Left at the altar

UglyBolloxFace · 24-03-2012 8:32pm #1

Does anyone know someone who was left at the altar or have experienced it themselves?

It hasn't happened to anyone I know personally, but just the thought of it is horrible - what could you possibly say to your best mate after his bride does a runner?

shancoduff · 24-03-2012 8:39pm

Seems to be mostly the stuff of soap operas. I wonder how much of the money spent on a wedding can be recouped? Not very much I'd imagine.

themadchef · 24-03-2012 8:41pm

What's the craic.....Are ya engaged and panicking?

Relax, chances are she wont leave you there with a huge bill and a load of people staring at ya, honest

kelle · 24-03-2012 8:41pm

I've heard of weddings being called off about 2 days before the event, but never anybody left at the altar - must be horrific!

One of those weddings called off was a relation of ours - she accidentally let off wind in front of him and he was repulsed. We reckoned it was the luckiest f*rt she ever let!

Chuck Stone · 24-03-2012 8:43pm

Weddings are gay.

hondasam · 24-03-2012 8:44pm

UglyBolloxFace wrote: »

Does anyone know someone who was left at the altar or have experienced it themselves?

It hasn't happened to anyone I know personally, but just the thought of it is horrible - what could you possibly say to your best mate after his bride does a runner?

You are assuming the man never does a runner. I know someone it happened to, she was at the church he was not. She had a lucky escape, she did not think it at the time but it was a long time ago.

Rocky_Dennis · 24-03-2012 8:44pm

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Weddings are gay.

They are very gay, the happiest day of your life and all that

kelle · 24-03-2012 8:44pm

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Weddings are gay.

That's when they're called civil ceremonies.

bijapos · 24-03-2012 8:46pm

In 1996 I was Groomsman at one where it was called off at the altar. She made a no show, her sister came into the sacristy 30 minutes before kick off and told us it was off, so myself and the Best Man stood at the entrance to the church and asked everyone arriving to go home.

It was really the best solution in the long run, although happy with each other I always thought they were getting married for the sake of their parents. Happy to say they are now both married to other people, have kids and as far as I can see they seem to be very happy in their own lives.

And in the early 90's I was supposed to go to one but it was called off the evening before. It was where my then GF was from so I knew virtually nobody there.

TeddyTedson · 24-03-2012 8:47pm

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Weddings are gay.

Civil partnerships are just as bent.

People always getting left at the alter in Weatherfield. That's about it though really I'd say. Never heard of it myself.

ROFLcopter · 24-03-2012 8:47pm

An old school friend got married 5 years ago, and after the dinner the band came on. One of my mates told me the bride was upstairs screwing another one of our mates while the groom was entertaining his family......turned out to be true, murder at the wedding, myself and my wife left and went home.

Duggys Housemate · 24-03-2012 8:48pm

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Weddings are gay.

Well only for the last 2 years. If that

steddyeddy · 24-03-2012 8:49pm

ROFLcopter wrote: »

An old school friend got married 5 years ago, and after the dinner the band came on. One of my mates told me the bride was upstairs screwing another one of our mates while the groom was entertaining his family......turned out to be true, murder at the wedding, myself and my wife left and went home.

Complete slapper to be honest! Hope your mate got some beating for that!

ICANN · 24-03-2012 8:50pm

I think if I got cold feet the minute before my wedding I'd just get married and then get an annulment instead cos I'd be scarlet calling off the wedding with everyone waiting in the chuch (and I wouldn't want to make them mad having possibly having splashed out on a new outfit and used up a day of their annual leave for the day). That being said, I don't intend on having a big wedding anyway.

krudler · 24-03-2012 8:50pm

kelle wrote: »

I've heard of weddings being called off about 2 days before the event, but never anybody left at the altar - must be horrific!

One of those weddings called off was a relation of ours - she accidentally let off wind in front of him and he was repulsed. We reckoned it was the luckiest f*rt she ever let!

if she farted at the altar and thats why he called it off then thats one of the funniest things I've ever read, please let it be that way :pac:

kelle · 24-03-2012 8:50pm

bijapos wrote: »

In 1996 I was Groomsman at one where it was called off at the altar. She made a no show, her sister came into the sacristy 30 minutes before kick off and told us it was off, so myself and the Best Man stood at the entrance to the church and asked everyone arriving to go home.

It was really the best solution in the long run, although happy with each other I always thought they were getting married for the sake of their parents. Happy to say they are now both married to other people, have kids and as far as I can see they seem to be very happy in their own lives.

True, it's horrible when it happens but in the long run it's for the best as there wouldn't be any second thoughts if the couple were genuinely suited to each other.

krudler wrote: »

if she farted at the altar and thats why he called it off then thats one of the funniest things I've ever read, please let it be that way :pac:

Sorry, it was about a week before the wedding then he called it off 2 days beforehand. He is a nutcase anyway - she had a lucky escape!

ROFLcopter · 24-03-2012 8:54pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

Complete slapper to be honest! Hope your mate got some beating for that!

They had a 2 year old as well, the look of hate and disgust on the brides mothers face was unbelievable. The mate she was screwing had been screwing her for about a year. I haven't seen him since then and I don't ever plan to, the prick.

saa · 24-03-2012 9:01pm

I thought to myself nahh that doesn't happen as the disinterested party can get the marriage annulled afterwards like with a Vegas wedding the shortly after.
That doesn't seem to be the case it seems to be a strenuous process and you have to have a valid reason like being of the "same gender" or "discovering that your partner is a homosexual" ooh or the best one if the other party is impotent or can't consummate the marriage you can get an annulment, jaysus it just seems like you need to go through the courts with a case rather than just saying irreconcilable differences?

http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/birth_family_relationships/civil_annulment/nullity_of_marriage.html

EDIT: ........ so was looking into this a bit more and not only is it a big whoo haa with solicitors and the courts but some folk are waiting 4-6 years plus so to the comment on the first page I wouldn't just opt for an annulment :pac:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/viewtopic.php?f=7&t=72869&start=0

steddyeddy · 24-03-2012 9:02pm

ROFLcopter wrote: »

They had a 2 year old as well, the look of hate and disgust on the brides mothers face was unbelievable. The mate she was screwing had been screwing her for about a year. I haven't seen him since then and I don't ever plan to, the prick.

I have a mate like that who tried it on with everyones moth. Im the only one on speaking terms with him out of our original friends.

Jen Pigs Fly · 24-03-2012 9:06pm

steddyeddy wrote: »

I have a mate like that who tried it on with everyones moth. Im the only one on speaking terms with him out of our original friends.

Surely he'd prefer to go for butterflies, not moths, butterflies are so much prettier :pac:

Ellis Dee · 24-03-2012 9:16pm

It happened to a woman I went to school with. Her mother was a wannabe socially mobile old cow that would make Hyacinth Bucket look modest, and the daughter wasn't - as might be expected - much better. Anyway, she got her hooks into a fellow from the kind of family that used to be called "gentry" and the big day was planned - huge marquee and everything. I knew him, but not very well. Quite eccentric, but interesting.:)

Anyway, when he was at the alter and the sky pilot asked: "Do you take, yadda, yadda, yadda?" there was a longish pause and then he said: "Actually no.":eek:

Shit hits fan time, for sure, and it was the talk of a big part of Laois for years, but I never found what became of either of them, becasue I spent most of the next few years abroad.;)

ROFLcopter · 24-03-2012 9:20pm

Funny thing about this thread has got me thinking about karma. A girl in work screwed the boss loads of times 7 years ago, but decided she loves her hubby so it had to stop........cue 7 years later and she's been crying her eyes out because she found out he's had a fling himself..?!?

hairyprincess · 24-03-2012 9:24pm

My exes sister was due to go to a wedding abroad when it was called off at the last minute as the groom was suffering from bi polar. I don't know if they ever got married

oppenheimer1 · 24-03-2012 9:25pm

UglyBolloxFace wrote: »

Does anyone know someone who was left at the altar or have experienced it themselves?

It hasn't happened to anyone I know personally, but just the thought of it is horrible - what could you possibly say to your best mate after his bride does a runner?

I do, it does happen not only in soap operas.

Xim1 · 24-03-2012 9:28pm

is painful now but maybe is for the best , if the person you are marrying cannot be honest about their feelings is better not to marrry .. marriage is a bit overrated i think

Tigger · 24-03-2012 9:30pm

hondasam wrote: »

You are assuming the man never does a runner. I know someone it happened to, she was at the church he was not. She had a lucky escape, she did not think it at the time but it was a long time ago.

before mobiles?

Tesco Massacre · 24-03-2012 9:33pm

I don't know anyone left at the altar, but I know of a guy who waited until his groom's speech at the reception to tell everyone there that he knew the bride had been having an affair in the 2 months preceding the wedding. He dropped that bombshell, then promptly left leaving everyone completely stunned.

I know it sounds far-fetched, but a close friend of mine (who's not the type to make up stories) was there and told me about it.

Tigger · 24-03-2012 9:35pm

ROFLcopter wrote: »

Funny thing about this thread has got me thinking about karma. A girl in work screwed the boss loads of times 7 years ago, but decided she loves her hubby so it had to stop........cue 7 years later and she's been crying her eyes out because she found out he's had a fling himself..?!?

karma?

you mean justice i assume

Western interpretation

Many Western cultures have notions similar to karma, as demonstrated in the phrase what goes around comes around.[45] The concepts of reaping what you sow from Galatians 6:7, violence begets violence and live by the sword, die by the sword are Christian expressions similar to karma.[46] Some observers[who?] have compared the action of karma to Western notions of sin and judgment by God or gods, while others understand karma as an inherent principle of the universe without the intervention of any supernatural being. In Hinduism, God does play a role and is seen as a dispenser of karma. (See Karma in Hinduism for more details.) The non-interventionist view is that of Buddhism and Jainism. The secular Western view is that of a deterministic universe.

JupiterKid · 24-03-2012 9:35pm

It's never happened any wedding that I've attended although one mate did call his off about a week before the event. Cold feet and all that.

I heard of a wedding of the cousin of a mate where the bride (who was the cousin - to clarify) walked into her bridal suite on the night of the reception to find the groom being ridden by one of the groomsmen.:eek: That must have been a sickner!

nlgbbbblth · 24-03-2012 9:35pm

shancoduff wrote: »

Seems to be mostly the stuff of soap operas.

like stag parties the night before the wedding.

RobbingBandit · 24-03-2012 9:37pm

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Weddings Planners are gay.

FYP.

booboo88 · 24-03-2012 9:38pm

ROFLcopter wrote: »

An old school friend got married 5 years ago, and after the dinner the band came on. One of my mates told me the bride was upstairs screwing another one of our mates while the groom was entertaining his family......turned out to be true, murder at the wedding, myself and my wife left and went home.

What a classy lady, is the bitch still with the d!ckhead?

kelle wrote: »

I've heard of weddings being called off about 2 days before the event, but never anybody left at the altar - must be horrific!

One of those weddings called off was a relation of ours - she accidentally let off wind in front of him and he was repulsed. We reckoned it was the luckiest f*rt she ever let!

Oh sure god love him, i suppose he never does it

ROFLcopter wrote: »

They had a 2 year old as well, the look of hate and disgust on the brides mothers face was unbelievable. The mate she was screwing had been screwing her for about a year. I haven't seen him since then and I don't ever plan to, the prick.

hahaha..... oh I can only imagine how proud she was of her daughter.

Fizman · 24-03-2012 9:40pm

There is a wedding that took place about 2 years ago locally (Limerick)......the likes of which you wouldn't hear of on a soap for it being too far fetched. I might post more details when I have more time, but I'm genuinely serious......you could not script the stuff!

Sinfonia · 24-03-2012 9:51pm

Oh, Fizman, you tease!

Bad Panda · 24-03-2012 9:54pm

Tigger wrote: »

karma?

you mean justice i assume

Western interpretation

Cheers for that. :rolleyes:

Be||e · 24-03-2012 10:03pm

I know of a guy who called off not one, but two weddings a few days before the dates. A friend of mine was due to go to the second wedding - he'd told us the story of the first one. Couldn't believe that he did it again. Once, I can understand, but how do you allow yourself to get into that situation a second time?

Can't imagine that he will ever get married, or that any woman would be stupid enough to agree to marry him now, with his track record.

dougieruggie · 24-03-2012 10:10pm

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

hondasam · 24-03-2012 10:13pm

dougieruggie wrote: »

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

You cannot be serious.

kelle · 24-03-2012 10:18pm

dougieruggie wrote: »

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

Bloody hell, were these friends of yours?

Be||e · 24-03-2012 10:19pm

dougieruggie wrote: »

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

An open bar, was it?

booboo88 · 24-03-2012 10:52pm

dougieruggie wrote: »

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

Never in my life....

Ronin247 · 24-03-2012 11:12pm

dougieruggie wrote: »

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

Bloody Germans....no sense of decorum.Cannot believe he interrupted the wedding.

44leto · 24-03-2012 11:13pm

I know someone who on the day of his wedding did not want to go through with it and knew it was a mistake, he talked round by the best man and his brother.

He was right it was a mistake, a turbulent relationship of sucking the life out of each other and hoping for better. They have 2 kids stayed under one roof for them, they are separated now, both in other relationships.

But he always regrets getting married, to be honest he is a cnut by nature, and so was she.

Defiler Of The Coffin · 24-03-2012 11:18pm

dougieruggie wrote: »

I've been at a wedding where the family of the groom announced during the after celebration that they were getting their son to annul the marriage.

Basically it was a German guy marrying an Irish girl. Their families had met briefly before and this was their first real get together.

Well basically all the Irish at the wedding got disgracefully drunk. I mean one girl crouched down in the corner of the dance hall and took a piss because the ques to the ladies were too long. Two girls took off their pants under their dress and started swinging them around their heads and went up to tables of Germans and waved the pants in their face.Another girl was vomiting all over a table she was sitting at and finally and there were various drunken lads making Nazi jokes and getting aggressive and talking about the 'fightin Irish'. The toilets in the lads jacks were completely blocked and someone drew a swatiska with **** in a cubicle. The dad of the groom finally went up to the DJ, turned off the music and said the wedding was off. He said he'd never been so disgusted in his life.

To be honest, I was pished myself and was completely horrified so I can only imagine what it was like for the Germans who had a few drinks.

I don't care if you're making this up or not, this is one of the funniest things I've read on boards!

mattjack · 24-03-2012 11:21pm

44leto wrote: »

I know someone who on the day of his wedding did not want to go through with it and knew it was a mistake, he talked round by the best man and his brother.

He was right it was a mistake, a turbulent relationship of sucking the life out of each other and hoping for better. They have 2 kids stayed under one roof for them, they are separated now, both in other relationships.

But he always regrets getting married, to be honest he is a cnut by nature, and so was she.

I always enjoy your posts,always to the point.

johnayo · 24-03-2012 11:23pm

Back in the day, my sisters friend was due to get married to a guy that had kidney problems. He was on the waiting list for a donated kidney. On the morning of the wedding, he got his call to tell him a suitable kidney had become available. It was all hands on deck that morning contacting hotel, church, guests, wedding cars and so on.
Operation went great and gave the man a new lease of life. They got married later on that year.
It's a great story when you look back on it, but pretty difficult at the time.

Left at the altar

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