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Have you ever been stood up?

  • 30-08-2014 9:27pm
    #1
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭


    Sitting here in a packed restaurant in central London drinking wine and waiting for my very very late boyfriend to show up.

    And I can't help but think, bet these lads at the next table think I'm on some first date but my date hasn't showed. Wondering if the waiting staff are placing bets on how long it will take him to show / them to leave..

    So AH, entertain me. Ever been stood up? Or did the standing up? Feck it, lets make it general - most appalling/mortifying dating experience youve had?


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  • #2
    Me?
    Registered Users Posts: 269 ✭✭Me?


    Never stood up. Had a few turn on their heels and walk away when they first saw me though. :(

    Men can be cruel.


  • #3
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    beks101 wrote: »
    Sitting here in a packed restaurant in central London drinking wine and waiting for my very very late boyfriend to show up.

    And I can't help but think, bet these lads at the next table think I'm on some first date but my date hasn't showed. Wondering if the waiting staff are placing bets on how long it will take him to show / them to leave..

    So AH, entertain me. Ever been stood up? Or did the standing up? Feck it, lets make it general - most appalling/mortifying dating experience youve had?

    Smug post is subtle but still smug.


  • #4
    Macavity.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,745 ✭✭✭Macavity.


    Augmerson wrote: »
    Smug post is subtle but still smug.

    He chose her, Augmerson, you have to move on.


  • #5
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    I was stood up once. I was going to go on a blind date with a guy after being set up by my girl friend at the time. They were supposed to pick me up at 7 pm and never showed until 11 pm. I never even bothered to open my front door of my apartment when my gf knocked. Switched off the tv, lights and went to bed.


  • #6
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    Macavity. wrote: »
    He chose her, Augmerson, you have to move on.

    I can see I've been laboring under a misapprehension.


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  • #7
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    Augmerson wrote: »
    I can see I've been laboring under a misapprehension.

    Darcy? :eek:


  • #8
    stefan idiot jones
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,518 ✭✭✭stefan idiot jones


    Was out on a date once when her mother showed up.

    Ewe should have seen her face.


  • #9
    Grayson
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,322 ✭✭✭✭Grayson


    I stood up a girl once. In the time before mobile phones I met my girlfriend at a bar. I went inside to wait, she thought we were waiting outside. She waited outside for 40 minutes for me. I was on my second pint when she came inside. My god she was pissed with me.


  • #10
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    Darcy? :eek:

    I like you Lizzie Jones. Very much.

    Just as you are.


  • #11
    Aphex
    Closed Accounts Posts: 653 ✭✭✭Aphex


    Never, thank god. The trick is to never show up in the first place.


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  • #12
    Pumpkinseeds
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,635 ✭✭✭Pumpkinseeds


    I stood up a few guys in my younger more obnoxious days. :o


  • #13
    Birneybau
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,357 ✭✭✭✭Birneybau


    I prefer a good lie down.


  • #14
    Buona Fortuna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭Buona Fortuna


    Augmerson wrote: »
    Smug post is subtle but still smug.

    I didn't pick it up as smug.
    beks101 wrote: »
    Sitting here in a packed restaurant in central London drinking wine and waiting for my very very late boyfriend to show up.

    And I can't help but think, bet these lads at the next table think I'm on some first date but my date hasn't showed. Wondering if the waiting staff are placing bets on how long it will take him to show / them to leave..

    So AH, entertain me. Ever been stood up? Or did the standing up? Feck it, lets make it general - most appalling/mortifying dating experience youve had?


    I just picked up late and thought "Oh Fcuk she's genna kill him"


  • #15
    usersame
    Registered Users Posts: 179 ✭✭usersame


    I'd a date cancel 2 hours ahead of time, hurt pretty bad, as pathetic as it is - she's been sniffing around again and I can't wait to tell her fluck off if she hints at a date


  • #16
    Darkglasses
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,526 ✭✭✭✭Darkglasses


    Once, and it was the straw that broke the camels back, dumped her immediately afterwards.


  • #17
    thelad95
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,812 ✭✭✭thelad95


    beks101 wrote: »
    Ever been stood up? Or did the standing up?

    I stood up once. In fact I stand up quite often. In fact I stood up a couple of minutes ago.


  • #18
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    Buona Fortuna wrote: »
    I didn't pick it up as smug.

    It was just a joke, maybe a bad joke.


  • #19
    Banjo String
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,380 ✭✭✭✭Banjo String


    Yeah, but it was back in the day before mobiles and Facebook etc. She took violently I'll and couldn't show up, and had no way of contacting me before I set off.


    In those days, a phone call once a week was the norm, sometimes to the neighnours phone as not every family had a phone.

    Wearing an onion on your belt was fashionable at the time if I recall.


  • #20
    Aphex
    Closed Accounts Posts: 653 ✭✭✭Aphex


    thelad95 wrote: »
    I stood up once. In fact I stand up quite often. In fact I stood up a couple of minutes ago.

    Lucky girl. :pac:


  • #21
    corner of hells
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,409 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Me? wrote: »
    Never stood up. Had a few turn on their heels and walk away when they first saw me though. :(

    Men can be cruel.

    Aw , the fcukers.We're not all bad though.

    My ex wife stood me up once , thats not why she's my ex.

    She wanted me to meet some of her friends and be polite and not drink much , not a chance says I .Most of what happened is a blur , but I crashed through the front door about 4am smashing into a stupid little poxy table with a phone and potted plant on it.

    We're still friends .


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  • #22
    Oink
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 2,159 Mod ✭✭✭✭Oink


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    I was stood up once. I was going to go on a blind date with a guy after being set up by my girl friend at the time. They were supposed to pick me up at 7 pm and never showed until 11 pm. I never even bothered to open my front door of my apartment when my gf knocked. Switched off the tv, lights and went to bed.

    I like that. 4 hrs late? 'Scuse me while I go wash my hair. Feel free to wait outside until i'm done. I might be a couple of days.


  • #23
    pharmaton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,192 ✭✭✭pharmaton


    I deliberately missed a call earlier and then put the phone on silent for the night. I'll just say I had it on airplane mode while it was charging. not so much standing someone up, just avoiding having to ever leave my cocoon.


  • #24
    Birneybau
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,357 ✭✭✭✭Birneybau


    corner of hells wrote: »
    Aw , the fcukers.We're not all bad though.

    My ex wife stood me up once , thats not why she's my ex.

    She wanted me to meet some of her friends and be polite and not drink much , not a chance says I .Most of what happened is a blur , but I crashed through the front door about 4am smashing into a stupid little poxy table with a phone and potted plant on it.

    We're still friends .

    No wonder she's your ex.


  • #25
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    Oink wrote: »
    I like that. 4 hrs late? 'Scuse me while I go wash my hair. Feel free to wait outside until i'm done. I might be a couple of days.

    I got her back a few days later. One of our mutual friends and I and she headed to downtown Toronto one fine warm summer evening. It was the thing to do in Toronto in the late 70s ...walk up and down Yonge street and see what sort of mischief we could get into.
    Anyway, long story short when she was using the washrooms Paul (the mutual friend) and I took off on her. She was so pissed off at us the next day. :D

    We did the same thing to her the next weekend too (after several minutes of reassuring her that we wouldn't). :D


  • #26
    FloatingVoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,133 ✭✭✭FloatingVoter


    Well, OP, if you're still sat in the restaurant - he's two hours late. But never mind because you're twisted drunk by now and cursing the day men were invented.
    By the way, are you interested in dinner tomorrow night ? You're paying.


  • #27
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,657 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    I got stood up this morning. It wasn't for a date, it was for a meeting. My contact never turned up and his phone was turned off. If it was a date, I'd have taken the hint. Seeing as it was a business meeting, though, I'm a little more concerned about what happened.


  • #28
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    beks101 wrote: »
    Sitting here in a packed restaurant in central London drinking wine and waiting for my very very late boyfriend to show up.

    And I can't help but think, bet these lads at the next table think I'm on some first date but my date hasn't showed. Wondering if the waiting staff are placing bets on how long it will take him to show / them to leave..

    So AH, entertain me. Ever been stood up? Or did the standing up? Feck it, lets make it general - most appalling/mortifying dating experience youve had?

    I met my current bf on a night out. Anyway he added me on fb and asked me did I want to go to lunch. We were both broke students so it would only be the student canteen. He decided to give blood the same day. I met him while he was waiting to give blood and ended up waiting for a half an hour. Eventually I had to leave and get my lunch myself because I had to go back to lectures.

    That's the only time.....


  • #29
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    I have a habit of standing people up. I'd die if it happened to me. I don't do it to hurt people, I just over think and panic and work myself into such a state it seems easier not to show up.


  • #30
    pharmaton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,192 ✭✭✭pharmaton


    Faith wrote: »
    I got stood up this morning. It wasn't for a date, it was for a meeting. My contact never turned up and his phone was turned off. If it was a date, I'd have taken the hint. Seeing as it was a business meeting, though, I'm a little more concerned about what happened.

    Felt bad after reading that. I just sent a text to apologise for missing calls. :(


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  • #31
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    I have a habit of standing people up. I'd die if it happened to me. I don't do it to hurt people, I just over think and panic and work myself into such a state it seems easier not to show up.

    Dates or just people in general?


  • #32
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Fat Christy wrote: »
    Dates or just people in general?

    First dates. I've done it three and a half times.

    1st was with a guy I liked for ages but he was a complete player, anyway, after months of treating me bad, he asked me out. I agreed to go, and never showed up. This only made him more interested though and he asked me out twice afterwards but I never committed myself to anything after that.

    2nd was my friend in Canada before he got married. I met him years and years ago in America one summer. He flew to Ireland with his dad and his brothers and I wouldn't meet him. The following summer, after major heart to hearts he came to Ireland again, this time on his own. I made it as far as the hotel bar he was staying at, (in Dublin) and just as I was standing outside an ambulance drove past and he heard the same siren as I did, and I completely panicked and ran away. He was so patient but I was absolutely freaked and couldn't do it.

    3rd was actually a boardsie, we were talking for a few months, agreed to meet (as just friends), he showed up. I wouldn't meet him, I was so worried he'd hate me in real life. He waited around for ages, I felt bad, he was really patient with me, understood, wasn't mad at me, didn't ridicule me, so like 5 hours later, I calmed down enough to go meet him. So, technically I didn't really stand him up, but almost.


  • #33
    stmol32
    Registered Users Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    I was stood up once. I was going to go on a blind date with a guy after being set up by my girl friend at the time. They were supposed to pick me up at 7 pm and never showed until 11 pm. I never even bothered to open my front door of my apartment when my gf knocked. Switched off the tv, lights and went to bed.

    OMG are you still on that!!

    I already explained to you, I only turned up at 11 because I'm a horrible, horrible person. If you can't deal with that then maybe we won't work out, it's almost as if you have.... like....self worth or something!


  • #34
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    stmol32 wrote: »
    OMG are you still on that!!

    I already explained to you, I only turned up at 11 because I'm a horrible, horrible person. If you can't deal with that then maybe we won't work out, it's almost as if you have.... like....self worth or something!

    I'm willing to give you a second chance. :D


  • #35
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,657 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    pharmaton wrote: »
    Felt bad after reading that. I just sent a text to apologise for missing calls. :(

    Good to hear! At least something positive came from my massive waste of time :)


  • #36
    Senna
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,800 ✭✭✭Senna


    Once was invited back to a girls flat after meeting her in a club, I got the flat number and arrived at her flat about 20 minutes after seeing her (reason for leaving are long and complicated).
    Pressed the buzzer for her flat and she buzzed me up, arrived up to the door, knocked and no answer, but I could hear some movement inside, awarkard.
    So standing there like a spare prick at a wedding I turned and left.


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  • #37
    pauliebdub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,067 ✭✭✭pauliebdub


    Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.


  • #38
    stmol32
    Registered Users Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    I'm willing to give you a second chance. :D

    Oh go on then let's give it another go.

    Let's go for a drink here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=91986660 I'm guessing it'll be the quietest pub in Dublin tonight for a a chatnapint.:pac:


  • #39
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,657 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    Faith wrote: »
    Good to hear! At least something positive came from my massive waste of time :)

    And I just got a call apologising and rescheduling! (I'm 8 hours behind, so it was an appropriate early-evening call, not a middle-of-the-night call.)


  • #40
    stmol32
    Registered Users Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    pauliebdub wrote: »
    Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

    I have to ask out of curiousity do you reckon gay dating is more fraught than straight dating generally?

    It's possible that you just had the misfortune to meet two arseholes or is this something that happens more with gay blind (I'm presuming based on your post) dates than straight.

    I only ask because I've recently started dating again after a hiatus and I always expect the worst like those (excuse me) c**nts.


  • #41
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    stmol32 wrote: »

    I'm guessing it'll be the quietest pub in Dublin tonight for a a chatnapint.:pac:

    The chance of getting shot is pretty much nil by now. :D


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  • #42
    stmol32
    Registered Users Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    The chance of getting shot is pretty much nil by now. :D

    That sounds like a double-dare to me!
    To be fair LizzieJones you've never been on a blind date with me, I've been shot shot by both datee and bar tender on a frighteningly regular basis.

    I'm starting to slowly think maybe it's actually me and not them, am I wrong?


  • #43
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    stmol32 wrote: »

    I'm starting to slowly think maybe it's actually me and not them, am I wrong?

    You're probably not wrong.


  • #44
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    Ah ye're a lively bunch! Himself walked in the door seconds after I posted this, then drank way too much wine and woke up with my face stuck to the pillow about 20 minutes ago. I also curiously have a completely smashed up phone. Ugh. Wine is never a good choice.

    I don't know what I'd do if I was ever actually stood up for a date. Especially after making a real effort to look nice. Probably either track him down and publicly humiliate him in the best/worst possible way or have a few drinks and find someone else to hang out with.


  • #45
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    pauliebdub wrote: »
    Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

    That's f*cking lousy mate, hope you have or have had better luck in the future!


  • #46
    pauliebdub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,067 ✭✭✭pauliebdub


    Augmerson wrote: »
    That's f*cking lousy mate, hope you have or have had better luck in the future!

    I laugh it off and consider it a lucky escape.


  • #47
    shruikan2553
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,113 ✭✭✭shruikan2553


    I would be lucky to get to the point where I could be stood up!

    My girlfriend would probably be pissed at me if I was going out with other women though.


  • #48
    cloud493
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    No one comes close enough to me to set up a date or stand me up :cool: #hahaimsoalone


  • #49
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    cloud493 wrote: »
    No one comes close enough to me to set up a date or stand me up :cool: #hahaimsoalone

    I'll stand you up if you want?

    Meet me at the spire for 5?


  • #50
    cloud493
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    Can't be bothered going into town :pac:


  • #51
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    cloud493 wrote: »
    Can't be bothered going into town :pac:

    Burn........ :-D


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