just went down to the pub with a load of friends and had no party
    think the family were a bit surprised/disappointed but sure they got over it


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    #41
    Nothingbetter2d
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    your parents want ya to get out meet new people move out of their house and stand on your own two feet.... nothing unreasonable about that

    stop being a basement nerd and just do it


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    #42
    Immaculate Pasta
    Registered Users Posts: 1,663 ✭✭✭Immaculate Pasta


    Brendog wrote: »
    I'm turning 21 in July and have had my parents hounding at me to figure out what I want to do for it.
    Basically I'm a shy guy who hates going out to nightclubs or having any attention thrust upon me.

    They expected me to want to rent out somewhere and invite all my friends and relatives. I just want to have 5-10 friends up to my house to have a few drinks and play xBox.

    Now my parents are saying I'm being selfish because I'm the oldest and won't have a big celebration. "Its their first 21st too."

    I don't understand. I'm saving them hundreds of euro and they are mad at me? Someone please explain.

    http://nintendo.wikia.com/wiki/Shy_Guy

    :confused:


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    #43
    neil_hosey
    Registered Users Posts: 1,712 ✭✭✭neil_hosey


    where did the whole 21st birthday thing come from anyway?!

    its such a random number, you would think 20th birthday would be a big on because you are now an adult.

    Ah... the mysteries of the universe


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    #44
    LuckyLloyd
    Registered Users Posts: 36,156 ✭✭✭✭LuckyLloyd


    Nothingbetter2d wrote: »
    your parents want ya to get out meet new people move out of their house and stand on your own two feet.... nothing unreasonable about that

    stop being a basement nerd and just do it

    They'll also want you to work a certain type of job / rent or buy to fit certain timescales / marry a certain type of girl / and have kids by a specified age.

    Your 21st is as good a time as any to let your parent's know that, while you love them, you intend to do what you think will make yourself happy the rest of the way from here.


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    #45
    St.Spodo
    Registered Users Posts: 1,027 ✭✭✭St.Spodo


    I am going to do all I can to resist having a conventional 21st. The thought of all the aunties, uncles and neighbours juxtaposed with friends and people I don't like dancing awkwardly to S Club 7 is not my idea of a good time.


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    #46
    GLaDOS
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,208 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    Brendog wrote: »
    Jesus I WISH I had mates who gave my money on my birthday instead of saying "hello" and eating my food.

    Now that I think about it, friends are assholes.
    On the food issue, I'll take pizza, thanks.

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



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    #47
    saa
    Registered Users Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭saa


    Yeah my parents didn't give a damn about my 21st and I was too embarrassed to do anything because I felt the pressure to do something big and that is just not me and I'd be organising it on my own.. the few drinks sounds like a good idea, there is no reason though that you can't have a separate thing for family like a meal at the house or out somewhere.


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